His new girlfriend is making trouble for me
Q. When I broke up with my ex boyfriend in the summer, totally unintentionally I ended up having a short of fling with a guy who I had known for a while. I hadn't wanted a relationship but we went out with a group of friends and it went from there. We ...
A. 15 November 2015: I can understand how annoying it can be especially with all the random stares.
Don't let yourself get hurt. Keep your head high, cuz you haven't done anything wrong. If you just shrug when people ask you eventually they are gonna find somethin... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us, despite how badly he's treated me?
Q. My name is Kate,I'm 42 and my husband,Stuart is 31 .We've been married for 8 years now but we've been a couple for 13. We don't have kids because he never wanted any.Our relationship has always been difficult due to our age gap as well as our ...
A. 9 November 2015: You are living in a compromise. But I agree that you need to get out of your relationship. I'm very sorry, but what's going on at your end is really not healthy. I'm sorry to say so, but it's never really been healthy. There is no dominant gender ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend no longer fancies me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend over 2 years. Our sex life used to be great, every day at least its gradually reduced and is now at appauling once every 10 days ish. Weve talked it over many times, he says i should initiate it more if i want it more but...
A. 9 November 2015: Then you just need to initiate sex. You can't always expect him to approach you. What if you make him feel like You don't really want him. It's not a job. If you feel like it just go for it. Don't expect for someone else to do it for you. :) Good... (read in full...)
What can I do? I just can't handle watching her love someone else.
Q. my ex-best friend / ex-lover and i had a very complicated 7 year bisexual relationship. I was her shameful secret and i always felt rejected, used and humiliated. she treated me bad and always flaunted different relationships she had with others ...
A. 31 October 2015: I think you should tell her so very nicely and ask for your space. Give yourself time to heal. There is nothing to hate anymore, so you have to buck up n be happy for her. If you really do care for her, that should be enough-her happiness. And now ... (read in full...)
I'm dating my married step uncle...help? I need advice on what to do, please?
Q. Ok hi. Completely new at this. So to get right to the point. I'm dating my step uncle so (my mothers step mums son) so not. Definitely not blood related. He is married (not separated) tho like typical situations (is going to get a device an...
A. 31 October 2015: Trust me my dear... these kinds of situations never end well. If you really wanna help yourself, you need to get some space between you 2. Wait till his has actually seperated from his wife.
No matter how rosy the situation may look right now, you... (read in full...)
I'm humiliated by the reaction to ill-fitting clothes, what should I do now?
Q. I'm a female who's had self-esteem issues for as long as I can remember. It's only been a couple of years that I am starting to get back myself. But something happened that threatens to push me back. I like wearing short clothes. Nothing cheap or...
A. 23 October 2015: Next time, try smiling about it and saying telling her that your's look better, that's why they are showing. LOL sorry, I couldn't control. A lot of people in our country tend to be that way. Don't feel humiliated. No one can make you feel that ... (read in full...)
Was I overreacting by complaining about the frequency of the family friend's visits to our house?
Q. hi dearcupids, my parent's closest friend used to come home daily twice, thrice. my uncle (I call my parent's friend as uncle since childhood) is a very nice person, he is like family. he also treats me like his daughter. But as his frequenc...
A. 23 October 2015: Nah.. its okay.. wanting privacy is normal.. Don't think too much about it.. But be nice to your uncle the next time he comes over ... (read in full...)
Do I stay friends with people who sneak around behind my back?
Q. Hi agony aunts, I recently had two female housemates move in (about 2 months ago) and started hooking up with one of them for a few weeks until she decided it wasn't what she wanted. In this time I had developed some pretty strong feelings for her ...
A. 23 October 2015: I'd say it's time to move on. That's my honest opinion. Though I do suggest if they try to make amends give them a chance if you feel like.... (read in full...)
I can't stay hard when my girl gives me a BJ, help me please
Q. hey guys i'm new here and i don't know where else to go to. i need some advice. i've been in an amazing relationship with this girl and she is the jewel of my life. i have a vast sexual history, however she does not. she is so new to the whole sex ...
A. 15 October 2015: I'm not going to judge you.. But if you just want to help her.. it helps to tell her which action of hers excites you.. That's the simplest and nicest way to let her know that she is doing the right thing. It better than to tell her what not to do. ... (read in full...)
Problems with relationships in my family and not sure about my life decisions. Can you help?
Q. My life is a mess and i would like for things to change. I dont have a good relationship with my mother. My mother is against my father but i can communicate with my father even though sometimes i dont agree with his life choices. My father make...
A. 23 September 2015: hi. I know it all seems bad. But really. A lot of people go through this. One important thing you need to remember is that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. What you can do is be there when they need it. And as for your parents. ... (read in full...)
Do I go or stay out of guilt?
Q. I left my wife and young sons for another woman, I am not proud of it but I fell in love. So walked.She left her marriage Still with the other woman missed the kids best years, my ex let me have access and it must have been hard for her. Fast...
A. 23 September 2015: There's always gonna b someone who is more appealing. you need to work on d one you have.. but thats what i think personally. maybe you're making the excuse of guilt cuz it sort of justifies you leaving her. But as i said. Seems like just an excuse ... (read in full...)
How do I show him and prove to him that I don't need him anymore?
Q. Hey guys What's the best way to show someone you have an FU mentality I stupidly got led on by someone who I thought was interested as we were friends first but he hadn't tied loose ends with his ex - they're long finished now But then s...
A. 4 September 2015: I'm with Sageoldguy1465. Ignorance is bliss. Trust me. Letting him get under your skin is a much bigger satisfaction for him and an encouragement too! Block him if you want. But that will only mean you are bothered with his existence. My honest ... (read in full...)
Could my Gf be gay?
Q. I am begining to think my girlfriend is a lesbian. We have dated for 5 years , and we have been abstaining until last month, when we finally had sex . She did not like the sex,so i assumed because it was the first time she has had it . H...
A. 4 September 2015: Really, if that's all that makes you think that they are gay. It's really not enough. Why don't you just go and ask her if you have doubts??
Cuz really. I'm really close to a girlfriend of mine & we call each other endearments. But BOTH of us ar... (read in full...)
How can my boyfriend be so unreasonable? He has the nerve to be angry because I slept with someone before him!
Q. I'm having a huge argument with my boyfriend and I'd like some advice on how to handle it. About a month before I ever met him I was dating quite a bit, we met each other on a dating site so he was quite aware that I was dating people before I ...
A. 25 August 2015: I honestly suggest you let go of this guy. It's only gonna get worse, & he is gonna pull you down with drama and try to make you stay. But honestly, I really don't think it's healthy for you to be with him. He is rather immature. And unless he ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is working but I'm here still waiting to go to university. Should I go to work instead?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend just dropped out from university and is now finding a working job, while I'm still waiting to go university next year due to national service for my country. I still left another 10 months before getting my civilian status. ...
A. 25 August 2015: I would strongly suggest that you complete your education. If you do so you will be able to provide better for her in the future. Rushing into a decision right now, would not be a wise choice.
What she chose is for herself. Do the right thing fo... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him without hurting his feelings?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I am not in love anymore. He's really a nice guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's going to be very surprised and hurt when I tell him. I know he really cares about me but I don't feel anyth...
A. 23 August 2015: You tell him exactly that. You are going to hurt his feelings if he really cares for you anyway.
In any other case I would ask you to consider if your feelings are only caused due to some other stresses in your life, but you seemed to have made up y... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or am I right to feel there’s something off about this new relationship?
Q. So, I've been seeing this guy for about three months. We met online through Eharmony and he's my first relationship since I broke up with my ex three years ago. The first month was great and I really felt like I'd found someone I really connecte...
A. 23 August 2015: I think you are overreacting and for whatever reason seem determined to find some kind of an issue. Any kind. If you want it to work, talk to him, it's only his first time. If you're gonna find small small things to criticize it's not gonna get you ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to deal with my break-up and I keep getting tempted to talk to my ex. Any suggestions of how to get through this?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of nearly 3 years. My relationship with him was just awful, he was very aggressive, a bit scary, extremely jealous. I think the reason he got the way he did is because he was very depressed and started drinking a lot. ...
A. 23 August 2015: I truly do understand what you mean. But here's the thing. Unfortunately there's not just one side to him. And as much fun as it might be, the pain is not worth it. It's okay to miss the fun parts, it's just that all the pain isn't worth it. Even ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to increase the size of my breasts without surgery?
Q. i am a 17 year old girl with a 34 B-cup breast I was wondering is there anyway for me to increase the size of them without surgery? I had my first cycle when I was 14 and my mom I think is a b cup I'm not sure....
A. 23 August 2015: I'm not sure why you want to have larger cup size, you seem fine. But it's my job to help you out, so try yoga, it helps firming your breasts and appear fuller than they might otherwise, so I have heard. Change in the diet while exercising might ... (read in full...)
Dominating mother in law. How can I help my husband see that he needs to nurture our relationship?
Q. My mother in law keeps my husband so occupied that he has no social life. It's been two years of our marriage he has not been able to nurture our relationship because of lack of time. She's made it mandatory to spend hours with her everyday. H...
A. 23 August 2015: Hey, I do understand how you feel. But here's the question, are you from the traditional background or is your husband brought up in the same? In our culture, families tend to interfere more, especially mothers. They need to know that their son is... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? Or tell him to jog on?
Q. i'd like to see what people will say . i was supposed to go on a date from an online date , we've been speaking for 3 month . he cancelled twice ( one reason was he forgot it was his dads birthday and another his niece broke her arm and he took ...
A. 23 August 2015: Let him go, not worth the time. You said it yourself.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?
Q. There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...
A. 23 August 2015: First of all, it's not at all okay to mock you. But that's what people do.
Short and simple, you don't anyone an explanation. You keep doing what you are doing. It's people who are actually insecure who find reasons to justify someone else's act ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll be alone always. Is there any hope for me
Q. sorry to ask this but, im a 25 old old male and its been a while since i've had a relationship with anyone. i always worry that one day i'll never end up in a relationship ever again, and i'll wind dying alone and simply dont want that to happen to ...
A. 10 August 2015: Don't worry.
There's loads of time to find a partner. And if you look around properly, i'm sure you will find that you aren't alone. Being in a relationship isn't the only way to determine whether you are lonely or not. Please don't allow your... (read in full...)
Do other women not wear panties under their dresses?
Q. My boyfriend gave me a gift card to luluelemon and said to buy something we would both enjoy. I ended up with a tennis style dress that fits perfect on me, but it is supershort. He told me it looks amazing on me but I'm a little selfconscious with ...
A. 10 August 2015: I would suggest that you do wear something, considering it's a short dress. But I definitely do understand your open air feeling, though I haven't personally ever done that. Partly because of hygiene and partly because my culture doesn't allow it. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to want to perform oral sex on a man after just having sex?
Q. I love my husband. We are married 8 years and he was my first sexual partner. I was always the prudish type! Not by choice but i think by fact of low self esteem and the fact I probably have no confidence. I have only in the last maybe year or so ...
A. 24 July 2015: It's absolutely normal to feel this way. It's a matter of choice and you won't really know till you try. Don't worry so much and try enjoying the moment and not thinking too much. And do what makes you feel comfortable. Everyone feels a lil ... (read in full...)
Mismatched libido. I feel she thinks her needs are more important than mine. I need help. What do I do?
Q. My wife won't come on to me! We are the same age and for years we've only had sex once a month. I've always been the first one to initiate sex. If I don't initiate the sex we won't have sex. I've tried waiting patiently, I've tried explaining...
A. 27 June 2015: You need to understand, that if she is shy about it you need to figure out what it is that makes her comfortable. After so many years i don't see a reason for her to feel embarrassed. So just try figuring out exactly what she needs. Trust me, you ... (read in full...)
Will I get pregnant if we cuddle and bath together? Is it Ok to do such things before marriage?
Q. My bf agreed not to have sex before marriage but told me he is interested in doing things with me like covering my breasts with cream and then licking it off by himself,cuddling and bathing together. Is it okay to do such things before marriage...
A. 21 June 2015: It's not about safe. Don't do it. It's really that simple. If you're doubting it enough to ask the Q, avoid it. Not worth the risk. Honeypie and Abella are right. It's not just about the culture, don't let any boy, any place, manipulate u.. good ... (read in full...)
He was separated, we shared a kiss, now somehow I'm a scarlet woman?
Q. Hello So I need a bit of advice on how to go about a certain situation. Years ago, I met a man through mutual a mutual friend on a night out. He told me he was separated and had moved out of the marital home 7 months earlier, which my friend ...
A. 19 June 2015: Unfortunately there isn't much you can do about the situation.. Nor is it worth your time. Make new friends. get your husband involved.. and you need to speak about this to him. you are afterall in this together. Good luck. and try not to feel bad ... (read in full...)
How do I get back on the path to really enjoying my life as I did in my youth?
Q. Is it normal or even healthy to remember my ex wife of 20 years even though I'm happily remarried and on a better path overall? It's been about 5 years since we split. I don't think of her too often, maybe every few days to weeks, but I do miss her...
A. 15 March 2015: One very simple thing is that you know your ex was a big part of your past. But there's a reason its in the past. And if you are happy with you current wife, you must try not to compare. All of these are phases of life. I understand you can't do ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he will leave me if I don't bleed during 1st time sex. I am a virgin!
Q. I have a fiance. We will marry after one year. He once asked me on chat whether i m virgin or not because he can predict virginity.i asked him how could u? He told me that virgin girls bleed on first night and non virgin doesn't bleed. So if u won...
A. 12 March 2015: okay, I know what you're going through and don't sweat it. He is just trying to make you even more conscious and trying to boost that shitty male ego a lot of indian men seem to have. !st of all no one can predict a virgin. and by the sound of it, ... (read in full...)
Why are my feelings for her so variable, at times and stronger sometimes?
Q. So I've been seeing a woman for a little while now. Not together, but maybe getting towards that point. Problem is I don't really know how I feel about her. Well I do, and I feel a hell of a lot for her, but only some of the times I see her. Other...
A. 7 March 2015: of course all days aren't gonna be jumping out of a fairy tale. Give it time and figure it out. Stop overthinking the situation and start enjoying it. Let's time take it's course. You will figure it out eventually. It's normal, so it's important to ... (read in full...)
Is it time I ended my two year relationship with him over his disparaging nasty remarks to me?
Q. My family is going on a vacation. They rented out a nice cabin. They asked my boyfriend if he was interested in possibly coming with. The only catch is they didn't have room in the car for him so he's probably have to drive himself there but they...
A. 7 March 2015: He is way too childish, and i would suggest you do not waste time with him. Any respectful adult would politely refuse the offer if he was incapable of funding himself. Nothing wrong with accepting your parents offer, but unless he is really in a ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex that I slept with 2 guys while we we broken up? I know he'll hold it against me!
Q. My ex and I have now been broken up for a year. He moved to a different state for a job which prompted a lot of arguing between us so we broke it off. We've kept in close contact and although we've both dated multiple people, we've recently admitted ...
A. 6 March 2015: I would suggest that you don't initiate the conversation, but if the topic is discussed you shouldn't lie to him. Mostly for the simple fact that you have nothing to hide. How he deals with him then is his issue. But don't lie to him or hide it from ... (read in full...)
It’s hard to relate to him as a “friend” when my heart sees him as more
Q. I’m beginning to feel out of my depth and holding onto hope. A long term male friend and I have been talking for a long time about upgrading our already close friendship to something more. We have been intentionally taking things slow (for ...
A. 6 March 2015: Give it some time, maybe even he needs to figure it out what he really wants. Hurrying up right now is something you need to avoid. I know its difficult right now, but just be patient and figure this out.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
My bf is NOT good for me. What do I do?
Q. My bf is NOT good for me, at all, and I know I'll be much better off without him in the end but he's gotten into my head so bad that I feel like I can't do any better. He's made me feel like there's numerous women pining for him and how I should be ...
A. 6 March 2015: I have to agree with janniepeg. Please stop finding comfort in the fact that he is slightly dependent on you and stop reveling in that. You need to get out of being used to him and start building your life. Now that you know he isn't good for you, ... (read in full...)
Should I let my irresponsible sister move in with me?
Q. Hello, ok after suffering years of abuse, I have decided to move out of the turbulent man's house I have called father for years. The issue is I have enough cash to set my self up...tho am still seeking employment but the things is I have a twin s...
A. 23 February 2015: I can truly understand how you feel. While, being a sister you are thinking about her, sometimes you need to make choices for yourself. I suggest you move out alone, atleast for now. Not because your sister was cruel to you or anything, but mostly ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him it doesn't have to be all or nothing
Q. Me and my friend of 6 months decided to be more than friends. he wants to push himself to be a better person and enjoy opportunities he gets in life, he decided we should actually become physical now as he felt ready , but suddenly hes got cold feet ...
A. 29 January 2015: Sorry, but I don't think you really can convince him. I think al you can do is give him time. And tell him you are around. That's probably all you can do. If you try to convince him, you might just end up scaring him more. Just give it time and see ... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 28 January 2015: I understand you have tried to make space, it is nice that you have attempted to be a father to him and everything. It's just that then. Be a father again. You would want your son with you, wouldn't you?
Sometimes, people make others a choice beca... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015: At a time like this? Of course her son. And you being the husband, should actually support that. Not because you have to. But don't you care enough to see that at least for a while, the boy should spend some time with his mother? If something ... (read in full...)
I want my grandparents story preserved, but I don't want to upset Nan!
Q. Soon, it will be 10 months since my grandad passed away. On and off, for about a year before that, I started to document (in story form) as much of their relationship as my nan could remember - my grandad had a memory block, so he couldn't have told ...
A. 26 January 2015: That is really really sweet of you. Don't be afraid to ask your nan.. Just ask her to tell you the story again. You can't help the fact that she might get a little upset.
But here's the thing, she would really want to tell you the story, the memo... (read in full...)
I am so frustrated, all I am to him is somebody for dinner conversation!
Q. My bf is significantly older than me. We have been dating for a year or so. He does not want to make love at all. He has an excuse for every time of day. No he does not have ED. When we first got together there was constant affection. Now he will ...
A. 26 January 2015: Any particular reason that he won't touch you??? Has he said why he has a problem with it? I understand your frustration, but maybe he needs to know you before he does anything.
Try talking to him. If you are still not satisfied, you probably need... (read in full...)
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