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I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish.
Q. I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish. Theres this really cute Spanish guy i like, but i cant get him to notice me. Its really hard to talk to him as i cannot speak the language very well. Last time i talked to him i looked like ...
A. 28 April 2007: I just found the name of the language program....and they have a demo language online that is free. www.rosettastone.com. I am going to do the demo myself!!!!... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being rejected because I have never had a boyfriend before because no one had asked me out. I have started to think that I'm not pretty or thin or nice enough.
Q. For starters, there is this guy i like but he's a year younger than me. He's 16 and I am going to be 17 next week. I'm worried that if i ask him out, people will laugh at me because he is younger than me. Also, I'm scared of being rejected because I ...
A. 28 April 2007: So what if he is one year younger than you....age is just a number!! My guy is 2 years younger than me, and no has ever laughed at me!!
You are quite tall and your weight sounds appropriate for your height! With that, you don't sound like you... (read in full...)
I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish.
Q. I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish. Theres this really cute Spanish guy i like, but i cant get him to notice me. Its really hard to talk to him as i cannot speak the language very well. Last time i talked to him i looked like ...
A. 28 April 2007: I just seen a commercial on tv about a collection of language learning cds that make learning a new language fast and easy...but I can't recall the name of it. I will make a further research on it, and let you know the name of it. I heard that ... (read in full...)
I still think about his lies and am concerned that I will never be able to trust him again and if you dont have trust, is the relationship going to work? Will I ever be able to trust him again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now. I love him very much and we have recently bought a house together. Before we met he used to take cocaine. He knew that I was against it and so stopped... or so he told me. Over the years he sent ...
A. 28 April 2007: Good advice from floraltemptaions! It's hard to understand addiction when you haven't been there where your guy is. Thank God I haven't tried that drug that your bf is apparently doing. But I could compair it to the addiction to cigarettes..and I ... (read in full...)
Because of all these past experiences with those othr lads shes terrifyed of getting hurt and gets scared about that sorta stuff and i don't want her to think i'm joking and trying to make a fool out of her.
Q. ok ive never wrote up to these sites before so i hope i'm writing this right and that you can help me. One of my best friends is a girl and we have been really close all of our lives. She has found it ahrd to fit in at school and has been bullied ...
A. 28 April 2007: Just keep on being there for her...that is so good what you are doing for her!! Tell her that the other guys who do that to her, do that because they don't feel good about themselves!! Just by continuely being there for her will show her how much ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel now or leave him alone since he's finally moved on?
Q. Hi, OK so about 3 years ago I was dating this guy who I had known for years. He was amazing, treated me like a princess, was generally a perfect boyfriend. However I went to uni and so I broke up with him I'm not really sure why I just got caught u...
A. 28 April 2007: Very good advice from Oldersister!! Don't interfer in your ex's relationship...you were the one to break things off with him! Just let things go, and maybe later on down the line when he is no longer in that relationship, you can tell him ... (read in full...)
Do i risk everything by still seeing him and commiting to our relationship?
Q. I am a single mother of two and have had my ups and downs with men. i have meet the man of my dreams and we have grown very close. he told me something the other night about himself because he wants no secrets and wants us to become closer and move ...
A. 28 April 2007: First of all you didn't state his age at the time he had relations with the 16-year-old girl. And apparently that happened 8 years ago (you stated that he had 8 years to think about it) He is a honest man because he told you about it...he could ... (read in full...)
What else could cause her to be dry tonight after 3 days no sex?
Q. Ive been dating this girl for about 6 months, I lost my virginity to her about 5 months ago. Anyway, she has been really into me and we have a good time together but she has been really weird lately. Every time we have had sex she is always very w...
A. 28 April 2007: It could be from a number of things like medication, an irritation, not drinking enough water..ect. There are numberous reasons for vaginal dryness. Be kind and be patient with your gf....and don't get upset with her, because that might make her ... (read in full...)
I think I might be losing my boy friend!
Q. Hi! Well I have BIG problem. I think I might be losing my boy friend! well the other day my girl best friend told me that every1 is saying that me nd my boy best m8 BADLY fancy each other.Of course my boyfriend found out about this. Though I ...
A. 28 April 2007: One thing that you should do is re-assure your bf that you love only him and not your best mate!! And tell your bf that there are some people who try to cause trouble for others, by spreading rumors and such!! Also keep at his side alot more than ... (read in full...)
I have a very close female friend. it's her birthday in 3 days. We're 16. I dont have much money. Any idea what i could get her?
Q. I have a very close female friend. it's her birthday in 3 days. We're 16. I dont have much money. Any idea what i could get her? I got her lots of things at christmas and i'm worrying she might expect the same! plz help!!!...
A. 28 April 2007: Do you or your mom have any old necklaces that you no longer wear (like glass beads, plastic beads, ect) Take the necklace(s) apart and get some macrame cord that is waxed...if you can't find waxed macrame cord...just rub the plain cord back and ... (read in full...)
Do you think i should tell this boy that i love him or just keep it to myself?
Q. Do you think i should tell this boy that i love him or just keep it to myself? my close friends know, and my parents have guessed. he's involved with someone who is also very close to me. although i don't intend to try and break up them (and i doub...
A. 28 April 2007: I don't think that would be a good to disclose your feelings about this guy. And since he is involved with someone who you are very close to...that is another reason why you should not tell him. It could turn out to be very disasterous for you, ... (read in full...)
What are all these small pimple-like thingys down around my vagina? Help I need advice!
Q. Hey..I have a question that's more health related than relationship related. It may sounds gross, but I need to know... I noticed today that I have something that looks like a tiny version of pimples or whiteheads or something around my vagina. ...
A. 24 March 2007: I think it's probably infected hair follicles. It can occur from chafing of your underclothes and such. Or it can be from certain soap that you are using! Try using cleansers that are formulated for the vaginal area. That might help. I've had ... (read in full...)
I'm flattered that he is trying to gain my trust--but, will he go back to being a cheater?
Q. In January of this year, I broke up with my fiancee because he was cheating on me. He emailed me recently and said that he wanted to talk to me because he was sorry for what he did to me and he understood the pain I went through because of his ...
A. 24 March 2007: I think that he really regrets cheating on you, and knows that he really lost a good thing! And he probably knows how dangerous it is by what has happened to him while you two were split up, almost losing his life over it!!!! He learned his lesson ... (read in full...)
My fear of vomiting is putting me off clubbing and drinking the the future! What can I do?
Q. Hi x i 14 and i have a big problem, it might seem pathetic. I have a severe case of emetophobia. (fear of vomiting). i get scared if someone feels sick and also myself. If i am sick i cry and shiver. If someone else is sick, i cry, shake, shiv...
A. 24 March 2007: For one thing, 14 is way young to be downing alcohol!! It not only makes one look like a fool but it is also dangerous. You could get alcohol poisoning which can be fatal in young teens!!
I used to feel the same way about throwing up. I couldn... (read in full...)
How can I comfort my friend while she's going through a tough time with her bf?
Q. Hi! My best friend is trying to break up with her boyfriend and i dont know what to tell her. She has been going out with this guy for a year and a half, and he is far away in med-school. She has been recently going through some medical procedures ...
A. 24 March 2007: Just be there for your friend, and don't bring up what has happened in her relationship with her bf. For one thing, he is going through med-school, and it is very tough and hard on him with all the classes that he has to attend and do tests and ... (read in full...)
If I believe in something strongly, do I have the right to force it onto others?
Q. If i believe about something very strongly, do i have to force it on to other for it to get really justified as a universal truth? Does it become universal truth if one or two people agree with it or join hands with me in respect to the belief?...
A. 24 March 2007: I, myself don't think that it is right to force anyone my opinion or belief! Everybody has the right to believe in what they think of as the truth. And by forcing a person in what you strongly believe in only makes them avoid you like the plague! ... (read in full...)
I know he likes me! Any ideas on how I can get him to tell me?
Q. hey, I like this boy, ive just turned 16 and he's just turned 18 in january. i really like him and think about him lots. He has told everyone he likes me, but hasnt got the nerve to tell me yet. he says he has liked me since just before christmas. ...
A. 24 March 2007: He is just shy and unsure of himself....just give him time, he will come around! Invite him to your house for dinner that you cooked. As the saying goes.."THE WAY TO A MAN'S HEART IS THROUGH HIS STOMACH". That is so true!
Just be patient ... (read in full...)
Having problems with my family and friends! What should I do?
Q. Well, my family and i are all moving away, which means right now, the house is being all redecked and its all new and nasty. But my mum is really stressing about it, she yelled at my sister till she cried (who is 18) and then my sister left home, My ...
A. 24 March 2007: One thing I should say...please stop cutting yourself!! It not only disfigures you, but it is also dangerous! You could suddenly cut yourself too deep and bleed to death!!!!
I know that moving to a new area and leaving the house, your frie... (read in full...)
He loves me one minute and hates me the next. What's up with his mood swings?
Q. rite im confused...this boy i really love has really bad mood swings and 1 min hes all over me and tells me he loves me but then the next min he gets stressed easily and screws at me tellin me he hates me ...wat can i do 2 help him and do i love ...
A. 24 March 2007: The way you discribed him by his mood swings it sounds to me he may be bi-polar or have ADD attention-deficit disorder, ADHD(attention-deficit-hyperactive-disorder)I have seen several of my friends with this....they get stressed really easy..have ... (read in full...)
Was going to get married but I left him because he slapped me! Can I ever trust him never to do it again?
Q. Hi! My name is Cristina, I've 29 years old and I should get married in 4 weeks. 2 days ago I had a discussion with my (ex) fiance and he slapped me. I left him. Can I ever trust him? What should I do? I love him...BUT...maybe he would slap me again. ...
A. 24 March 2007: If I was going to get married to a man and then he slapped me, I would leave him too! Once they do that, it will only get worse when they marry. I would think very carefully!
If he slapped you once, there is a very good chance he will do it ag... (read in full...)
Married with 5 kids! I'm so stressed because I feel trapped in my life. What should I do?
Q. I am looking for some advice I feel so trapped in my life i am married with five children. I love my husband deeply as he does me. I spend all of my life cleaning my house I could spend all week in the house and no one would care. My kids just ...
A. 24 March 2007: I will tell you what I did with my kids, and I had only 2!! I made chore lists for each....it was month chore list, so at the end of the month they got a toy or something to that order. But they had to complete the whole month, or they got ... (read in full...)
I like him but he thinks I hate him! How do I approach him to get to know him better?
Q. I Need Help In My Love Life. Theres this boy in my year at school. I really like him and have done for about three months. I don't know him very well but he thinks I hate him. I asked him out the other day and he turned me down. I know I need to ...
A. 24 March 2007: Do you have any classes with this guy? If so, why don't you study together....maybe at the library or other place. Try to talk to him when he isn't with his other mates. Buy him a soda, candy bar, ect as a peace offering..or something that he ... (read in full...)
Is what she is doing ok??
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for more than a couple years and we are currently living together. We may take time apart and live seperatly when our lease is up in a few months, she says she loves me but does not want to live together for a while. ...
A. 24 March 2007: No, I don't think that what she is doing is ok, not in my book!! For I have been in the same boat as you! My ex bf and I were living together and he was talking to several other women...explaining to me that they were "just friends" and didn't ... (read in full...)
Its really getting to my that My friend really dislikes my boyfriend!!!
Q. Lately I have been feeling kind of confused because I recently found out that my best friend does not like my boyfriend at all. She has seen me get verbally and physically abused in my last relationship and knows I deserve better. My boyfriend is ...
A. 21 March 2007: If your bf treats you with the way you want to be treated (and not being abused mentally or physically), then your friend should keep her thoughts to herself! Don't let her come and meddle with your love life! She should be there for you for ... (read in full...)
Do men really think about their ex girlfriends when having sex ?
Q. Do men fantasize about their ex girlfriends when they are having sex? I've been with my boyfriend for a year and it's going great. He slept with 2 people before me and it never used to bother me until I met them both. I'm a curvy size 14, who's ...
A. 21 March 2007: I agree with the others that you are worrying over nothing! He is with you, and not at his ex gfs!! And don't believe everything you read in those magazines because most of them are a load of trash!! So don't read them, ok?
Your bf wants YO... (read in full...)
She's married... should I tell her how I feel?
Q. hi i have this woman i my life and i really like her more than friends.the trouble is she is married should i tell her how i feel.any advice would be good....
A. 28 February 2007: To tell a married woman how you feel is NOT a good idea!! You could lose her as a friend, and it would probably make her feel differenly of you!
I think that you should look elsewhere for another woman who is not married!... (read in full...)
I'm one of the sweetest girls on earth... until he got drunk and said he'd never marry me and I started hitting and biting him!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for one year. We have dated for 3 months before that. I think it is enough time to know each other. Around may we are supposed to have a conversation on getting married. I am (like he says too) one of the ...
A. 28 February 2007: Oh what we do when alcohol is involved!! And when we find out what we did when we are sober!
I hope that you two get back together, and put this incident behind you and never do that again, if you can help it! If you really love someone,... (read in full...)
Im confused, is he saying we can have kids or not!!?
Q. I am in love with a man 16 years older. We've been living in for 3 years now.When we first got together, he said he wanted to get married and have children but every time i tell him i'm ready to start a family he thinks of some reason to put it ...
A. 28 February 2007: I think that your man of 3 years is getting comfortable with just you two. And he might want to have children with you, but not at this time. I wouldn't give up the dream of having children with him. Just don't bring up that subject of having a ... (read in full...)
Will this feeling of missing her disappear ? it was only 2 weeks ago we split!
Q. Hi. My ex and i broke up 2 weeks ago after a 3 year relationship. It was a mutual decision to split and we both feel we did the right thing. The problem is that i spoke to and saw her for the first time today since we split and I started to get the ...
A. 28 February 2007: I think in time the feeling of missing her will get less. But it will take some time, since you were in a 3-year relationship with her. It might seem hard at first, but with the passage of time it will get better. It might be hard for you to ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that while away hes just going to get used to being without me!!!
Q. is there anyone who reads this in the army or navy? do the guys stay faith full to there girlfriends? my fella went away 2 months ago and hes now more relaxed and getting used to been away he doesnt really call me that much any more but trys to...
A. 28 February 2007: I don't think that you have anything to worry about! If he is in basic training, he is kept so busy with all the routines from day to day. He has no time to even get homesick, and by the end of each day, the only think for him to think about is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is moving in with me but she hates my ex's cats so has said either they go or she does!
Q. I am going through the final stage of a divorce. When we were together i bought 2 cats for my wife. When we split up and she left she couldn't take them with her and so they have remained with me. I now have a new partner who i have been with f...
A. 22 February 2007: You should have a long talk with your new gf about the cats! She could be alergic to them or she just hates cats! You should have said that they were YOUR cats instead of your ex's. I think that is just plain stupid on her part! If I were in her ... (read in full...)
I am becoming so dry down below and it's wrecking my confidence and my sex life with my boyfriend. What can I do?
Q. Hi, lately when i've had sex it has been getting really dry, then sore and painful. I had chlamidea but i got the treatment so i dont think its that, then i thought it was thrush and used the treatment so i dont think its that. It was fine in the ...
A. 22 February 2007: Your dryness is probably from the medication that you took. If you are taking diaretics (water pills) that could cause dryness. I found at the store a product called Replense....it is for vaginal dryness. it is in the form of inserts that you put ... (read in full...)
The boy I'm dating has a child, I am really fond of the guy but if my mom finds out he has a child she'll throw a fit!
Q. I am dating this guy who has a child. I am beginning to like him very much. My mom knows I am dating him but she does not know he has a child. I am just seeking advice if it is proper to date a guy who has a child and what would my mom say when she ...
A. 22 February 2007: Since you are over 18, you have the right to date whom ever you want. And don't worry about mom....she'll probably think that your guy is very responsible by taking on raising the child! And the little guy will win her heart just as he has won ... (read in full...)
I have been such an idiot and I love my wife so much but now we're going through a divorce which neither of us really wants, how do I get my wife back?
Q. I cheated on my wife with someone who I would not normally look at( Work colleague), This woman treated me so amaizingly to try to show what I could have!!! She ended up being a nutter and told my wife all about it. My intention at the time was to ...
A. 22 February 2007: Everyone makes mistakes...it takes a REAL man to admit that he did. It's sad to hear that a marriage is damaged by infidelity and that the trust that was once there is crushed. It will take some time to heal that!
Talk to her, and tell her how ... (read in full...)
We slept together, he didnt want anything serious, we stayed mates, now he's got a new GF, should I stay friends with him ?
Q. i started seeing this guy a few months ago and we started as mates going to the pub and talking , anyway we did eventually sleep together and after we decided to stay mates . anyway i had feelings for him and he kept saying i dont want a seri...
A. 22 February 2007: I don't think that it would be a good idea to keep being mates since there is another woman in the picture. It will only hurt you more to see him with her, and she would probably be jelous of you!
I would stay away from any contact with him if I... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him or do I tell him that nothing can ever happen? I still love him, but I'm confused!
Q. My boyfriend split up with me 2 months ago after two and a half years. we have just got back in touch and he says he misses me but doesn't want to settle down at the moment. we are both young but i think it's as though he wants me to wait, he said ...
A. 22 February 2007: If you are ment to be together, it will happen. But in the meantime, don't just sit there waiting for him to make up his mind. Go out and date other guys, instead of waisting your time waiting! Have fun, and live your life! And you might just ... (read in full...)
Will my gynecologist know I'm not a virgin? I don't want my mom to know! Is there doctor/patient confidentiality between us at my age??
Q. I am 17 and I have scheduled my first appointment with a gynecologist because of my menstural cramps. I am worried, though, because I have recently lost my virginity, and I am sure the doctor will know. Mostly, I'm concerned that my mother will ...
A. 22 February 2007: Since you are 17, what goes on in the examing room is between you and the doc. Just make sure your mom don't go in with you!! The doctor knows that girls your age engage in sex...and they don't want it broadcast to their parents! At Planned ... (read in full...)
I was molested and b/c of it have a hard time dating. I've broken it off w/ a guy b/c I was scared of getting too sexually involved! What should I do?
Q. so i have relationship issues. i was molested when i was 6-7 years old and its hard in relationships because of it. i never told my exboyfriend even tho we didnt date long. i broke up with him cause i was afraid that we'd get too sexually involved ...
A. 21 February 2007: I am very sorry to hear of what happened to you when you were just a little girl! And I hope that you don't feel it's all your fault, because it's NOT!! I just hope that you had couseling for what has happened to you!!
AskEve has some wonderfu... (read in full...)
I know he just uses me for sex, but I want to tell him how I really feel about him. What should I do?
Q. im 17 and started having feelings for a 22 year old. we got really close and ended up having sex but he didnt want anything serious just fun. we have ended up having sex regulary but now my feelings have become really strong for him. i want to tell ...
A. 21 February 2007: AskEve hit it right on the button! I think that you should have respect for yourself, and don't fall into bed too fast. It also good to wait to have sex with other guys you are interested in (just in case the one you like don't work out) because ... (read in full...)
Should I try to make a go of it with this guy or pass him by?
Q. hey! im just curious? theres this very hot guy who tells me he likes me. He's taking it really slow and i like that but theres a bit of a downer..he has an 8 month relationship! we all know he doesnt love her anymore. He's tried to break up with her ...
A. 21 February 2007: I think that you should pray about it. The Lord will answer your prayers concerning you and the boy that has your heart. Most guys like to party and drink. Just be careful not to get into a car that he is driving under the influence!! That is ... (read in full...)
My friend feels like a prisoner in his own home - his mother is so controlling. What can I do to help??
Q. Hi all.. i got a small problem.. my friend hes male 22 lives at home and no job.. his mother is very controlling and christian too, she treats him like a 5 year old.. this is stressing him out he sleeps all the time and is getting very depressed im ...
A. 21 February 2007: I think that your friend should start looking for work, so he can get on his own! Since he is 22, with no job and living at home, his mother is actually taking care of him! And you state that he sleeps all the time, he is probably not helping ... (read in full...)
He dumped me over some mean texts I sent him! What can I do?
Q. hey peeps..im in a bit of a dillemma..iv been 'sleeping with' tthis guy for a couple of months now.and i guess you could say iv fallen for him!!!however, i wen out and got drunk the other nite, i kept texting him, pestering him to come bk 2 my ...
A. 28 January 2007: First of all, try apolgizing to him for the mean text you sent him. And tell him that you were drunk and didn't know what you were doing. And let that go at that. Don't pester him....just let him come back on his own. Guys don't like it too well ... (read in full...)
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