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... Send *gissyd a private message | | | *gissyd's profile:Hi guys, I really hope I can help you. I have had a lot of hardships in my life, from being bullied for several years, to being beaten by my mother and brother, to My ex cheating on me several times. I have had depression, suicidal tendancies and many other tough experiances to name but a few. Im only 28 years old, but I have an old head on young shoulders.
I tend to put everyone else before me, and The things that make me the most happy are.
Seeing someone smile, be they stranger or family.
Making my four children happy in any way possable, without spoiling them in any way, or treating them any differently to one another.
Knowing that my third child who is physically disabled is as happy as any normal child could be.
Helping someone through a tough time, especially if it is something I have been through myself, knowing I never had help but desperatly needed it.
Knowing I have made someone happy.
Helping people.
Making my husband happy.
I live in south wales, however I havent always lived here, I have previouly lived in several locations accross mid and south England. Most of my ancesters are scotts. my husband is half welsh half dutch, though he argues (as all welsh do :D) that he is welsh.
If I can help you in any way. I will. be safe and may happiness be in your life soon xxx issy xxx
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Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 21 January 2008: you are able to, if you are really at a dead end, you have tried everything and its still not right, then it is time t move on. but not to the other woman, go single for a while find yourself, sort out when you can see the kids, who they live with, ... (read in full...)
Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 3 January 2008: But you had that first class life when you first started dating your wife. What you felt and experianced was the danger of forbidden love, the rush of something different and disallowed, and the whole falling in love and courting stuff.
You have... (read in full...)
Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 2 January 2008: why didnt you want to hear her list? The reason she shuts down is because you dont want to hear what she wants to say, so she has decided if you wont listen then there is no point talking. you want to make changes? then start by listening, hear her ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a paedophile?
Q. I started talking to an older guy at the age of 14. I am now 23 and he and I are happily married. He was 22 at the time. The problem is this... now that I am older, I wonder if maybe my boyfriend is a pedophile? I read up on the internet that there ...
A. 6 December 2007: YOu are allowing your fears to overcome rationality. You are a full grown woman now, and he is still interested. If he continues to show interest in children, then maybe there is a problem, but if he is more intersted in adults, then I dont see much ... (read in full...)
What is the best Shampoo dye to turn black hair into light brown?
Q. Dear readers i know this is not a usual question but what is the best shampoo dye to turn black hair into light brown hair?(temporarily) please help thnx nabz...
A. 6 December 2007: You want a good brand, like laureal, with a shade at least 3 times lighter than the one you want to be.
Most boxes have colour charts on the sides, so you can see roughly what colour your hair will become if you use that dye.
Take a look a various ... (read in full...)
Military guy needs help! Please help me!
Q. Please, more than two replies. Yes, I have asked for help about this situation before but I'm still confused about this and I have an update. I was offered a job with a department of a US military branch at a civilian career fair I attended ...
A. 6 December 2007: Ok lets start at the end.
First and foremost, you should NEVER omit ANYTHING frome your resume, regardless of why you left the job. It always looks far worse than a poor reference.
Secondly, the reps at this fair could not have given you a job of... (read in full...)
Would a 26-year old wait for the girl to reach the consent age?
Q. Okay, my parents found out that i was goin out with a 25 yr old. we were really really in love but had been having problems just before they found out. They have stopped me from having any contact with him which is understandable they're parents ...
A. 4 December 2007: Sorry sweety, but its highly unlikely.
I have to be brutally honest with you here, what is a grown man, a quarter of a century old, doing dating a child below the age of consent? From the adult side of this, that is highly irresponsable and tota... (read in full...)
My partner with whom I've been living for 15 yrs has asked me to leave his house (but I will not.) Does he truly love the other woman? What to do?
Q. I have been with my partner for 15 years and have lived with him for all this time. My partner has had several affairs over the last 12 years, these have always happened at time when we have been under severe pressure from other areas whether it...
A. 4 December 2007: Thanks Phill! What so funny about pg = pregnant issyd = issy d?? lol.
Im sorry, I for some reason assumed you were married, but it clearly says in your letter that you are partners, even so you are common law man and wife, so you still need a good... (read in full...)
Am I too big for her? She always complains I go in too deep and it is frustrating for her the idea I cannot climax as easily with these restrictions...
Q. hope you can help me I have a couple of problems 1) I am 28 years old and I am well endowed, all the woman I have gone out with have complained about the size of my member. I am in a steady relationship now and I want to marry my girl friend b...
A. 4 December 2007: YOu both need to experiment with different positions, YOu will find a way that is comfortable with both of you, plus the more you have sex, the more her body will change to accomodate yours. Just be gentle with her and take your time, if she gets ... (read in full...)
We both have properties, if I move with her I'd have to sell what I own, is it not too big of a risk? What should I do?
Q. Been in a relationship for a year, and now, I need to decide whether I want to take it further by moving in with my partner. She's not interested in getting married, owns her own house. I also own a house, but if I move in, I will have to sell what ...
A. 4 December 2007: Oddly enough I just had this convo with my ex, I told him that if he truly loves her and want to be with her, and she him, then they should both sell up and buy a home TOGETHER.
Have you considered this option?... (read in full...)
My partner with whom I've been living for 15 yrs has asked me to leave his house (but I will not.) Does he truly love the other woman? What to do?
Q. I have been with my partner for 15 years and have lived with him for all this time. My partner has had several affairs over the last 12 years, these have always happened at time when we have been under severe pressure from other areas whether it...
A. 4 December 2007: Sweet heart, its time to walk away. YOu so not have to leave the house. tell him to get out. get a divorce lawyer and make sure you get what you can from your sham of a marrage. You may love him, but he hasnt loved you for 12 years.
Get out now with... (read in full...)
I think I've lost the person I love most in this world and she doesn't know
Q. She and I have been friends for over a decade. Great friends. I also have been in love with her for a large part of that friendship. I kept my feelings a secret because I never wanted to lose what I had. She dated what used to be my best friend, got ...
A. 3 December 2007: er... so she is dating this guy? and divorced from another? You are in love with her but dont have the guts to tell her, you have really upset her and maybe made her hate you, You liedbout being a virgin, even though your only in your early 20's and ... (read in full...)
I denied he was my bf and he looked really hurt. Any ideas why??
Q. There's this boy I like in yr 8 and today when we were on the train he was talking to me (we always talk on the train) and this girl came up and asked if I was his girl friend (unfortunately-I'm not) and he said "yeah- she is" but I wasn't really ...
A. 3 December 2007: Either he was trying to fob this other girl off, or he was actually asking you out. Why not ask him? I had a guy friend I used to sit with on the tran, he waited till the very last day of college to tell me he was in love with me, but as it was the ... (read in full...)
She claims she wants nothing to do with him...but he was her first love.
Q. I have been on/off with my girl for about 6 years now. I have had bad blood with her ex who was before me. When I thought he was done with her, he recently confessed his love for her and apologized for all the wrong he has done. She claims s...
A. 3 December 2007: if you act this way with her, you will drive her back to him. she told you she wants nothing to do with him, believe her.
treat her with respect, give her loads of love and attention and she will never choose him over you. guaraunteed.
a woman wh... (read in full...)
Will his drug habit affect a baby?
Q. Hey there. I was just hoping for some advice. My fiance and I are trying to get pregnant, but I'm concerned because he does have a history of weed/coke usage in recreation. He says he will quit for me to make sure the baby is healthy, but I don't ...
A. 3 December 2007: newmod has asked me to reread my first post here, and he is correct i made a mistake! I said it was unlikely you would get pregnant, that was worded very badley, you certainly do have a very good chance of getting preggas by him, though the ... (read in full...)
Stupid me!!!! I was played like a fiddle!
Q. stupid me.. I was scammed by an escort.. he performed the service, stole my cell phone.. called and threatened to expose me as being gay to my wife.. I met him.. got the phone.. gave him cash for it.. then he called again.. more threats.. he had my ...
A. 3 December 2007: hi there, please speak to this guy, he needs your help as you have experianced it and come through it. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-stop-this-male-escort-from.html
he is still stuck in the middle of it. i really think you could help... (read in full...)
I met her but she looked nothing like her picture!
Q. I'm a single gentleman thats been divorced for nearly fourteen years. During this time most of my spare time has been raising my only child - a son. Now that he's off on his own at college there has been an enormous void in my life. I've tried to go ...
A. 3 December 2007: If looks are all that matter to, then go to a strip club once a week, if thats all your after.
appearences shouldnt matter in a relationship, how shallow do you feel, knowing you only agreed to meet based on her pic?
heres a task for you, if you w... (read in full...)
What makes a man choose one women over another??
Q. As a woman, it may seem strange to pose this question, but here goes. Suppose a man is torn between two women, both of whom he likes and even loves and appreciates in different ways. What would make up his decision to go for one or the other? (...
A. 2 December 2007: ARE YOU KIDDING?? Seriously, why would you WANT this man?? he is two timing and you want to win him away from this other woman? WHY? seriously, why?
Because you want to worry for the rest of your relationship 'is he seeing another woman besides me'?... (read in full...)
We were happy about her pregnancy and she told me she loved me. Next day it was over without explanations. Why??
Q. Hi, I'm finding it hard to get over my ex. I'll keep it short and to the point. We had been together for 9 months. She is 24 and I am 30. We met last Christmas while away with our families and it was love at first sight....I totally fell ...
A. 2 December 2007: Hi again, first you do not have to wait for a fetus to be 'big enough to be terminated' it can be done anytime up to 3 months (16 weeks) and even then it can still be done, but it is far less likely. The fetus can be aborted anytime from the time it ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my wife I like to wear womens clothes??
Q. I like to wear womens clothes, especially underwear, how do I tell my wife?...
A. 1 December 2007: Just tell her!
Women love to dress up like men the world over, why shouldnt guys wear dresses or knickers, I tr to get my hubs to wear my lacey knicks, but he is too manly for all that aparently, (I think if a guy cant wear womens clothes, then mayb... (read in full...)
We were happy about her pregnancy and she told me she loved me. Next day it was over without explanations. Why??
Q. Hi, I'm finding it hard to get over my ex. I'll keep it short and to the point. We had been together for 9 months. She is 24 and I am 30. We met last Christmas while away with our families and it was love at first sight....I totally fell ...
A. 1 December 2007: I just thought, another question, what was the medical reason for the not being able to have children thing?
Thanks xxx... (read in full...)
We were happy about her pregnancy and she told me she loved me. Next day it was over without explanations. Why??
Q. Hi, I'm finding it hard to get over my ex. I'll keep it short and to the point. We had been together for 9 months. She is 24 and I am 30. We met last Christmas while away with our families and it was love at first sight....I totally fell ...
A. 1 December 2007: This doesnt smell right, a woman who is told she cannot have s=children, miraculously falls pregnant then has a termination??? Either she was never pregnant and the lies were too much for her, or she miscarried and was too afraid to tell you, or ... (read in full...)
My gf will only watch girl on girl porn, does this mean shes bi??
Q. My girlfriend and i watch porn about once every three months, however she will only watch all girl on girl she gets very hot horny and we have the best sex so im not complaning. Does this mean shes bi? She said shes not. ...
A. 1 December 2007: it is possable that she is bi, but then most women are to some extent.
I personally dont like straight porn, as I dont find the male organ particularly attractive, I love what it does, I love my hubs one, but I dont relish looking at it, espe... (read in full...)
Will his drug habit affect a baby?
Q. Hey there. I was just hoping for some advice. My fiance and I are trying to get pregnant, but I'm concerned because he does have a history of weed/coke usage in recreation. He says he will quit for me to make sure the baby is healthy, but I don't ...
A. 1 December 2007: Message for the poster AND newmod.
Please view the following articles.
here
http://uncletaz.com/marijuana/marieff.html
and here
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/5234838.stm
and here
http://www.well.com/user/... (read in full...)
How can a man return to an unhappy marriage??
Q. Why does a married man , (who obviously is not happy in his marriage), choose to stay in it, when found out even though the woman he was seeing offers him support/help/place to live? Also, what must the atmosphere at home be like, going back to the ...
A. 1 December 2007: Simple, the affair is always just sex with the man, the marrage is love and commitment. He and his wife have chosen to try to make the marrage work, she obviously loves him a lot if she is willing to forgive him such a huge mistake.
Dont kid your... (read in full...)
How can I stop this male escort from blackmailing me?
Q. i had sex with another man..he was an escort..i paid him money..now he is blackmailing me for more money..which i gave him ..and now he wants more money from me..and he threatens to tell others about this experience if i dont pay him...it can ruin ...
A. 30 November 2007: First of all, even college professers need sex! Who would honestly care if you had sex with this guy? would it really affect your job? It wasnt a student, it was descreat, whats the problem? its a free country is it not?
Besides, does he have ANY ... (read in full...)
Will his drug habit affect a baby?
Q. Hey there. I was just hoping for some advice. My fiance and I are trying to get pregnant, but I'm concerned because he does have a history of weed/coke usage in recreation. He says he will quit for me to make sure the baby is healthy, but I don't ...
A. 30 November 2007: First of all, its unlikely that you will get pregnant by him if he is using, even irregularly. as it causes problems with the semen, usually causing infertility or lack of fertility.
Second, why would you want to have a baby with this guy who cann... (read in full...)
My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent
Q. My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions attended swingers parties and through them hooked up and had sex with other couples. We have been married fou...
A. 30 November 2007: hmmmm. are you into voyerism? have you thought about filming this to enjoy with your wife later? Obviously you would need the guys consent as well as your wifes, but you really could be involved then.
its up to you, but make sure you lay down all ... (read in full...)
He's married but it wont last...either somebody is going to get fed-up or killed.
Q. I know I'm probably not gonna like what I hear, but I need to know what you think anyway. Several months ago I started seeing someone, and please take into consideration that we have known each other since childhood, and have since been great ...
A. 30 November 2007: ooo you have yourself a submissive!
Some men get really turned on, cheating on there wives, making up stories to their mistresses about how evil the wife is, knowing they will go home and be punished by the wife.
Why doesnt he just leave her? hav... (read in full...)
So much advice from sites like this is confusing me. What is the alternative?
Q. In the past 3 or 4 weeks since my ex and I broke up, I have become addicted to sites like this offering me advice as to what I need to do to get back with my girlfriend. The advice I have read has been very useful but I also know that my particular ...
A. 30 November 2007: Hello, first of all, you are correct, text should never have been invented, and for that reason, I want you to make something a part of your life. Never text anyone unless the words you use are, i miss you, or I love you. never more than 3 words and ... (read in full...)
A male stripper forced my wife's hand down his underwear, and she touched his Penis. I say it's no big deal, but she feels guilty. IS it a big deal?
Q. Hi everyone, this says I'm Male, but it's really both myself and my wife asking this. So please address your replies/advice to both of us. We are doing this together as a solution to our little problem. Here it is. My wife's very close friend is ...
A. 30 November 2007: To her this is a BIG deal, this man violated her space, he assulted her by forcing her to touch him. If I were you I would report his ass to the police and have him done for sexual assault!
What he did to your wife is unforgivable, she needs a lot ... (read in full...)
I want my husband back! Help!
Q. I am a 32 year old woman, a high school teacher of children with special educational needs, a mother of two beautiful girls (age 5 and 2) and a wife. I have recently lost 7 stones in weight, have changed jobs, lost my grandfather, my parents have ...
A. 30 November 2007: You sound like a mature minded woman, your post is very concise.
Although, if you are so good at studying behaviour and drawing creadable conclusions, why havent you seen your own vulnerability and depression and gotton some help with all this... (read in full...)
I can't forgive my husband. Should I contact the "other woman"?
Q. i discovered that my husband had an affair back in the summer, he said it was sex only once and meant nothing, but he took her out to lunch at an expensive restaurnat and contiued phone contact for about a month. he has beg to keep our marriage ...
A. 30 November 2007: NO! Do not contact her, you will either hear stuff you dont want to hear, or they would already have a story and you would only hear what hubby has already told you.
If you love your husband and want to forgive him, the only way you are going to m... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that I do not have pubic hair yet?
Q. Hi I'm 18 but my penis hasn't grown and i don't have any hair around it and i haven't started shaving. my voice has broken but because of all this im a bit self concious about myself and ive never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. do you hav...
A. 30 November 2007: 18 Is generally the time when you should be fully developed, however some people do take longer. But as you have had no hormonal changes, you need to see an endocrinologist.
Make an appointment with your gp, explain the lack of hormonal infl... (read in full...)
My wife has given me permission to have a sex buddy....is it a bad idea??
Q. My 46 year old wife is going through the menopause and has lost her sex drive to the point she has no desire for me or any other man on earth. I asked her to use her hand or to give me oral sex and she refused. She told me to find a woman that is ...
A. 30 November 2007: If you sleep with another woman, it will be the END OF YOU MARRAGE! Dont do it.
She is probably testing you, menapausal women do some strange things, she may want to find out if you will stray or if you love her enough to ride out this incr... (read in full...)
I cant help screaming when my man and I have sex, but it wakes the old lady next door, I cant help it though, is this normal?
Q. I like to scream when I come. My boyfriend asks me not to make too much noise because there is an elderly lady living next door. Not long his neighbour complains about it. I feel embarassing and bad to wake her because we always make love after ...
A. 30 November 2007: Hey Im a screamer too, and living in a terraced house and having four kids int her neighboring rooms, it can get difficult.
I usually bite down on the duvet or a pillow or my hand etc. If you bite down on something, you can still scream, but its ... (read in full...)
I found a pregnancy test and a female's picture in my husband's toolbox. I suspect an affair.
Q. i found a pregancy test in my husband toolbox and a pic. of a girl. he told me that the test and the pic. had been in thier a long time,the test was his exwife and the girl he don`t rem... how do i no he telling me the truth. rem.. he lied to me ...
A. 30 November 2007: well how old are the test, and the pic? has the test been used?... (read in full...)
Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 30 November 2007: I have a feeling she is trying really hard, or has been trying really hard, but because she is not doing it the way you expect her to do it, you are not seeing the changes.
You need to work on the resentment issues, find some release from them, and ... (read in full...)
Do you remain in contact with someone if they were emotionally abusive to you?
Q. When you break up with someone, what should be the rule on how long it is before you talk to them? I always heard at least 3 months. But, do you remain in contact with someone if they were emotionally abusive to you? Or, should you just forgive them ...
A. 30 November 2007: hi there. My ex was mentally abusive and controlling, I want nothing more than to cut him out of my life like a tumour, but even after 5 years he still has some control over my life, because we have children together.
However the only way you can ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend and I plan to get married in 2008... But he hasn't proposed yet. Does a proposal really matter?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year. On our one year anniversary, I made him a photobook of our past year together and gave him a card. He didn't get me anything. I wasn't bothered by this - should I be? We have a long distance ...
A. 28 November 2007: First off, yo dont really need a propsal, you have an agreement already, I think you just want a ring lol.
Second, you are making all the plans together for a wedding, I dont think you should worry too much.
and third. A friend of mine over in ... (read in full...)
She told me she loved me... on our first date! I'm freaking out!
Q. I just dated this woman who just told me at the end of the date, our first date, she loved me. Not liked me, LOVED me. I was taken aback, I said..wow I really like her too. I'm freaking out here. I really do like her and I can see the potential ...
A. 28 November 2007: Love at first sight does exist. However...
How exactly did she say it? What were the words, the context, the situation. Love can be a broad thing, you could have told a really good joke, had her in stitches and she gasps while still laughing that... (read in full...)
Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 28 November 2007: Im really pleased you are both trying, but you have a fair amount of resentment to your wife, Im wondering why. what did she do to deserve your resentment? why do you feel the need to make her feel guilty for your mistakes? I think you really n... (read in full...)
My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent
Q. My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions attended swingers parties and through them hooked up and had sex with other couples. We have been married fou...
A. 27 November 2007: Hi there, I suggest you tell her exactly what you have just told us. Tell her you are uncomfortable with it, that you enjoy the swingers but that was as a couple, your not comfortable with her going one on one without you.
There is a way round it, ... (read in full...)
Confused and need help.
Q. I'm confused and don't know what to do, my ex and I have a little boy together, when he was born we got on well but as the year has passed we have got worse and been arguing a lot, we end up saying horrible things to each other and I feel he does ...
A. 27 November 2007: Hi there, do you find other things streesful too? like looking after yourself, keeping the house tidy, doing the weekly shopping?
Very often after you have a child you get antinatal depression, this can lea to a lot of issues with partners, from... (read in full...)
Several times in our marriage we have gone multiple years without being intimate. I need to feel loved, wanted... How do I leave without hurting my children in the process?
Q. The Marriage Bed I “Lie” In About a year and a half ago, we bought a new bed. I think it was our third in 18 years of marriage. Our first king sized. If you were to look down on us sleeping in it, you would see two people on the outer edges and ...
A. 26 November 2007: This is going to be tough, not for me, for you. Im sorry.
I do feel for you, really I do. the affair was very wrong, but you know that.
I not sure what it is you want us to tell you. Im not going to tell you to leave your wife just because she ... (read in full...)
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