Dad won't even meet my boyfriend, because of his religion!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 5 months now and I really love him, but my dad doesn't like him and won't meet him because of his religion. What should I do?...
A. 18 June 2005: Just how serious are you about this relationship? If your father objects to the " boy" because of his religion, I suspect you have been taught in your family that you owe your family to a duty to date and marry only within your own religion. If you ... (read in full...)
What's wrong between my fiance and me? We argue all the time!
Q. My fiance and I have been arguing so much lately that it scares me. We argue about the smallest things and when we say we're gonna stop we don't. I really don't know why this is happening so much. I don't wanna lose him I love him so much....
A. 18 June 2005: myparents argued about the little things all their lives, and never addressed the bigger issues that they couldn't talk about. They drove us kids crazy! Don't marry until you have this matter dealt with by seeking professional counseling. Stop this ... (read in full...)
It seems like I'm shouldering all the responsibility for both my husband and me...
Q. I am a retired school teacher, Income around $40k. My husband has not worked in over two years. He looks for jobs that are most times out of reach. I bought a new house in Feb and he refuses to leave. I pay all of the bills and buy most of the ...
A. 18 June 2005: talk to a lawyer about divorce. You need to get him out of your life if you are to be able to deal with your depression. Get professinal help for the depression. Your medical doctor can make a referral. Either you tell him to leave, or have yor ... (read in full...)
My fiancee isn't a virgin and I am. I don't want it to be a disappointment for her...
Q. I have a slight kinda issue. I am a virgin and will be getting married and losing my virginity to a girl who's not a virgin. I feel like it'll be awkward for me a lot more than for her. She hasn't had sex in years now, but I still feel I'll be ...
A. 18 June 2005: Sit down with your fiance and have a long talk about sex. You are afraid of what you don't know. The rules have to be that you will answer every question she asks truthfully, as will she of your questions, and that no question is inappropriate. Then ... (read in full...)
I'm in Canada and he's in London... and it might be 2 more years before we can meet!
Q. Boyfriend lives in London and I live in Canada. What do I do? But I'm only 16. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and thought I knew what love was until I met this guy. He makes me feel so great inside, but we can't see each other in person, ...
A. 18 June 2005: Good Grief, girl. You are only 16 ! Give yourself some time to grow up. You are barely old enough or physically mature enough to know anything about sex, or relationships. Give yourself the time to learn by dating a lot of different guys. Take it ... (read in full...)
Something happens when we're in the bedroom... he loses his erection.
Q. My guy says he loves me and does show it at times. We're both affectionate and have fun together but in the bedroom just before we have sex, his erection goes away. Why?...
A. 18 June 2005: I suspect he is worried about getting you pregnant. That is the most common reason for performance anxiety. Use birth control, such as spermacital foam, and a diaphragm, and have him wear a condom. Put it on for him, Your manual stimulation of his ... (read in full...)
Not happy in my marriage and my husband is overseas. Now I want to check out my old friend...
Q. I am married and he is overseas. I recently reconnected with an old guy friend and we have admitted to both having feelings for each other. We want to meet up to see what is there between us! What do I do? I am not really happy in my marriage ...
A. 17 June 2005: It is up to you. If your personal ethics tell you not to cheat on your husband, then don't. If you can look at yourself in the mirror and accept the truth that you cheated on your husband, then go ahead. But keep your mouth shut about it to ... (read in full...)
Too scared to ask him out, since he rejected me 3 years ago!
Q. Hi! I'm hoping someone can help me I am in a really strange situation. I've been in love with my ex-boyfriends best friend (for years!). We all get on really well together and even though I've been split from my ex for over 5 years we are st...
A. 17 June 2005: It depends on how you ask him. I once had a girl who I shared an apartment with, but was not dating, find me with friends playing pool. She took me aside after I introduced her to everyone, and whispered in my ear, " Lets go home and Fuck !" Now, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I live 1000 miles apart... but we want to keep dating!
Q. I'm am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and I had to move like 1000 miles from him. I love him and he loves me and we want to keep dating, but how could we if we can't see each other? You know what I am saying? People call me crazy beacause I still want to ...
A. 17 June 2005: At 14, you will have many more crushes in your life. Don't worry about what other people think. I met a girl when I was 14- she was 15- and we have maintained a friendship ever since. She is now a grandmother with 4 grandchildren, and has been ... (read in full...)
Lately my partner is just "too tired" for sex and I can't help but wonder why...
Q. Hello, I'm 24 my partner is 26. We have a 2 year old. We havent made contact with each other for 3 weeks. We usually kiss and cuddle every night and have sex about twice a week, but my partner says he's too tired. Sometimes it's just a cuddle I want ...
A. 17 June 2005: Is your partner gaining weight lately? Is he exercising enough? If he's gained weight, or has reduced his activity, he may be very tired when he gets home. Ask him to take a nap when he gets home, so that you can wake him up for dinner later. Even a ... (read in full...)
We've broken up again, and now I'm worried that this time it's for good!
Q. Hi there, Ive been separated with my ex girlfriend (who is also my housemate) for a week now and I'm growing increasingly worried that she's really made up her mind not to ever get back with me. This is our fourth time breaking up but it seems that ...
A. 17 June 2005: OH, please ! You cannot change unless you do a large share of growing up, and probably get professional help, too. Do it. That is probably the only thing that might change her mind and give you another chance. Sit down and write out what you argue ... (read in full...)
I don't want to stop my boyfriend from having friends, but he treats her better than he treats me...
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having a baby soon and have been together for three years. I love him very much. Recently he has become really close to another girl. They text each other all the time and she's the one that he mostly spends with at the ...
A. 17 June 2005: Walk out of this relationship quick. He obviously wants this relationship with the other woman, and whatever you had is over. Accept it. Get a lawyer, and sue him for child support. Do it now. But get away from him. He doesn't want to be married, ... (read in full...)
My wife said admitted liaisons with 2 other men when we were dating. Now I feel like I was what she "settled" for...
Q. I have been married for almost 9 years, and I have known my wife for a little over 10 years. When we started dating, she wanted our relationship to be non-exclusive; at the time she claimed that she was too messed up mentally from her ex-boyfriend ...
A. 17 June 2005: Are you looking to pick a fight? You exaggerate when you say you were an unwitting cuckold- GROSSLY! If she did not have sex with him, and you were not married at the time, you were not a cuckold. Look it up! YOur wife chose you, and not the other ... (read in full...)
The guy I like is a few years older, and my mum doesn't want me to get involved with him...
Q. Hi, I really like this guy. He is a few years older than me I don't know exactly how many. I have liked him for some time. My mother does not like me to get involved with him because he has just come out of jail for fighting, but I reassured her ...
A. 17 June 2005: Girl: You have no business dating older men at 15 years of age. You are jail bait, in most jurisdictions. If he was in prison, he was at least 17 and is probably older. Stay away from him. If he went to prison for assault, it is because he has ... (read in full...)
All my bf/s friends and family seem to hate me and it's a terrible strain!
Q. Hiya, I am 21years old, an Indian girl from the UK. I love my boyfriend and have been together for almost 2years. I am not the conventional Indian girl and enjoy going out and have had previous boyfriends etc. His famiy and friends put me t...
A. 17 June 2005: YOu don't indicate if this is an interracial couple, or inter denominational couple. Both can be a factor. There are bigots out their, and some of them will be your love's relatives. He has to decide whether he is going to stay with you, and reject ... (read in full...)
All my bf/s friends and family seem to hate me and it's a terrible strain!
Q. Hiya, I am 21years old, an Indian girl from the UK. I love my boyfriend and have been together for almost 2years. I am not the conventional Indian girl and enjoy going out and have had previous boyfriends etc. His famiy and friends put me t...
A. 17 June 2005: YOu don't indicate if this is an interracial couple, or inter denominational couple. Both can be a factor. There are bigots out their, and some of them will be your love's relatives. He has to decide whether he is going to stay with you, and reject ... (read in full...)
I said that I'd marry my boyfriend, but now I realise that it's too soon!
Q. Please I'm a teenager in desperate need for help. I recently accepted my boyfriend's proposal to marriage. But,now I'm confused because I think I am too young and afraid people may not approve of our relationship because he is working class. But I ...
A. 17 June 2005: When in doubt, Don't. Tell you BF that you can't marry him at this time, becuase you are too young. IF this is the real thing, he will wait for you. If not, you are certainly better off not going through with the marriage if you have any doubts. ... (read in full...)
Even though I love my boyfriend, secretly, I want my ex back!
Q. Hi there, please help me. I was with my ex for nearly three years and have been with my current bf for just over a year. Obvious then that I really do have feelings for him. However, I am still in contact with my ex which my bf knows about an...
A. 17 June 2005: Look. Its normal to have feelings for the people with whom you have had serious relationships. Hopefully, lust was part of it. That doesn't stop just because you break up for other, valid reasons. You need to focus on the reasons you broke up with ... (read in full...)
My bf doesn't know I slept with someone else and I don't know if I should tell him, 'cause I suspect he cheated too!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is really good to me. He has never pressured me into doing anything i dont want to do.I did something terrible to him i would think. The story begans like this when i first started talking to my boyfrien...
A. 17 June 2005: Cheating is the biggest flag that tells you that the relationship is going nowhere. Telling your partner that you cheated, when you aren't married, seems a bit silly. Spare yourself and him the embarrassment. Keep your mouth shut. Better to ask ... (read in full...)
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