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I really like this girl so much, but I have no idea what to do!
Q. im 16 and the girl I like is 15, I dont know if she likes me or not but I've tried to hide that I like her and I can't anymore. Whenever she sees me, she smiles and waves hello to me, and she talks to me when out of school, and tody she looked at me ...
A. 4 January 2007: Ask her out on a date...ask her to attend a movie or go to the library ect. Or if she is in the same class, ask her to study together when there is an upcoming exam. If she says yes, then it might mean that she likes you too. If she says no, don't ... (read in full...)
Im 18, she's 13. I'm not thinking about sex but I want to know how to love her without her getting scared.
Q. Hey fellow romantics, I know a lot if most of you will feel Im in the wrong but that is not my question here. Ive been in relationships before and Im falling in love with a girl who is 13 and im 18. The question is that since we are both honestly ...
A. 4 January 2007: Just be a friend and treat her with respect. Don't kiss her or do anything as of yet. She is so young and she might be mature for her age, but just be careful! If you are falling for her, then you can wait until she is at the age of maturity!
B... (read in full...)
Someone in my family is watching animal porn. Is there something wrong with him?
Q. Should I be concerned if someone in my family is watching animal porn? Is there something wrong with him or is there a reason why they like to watch that? It makes me feel sick about it, but i'm not sure what i'm supposed to think about that. ...
A. 4 January 2007: I myself think that it is wrong. I think that it is animal abuse! The animals are being forced to do this! But to the watcher, there is probably nothing wrong with them. Probably watching it out of curiosity! So don't be too upset with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriends that I don't like him doing drugs?
Q. Hi Im 13 and my bf 16, he takes drugs and i want to tell him how i feel about them and him taking them but every time i bring the subject up he says im having a go at him. I want him to realise i love him and i hate him doing drugs but wit ou...
A. 4 January 2007: Tell him that you love him and you are so worried to have him doing drugs! You don't want to be a nag about it, but you love him and want him to cease using the drugs! Don't tell him if he don't you will leave him!
Good luck!!... (read in full...)
What can I do to have a flat stomach?
Q. I'm a teenage girl who is (i'll be honest!) not very attractive! But i know i'd be much happier with the way i look if i could just lose the weight on my stomach. I'm 5"4 ish and I weigh about 10 stone. I'm not that overweight on the rest of my ...
A. 4 January 2007: You can get a flat tummy by doing stomach crunches..do as many as you can and stop when you can do no more. Do this every day, either in the morning or the night. You should take a picture of yourself before starting.....then take a picture of ... (read in full...)
What can I do to have a flat stomach?
Q. I'm a teenage girl who is (i'll be honest!) not very attractive! But i know i'd be much happier with the way i look if i could just lose the weight on my stomach. I'm 5"4 ish and I weigh about 10 stone. I'm not that overweight on the rest of my ...
A. 4 January 2007: You can get a flat tummy by doing stomach crunches..do as many as you can and stop when you can do no more. Do this every day, either in the morning or the night. You should take a picture of yourself before starting.....then take a picture of ... (read in full...)
I have issues with how I look that are making me paranoid!
Q. ive got really bad self esteem issues but i dont know what to do about them. I hate myself so much that the only part of me that i can look at in a mirror is my face and even then it has to be in dark lighting and from the front view. i hate the ...
A. 4 January 2007: I was in the same boat as you! I will tell you how I started to feel better about myself.
I decided to join a health club, which on my part was one of the best decisions that I made! By doing aerobics decreased the stress that I was under. ... (read in full...)
I sometimes twitch... why?
Q. Well I got a big problem...Sometimes outta the blue i just twitch or like bite at the air is it normal or do i have a some odd probelm like ADD or something...
A. 4 January 2007: I think that you should make a doctor's appointment to find out for sure. But I have a friend who also does that. She has tourettes syndrome..it is not too bad like someother people who have it.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
My friend is cheating on her boy with her ex... and getting us involved in her lies!
Q. My friend is cheating on her b.f. with her ex. She's been telling everyone (including me) a whole bunch of lies just to keep both the guys. She's used mine and another female friend's names everywhere to cover her a**. Now her b.f. thinks badly ...
A. 3 January 2007: Tell your friend not to use her in her lies to her bf! That is not fair to you! I don't like having someone mad at me because of a lie!! Friends don't do that to their friends...it's just not fair!!
Tell her to stop using you and the other fr... (read in full...)
Relationship troubles! Do I talk to him, dump him, or stay with him and act like nothing happened?
Q. Thank you to everyone, who was helped with my last promblem, My Boyfriend, Text me to say that he hasnt been able to text me because he ran out of credit and couldnt afford to put anymore on, he hasn't emailed me because he hasnt been to his dads in ...
A. 3 January 2007: Comunicate with your bf! By him standing by you in your darkest hour shows me that he truely cares for you!! Don't dump him! Not now!
Please don't call yourself that, because you are not! Self-abuse is not a good thing to do to yourself... (read in full...)
I can't stay wet, no matter how much lube we use. Any advice on how to fix this?
Q. i have a sex problem with me.For like over a year i havent been able to stay wet..like at all we have to use so much lube and even then we have to use more..i try to let my bf know that its me not him but its hard for him to believe me.is it cause ...
A. 3 January 2007: Are you drinking enough water, or taking any meds that cause a drying effect..ie diaretics water pills ect?
I ask this because i wasn't drinking enough water and I was as dry as the desert!! Once I started doing that, everything went back to ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a teenage girl to watch porn? I want to stop..help?
Q. Is it ok for a teenage girl to watch porn? Because ive noticed many guys do but i dont know any girls who watch it. I wanna stop but i cant. help....
A. 3 January 2007: I think it's totally normal and natural for teen boys and girls to watch or look at porn. My brother had a porn mag under his bed...he was 12 at the time (found it while I was cleaning his bedroom)I was 16 at the time.
It is just your curiosit... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 3 January 2007: I am sorry to hear that your husband of 14 years met another woman! I wouldn't date or have anything to do with a guy who is married!! I once dated a guy that didn't say that he was married, but when he told me he was, I stopped seeing him ... (read in full...)
Why do I kiss and hug my bf in my imagination and not in real life?
Q. heyyy its weird. im 16 and i always imagine i have a lovely b/f that treats me really nicely. i imagine that we are kissing and cuddling and i sometimes even kiss my hand pretending its him. is this abnormal? and also now i have a b/f since 2day...
A. 3 January 2007: I think that it's quite normal...I used to do the same thing! I think that you really want to kiss your boyfriend, but you are nervous about the whole thing.
But one thing, your bf might get the wrong idea that you don't really like him by n... (read in full...)
Why in the world are adults now checking out teenagers?
Q. I was out with my 15 yr old niece the other day and I was a little disturbed by what I saw. Shes growing into an attractive young lady. A lot of teenage boys were checking her out. I became kind of protective of her but I guess its natural. Howe...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that older men who check out teens and hit on them are totally sick!!!!! my ex was hitting on 17 year old girls....and i think he was doing other things too...if you catch my drift!!!!! he was 40!!!
thank God he's my ex!!!(i heard afte... (read in full...)
Does my Ex still love me and can I get him back?
Q. Does me Ex still love me and can I get him back. My ex and I split after a year in MAy 2006. I did not take it well as it was so unexpected and we had only spoken about marriage 7 days before. We argued after we split, but I slept with him o...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that there might be a chance....but you have to have a serious talk with him before it's too late. Ask him what is in the cards for you and him and about marriage!
Prayers and luck to u... (read in full...)
17 dating 13?
Q. i am a normal male guy who just turned 17 and there is this girl who i have been talking to and we get along really well she says she likes me and i like her but she is 13 nearly 14 is this wrong if so why do i like her?? any help would be nice...
A. 2 January 2007: Be carefull young man...you will regret it if you don't!! u don't need a lable hanging over your head for the rest of you life!!!!... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and I feel ashamed and dirty. So why do I want him back?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have been dating a man since June, taking it slowly and carefully as there are children involved on both sides. I called his landline on Saturday morning somewhat unexpectidly as i was confirming our meeting to see the New Year in ...
A. 2 January 2007: My heart broke when I heard what happened to you! I am so sorry to hear that your heart was broken to bits by this man!! I know that you love him so, because you want him back!! And finding another guy is so far from your mind! Time will heal ... (read in full...)
We seem to have this chemistry but I worry that she might have the wrong imporession about me! Avice needed!
Q. hi there, I have been on and off flirting with this girl i work with since september. There is major chemistry between us. We share long glances followed by smiles. We whisper things across the room to each other, and she remembers things...
A. 2 January 2007: You should arrange time before or after work to talk. To see if she does have feelings for you. Set her straight about your mate that there is nothing there but friendship!
take her out for a drink when both of you have time off from work.
I... (read in full...)
She says her brief fling meant nothing but I can't get past it! What can I do?
Q. This is a bit of a complicated one. I had been dating this girl on and off since i was 14 (making it 5 years). We'd been dating solidly and intensely for two years until about 3 months ago. We've always known that we're madly in love but i became ...
A. 2 January 2007: You were broke up during the time of her and that guy were together. she probably thought that you and her were over! So she wasn't actually cheating on you.
Apparently she is back with you, so you should consider yourself Lucky!!
And for that... (read in full...)
What else can i try for our faded sexlife?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now and we're having some trouble, we aren't having sex much at all anymore, is there anything you can recommend to get things back to normal? i have lingerie and massage oil but they dont help as much as ...
A. 2 January 2007: That happens to alot of couples, so you are not alone. Have you two ever watched porn together? That helps too! Then there is also herbs that you can take to get his and your libido on fire again. You should research this for yourself...yohimbi ... (read in full...)
He makes excuses for his ex wife's bad behaviours and this bothers me. Any thought?
Q. Please don't be too judgmental to my situation. Actually, you don't have to respond at all. I'm just ranting because I have a lot of stuff to get off of my chest... I am engaged to a man that I love very dearly. Recently I've had time to real...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that she is a manipulating person!! Since she was the one who wanted a divorce in the first place!!! She is also money-hungry...and will stop at nothing to get it. I think that asking for him to pay child support for someone else's child ... (read in full...)
He revealed to me-some past indiscretions with other females and I am hurt. Should I leave him?
Q. Hi. My bf and i have been together for about a year and we love each other very much. Yesterday though, he told me that during our first month of dating he kissed a girl that he worked with and he kissed her again about a month later. The second ...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that you should stay together with him. He stated that he was stupid and he didn't know if you and him loved each other. He wants to be with you...so i think that you should stay. A kiss is meerly nothing compared to having sex...which ... (read in full...)
Is it possible not to be able to have an orgasm?! Any advice?
Q. is it possible not to be able to have an orgasm?! ive been with my boyfriend for 5months now and were sexually active and everytime we 'do it' he waits for me to cum first but i never have, i never have before i was with him either. In this ...
A. 2 January 2007: All I can say from experience is that if you try so hard for an orgasm...it won't happen. and not having one rests heavily on your mind!! Relax and try not to think about it so much. Then before you know it, it happens!! So enjoy the sex between ... (read in full...)
He acted weird when I called him! What is up with this guy?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am having a relationship with this guy who is in the navy.weve been talking and sharing our feeling for two months now.but something happened , he went out last night wiht his friends to spend the new year with them.around midnight...
A. 2 January 2007: Hey he had all the right to act weird...he was mugged (that's what you stated in your question) He was angry at the moment when you called...and carried onto you!!! His ego and manhood was on the line. And he didn't want you to see him that way ... (read in full...)
When we tried to have sex..I could only get semi-hard. But when I masturbate-I get hard! Why is this happening?
Q. hello, im 16 and me and my girlfriend for about a year and we recently tried to have sex, but it didnt happen. i could only get a semi erection, wich i felt was realy odd as i find her really attractive, and i never get a problem when im on my own. ...
A. 2 January 2007: Hey dude...don't be scared!! That is so normal...all guys go through that...so you are not the only one! You didn't state that it was your first time having sex...so I will tell you this...you were probably anxious! And if it wasn't...don't ... (read in full...)
Guys, why would he keep dumping me and then contacting me over and over again?
Q. Hi everyone. A quick question about my ex-boyfriend please... I was madly in love with my boyfriend, whom I dated for 6 months...and I did believe he felt the same way about me. But to cut a long story short, he moved away suddenly (abroad...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that you jumped the gun on this!!! you stated that he moved to be with his family because he had fallen ill! You never stated how ill he was.....and how long since you last seen him until the text that he sent you for xmas. But moving ... (read in full...)
Will it mess up the relationship if I agree to make out?
Q. So i have never made out with a guy. I have had plenty of boyfriends but just have never made the move. I want to really bad someday but am too scared i will mess up or something. so if anyone can give me some tips that would be greatt. : ] ...
A. 2 January 2007: No i don't think by making out with your bf will mess up the relationship!! So don't worry about it!!
Good luck 2 u... (read in full...)
We date now but I can't forget how smitten he was with his ex. Am I just his 2nd choice?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and apart from the odd tiff we get on well and have a good relationship. There is one problem however that i think lies more with me, but i dont know how to resolve it. You see, we were friends ...
A. 2 January 2007: Hey! That was then...they were going together at the time...and the break-up where he cried on your shoulder because of his loss. THAT IS NOW THE PAST...it's OVER. The past should be left in the past; never to be gone over and over!!!
Now h... (read in full...)
We have online sex...is this considered an affair if we have partners?
Q. Short n sweet: having a textual affair with a man from work... if i am with someone, and he is someone, is it still considered an affair....
A. 2 January 2007: Well, since you both have partners, it's cheating when you know who you are talking to. I would be upset if my bf did that online with someone he knew, because it WILL lead to the physical part. And I would never ever do that to him!!! NO WAY!! ... (read in full...)
How I can try to "hook in" a man once he shows an interest?
Q. Dear All I need some advice in dating! How can you just "be yourself" when you have been badly hurt in past relationships? I have just met a new man who seems really nice. However, I have a problem with keeping men - have no problem in attract...
A. 2 January 2007: I think that not responding back to the flirty texts that are sent to you might suggest to them...or your current guy that you might not be interested in him. Relax...and go with the flow...responding back might be be good for you. Men usually ... (read in full...)
He says he would never cheat but I'm not sure. How can I trust him?
Q. My bf said hes been cheated on before. Ive been readin about cheatinonline about signs, and he kind of fits some of the dscription butif i should believe it? Ive checked his emails and phone, it doesnt look like hes cheatin the way he talks to his ...
A. 1 January 2007: Give him the benefit of the doubt...and let that go. Some guys being accused of something that they didn't do constantly, might Push them in that direction saying to themselves: Hell, my gf keeps accusing me of cheating when I'm NOT..I might as ... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a week he stares at porn the rest of the time!
Q. My significant other watches a lot of porn and we have sex about once a week. I want to be with him more. I feel like hes cheating on me because he is fantisizing about other woman. I feel very low and disgusting although I have very men hit on me ...
A. 1 January 2007: Have a talk with your S.O, and tell you how you feel. Guys look at porn much differently than us girls do. He is not cheating on you, unless he goes out alone and stays gone for a long time. Maybe he is thinking that you don't want sex that much ... (read in full...)
what he says and does are two completely opposite things
Q. I recently started seeing a guy from work (which may be my first no-no) and he's asked me out and/or over every night for 2 weeks now. I've explained that I'm not high strung when it comes to my boy's friends or activities and he's expressed ...
A. 1 January 2007: Maybe he said that so you won't think that he's coming on too strong to you, and scaring you away. He probably wants to take it slow, and see what comes out of it. Right now he's just "testing the waters" to see if you and him have a future ... (read in full...)
I've got long-distance lover angst! Any tips?
Q. I'm very worried, I haven't been able to have a real conversation with my girlfriend in two weeks because she's back home from school in boston and Live on the other side of the country. I've tried to talk to her and she brushes me off, says she has ...
A. 1 January 2007: Yes focus on someone else different! To me it sounds like she is pre-occupied with someone else. That is why she is brushing you off when you are on the phone to her. And the text messages....she won't even respond to them!! I don't want to be ... (read in full...)
I do everything for him but wipe his a$$!
Q. I started dating this great 27 year old guy about 4 months ago. He had just gotton out of a long-term relationship, so we started things slow. Well, the next thing I know, he's over at my house every weekend and eventually exchanged "I love yous." ...
A. 1 January 2007: I am adding a little more if you don't mind. I re-read what you wrote about your bf, and how you explain in detail about him..Besides my son he reminds me of, he also reminds me of this guy who is 35, who also has add A friend of mine, whom i ... (read in full...)
I do everything for him but wipe his a$$!
Q. I started dating this great 27 year old guy about 4 months ago. He had just gotton out of a long-term relationship, so we started things slow. Well, the next thing I know, he's over at my house every weekend and eventually exchanged "I love yous." ...
A. 31 December 2006: Gosh, I agree with rhythmandblues2...Mama'a Boy!! I think that he stayed too long at the family homestead!!! But really now...I think that he should get off his butt and find some kind of employment to help out around the house. You haven't ... (read in full...)
When I am dating women, I'm not sure what I am doing wrong? Any advice?
Q. I need some help. I have no problem asking girls out, but I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. For example (I've only been with 2 girls, firs tone was typical high school one which was just holding hands, and I'm 19) the last one lasted a month we ...
A. 31 December 2006: You are probably anxious and probably nervous too like all of us were at that time in our lives, which you are now experiencing.
Just be yourself, and take your time you are only 19 and you will have nothing to worry about!
Treat every young wo... (read in full...)
My friend moved in on a girl I liked. He says he didn't know about us.
Q. hi guys im not sure how i put this question but here goes.i started talkin to this girl ages ago we got to be pretty good freinds then after a while we got more serious . then a m8 of myn that didnt know about me an her started asking questions ...
A. 31 December 2006: You should give her the benefit of the doubt and listen to her. And at the time of the incident, booze had a play in it, too, causing a lackk of judgement on both partys. That is the reason why I don't drink anything without my man with me, or ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's lesbian bombshell?
Q. I have been involved with a girl I really like for the past few months..She seems like a great person and we seem like a great fit..I am 30 and she is 25..We have the same morals, beliefs, sense of humor, ect..Last week we were talking and she told ...
A. 31 December 2006: Hey dude, you have nothing to worry about. At least she told you....laid the cards out on the table. She could have kept her mouth closed and never talked about it to you!! It happened two years ago...that is the Past, and drinks were involved. ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's lesbian bombshell?
Q. I have been involved with a girl I really like for the past few months..She seems like a great person and we seem like a great fit..I am 30 and she is 25..We have the same morals, beliefs, sense of humor, ect..Last week we were talking and she told ...
A. 31 December 2006: Hey dude, you have nothing to worry about. At least she told you....laid the cards out on the table. She could have kept her mouth closed and never talked about it to you!! It happened two years ago...that is the Past, and drinks were involved. ... (read in full...)
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