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Is it safe to have unprotected sex during your period?
Q. this is so stupid but I have been having protected sex for months now but i wondered if you can have unprotected sex during your period?...
A. 26 June 2007: I have to agree with everyone here! It is NOT good to have unprotected sex any time, period! (No pun, just fact!!) No time is safe!!... (read in full...)
Could this older guy like me and just be shy?
Q. I am 28 yrs old and have been working w/ my co-worker who is 40 yrs old for the past year. In this year we have gotten to know each other better and we often go out with our boss and his girlfriend -a.k.a also our friend as a group. The first time ...
A. 26 June 2007: He might like you and just too shy to say anything to you. Have you ever been out just the two of you, instead of being in a group? Maybe you could invite him out to see a movie that he wants to see. See what happens, but don't get too ... (read in full...)
My partner has secretly been texting a 16 yr old, but he says its because she in a mess and needs help!!!!
Q. I just found out that my partner of 4 years has secretly been texting a 16 year old girl, behind my back and I'm totally heartbroken, hes 36! all the trust has gone and I dont feel like I know him anymore and I dont know what to do! Backgroun...
A. 3 May 2007: If this girl has many problems she needs to get professional help!! A man of 36 contacting a 16-year old girl....here in the States he would be in serious trouble! I just hope that there isn't more to the story that he is not telling you!
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My ex wont stop pestering me, I dont want to hurt him, but its endangering my new relationship!
Q. I broke up with my ex 2 months ago.The problem is that I lived with my ex for one year and we also jointly owned a house. I decided to break up with him after 4 years because emotionally he was not giving me what I needed. It was not a clean ...
A. 3 May 2007: Ignore this guy and change your email address and phone number. Tell him to stop trying to contact you, otherwise you will tell the authorities and get him for harassment!
Good Luck to you dear!!... (read in full...)
I feel that some girls like their guy to take control of her. Is this true?
Q. I have had difficult forming a stable relationship with a girl, though i have met quite a few wonderful women in my life. My problem is, i can't feel secure about a relationship with her as long as i am not in complete control of her, like what she ...
A. 3 May 2007: Nowhere on God's green Earth is there a girl who wants to be totally controled by their guy. And the way you are controlling your gf is almost like abuse!! Controlling how she even smiles is just plain rediculous!! You might as well put strings ... (read in full...)
The other night he said he loved me but that he isnt in love with me.Can someone tell me the difference?
Q. I have been seeing someone for 7 months now and before this we were good friends i have known him for almost 3 years as we lived next door to each other and we get along most of the time. The other night he said he loved me but that he isnt in love ...
A. 3 May 2007: What the guy was saying is that he loves you as a friend and that he doesn't love you as a girlfriend. But sometimes friendships can blossom into a relationship. Just be careful and patient, ok? And don't be pushy...guys don't like that!
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She lost a close family member last week and seems to be inconsolable. How can I help her through this?
Q. Ok me and my best friend are very close, we are always together and tell each other everything. She lost a close family member about a week ago and shes just the worst i've ever seen her. Although she doesn't really cry a lot, she holds it in and ...
A. 3 May 2007: When I lost my father quite suddenly, I was surely grief-stricken and cried and cried! I was so stressed out that I was having chest pains! I was going to college at the time, and couldn't concentrate on my work! One of my teachers was also a ... (read in full...)
He keeps texting this other girl at work, we have been together 20 years and I don't want to lose him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hiya everyone!! i wrote on here for some advice a couple of months ago and it was really helpful and now im having a few problems again, about the same thing really. The problems started about 6 months ago when my boyfriend was ringing and texting a ...
A. 3 May 2007: You are the smart one in this relationship...you put your kids first! And by not drinking and drugging because of them you are a very good parent!! And you have every right to know that their father is cheating on you with this gal!
This ... (read in full...)
I have recently had sex with my boyfriend, we used a condom, but it came off half way through
Q. hey, I have recently had sex with my boyfriend, we used a condom, but it came off half way through. i am now 2 weeks late on, and been gettin headaches and really bad pains in my tummy. i dont want to take a test because i am scared of what it will ...
A. 3 May 2007: First buy a pregnancy test....so you can see if you are pregnant or not. Being scared and stress-out can be a factor of you period being late. That has happened to me! If you are having pains in your tummy, that is not from the result of being ... (read in full...)
Although we broke up we still continued to have sex, now I'm pregnant with his baby.
Q. just need some advise....my ex partner finished with me last august.ever since we broke up he has been coming back to me for sex. we are still good friends though. i found out that i was pregnant in january this year with his child. he was ...
A. 3 May 2007: I feel that once relationships are over, I won't have anything to do with the exs....even though I still have the feelings for them.
When you still had sex with him even though you broke up, he had found another gf....and he was cheating... (read in full...)
We still together now but I dont trust her anymore.
Q. Hi Guys, I have been going out with My GF for one year now. One day(3 weeks ago) I saw her Email. She met a man in her job, (in the bar) they have been Emailing and texting each other for a while now, and a lot of tempting words were in those mails, ...
A. 1 May 2007: Hey....the same thing happened to me too! I just happened to catch my bf emailing this woman that both of us knew and I read her response....She told him to come over to her place so they both could "f..."!!! I was mad when I read that...he got ... (read in full...)
I love him so dearly that I can't do without him, but he is proposing to marry the mother of his 7 year old child!
Q. I have a lover that is about 28 years old. I love him so dearly that I can't do without him. We have been dating for 2 years now. The problem is that he has a son of 7 who lives with the mother and he is proposing to marry her. Please help me. I ...
A. 1 May 2007: How can a guy be with someone for two years and then break her heart into a million pieces by proposing to another woman? That is sooooo cruel and heart-less....why didn't he marry her 7 years ago when the baby was born..Then you wouldn't be where ... (read in full...)
Is his ex trying to come between us?
Q. I trust my boyfriend with my life. I just don't understand why when his ex that cheated on him with one of his best friends calls or texts him he answers or texts her back... should I hold this over him or be worried??? She has also been to the ...
A. 1 May 2007: That does not sound too good when the ex-gf calls and he calls or texts her right back. I would be worried if I were you!! She apparently is trying to get him back...I wouldn't doubt it one bit!!!
Are you there with him when he's either a... (read in full...)
When she goes out with me it's jeans and a jumper but shen she goes out with friends she looks amazing!
Q. Hi! I am 19 and dating my wonderful 28 year old Girlfriend, we have been together for around 10 months and now live together, but recently she has started to be really funny with what she wears, when she goes out with me its jeans and a jump...
A. 1 May 2007: Since you two live together, you should have a talk with her why she dresses to the max when she goes out with her friends, and not when she goes out with you.
To me, it sounds like she's trying to get other men's attention when she goes out with... (read in full...)
I hate the girl I am in love with or I am in love with the girl I hate.
Q. I hate the girl I am in love with. Or I am in love with the girl I hate. Not sure exactly how to state it. I have asked her out three times, seeing as she never says no, just that she needs more time and she expects me to be able to guess when she ...
A. 1 May 2007: Sounds like she's either playing games with you, or she chickens out at the last minute....shy or scared.
Why don't you try stopping to contact her...not paying attention like she's used to. That might cause her to make an about-face and chan... (read in full...)
Our relationship has reached crisis point. My wife has met another man while chatting through Skype. I want to save our relationship.
Q. I have been married to my wife for 11 years and we have 2 children - 11 and 8. Where to start.... firstly our relationship has reached crisis point. My wife has met another man (a business partner in America) while chatting through skype. I want ...
A. 1 May 2007: One thing I should tell you is when a woman is not getting what she needs in order to feel good about herself, she will look somewhere else to get it. She might be under alot of stress and be argumentive at the drop of a hat. Arguments happen in ... (read in full...)
I've got this white discharge, I dont want to see a doctor, anyone know what it is ?
Q. Hi There. Im 23 years old and im married. I have got a problem regarding discharges. I have a lot of discharges every month after my period and on my first two days of my dischrages i get light pink blood (little bit). I dont know why i get blood ...
A. 1 May 2007: Ok I hope that I can help you out! I have the same discharge...which I was told that it is a common ocurrance for women. It's your vagina cleaning itself....especially after sex. If the discharge is slight, doesn't hurt or itch, and is not ... (read in full...)
He must like me to hold my hand... right!?
Q. Ok... I really like this boy... and well we flirt all the time in class. we even got called out by the teacher and she gave us detentions for showing feelings in "her" class. Well heres the thing... were always sitting next to eachother and holding ...
A. 1 May 2007: Well, to me it sounds like he might have feelings for you, but is probably shy (or scared to say). Just give him time to come up with the courage, it might take awhile.
I hope that everything goes good for you....Good Luck!!... (read in full...)
I seem to date guys for a week or so then get bored. Why does this keep happening?
Q. In the past month or so I have gotten in a routine of dating guys for only a week. This is my fourth boyfriend in the past two months. They weren't meant for me but I really like the guy I'm with now. The only problem is it's been a week and I ...
A. 1 May 2007: Since you are 16-17 and new to the relationship stuff, getting bored easily is normal for your age! You might not be ready for a long-term relationship at this time. You need to get more experience at relationships...find someone who shares the ... (read in full...)
Is it me or am I fighting a losing battle and should I just walk away?
Q. I've been dating a guy for over 5 years. In the beginnging, things were great. He lived with me, told me loved me all the time, and wanted to be with me forever. Now for the last 2 years, nothing. He says he's bitter about marriage and because ...
A. 1 May 2007: I totally agree with Irish49's advice...she said it just perfectly!!! Kudos to her! I was in the same exact place as you a few years back...but instead it was 3 years!! And those years are wasted and I can't get them back!!!
You deserve much bet... (read in full...)
She's told me she's fallen out of love with me and now I don't know what to do?
Q. I have been dating this girl for 7 months now and things where going great at first. Then we started getting into fights and it seemed my only way of settling it was to break up and I have done it 2 or so more times now. So recently we got into a ...
A. 1 May 2007: In every relationship....arguments will come whether you want them to or not. They are avoidable..believe me!! But to break up over them that's not a good way of settling them! Not once but 3 times? And when when you said the things that you ... (read in full...)
I can't get him out of my head and he hardly talks to me, except before and after sex! Is he just leading me on?
Q. HELP!!! i really like this guy im living with, and we are in a sexual relationship. over the easter holidays he was texting me all the time and we arranged to do a few things, like watch a film and go for a drink. when we got back to uni, he's been ...
A. 30 April 2007: You stated that you live with him....and he hardly talks to you at all until before and after sex? I think you should take charge of the situation and demand an explanation as to why he is treating you this way.
Or you could try giving him the ... (read in full...)
She's talking about leaving my best friend for me! What should I do?
Q. I Like This Girl(Emma) But the only problem is that she's going out with my best friend (Carl). Recently Carl's been treating Emma really bad. Carl's Moved to the other side of the country and they're trying at long distance relationship. But lately ...
A. 30 April 2007: One thing that I have to say is I hope the names you posted in your question is NOT the real names of your friend and his gf! That is not only a bad practice to get into, but a dangerous one!
Loving the girl of your best friend is a sad situatio... (read in full...)
She made it very clear that "she wasn't saying no, just not right now". What should I do?
Q. I dont know what to think of this girl! WE are both 16. Whenever i talk to her or am around her she is an angel, but her actions are another story. Most of the time, when we have plans, she cancels at the very last second. I have asked her out and ...
A. 30 April 2007: She could be telling you the truth that it is too soon after her last guy. Since she likes the "chasing game" so much, why don't you just ignore her for a little while? She might start chasing you for a change. If not, then she might have just ... (read in full...)
She made it very clear that "she wasn't saying no, just not right now". What should I do?
Q. I dont know what to think of this girl! WE are both 16. Whenever i talk to her or am around her she is an angel, but her actions are another story. Most of the time, when we have plans, she cancels at the very last second. I have asked her out and ...
A. 30 April 2007: She could be telling you the truth that it is too soon after her last guy. Since she likes the "chasing game" so much, why don't you just ignore her for a little while? She might start chasing you for a change. If not, then she might have just ... (read in full...)
He is lying about being in contact with his ex gf! What can I do?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me. we have had on going arguments about he and his ex girlfriend calling each other and him hiding it from me. he claims it was not to upset me. last time we broke up over this and made up he promised to tell her to ...
A. 30 April 2007: You have all the right to know if your bf is keeping in touch with his ex-gf! I know what you are going through because I was in the same situation as what you are going through right now!
I had trust for my bf at the time....that was until hi... (read in full...)
My gf steals pint glasses from the pub we go to a lot..and I am worried she might get caught! Any advice?
Q. Okay this is going to sound silly but everytime we go out for a drink, my girlfriend wants to steal pint glasses! lol! And I don't think its a good idea as we go their each week and she may get caught. She has stolen a number of glasses from pub...
A. 30 April 2007: Many people take ashtrays and glasses from various places that they visit. But you state that she takes the pint glasses from the same place time and time again. If she just wants the glasses to make a set, you could visit the supply place where ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to talk to another man on MySpace? I have no intentions of cheating on my fiancee..
Q. Hi Ok so...let me start at the begining... I've been engaged for 3 years...living with my fiancee. I'm home alot as I'm disabled, and he works crazy hours so we barely see eachother. I recently made a Myspace page in order to talk to my brother, ...
A. 30 April 2007: I, too, have a Myspace page....I did this so I keep in touch with my family and close friends and post my artwork for my friends to see. I am in a very good relationship with a most wonderful man, and I don't need to talk to another man, either in ... (read in full...)
Dated two nice ladies off a dating site. The trouble is that I like both of them and cannot choose between them.
Q. Since my last (traumatic) break-up, where my ex was sleeping with her ex and others behind my back, I began internet dating. I didn't sleep with anyone for the first few months, as I was just enjoying the dating side of it and was enjoying getting ...
A. 30 April 2007: Your story reminds me of a song that I heard long ago.."Torn Between Two Lovers"! One thing that I can say to you is that you sound like a very respectful guy. And you respected those 2 women by not sleeping with them as soon as you met them.
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My boyfriend and I played around a bit, now that I'm home I feel like I've done something wrong.
Q. hi i have just got home from my boyfriends house and i was lookin on this site and my question is nothing like anyone elses .. but i have just come home like i said and i feel really guilty. i dont know why i feel guilty but i just do, i refuse to ...
A. 30 April 2007: You probably thought that you disapointed you bf by not sleeping with him, that's why you feel like you do. But you shouldn't....You made a very good decision by not sleeping with him! And if he truely loves you, he will wait for you!!!
One t... (read in full...)
Is it worth continuing to see him even although he's 22 and I'm 16? I REALLY like this guy.
Q. I am 16, my boyfriend is 22. his ex is having his baby in a months time, and my parents know this.. we started seeing each other only 3 months ago, he is getting a lot of crap from people about my age and a lot of drama is caused.. the situatio...
A. 30 April 2007: One thing, you said that your parents have taken a shine to this young man....that is a good sign. Really search your very soul about your true feelings about you bf before making any rash decisions that you will regret later on.
Another thing to... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but don't know if I could manage on my own financially.
Q. i want to leave my husband but im so afraid i wont be able to cope on my own.we own a buisness together and live at the place of work, we moved away from my family ,so i feel even more isolated, which means if i leave i wont have a job or a place to ...
A. 30 April 2007: Here where I am from, when a woman leaves/divorces her husband is that she is entitled to half of the estate (i think that you have to show cause why..like he commited adultry, was abusive to you (physical or mental) ect. I heard from one of my ... (read in full...)
Is it true that English girls love the Irish guys?
Q. I am an Irish male and I am going to liverpool next week on a lads weekend. I have heard that English girls love the Irish guys.... is this true???...
A. 30 April 2007: Yes,I think they do....because I am English/Irish..LOL!!!!!
With all puns put aside...You have a very good chance of meeting English gals and hitting it off by treating them with Respect, and by you being a gentleman!! Most women want to be treat... (read in full...)
My friend wants to make me choose, it's either the guy I like or my friend, what do I do?
Q. hi all, i reali like this lad i go to schol wiv (yr 11 IN THE UK) we get on reali well nd love spendin time together but my best friend hates him and she says tht if i go out wiv him she will stop bein my mate and hate me forever i dont no what to ...
A. 30 April 2007: You should ask your friend why she hates the guy you like. Maybe she knows something about him that you don't. If she doesn't tell you the reason why, then maybe she is jelous because your guy is taking your time...when she wants you to be with ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 4 years has been acting really unusual lately!
Q. pls.help, i need to know whats really going on with my gf. we've been dating for about 4yrs and lately she been acting unusal, for example she just cut her hair very short and added a dye, and during sex, which has decreased dramatically, she tries ...
A. 29 April 2007: I think that your gf's "unusual" action may not be so unusual at all! I think that she is trying to add "spice" to her life and love-life. I went through the same thing...with my hair. I just got tired of the same color as i was trying to grow it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 4 years has been acting really unusual lately!
Q. pls.help, i need to know whats really going on with my gf. we've been dating for about 4yrs and lately she been acting unusal, for example she just cut her hair very short and added a dye, and during sex, which has decreased dramatically, she tries ...
A. 29 April 2007: I think that your gf's "unusual" action may not be so unusual at all! I think that she is trying to add "spice" to her life and love-life. I went through the same thing...with my hair. I just got tired of the same color as i was trying to grow it ... (read in full...)
How do you delete a post you wrote?
Q. Hiya, can you delete posts you sent? I want to delete one please help if you can?! =] Thanks!...
A. 29 April 2007: I think the best way to find out about how to delete a post you wrote is sending them an email....I did find out how to contact the people who might be able to help you. The address is: feedback@dearcupid.org. (If that doesn't work, then go to ... (read in full...)
I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish.
Q. I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish. Theres this really cute Spanish guy i like, but i cant get him to notice me. Its really hard to talk to him as i cannot speak the language very well. Last time i talked to him i looked like ...
A. 28 April 2007: I just found the name of the language program....and they have a demo language online that is free. www.rosettastone.com. I am going to do the demo myself!!!!... (read in full...)
I was just curious if there are any products out there that could whiten/lighten my skin?
Q. I was just curious if there are any products out there that could WHITEN + LIGHTEN my skin. When I was small I was born with pale white skin. Since I am older and the sun is out more frequently in my area my skin has been tan. I would like my ...
A. 28 April 2007: First of all, get Sun Screen with a number at least 30 that will protect you from uv and uvb rays! I have pale skin...so I use 45-50!!! And use it EVERYDAY!!! Don't ever go out side without it! The sun is so damaging to your facial skin....it's ... (read in full...)
How do I get my man back?
Q. How do I get my man back? He tells me he wants to work things out but I am tired of waiting. Should I continue to wait for him?...
A. 28 April 2007: It all depends on how much you love him. If you really think that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then by all means continue to wait for him.
If you don't think that it will work out between you two, then move on....Yo... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being rejected because I have never had a boyfriend before because no one had asked me out. I have started to think that I'm not pretty or thin or nice enough.
Q. For starters, there is this guy i like but he's a year younger than me. He's 16 and I am going to be 17 next week. I'm worried that if i ask him out, people will laugh at me because he is younger than me. Also, I'm scared of being rejected because I ...
A. 28 April 2007: So what if he is one year younger than you....age is just a number!! My guy is 2 years younger than me, and no has ever laughed at me!!
You are quite tall and your weight sounds appropriate for your height! With that, you don't sound like you... (read in full...)
I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish.
Q. I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish. Theres this really cute Spanish guy i like, but i cant get him to notice me. Its really hard to talk to him as i cannot speak the language very well. Last time i talked to him i looked like ...
A. 28 April 2007: I just seen a commercial on tv about a collection of language learning cds that make learning a new language fast and easy...but I can't recall the name of it. I will make a further research on it, and let you know the name of it. I heard that ... (read in full...)
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