I am so frustrated, all I am to him is somebody for dinner conversation!
Q. My bf is significantly older than me. We have been dating for a year or so. He does not want to make love at all. He has an excuse for every time of day. No he does not have ED. When we first got together there was constant affection. Now he will ...
A. 26 January 2015: Any particular reason that he won't touch you??? Has he said why he has a problem with it? I understand your frustration, but maybe he needs to know you before he does anything.
Try talking to him. If you are still not satisfied, you probably need... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend cheat on me if we don't commit and have sex?
Q. Hi there, I've been thinking all this while about my current boyfriend, who is 31years old. I am 23. Let me brief you all before i ask for help here. So, my current bf used to be my ex-boss in my previous company where I worked. He casually asked me...
A. 26 January 2015: Sorry, but i think he is absolutely capable of cheating on you. What sort of a guy goes and sleeps with another girl while still being with someone else. Its good that he was honest, but was he apologetic about it?
It's not worth it if you have... (read in full...)
Those three little words, who should say them first?
Q. My boyfriend and I will have our 3 month anniversary this week so I have been wondering...who should say, "I love you," first? I have heard that it should be the man, and I would really like it to be that way...but I am nervous that he is waiti...
A. 25 January 2015: There's no 1st and last. It's all about the right time. If you like each other, don't play games. Its never helped anyone. Just say it when you think it's the right time. The 1st few months are always amazing. Make sure you want to say.. Don't think ... (read in full...)
He comments on other women all the time but never compliments me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. When we first got together he didn't make many comments about the way I look which I didn't really notice until I discovered he'll be very flattering to other women. Like he'll rave about the ...
A. 25 January 2015: Are you sure he doesn't do that just to tease you? Cuz my bf does that. But he also does compliment me all the time. That is not normal behaviour. You need to be with someone who thinks you are exceptional to him. Maybe after being together f... (read in full...)
Should I stop hanging with my friend, his sister broke my heart?
Q. So I committed the sin of dating my best friend's sister. He was surprisingly very okay with it but I digress. The sister and I were really good friends before and she was in a shitty relationship and ended up leaving that guy and one thing led to ...
A. 25 January 2015: You don't need to stop hanging with your friend. If he understands your case, that is. As far as the sister is concerned, I know you haven't said anything about it, but I don't think you should bother being friends with her.
I can understand how ... (read in full...)
She had oral sex before we got married and I just found this out! Was she a virgin?
Q. I am 30 years old and been married for 9 years. I was a virgin when we got married and she told me she was the same. Till after 8 years of marriage and 3 kids later she tells me that she gave out 20 or 30 blowjobs to two guys before me and she said ...
A. 24 January 2015: its before your wedding. get over it.. its in the past, so let it be. plus she dint betray you. she was a virgin. n technically you werent in her life when that happened.
relax n let it be.. you have a beautiful family. dont let past get in d way... (read in full...)
I need a break from him but we live together!
Q. I need space from my boyfriend, but we live together. We've been together over 4 years and moved in together almost a year ago. For the first time in a while, I worked some overtime over the past weekend and have had to work a little later than ...
A. 24 January 2015: Hey, this stuff happens. You both are working and you both are tired and stressed. It's just all of that. It's a phase that will pass. Go away for the weekend or something. I know this is going to sound difficult, but you really need to try to u... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and the father wants a termination.
Q. Im pregnant. When I found out my instinct was to become a mother not to have an abortion. The father wants nothing to do with a baby right now because he wants to move and continue to find himself as he will be 25 in May. He’s called me selfish, ...
A. 24 January 2015: In all honesty, the choice is yours. You need to decide if you want the baby. And you need to decide if you want the father to be in the child's life, seeing as he doesn't want it. Mostly you need to genuinely think if you can do this alone.
A... (read in full...)
How do you stop yourself from missing someone that you shouldnt be missing?
Q. I've just split up with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do with myself. Since I was 16 I've always had a boyfriend, it's only been a few days and I feel lonely and bored and I miss him. I know I sound pathetic needing to have somebody in my ...
A. 24 January 2015: You are simply used to him. You do not miss him. Get that in your head. You are missing having someone at your disposal all the time.
You need to start learning to enjoy your own company. You already know now that you haven't been around for frie... (read in full...)
3 messages in 3 days..is he blowing me off?
Q. Hi For the past week I have been texting this guy I really like. He was the one that sought me out. He asks me to meet him I say ye and we will sort a day to meet cos we both hav busy jobs. We stayed up till 3 talking on Tuesday night Wednesday ...
A. 24 January 2015: You're being paranoid dear. Relax. It's just been a week. And you both have jobs, so you're bound to be busy.
Keep yourself occupied. Go out n meet some friends.
Stop checking your phone to see if he messaged. Take your time and spend some qua... (read in full...)
Motorcycle Picture on Facebook ask to be removed caused a breakup
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 20 months. Both of us are twice married. Her second relationship was very, very bad. It hurts her badly to think of it. It damaged her emotionally and if she could, she has said it was the worse mistake she ...
A. 24 January 2015: I have to agree with honeypie. You did create a mountain of nothing. I mean come on. Everyone comes with a past. This seems more like your need to control her feelings, probably out of protective feelings, probably a lil bit out of jealousy. Or the ... (read in full...)
Lack of conversation with my girlfriend makes me wonder if its time to leave?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, but the lack of conversation between us is starting to make me consider whether or not to take the relationship any further. To add to this a girl at my works party, but who I don't work directly with, ...
A. 24 January 2015: Do you or do you not want to be with her? You need to figure this out yourself. It's possible that you have let the spark die. If you still want to be with her, try winning her back. If you don't give off d vibe of being interested, then you can't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my family what my fiance's ex is like?
Q. Hello.. Just need opinions on a predicament I have. I am getting married to a wonderful man this year, he has 2 kids from a previous relationship who I love to bits. The problem is his ex, she is a nasty piece of work, my fiancé had to go to ...
A. 24 January 2015: They will find out eventually. Maybe you don't need to go into details, but it's better if they hear from you. They are your parent's. You know best how to handle them and how much to tell them, so that they are still comfortable but warned of the ... (read in full...)
Am I pestering him? Do I need to be more considerate? I am scared of losing him.
Q. Basically I'm abit confused; It's regarding a LDR (which yes, we live far apart, and yes we have met each other a handful of times - I would happily move down to him or vice versa but finding work is the tricky thing, we both work full time and have...
A. 23 January 2015: What you are feeling is absolutely normal. But you need to give him space. Especially in a LDR, you don't really know what's happened in the day in the other person's life. And no matter how many hours you spend online, that factor does not change. ... (read in full...)
I have just lost interest in sex and in myself. What the hell is going on? Could it be a hormonal thing?
Q. As a young girl and all throughout my 20's, I think I was highly sexual for my age. As if I had more raging hormones than an average teen. I was always open to sec and new partners and subjecting myself to wild sexual ventures. I think in a way it ...
A. 22 January 2015: Maybe it's hormones, you should get it checked. But it might also be something on your mind. Don't put so much pressure on yourself owing to your past. It will only make it more difficult for you. Subjecting yourself to pressure would only act ... (read in full...)
I can't get over the feeling I am second choice simply because the other woman went back to Poland
Q. How can I stop feeling second best? I met my boyfriend through online dating. I was on the rebound and he seemed ideal in many ways but mainly because he had no kids (former relationships had Young kids and the restrictions that brings) Very qui...
A. 22 January 2015: Try and figure out if he really likes you. If you don't feel comfortable, i think you should move on. I am sorry. But it just does not seem like he is ready to completely be with you. If he is, you need to know it up front. You deserve to be with ... (read in full...)
His best friend has told me very upsetting things about his sleeping with other women, including her! What do I do now?
Q. I always knew my boyfriend was hiding something from me regarding his best friend but I was never sure about what it was. I do have trust issues due to be hurt in the past but it was something different this time. It was like I could see it with my ...
A. 20 January 2015: Don't let your mind cook stories in your head. Just go and directly ask him. You even have the messages. At least you will get a clear picture. Just don't mention anything on the phone. If he is a cheater, you don't want to give him time to come up ... (read in full...)
Should I give those 3 or 4 girls, who each hurt me, a second chance?
Q. Hello everyone, i would love to hear opinions from you all. Suppose, all the girls(3 or 4 girls) i fell in love in different stage of my life pretended to love me, when they actually used me to get their ego boost, and hurt me, and finally push me ...
A. 18 January 2015: Are you actually even thinking about that? Or do you want to give those girls a try just so they can now see how successful you are and what they are missing out on. Maybe give yourself an ego boost?
Let it all go. If everything is now good in ... (read in full...)
I know he has a girlfriend but it doesn't stop me hoping!
Q. So I there is a guy at work that I really like! I don't know what to do because he has a girlfriend so I know there is no chance we can't be together but that doesn't stop me hoping all the time. We spend a lot of time together and I have been ...
A. 18 January 2015: You already have your answer. He is a friend to you. Seriously, not ever care is romantic. You can simply love someone as a friend and you might be reading too much into it.
You need to move on. Try not thinking about it. ... (read in full...)
I am sure my Mom was just a bit tipsy but this creeped me out!
Q. Hi, I m a 23 year old guy. Yesterday I asked my friend Jeremy (also 23) to sleep over my house for the whole weekend. Around 10 my mom and her best friend were sitting at the kitchen counter drinking some wine when Jeremy came over. This was the ...
A. 18 January 2015: i agree with youwish. You don't really have anything to be worried about. And you can actually always talk to your mum. Don't over think about this. ... (read in full...)
I worry I might ruin it if I tell her how I feel.
Q. So we went on 3 dates already Each one we had fun conversations over food She's pretty open and wild as I am I really like her and I'm really serious about being with She did mention how she wants to take it slow.. And not rush into anythi...
A. 18 January 2015: Just relax and take it slow. It's only been a week. Enjoy this time, there's no need to rush. and trust me, when you text her, she already knows that you miss her :)
It's sweet that you feel this way, but you are gonna have to stay calm and take... (read in full...)
Ohhhh, my cousin, I think I love your wife!
Q. hi , am someone who have a big problem in his life ...i think i love my cousin wife and she stair att me all the time ...i am really confused when i see her looking at me and iam worried that her husband think a bad idea about us ... i think about ...
A. 18 January 2015: how about you stop looking at your sister-in-law?? dude, seriously, keep your distance, its just attraction. And the only thing it's gonna do is create a mess. try maintaining some distance between you n her. and occupy yourself with other things.
... (read in full...)
I take an abnormally long time getting over relationships
Q. Hi Everyone, So, I am getting over a bad break-up that happened 7 months ago. The thing is, I general take a long time letting go of a relationship. Abnormally long I would say, we are talking several years. I have been to therapy over this issue ...
A. 18 January 2015: You know, it's really just a matter of choice. You just need to let go. Let me tell you something.
It is truly the easiest thing to let go of something or someone. The difficult part is to decide when to let go. You end up holding on to the guys... (read in full...)
I said I loved him and he broke it off
Q. I am a libra woman was with a cancer man.. and ended my relationship with a cancer man. Our relationship was very healthy sex, communication, etc... He broke it off because I told him I love him...but yet he said he was happy with me a...
A. 18 January 2015: Don't waste your time on him. Take your stuff and let him go. He is just making a whole load of excuses for whatever reason. The fact that he is making excuses is a good enough sign for you to let him go. You deserve better than that. If he comes ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about putting off sex until he feels he can trust me again?
Q. I am in a rut in my relationship. Long story short I cheated, There was no physical cheating. I was texting my manager and deleting the messages..they were not in any way inappropriate but I knew the fact bothered my fiancee so instead of nipping ...
A. 18 January 2015: There's one thing you need to know. You did not cheat! there is nothing wrong in messaging a person, unless it was sexual or romantic. if your fiance has you convinced that its cheating, his insecurities run much deeper than what you are doing. and ... (read in full...)
I'm already shaky and nervous about meeting his family, shouId I tell him I can't go or push myself to get over my nerves?
Q. My boyfriends sister and I have never got on. We knew each other at school and we just never clicked. I have known her since I was about 6-7 so I know that we won't just become best friends suddenly. I have accepted how close she is to my boyfriend, ...
A. 17 January 2015: I know exactly what you mean. It is a scary deal usually. But i really think you should go. It's good for you as well. Think about it this way. You always have to meet someone that first time. How will you ever get to know his extended family if you ... (read in full...)
Living with grandmother. I want out. Should I get a job that MAY pay better, or should I take the risk and leave now? Suggestions?
Q. Currently I'm living with my grandmother. I help her pay bills,but she treats me like a child. Living there is like living in a prison. I can't do this, I can't do that, I can't have friends over(don't have many to begin with) and when I final...
A. 17 January 2015: i think you should stay. get yourself more stable, then leave if you want.
I know it gets difficult right now. But just stay calm and do you thing... (read in full...)
Is it possible to desire somebody sexually this much?
Q. Is it possible to desire someone sexually so much that your body seems to lay almost restless cause of it? I dated this man, 10years older than me. Im 21, soon to be 22. I enjoyed the time we shared, to the point I liked seeing him almost every...
A. 16 January 2015: it is absolutely possible. but its a phase. trust me.
your answer lies in what you said, that being together isn't an option. If there's nothing you can do about it, its time to move on.
you need to stop giving in to your fantasy, stop adding ... (read in full...)
Perfect girl, but we are in the perfect storm.
Q. Ok so this is where it starts, I had been living in Shanghai for about 1 year at the time of meeting my current GF. She is Chinese and just 20yrs old now. I am 29. We share just about everything in common, with both dj, Im a chef, she loves to...
A. 16 January 2015: you really need to get real. there is no such thing as a perfect dream. you need to work towards it every day. now if you wanted a well behaved doll, you should make yourself one. you can't expect her to be all fluffy and cozy and loving all the ... (read in full...)
Is this normal or would people assume he is sleeping with her?
Q. There is a guy that i'm involved with who has been friends with this girl for a few years (has known her longer than i) that is apparently visiting and staying at his place (she lives in another state). They have worked at events across the country ...
A. 12 January 2015: i don't really think it must be anything.. i am friends with a lot of guys and occasionally stay over. Unless they have slept together before, i don't see a reason for anyone to believe so. In any case, what matters is what you think, not what ... (read in full...)
What should I do when my parents say judgmental, vulgar things?
Q. The differences between me and my parents are unbearable and I find myself avoiding them. My parents are in their early 70s and I am 42. I was divorced nearly 3 years ago and have not found a new partner yet but am taking my time to meet a good ...
A. 11 January 2015: You must understand, that at this age, it's really hard to change someone's opinion of life. It's their thoughts and probably them just venting out in old age. What you can do is to avoid these topics or just saying that you should rather agree to ... (read in full...)
Follow up to previous post: How should I act when he comes home?
Q. hi all. Following my previous post where basically my bf of three months went to india- sister's wedding and his cousin's wedding. Also his parents live there. Even though he had said not to msg as his sisters will be near him etc, i found it ...
A. 11 January 2015: So, here's the thing. It's too early into your relationship, so i can understand why he asked you not to contact. As heart breaking as it is for you, Indian families can be very sneaky, especially during wedding times. Which could also be the reason ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't accept help and doesn't progress in life. How should I proceed?
Q. I been in a relationship for two years and I'm really struggling. We never used to have problems until now I'm getting fed up because of decisions she's made. She had teeth pain over a year ago, I took her to dentist, she missed the next appoint...
A. 11 January 2015: Sorry but she is really just being immature and childish. You should probably just let her be and tell her that she needs to start doing something about her issues instead of just avoiding them.
Now, when a girl cribs to you, it doesn't nece... (read in full...)
The paternity test has confirmed that she is 100% his daughter. But he's been avoiding me. What is my next step?
Q. I was in a relationship with someone then we broke up so I started seeing a new guy. The relationship really didn't turn into anything longer or what I wanted and so the first guy and I got back together. The first guy pursued more than the se...
A. 11 January 2015: No matter what, you have to be the one to talk to him about him being the father. That's not something anyone else should be doing. Keep a copy of the test results when you tell him if you want.
Yes he will need the time. But as much as you want... (read in full...)
Do you think I might have hurt his feelings? I think of his as my FWB
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a "relationship" with this guy named X. We must be FWB's because we've agreed that we aren't calling each other bf/gf. My question could be complicated for some, mostly because I don't know how to ask it. But I was...
A. 11 January 2015: He seems like a nice guy to accept your choice. Plus don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
See how it goes. If you get comfortable enough you might think of taking it further.
But ill tell you this, while most relationships don't work o... (read in full...)
Recently regained contact with my first love, but now he's married
Q. I met my first love at age of 14 after 1yr I had to leave a country to another but we were stil inlove with each other unfornatly we lost contacts and after 2yrs I met someone and before I knew it I was pregnt at age of 18 and 1yr later I got ...
A. 11 January 2015: You were 14 when that happened. You need to understand it's just the temporary reminder of that infatuation steaming from both the sides.
You both are very different people now. It doesn't make any sense to give up on what you have, especial... (read in full...)
I can't get her out of my head.
Q. Hello I returned from India last month having spent most of the time volunteering in a school for Tibetans. The trouble is I felt myself getting feelings for one of my students and the thing is she seemed to share those feelings for me, although ...
A. 11 January 2015: Don't assume about her feelings. And i agree with wiseowle, maybe she was just being polite. Also, in India, there are a lot of cultural issues. Even if she wants to, she might not be able to interact with you. On the other hand, she might just n... (read in full...)
I'm losing friends because I'm dating someone?
Q. All my friends just go out of their ways to avoid me now, simply because they think my boyfriend is "weird"( he's very sweet, but he's a little chubby and he has longer hair). None of them acted this way towards me until I started dating my ...
A. 11 January 2015: It's nice you think that way. You don't have to change anything. See if there is any one of those friends you can reach out to. Otherwise you need friends who understand and support you without judging you.
Anyone who avoids you for your choices ... (read in full...)
I'm mad at my BF for not getting in touch with me when he got back from a trip. Am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend went away to visit family out of town for four days. He turns his iPhone off anytime he is in a foreign country not to incur extra charges so we do not speak on the phone. He sent me one email to tell me he had arrived safely an...
A. 11 January 2015: Everyone needs their space. I know how maddening it can be to wait on someone and not get a response. Now your trouble would have started if he hadn't even replied to your text.
Give him some breathing space. Sometimes a person just wants to... (read in full...)
Its only been five months but he is pushing me to move in
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. I am 32 and he is 37. Both of us never been married without children. He is being kind of pushy lately about us progressing forward. Meaning wanting to move in together, looking for rings, and talking ...
A. 10 January 2015: Well, i think you are being absolutely reasonable. You shouldn't get into anything unless and until you are ready for it.
I think it's best if you tell him you aren't ready yet. If he loves you, he will understand. After all you don't want to ... (read in full...)
Why would a man be so stingy?
Q. I (25/F) and Art (30/M)recently broke up from a 1 year relationship. The problem: he barely paid for our dates, even after I told him it bothered me. He wants to get back together, but I'm unsure. Art is a smart, sensual, and charismatic man....
A. 10 January 2015: It's right there in everything you said. He is trying to spend wisely. From what you said he doesn't seem someone who wouldn't pay if he could. You say that used to pay for his gfs when he had the money.
And honestly, there's nothing wrong in... (read in full...)
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