Guys, if you see a beautiful girl seems to like you, how do you react?
Q. What if you see this girl and you like her because of her drop-dead beauty, all the guys just keep staring at her from afar and then she added you on fb. She steals glances at you from time to time and you think she likes you. What's your reaction? ...
A. 18 December 2012: SVC - be a bit careful. You're generalizing quite a bit in your post. The inference that a man "worth anything" will want the "average girl with a great mind" takes quite a bit of poetic license.
First, I dont think a man's worth comes down to ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to form lasting relationships.
Q. So I'm not first to have this issue and I'm sure I won't be the last. I'm 29, and I've had only one real relationship. That was back when I was 21 and it lasted 3 months. Since then I have "dated" two women. By dated I mean that nothing ever was ...
A. 18 December 2012: Dude, you have to chill out a bit. Woman want a man, they dont want to have to play mom/psychiatrist. ... (read in full...)
I agreed to FWB, but now I'm not so sure!
Q. 10 months ago my friend gave her friend from college my number, we got talking and arranged to meet up (me, him, my friend and her boyfriend) and go on a day out. My friend told me that he liked me however I didn't feel the same and somehow we ...
A. 18 December 2012: For one, I believe 16 is a bit too young for being regularly sexually active, never mind a FWB.
For two, FWB almost NEVER become GFs. Just the way it is.... (read in full...)
What's going on??? Did I do something wrong?
Q. So my boyfriend and I are in bed sleeping and his phone goes off indicating he had a text message, it's about 12:15 a.m. He looks at the phone and the message says hi. I'm like ummm, who is that? He's like idk, they text before and when I called ...
A. 18 December 2012: You dont trust him. I have been with my finacee for five years, and not one time have we checked either others phones, or have ever had the inkling to. If I caught her doing that, I would be pissed.
If you feel the need to keep electron... (read in full...)
I've been leading this guy on, and now I'm afraid he's going to ask me out.
Q. Soo, I have this guy friend that I met about 4 months ago, and were really good friends. Only problem is, I enjoy chatting to him and stuff, but he really really likes me and I don't like him in that way ay all. He's a cool guy, but just not my ...
A. 18 December 2012: "Ive been playing with matches, but Im now burning myself. What should I do?"... (read in full...)
Stuck in a cycle of loving and loathing each other. We fight. When is enough, enough?
Q. We have been together on and off for 6 years. We got engaged 6 months ago and things are not good. We don't fight well at all. We both say things that we shouldn't . She keeps telling me she don't have that feeling for me, yet she don't want t...
A. 18 December 2012: "We don't have sex and she can't really stand me or anything I do."
Read this sentence you wrote - aloud to yourself - five times in a row.
Now, tell me again why you want to commit the rest of your life to this, and only this, woman?... (read in full...)
In love with my younger second cousin.
Q. I am in love. But there are two problems that society will see with this. First is that she is my 2nd cousin. We've know each other for years but just recently fell in love. I the other problem is that she is 16 and I am 20. We really love each ...
A. 18 December 2012: *Sigh*
Im writing this for the third time today. There are over 4 BILLION women on this planet. Please choose one that is not related or a family member. ... (read in full...)
We're not right for each other but we're still in love. What do we do?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I recently had a mutual break up after living together and being in a relationship for 2 years. We realize that we're not right for each other right now but we are still in love with each other. What should we do? How do we ...
A. 18 December 2012: I can sympathize as I have been in one of these relationships. Let me guess - when its good its amazing. Highs like youve never imagined, mind blowing sex, etc. The flip side is lows like you couldnt dream of, scathing arguments, etc.
Unfor... (read in full...)
Can't see my LDR and sorely tempted to cheat
Q. Hey I'm a female currently in uni and also in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend back home. Recently I've been so lonely and sexually frustrated due to not seeing her and I'm tempted to sleep with this other girl who is interested in...
A. 18 December 2012: You need to either make your LDR and non-LDR or you need to move on. ... (read in full...)
I am married with children. But I am attracted to my 45 year old Aunt. What can I do?
Q. I am married,have 2 kids. Live in United Arab Republic. when i was a teenager,i was always having a fantasy of having sex with my aunty(not blood related). she is the wife of distant relative uncle.i know she was not happy with her husband who can'...
A. 18 December 2012: There is absolutely no good that can come from this. There are over 4 billion women on this planet. Please chose one who is not in your family.... (read in full...)
She cheated. I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I think I should leave. What should I do?
Q. ive been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years. we live together, we're not married and have one child(10 months) together, and two more that she had in a previous relationship(8 and 4), that i now care for. i fell out of love with her a while ...
A. 18 December 2012: If you stay you are a fool.
Also, please get married before children next time. Nothing religious, its just better to have commitment to each other before needed to jointly commit to a child.... (read in full...)
Guys, if you see a beautiful girl seems to like you, how do you react?
Q. What if you see this girl and you like her because of her drop-dead beauty, all the guys just keep staring at her from afar and then she added you on fb. She steals glances at you from time to time and you think she likes you. What's your reaction? ...
A. 18 December 2012: True story - When I was in college, I was visiting my friend who was going to grad school at UNC Chapel Hill. Anyway, we were out at a bar, and walks in this complete knockout w a guy who looked like he starred in Revenge of the Nerds. I see hi... (read in full...)
He's secretly masturbating when we're in bed and he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I really don't know where to start - my boyfriend and I have been together a little more than ten years we've been through a lot together and we also have two beautiful children together, anyways about three years ago i started some medication that ...
A. 18 December 2012: My guess is he's falling back on old habits that were formed during the last three years of no sex. I applaud him because doing that is way better than cheating. If I were you I would gently talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models?
Q. Does anyone else here feel small because they don't look as glamourous as pornstars or glamour models? I feel like I'm helpless, my ex made me feel like this. We were on about glamour modelling, he said something like do you think you could be one, ...
A. 18 December 2012: I certainly dont feel as glamorous as a pornstar, but Im a man so I guess thats a good thing.
All kidding aside, there are certain people I wouldnt mind being compared to - certain successful businessmen, philanthropists, etc. A pornstar is not s... (read in full...)
How can I make him care about me and miss me?
Q. This guy and I have met 7 months ago. It's a long distance relationship. We've fallen in love, and even talked about getting married in the future. I told myself not to get too attached to this guy, because I went through a really bad traumatizing ...
A. 18 December 2012: Ill play this record one more time here.
A LDR has a shelf life of 6-12 months, as which time decisions must be made on either making it a non-LDR, or making it a non-relationship.
Since this is month 7, Id suggest you focus on the above rather... (read in full...)
I want to change my actions around guys. how? How do I learn to like the guys who deserve a good girlfriend?
Q. I have a massive character flaw. I am drawn to the masculine, testosterone, popular men. I don't need to explain why this is a problem.Although my looks lure them in, I end up getting hurt by them or passed over for a girl who is borderline psych...
A. 18 December 2012: At least there is one more woman here that admits she is attracted to arrogance. One of the great pity's of our society is that the female attraction mechanism is outdated. What served women 5000 years ago (finding a strong male who could take ... (read in full...)
I just caught my husband wearing my knickers!!
Q. My question is really two fold and I would like to hear from the other ladies. It was a shock to come home unexpectedly early and catch my husband in bra and panties. Things that he apparently has purchased but says this is really his first time ...
A. 18 December 2012: I have had a few women tell me this about their ex's, so I know it exists. That said, I cannot for the life of me understand why a man would want to do such a thing, but to each their own.... (read in full...)
Anyone know this average?
Q. What is the average number of men a 26 yr old girl has slept with?...
A. 18 December 2012: I dont get how an average is "none of his business." Like saying the average tax payment is "nobodys business." In short, and average reflects absolutely nothing about a single person if the sample size is not very small.
That said, I do crack... (read in full...)
She posts everything we do on facebook!
Q. im with this girl that is say young enough to be my daughter. i love her very much and i even ended a long term marriage for her. but lately i have been thinking about things she put on facebook when we were dating. i told her one night when we were ...
A. 18 December 2012: The next time I see something good come from facebook or twitter it will be the first.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my brother in law's wife.
Q. Dear Cupid! Sorry to bother you. My problem still sustains there and now i need your help very desperately please. In my previous questions i asked you about a lady but almost all answers were very good and i tried my best to control myself b...
A. 18 December 2012: Like someone stated below, I think its a bit sad that you're coming here looking for advice/support on how to bed your brother in laws wife.
Romantic relationships are really one of the few things that as humans really need to be 100% mutually... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband of 12 years for cheating?
Q. Should I leave my husband of 12 yrs? My husband has cheated on me numerous times only 3 times I have proof of. Back in 2005 he had an affair that lasted for 7 months. I never knew anything was wrong it was a huge slap in the face. The reason for it ...
A. 18 December 2012: He will cheat on you until the day he dies, or as long as he has lead in his pencil. Make your decision based on whether you can accept that or not.... (read in full...)
I can't stop making out with my colleagues!
Q. I am 27 married 7 years and have a child! I haven't been happy for a very long time but kept in marriage for security and for child sake! Recently at a Xmas do, I got very drunk and made out with s work colleague! I then went home and brought home ...
A. 18 December 2012: This sounds like a synopsis for the book "How to both destroy your career and torpedo your marriage in one easy step!"
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I like my friends BF - should I talk to him about it?
Q. I like my friend's boyfriend, they have been together for 2 1/2 years now. And everytime i see him in the hallway he always gives me this flirty look. I don't know if he is trying to be nice or if he likes me. He also stares at me too. he purposely ...
A. 17 December 2012: At your age, bfs/gfs are a dime a dozen. An absolute dime a dozen. So many to chose from - dont ruin a friendship over something that is a dime a dozen.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband or not? I don't know how he will survive if I leave him....
Q. I have to make a decision regarding leaving my husband. We have been together 18 years and have no children. Life prior to marrying was magical. I could not fault him in the least but on returning from our honeymoon he became grumpy and sulle...
A. 17 December 2012: Agree 100% w female anon below regarding male roles.
I have long said on this forum that we are a product of our evolutionary pasts. From everything you post, it looks like you are the breadwinner and your husband has been reduced to a glorifie... (read in full...)
Breakup came out of the blue and the hurt from it is so intense. How do I get over it?
Q. just looking for a bit of help. Im 18, and i've just broken up with my first serious boyfriend (together 6 months). I thought everything was perfect so its very out of the blue that he decided to split up with me as i wasnt expecting it at all. The ...
A. 17 December 2012: Trust me, "the world is going to end" pain at age 20 becomes "God why did I even let that bother me" pain at age 30.
My advice to you is move on and go out w someone else asap. You will regret wallowing for so long later. Its just wasted t... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about not going on holiday because it will give my boyfriend a chance to cheat on me again!
Q. Please can somebody help me make a decision on this one... ';ast year me and my boyfriend broke up for a week or so and i actually did think that things were done between us spo i put a large deposit down on an expensive holiday for me and my child...
A. 17 December 2012: If you cant trust your bf to be on his own for two weeks, you shouldnt be with him. ... (read in full...)
Does she need me like I need her?
Q. Hi again :) I am a little sad/concerned right now. My girlfriend of 8 months and I always joke around with each other (hence our many problems of me taking a joke too far) and sometimes we are..playful about leaving the other for someone else. (O...
A. 16 December 2012: You're 16. You may think you really "need" your girlfriend right now. Trust me, you dont....... (read in full...)
What will I do if he ends up in Jail? What I should do right now given the situation?
Q. To start off with, I'm a nineteen year old girl dating a nineteen year old male. We've been dating a little more than ten months now. There has never really been a fight between the two of us either, we get along quite well. Anyways, like all rela...
A. 14 December 2012: This is one of those times when I wish the OP was a troll, but alas know it is not.
Im going to put it straight to you. This guy is a 100% loser, and is trying to take you to Loserville with him. If you dont dump him, immediately, in 15 years yo... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 14 December 2012: Read what the first poster wrote. If you are still confused, re-read until you are not....... (read in full...)
Thoughts regarding retrograde jealousy....is a person's past really not any of the current relationship's business?
Q. An observation from a straight guy: I CALL BULLSHIT on people who claim that lovers are not accountable for how their sexual past is non of their current relationship's business. What if you only ever had one girlfriend, and before she met y...
A. 14 December 2012: Look, for starters, our society is largely based on the fact that the future will represent the past. If you get into many accidents, your auto insurance rates go up because its evidence it will happen in the future. When you go for a loan, your ... (read in full...)
He says he's using porn to remind himself of me
Q. My ex boyfriend and i fell out over his porn use. He claimed he looked at women who look like me to recreate the joy he had from the night before, he was a virgin and claimed it left him buzzing. However he didn't say he often used to it to think ...
A. 13 December 2012: The porn did not remind him of you. It had nothing to do with you - absolutely nothing.... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer light skinned girls?
Q. Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything ...
A. 13 December 2012: I am as white as they come - my ancestry is all northern European - primarily Norway and Germany.
My fiancee is Colombian. Black hair, very dark brown eyes, and mocha colored skin. I wouldnt trade any of those things for anything in the world.
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I feel bad about my sex appeal knowing mean watch much better on a porn movie. Am I second best in a guy's estimation if he watches porn?
Q. I know there are many questions about porn, but plese bear with me. So when men watch porn, do they watch it for the women's bodies? Especially girl on girl, or girls masturbating, or stripping, ie. porn that doesn't involve men at all (so it's not...
A. 13 December 2012: From all my time on this board, I have concluded two things -
1) Many/most women will never understand a man's use of porn.
2) Many/most women will never understand a man's retroactive jealousy.... (read in full...)
I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone, is divorce imminent?
Q. I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone she says she has no attraction to this man it was purely an emotional connection I don't know if I will ever be able to trust her again children are involved is divorce imminent?...
A. 13 December 2012: If you believe for one second that this is "an emotional thing" only, please call me because I have some swampland in Florida for you....... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend left me pregnant, doesn't care to see our child or pay for anything,
Q. My ex boyfriend left me pregnant, we already have a child together and he has two before me. When we broke up the first time, he was on craigslist looking for men and women for sex and i took him back, he was looking at porn also and when we were ...
A. 13 December 2012: I have a crazy solution to all of this. GET MARRIED BEFORE YOU HAVE CHILDREN.
I know it sounds nuts and all, but believe me, commitment to each other before commitment to a child is a pretty good idea.... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind when he watches porn?
Q. Can some actually explain to us women what happens when watching porn? Does it make the man feel like he is having sex with the woman on the screen? Apparently I am told they are not watching it to pretend they are the man in the video. I am ...
A. 13 December 2012: I think Cerebus below put it best.
That said, anything that provides short term gratification has the potential for addiction. There is some scientific evidence that it can modify some structures of the brain if consumed enough, esp at a young ag... (read in full...)
I get very upset when my partner sees his child from a past relationship! How do I deal with this?
Q. I have been with my partner for 15 months. We love each other very much. However, 7 months into our relationship I discovered that he has a child with his last partner of 2 years. I was skeptical throughout these 7 months as I had heard roumors, and ...
A. 13 December 2012: Quite some time ago, one of my friends uncles was speaking to me about dating/marrying a woman with children. He said to me the following - "Take the number of children she has, then add one to it. That's the place you have in her life. If that's ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive my girlfriend for not supporting me when I was at the lowest point in my life?
Q. I was bereaved 15 weeks ago. My son died in a fatal car crash. My girlfriend and i had a petty row and she walked out on me. I asked her not to go because i had shouted at her. I was bang out of order. My emotions were all over and i was dreading my ...
A. 7 December 2012: I am very sorry for your loss.
On the other hand, the small silver lining that came out of it is that your gf showed what a selfish, heartless, self-centered "all about me" witch that she is. It times like this when our sig other plays some of ... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but I cant support a grown man my entire life!
Q. My fiance, my daughter, and I recently moved into our own place. My fiance hasnt held a job since last spring and that was for my dad. He was never brought up with good work ethic and was abused his whole life. He is sweet and caring but him being ...
A. 7 December 2012: As usual, long story short.
He is a loser, straight and simple. If you want to subsidize his laziness with your work for the rest of your life, then keep him around. If not, he needs to go at once. Also, please let go of any dreams of him "tur... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didnt invite me to go see the movie and went with his friends instead! Am I overeacting?
Q. my bf recently shifted to my city.its been 4months since he is in my city.earlier we were in a long distance relationship since 3 years.my bf planned out for a movie with his guy friends and he didnt invite me! this was really shocking for me.when i ...
A. 7 December 2012: If you insist on smothering him 24/7, he wont want to be your bf for very long. He has interests besides you and independent of you, as he should.... (read in full...)
I'm starting to wish I was single again. Should I attempt counselling to try and heal?
Q. I am starting to wish I could be single more and more. I am really regretting to marry my wife. I wish this could be turned around. Last night I told her I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. What I mean is to honor my commitment t...
A. 7 December 2012: It seems like everything you need to know about what to do you already know.
You shouldnt be with her, you know you shouldnt be with her, yet you still are.
Move on chap. You'll be all the happier.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my mistress, but can't divorce my wife.
Q. Hi all. I just registered to this forum after googling to see if I'm alone. I am in the same situation as many of you and I'm completely devastated. I have been married for six years and have two wonderful kids with my wife. over the past six yea...
A. 7 December 2012: I didnt read anything past the question itself, as I didnt think it was necessary.
In romantic relationships, you need to finish one thing before you start another. No exceptions. End of story.... (read in full...)
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