Why would a man be so stingy?
Q. I (25/F) and Art (30/M)recently broke up from a 1 year relationship. The problem: he barely paid for our dates, even after I told him it bothered me. He wants to get back together, but I'm unsure. Art is a smart, sensual, and charismatic man....
A. 10 January 2015: It's right there in everything you said. He is trying to spend wisely. From what you said he doesn't seem someone who wouldn't pay if he could. You say that used to pay for his gfs when he had the money.
And honestly, there's nothing wrong in... (read in full...)
I really like him but he never went to university.
Q. I really like this guy I've been chatting with. He's caring, kind and hardworking but, I just found out that he didn't go to university. I know this shouldn't matter, but I cant seem to get over the prejudice that because he didn't get a higher ...
A. 8 January 2015: Ask yourself if it's more important to you- how you are treated or how educated your guy is. While education is very important, it doesn't necessarily make a person a better human.
Owing to your background i really understand how you must fee... (read in full...)
It seems that everything I do is pointless
Q. I am not okay with myself. I've been told to be positive and that the situation I am in is not the end of the world by many people but it doesn't help. My Mother and family tear me down at every chance about how much of a failure I am and ask how am ...
A. 8 January 2015: I know it's difficult. Truth is no matter how many people are going through a similar or worse situation, it's hardly ever a consolation.
First of all, stop judging yourself by people's expectations.
The only failure is if you give up. How abou... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of cutting ties with my father -- am I being unreasonable?
Q. Im thinking of cutting contact with my dad as i dont want him in my life any more but would like some advice on whether i am overreacting before i go ahead with it. Im sorry this is so long. To cut an extremely long story short my parents divorced...
A. 8 January 2015: I don't think you are overreacting, no.
You seemed to have made efforts from your end. Maybe it's time to move on.
You aren't being unfair to the child either. A child deserves love and affection, not ignorance. No matter what the relationship... (read in full...)
I want to be more than just friends with benefits
Q. And old friend and I just both ended some long/term relationship. We became both interested in eachother but niether of us are ready to enter another serious relationship. We decided to yo hangout and and possibly be friends with benefits and just ...
A. 8 January 2015: It's not wrong if you want it as well. But i must say, just because you get attached doesn't mean he is going to.
You have to decide for yourself if you can deal with it if and when it comes to an end. If you don't think you can cope with a heartb... (read in full...)
Is she being unfair? I don't want to be selfish. But is it wrong that she now wants to have a girl's weekend and squash our previously arranged vacation?
Q. i've had some major plans to do something significant with my girlfriend for quite a few months now. we were planning to go on a mini-vacation together over the weekend, go visit some places, etc. sort of a couples weekend. we made these plans...
A. 7 January 2015: Honestly, though i understand that you have every reason to be upset, i think that even you know that she isn't really being unfair. This is someone who isn't going to be around at all.
Do you think maybe it's just because of all the trouble ... (read in full...)
She picks and finds fault with everything I do. What should I do?
Q. Recently got engaged to my partner and we have been living together for the past 6 months. Over the course of living together I have found she is a real knit picker and i'm feeling like anything I do is never good enough, even when I do what I c...
A. 7 January 2015: I must agree with Nora.. you really must talk to her about this. Make sure you express exactly how it makes you feel. From what you say, you seem to be trying your best. Maybe you should directly ask her what it is that is exactly bothering her. ... (read in full...)
What steps can I take to help me move on?
Q. Hi everyone thanks for reading or even just glancing at this . I am hurting so much at minute I have just found out that my ex bf who I still have feeling for is having a baby with his new gf. Is there any steps that will help me forget and move...
A. 7 January 2015: I know how you feel, trust me.
I know it feels like everything around you has shattered. But trust me, its not. Its going to get better :)
I'm sorry, but the only thing you can do is take this as a closure. He has moved on and so must you.
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Wouldn't he at least text me to see if I was home safely?
Q. My ex and I ran into each other at a friend's house after not seeing each other for a year and 3 months. It was not planned at all, it just happened. We reconnected immediately and now we are talking again. We spent almost every night together ...
A. 6 January 2015: Maybe you should wait it out a little. Since he seems to want to take it slow, i know you are freaking out about putting yourself out there. Give him benefit of the doubt, maybe something needed his attention.
Though from the look of it, i'm not ... (read in full...)
I'm worried she's getting bored with me
Q. I have a problem that is probably in my head. A couple months ago I met a girl I never gave any thought until two months ago when I realized she had a crush on me. I gave her my number and she was texting me all the time and she seemed like she was ...
A. 6 January 2015: Well if you really like her and think you are getting boring, you will have to try and keep things interesting.
Before that, you say she is always excited to see you. So, have you considered that she might just be caught up but still makes it... (read in full...)
How do I stop the heartache?
Q. Is it normal to have your heart broken 4 or 5 times in a life time? I haven't been in many relationships and a couple didn't even get off the starting block - yet I still seem to be the one who gets dumped or passed by, so the guy could date a...
A. 6 January 2015: These things just happen. I know its not the best to hear, but its absolutely normal now-a-days for relationships to not work out for too long.
Self doubt can only add to all the troubles.
I don't really know how your relationships ha... (read in full...)
My b/f is unemployed and we had a fight over me spending money. How do I make things right?
Q. i'll try to make this short: my boyfriend and I have been together for little over a year. Everything's perfect. However, he's broke and unemployed and that means I take the financial burden. We both live with our parents, as we're in our 20s...
A. 5 January 2015: No you aren't being unreasonable. And he is just trying to make you feel guilty for something that isn't even your fault.
I have been in your situation and no, you are responsible for his life. He is in the situation because of his own choices not ... (read in full...)
Do I have a lot to learn or is he trying to take advantage of me?
Q. Hello, So my boyfriend is 7 years older than me and we have been dating for under a year. This is the first time I have dated an older guy. We don't live together and we are only together a few nights out of the week after we both get off for work...
A. 5 January 2015: He is definitely just taking advantage of you. All he wants is a well dressed maid. Please do not fall for his crap and degrade yourself.
Compromise is one thing, he is simply trying to play the i am older i am smarter card. There is nothing ... (read in full...)
How do I get over him when there is so much history?
Q. o I'm 16 and have been dating this guy for a while. Two weeks before our two year anniversary, I got a call off a friend dating she caught him with another girl. I cried for hours and he begged for me back. On the next day he told me he didn't ...
A. 5 January 2015: He is not good for you my dear. Despite you wanting to be friends with him. You are just used to him. And i know it seems difficult right now and all that history stays with you. But you need to give yourself some space. !st don't take him b... (read in full...)
I can't help thinking the worst. Is his past browsing history a sign that he's becoming a man I no longer feel I know?
Q. Hi I would really appreciate some help I feel like my boyfriend of 3 years is becoming someone I don't know. I love him so much and couldn't really imagine life without him but I keep finding little things that make me feel unwanted; I foun...
A. 5 January 2015: You shouldn't worry about these things. As long as he is good to you and your relationship is going fine
N i would strongly suggest you stop looking through his stuff.. It only results in some times igniting a fire where there is absolute... (read in full...)
I don't like the idea of masturbating and have never had an orgasm - help!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now but I still haven't orgasmed during sex (at least I don't think I have...) He is my first boyfriend and before being with him I was a virgin. After speaking to most of my girlfriends, they all go ...
A. 5 January 2015: I agree with Uncle PJ. Don't do anything you don't want to do.
It takes time for some women to actually feel comfortable about these things.
Even i took my own time to do so.
But if you want to feel that pleasure for yourself, try noticing you... (read in full...)
I'm a big man with a small penis. Will women laugh at me?
Q. I know this sounds a bit cliche but it has been troubling me for a long time and I need honest answers. I'm 21 , 6'3" tall, 190 pounds, athletic and I easily attract girls but I have problem that has been worrying me for a long time, I fit in the ...
A. 5 January 2015: I know women like to be a pain about these things. But honestly most really don't care. As long as you know what you are doing.
Better to make the best of what you got. You have no reason to shy away and don't let unrealistic expectat... (read in full...)
We finally met after lots of online communication. But he's different. What can I do to feel better about this?
Q. I really need more help. I used to talk to this guy a few years ago, through a dating site, but we never met yet we were really close. He once started making fun of me when we were talking and I didn't know why. So I stopped talking to him, and ...
A. 5 January 2015: Meet him. It's not going to do you any harm. you might, infact get a closure for once. Don't put too much of yourself out there when you do. Take your time to know him. Its been a long time, of course people change. You might be feeling differently ... (read in full...)
She's blamed me for her sexting, flirting and flashing on webchat. Is this classed as cheating? Can I trust her?
Q. i have been with my fiancee for almost 4 years now and we are actively planning our wedding. she has confessed to me that she has been flirting with her ex on text, flirting with other guys on web chat and has also been flashing on webchat....
A. 5 January 2015: of course she is cheating and there's no excuse for that. it's not your fault.
it doesn't make sense to commit to someone who isn't ready to commit to you... (read in full...)
What should I do? He told me he wanted to be friends for now, because he kissed someone else on NYE.
Q. I need a bit of advice. I have been speaking to a guy for a while now and he treats me right and helps me and any moment he can, but the problem I have is he told me he wanted to be friends for now because he kissed someone on new years eve! I...
A. 4 January 2015: Well he is right where he says he doesn't know what the future holds. But honestly, my dear, i suggest you take some time n reflect on your situation. Even you don't know what the future holds.
Give it time, you might change your mind as well. yo... (read in full...)
Still a virgin - is it too late for me?
Q. Dear Cupid, So cards in the table, I'm a 28 year old virgin and very inexperienced (I.e have only ever kissed and had my breasts fondled). I'm not religious, or waiting for my soul mate it's just I've been very career focused so relationships/se...
A. 4 January 2015: My dear, there is nothing wrong with you. you are definitely not a weirdo. what you do with your body is your choice. it shouldn't matter if you are a virgin or not.. not at all. i know these medical conditions can act as a real scare and make y... (read in full...)
My girlfriend caught me lying, should I just break things of now?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my girlfriend caught me lying to her about a couple of stupid things. She's quite conservative and I lied about the things I did (which I don't think are a big deal) because I didn't want to upset her, although I do know that ...
A. 4 January 2015: its really simple. don't lie to her or anyone infact. if it's something you have to lie about, its just not worth it. i mean come on. if you are lying, either what you are doing is something you are guilty of or its truly cause you like what yo... (read in full...)
Is it time to cut him off? I have been there for my friend but he hasn't reciprocated.
Q. Hi I'm looking for advice on my friends, I am a single mother and spends a lot of time just me and my daughter. I had lots of friends before I had my daughter but stopped seeing them as much as obviously my situation had changed, until just bef...
A. 4 January 2015: judging someone just over a missed bday text is a little too harsh.. but from what you say he does seem to have distanced himself.. since i don't really know if he is truly busy or simply ignoring you, i would suggest you stop going out of your way ... (read in full...)
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