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anonymous
writes: My friend is cheating on her b.f. with her ex. She's been telling everyone (including me) a whole bunch of lies just to keep both the guys. She's used mine and another female friend's names everywhere to cover her a**. Now her b.f. thinks badly about me and the other girl. He apparently asked her to keep her friends (us girls)out of their relationship as we are ruining it. But the truth is that she is the one lying and cheating and she has been using us for her lies. Why should we look like the bad ones? Should I just tell him the truth? or should I leave her for her fate?
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Tell your friend not to use her in her lies to her bf! That is not fair to you! I don't like having someone mad at me because of a lie!! Friends don't do that to their friends...it's just not fair!!
Tell her to stop using you and the other friend to cover her butt! Also tell her that if she don't stop you will either have to tell her bf or she will lose you as a friend!
My moto is when a friend does you wrong...just take the "r" out of friend, and that's what they become..a FIEND!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Ooops..I apologise, I made a reference to you being 'teen' girls. However, I still stand by my posting. In fact all the more, now that I see you are all young adults. This behaviour in fact, is something high schools teens would do. All the more reason not to be a part of this. Good luck dear and do the right hting. Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): I would sit down with her, and calmly, firmly and maturely tell her she needs to come clean with her bf or you will. You are asking her to be truthful, when it's plainly very difficult for her to do so. You are putting the ball in her court. After you do this, sit back and watch what she does. It is to her advantage to be deceitful and she has purposely involved her friends. I think you know that she's not a true, genuine friend to be acting this way. No one has the right to involve you in one's deceit. Reputation is important to all of us, especially with teens. She's made you and this other girl feel like co-conspirators in her game. Let her know that her friendship with is in jeopardy as a result and you do not approve of the way she is hurting others, to get what she wants. Encourage your friend make the best choice. Do not support her bad bad choices or encourage her difficult behavior. Tell her that. If she doesn't do what is right--then you will have to follow through and tell her bf, what has happened. He may not appreciate what you tell him...but know, you did the one thing she has not done..you told him the truth. I think it's time for you girls to assess whether this other friend is right for your life. Surround yourself, always, with friends that encourage, support and are truely, good people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): I'd say...since you are using my name without my consent and putting my charcater in question because of your lying and cheating...I am involved.
So I am going to go to him and come clean.
End of it.
Tell her in the future...she needs to be her own woman and stop lying and cheating it's embarassing.
Then give her a hug and kiss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Leave her to her own fate, they always trip themselves up eventually. Good liars have to have good memories, just make sure you always tell the truth and have a caste iron alibi. Tell her you don't like what she is doing but infront of a friend so you always have a witness.
Take care
xx
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reader, fairyprincess +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Hi,
This is unfair of your friend to be doing this to you, your other friend and her bf, as it seems to be causing you a lot of distress. You needs to explain that you dont want to lie for her anymore as it is causing bad feelings between friends, I dont think you should tell him, you should leave it up to her, but i do think you shouldnt lie for her anymore.
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 yes, tell it to her, but not the bf. if this persists just refuse to talk to her. let her solve her matters by herself.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Hi,
You must feel really awkward about this. I feel your friend is being totally unfare to you. If she were my mate I would tell her that I am not going to cover for her anymore. But whatever you do, dont tell her boyfriend. All this will do is cause more trouble, for you as well as her.
If you are asked then dont lie for her, but tell them in no uncertain terms, you want nothing to do with thier games.
Good Luck and Happy new year X
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