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writes: Hey fellow romantics, I know a lot if most of you will feel Im in the wrong but that is not my question here. Ive been in relationships before and Im falling in love with a girl who is 13 and im 18. The question is that since we are both honestly faling for each other how do i bring her into the scene of love without hurting her or making her feeling guilty or pressured. Im not thinking about sex or anything down that road Ijust want to love her. But i know therll be times when it gets scary for her and I wnt to know how to make her feel good when that happens. thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): simply you are an Adult and she is a Child you need to wait for her to become an adult if you cant then it is not love.You are still young and you should maybe think about people your own age so that you can have fun and fullfil your own needs but a thirteen year olds needs are much different to an eighteen year olds you need to realise that.Be careful follow your heart but remember to wait for her to become an adult.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (4 January 2007):
 Come on man, haven't you heard of jailbait before? I don't know where you are but if you are in the US you best be aware that they are cracking down on child predators big time. It just isn't worth it, move on.
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reader, lena +, writes (4 January 2007):
 i used to go out with a guy at 18 when i was 13. sadly there wasn't love only lust, are you sure thats not what your feeling? no matter what people say you are not in the wrong, to love someone 13 or 113. talk to her about it. tell her you would like a relatioship and you love her, but if she doesn't want a relationship or doesn't feel the same way don't keep pestering her about it, give it time.
tell her your not thinking of sex and would only do it when shes ready.
good luck xxxxx
oh and another thing it would be good if her parents knew because if they found out and didn't know i don't think they would be too pleased
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): I honestly beleive that if you are patient and caring that everything will be fine. Age is an illusion if respect and sincereity is there. Just i advise nothing sexual until she is mature and at a much older age.
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reader, Blue Rat  +, writes (4 January 2007):
Stay away. Stay away. Stay away. She is much much too young, no matter how mature she may seem. If you are falling for her as you say, then other feelings come with that which will be increasingly difficult to control. She is still a child and if you carry on, you are heading for serious consequences. So, in case I didn't make this clear, STAY AWAY!!
Find someone closer to your own age and maturity. 16 at least.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): The best way to love her? Be a casual friend for five years, then confess you're feelings when she's 18. Besides, 13 year olds tend to be incapable of serious relationships because they're not experienced enough to handle rocky times. If you truly love her, wait until she's ready.
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (4 January 2007):
 Just be a friend and treat her with respect. Don't kiss her or do anything as of yet. She is so young and she might be mature for her age, but just be careful! If you are falling for her, then you can wait until she is at the age of maturity!
But one word of advice, be care on your part, because you can get yourself in a world of trouble! I knew a guy who got himself in alot of trouble and ended up in jail!
Just be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): A 13 year old girl is not physically or mentally prepared for such a commitment. If you cannot see her without falling in love, don't see her. If you care about her then you'll put what she NEEDS first, not what you or she wants. I know some girls are quiet mentally mature, but do not let this confuse you. A 13 year old girl is not ready for this!
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