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writes:All my friends just go out of their ways to avoid me now, simply because they think my boyfriend is "weird"( he's very sweet, but he's a little chubby and he has longer hair). None of them acted this way towards me until I started dating my boyfriend, then my friends started to make fun of him and make snide comments about my relationship. They're all single, and I'm the only one who has a boyfriend currently, though they've had relationships that are very short term, while mine is currently edging on a year. I just want someone to do girl things with that I can't do with my boyfriend, but I'm not willing to lose someone who I care deeply for in order to impress them.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (11 January 2015):
It's nice you think that way. You don't have to change anything. See if there is any one of those friends you can reach out to. Otherwise you need friends who understand and support you without judging you.
Anyone who avoids you for your choices is not really a friend. Friends are the one's who will laugh but support you with your choices. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2015): Who cares what they think?
They aren't your friends. So what they think doesn't matter.
Friends would be happy for you and welcome your BF to your social circle with open arms.
What matters is that YOU like him and he likes you.
Be happy together.
And find yourself some real friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2015): They were never really friends if they would abandon you and mistreat your boyfriend.
They're jealous because you two are still going strong, and they don't have boyfriends at the moment. Real friends are happy for you when they know you're happy; and should be nice to your boyfriend, regardless of his looks.
You'll make new friends over time. You don't dump good people you care for, to please your friends. They made fun of him, and forced you to choose. You can't consider girls like that your friends. If this is how they behave, you shouldn't associate with girls like that. They're mean and nasty.
You're a sweet and loyal young lady. People like you make friends pretty easily. Don't feel too bad about them. Now you know what they're really like.
This is what's going to happen. Let me know how things turn out. A few weeks will go by, and they'll miss you. They'll want to be friends again. They are trying to force you to give him up. Don't!
They will crawl back one by one. And when they do, let them know that you don't appreciate how they've treated your boyfriend; and don't want to be their friend, if they continue to disrespect him and hurt your feelings.
In the meantime, don't sweat it. Never allow people to pressure you into choosing who you like according to their appearance. You have a very kind heart. You care about him for who he is and how he treats you. You deserve much better friends.
They know they're wrong. Wait and see, they'll be back!
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (10 January 2015):
 "I'm not willing to lose someone who I care deeply for in order to impress them" is your answer.
Do you have a female family member you can go out with?
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