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... Send *gissyd a private message | | | *gissyd's profile:Hi guys, I really hope I can help you. I have had a lot of hardships in my life, from being bullied for several years, to being beaten by my mother and brother, to My ex cheating on me several times. I have had depression, suicidal tendancies and many other tough experiances to name but a few. Im only 28 years old, but I have an old head on young shoulders.
I tend to put everyone else before me, and The things that make me the most happy are.
Seeing someone smile, be they stranger or family.
Making my four children happy in any way possable, without spoiling them in any way, or treating them any differently to one another.
Knowing that my third child who is physically disabled is as happy as any normal child could be.
Helping someone through a tough time, especially if it is something I have been through myself, knowing I never had help but desperatly needed it.
Knowing I have made someone happy.
Helping people.
Making my husband happy.
I live in south wales, however I havent always lived here, I have previouly lived in several locations accross mid and south England. Most of my ancesters are scotts. my husband is half welsh half dutch, though he argues (as all welsh do :D) that he is welsh.
If I can help you in any way. I will. be safe and may happiness be in your life soon xxx issy xxx
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I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi there, I was wondering how you got on at the docs the other day xxxx... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Anon. thats fantastic! I wish you all the luck and strength in the world. Hugs xxx issy xxx... (read in full...)
Does she just see me as someone to talk to?
Q. hi im a single dad of three , in the last three months i noticed this lady at the kids school , I'd not noticed her before the new term started, which is funny as one of her girls is in my sons class, and i tend to stand be my self and people watch, ...
A. 19 November 2007: As a mum of four, standing in the school playground is a bore, we mums tend to talk to everyone and anyone especially if the kids are late. This mother may well find you attractive, but its more likely she has simply seen you standing alone alot and ... (read in full...)
Give another chance or forget about him
Q. I met this lad, we got to know each other then became boyfriend and girlfriend. When we did start going out then i found out he was tagged by the police for drug possesion and he now still smoking weed,im totally against drugs like that. I gave him ...
A. 19 November 2007: Nope the longer you leave it the harder it will be, cut him off now. Its for your own sanity as well as any thing else. xxxxx... (read in full...)
Should I go to social services??
Q. My brother is 15 years old and my mum has let my cousin and his wife live with them in his room "for a little bit.” for the second time this year. But it is a 3 bed roomed house, my mum in one of the big rooms. My 18-year-old brother in the small ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi there, I totall understand your unspoken fears. Is there no way the 15 year old could share with the 18yr old? bunkbeds are not that expensive these days. You need to talk to him and find out exactly what is troubling him, rather than jumping to ... (read in full...)
Give another chance or forget about him
Q. I met this lad, we got to know each other then became boyfriend and girlfriend. When we did start going out then i found out he was tagged by the police for drug possesion and he now still smoking weed,im totally against drugs like that. I gave him ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi there, first of all... NO NO NO. get rid of tis guy. When he has been free and clear of drugs for a few year then he will be boyfriend material, but not now. Any drug addict can give t up for a day or two, but he cant jut stop ike that, none of ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to have had gay sex?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for years and are about to get married. However he just told me in middle school he had gay sex with his best friend. Is this normal or what? What should I do? ...
A. 19 November 2007: Most men wont broadcast it, but yes its fairly common for guys to experiment in their teens, dont worry about it, as long as he doesnt show any indication of doing it again you fine. Its a very positive sign of his trust in you that he shared ... (read in full...)
What are his reasons?
Q. My b/f never told me that he loves me like before. i had ask him that a lady needs to hear sweet words form her lover. You know what he says "Honey, i know what i have to do or say, u dont have to tell/remind me, i got reasons why" I ask myself what ...
A. 19 November 2007: Perhaps his reasons are that he feels he HAS to say them when he feels you should know it without him saying them, prehaps he is uncomfortable with the way the words sound or perhaps he just doenst love you enough. the only answer here is to talk ... (read in full...)
How do I get our sex life back on track?
Q. I'm 20 years old and my girlfriend is 25. When our relationship started we were having amazing sex at least 3 times a day, everyday.At around the 4th month she said something like "this is the longest i've ever been interested in sex". in her ...
A. 19 November 2007: yeah thatsa common problem with no sure answer. One thing that may help you though, is that women are turned on mentally not so much physically like men are. Stimulte her brain, suduce her mind not her body, the phisical will follow. And its not sex ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him how I'm feeling?
Q. I loved my boyfriend. We have been together for 2 years. I used to miss seeing him. Lately, I don't know if I can see our future together. We have a few issues that can never be able to solve. All I can do is say: I love him and therefore I have to ...
A. 19 November 2007: It all depends on these issues you say cant be solved really, dont be araid to tell us, we have probably heard worse and since we have no idea who you are it doesnt matter what you say to us.
Ont he one hand you love him and want to try, you also... (read in full...)
I need to move on - is it a good idea?
Q. I feel so stupid...he has cheated many times and he has stoped but messed up by talking to someone over the phone! Its small but big to me cause of his past. I wanna be with him but I wanna see other people only because I know I need to move on and ...
A. 19 November 2007: NO NO NO! Yes leave his sorry butt, but dont string him along til you find someone better!!! Just leave him. The right guy is out there, but to stay with this guy till better fish come along is just wrong on soooo many levels. Just go hunny. xxxx... (read in full...)
I'm totally confused - what should I do?
Q. Hi, i am a bit messed up. I am married over a year now, my husband walk out after 7 months of marriage, i was devastated, left my job and move home, he was confused and wanted to be single again, anyhow, he asked me back and i went back as i still ...
A. 19 November 2007: You really are confused aret you? Ok first I dont think you should should get into a relationship with this older man, not at least until you have sorted your head out. Stay separated from your husband for a while too. In short no relationships ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a cross-dresser. Is he a time bomb waiting to go off?
Q. i befriended a work collegue who confided in me he was a cross dressser. he and i became close and during my turbulent marriage, we would go out to clubs as friends. he never dressed in drag during our outings. the only time i saw him in drag ...
A. 19 November 2007: I know you have talked already, but the key to this relationship is keep talking, his feelings may have changed since the last time you spoke. its great that you support him, but I dont think you should entertain ideas of a long term relationship ... (read in full...)
How do I explain it to my GP?
Q. I am a 28yr old female and I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years and I love her very much but we don't have sex or make love because I don't have the urge. I really want to make love to my girlfriend but I don't have sexual feelings ...
A. 19 November 2007: hi, its not your gp you need to talk to, find out the number of your sexual health clinic (they do coils, smears and sexual health etc), make an appointment to see the therepist, she will have heard it all before and may have some suggestions for ... (read in full...)
Should I give him the benefit of the doubt?
Q. a few months ago i found a note in my husbands pocket written by a woman who works for him. I had helped him with some of his reports once and I knew her writing. It was very graphic talking about great orgasms. I confronted him and was told it ...
A. 19 November 2007: If you want to go really priverte eye on this one, you can get mini microphones, sew into his works jacket and recordeerything said, the only downside is you need to be somewhere nearby to get a good signal, although there are a lot of really good ... (read in full...)
Should I see a doctor about this?
Q. I have this odd problem I have had for years and I want to make sure something isn't wrong with me. I haven't spoken to a doctor since it's kind of embarrassing... Anyways, whenever I ejaculate be it sex or masturbation, I always have a severe ur...
A. 19 November 2007: This could be a symptom to many problems, including water infections, stones and sti's. get down the doc, tell him exactly whats happening and how often (its unlikely he will want you to drop your pants) and he may ask for a urin sample for tests. ... (read in full...)
Whenever I'm ready to go in it goes soft like at the snap of a finger! Please help, how do I fix this?!?
Q. I have a penis issue that was once a problem before i left to Iraq and i believe has just gotten worse. I can be aroused before sex, get the clothes off and condom on and ready to go in but when i do it goes soft like at the snap of a finger. What ...
A. 19 November 2007: hi anon, what are your dads reasons for thinking its e.d? you will have to explain wat that is, im not overly familiar with american terms im afraid.
however, if its definately not your frame of mind, then I can only suggest popping to the docs for ... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Anon, Thankyou for telling me your age, Sorry I didnt get bac to ou sooner, yesterday was hectic. I was hopeing you would tell me yo were a teenager as thats the ideal time to sort out any hormone problems.
However since you are fully grown ther... (read in full...)
My gf won't tell me who she's had a fling with. I feel I'm losing trust in her. Do I tell her or let it go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep ge...
A. 19 November 2007: This sounds like it was in the past, before you dated, she has told you you were the first, what more do you want? does it really matter who the person was? I know that sounds harsh and Im sorry, its not meant to but its hard to put a voice to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my family to treat me like this??
Q. Hi, well in my situation is about my family they blame me for everything thats wrong or if somthing bad happens and then they start screaming and shouting and arguing all through the day and make me feel guilty and pick on me and on top of all this ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hello hunny, yes it appears to be normal, but its NOT ok. Ask your form teacher to make you an appointmen with the school councillor, tellher everything you told us, she will be bale to help you. You can see her in shool time so that your family ... (read in full...)
What is the risk of pregancy??
Q. If my girlfriend is on the pill, can i ejaculate inside her, without fear of pregnancy? What is the risk? ...
A. 18 November 2007: hi there, the pill if taken corectly is 99% effective. so there is less than a onepercent chance of her getting pregnant. however there is always the chance she may miss one. never have sex if one is missed for at least 7 days after the missed pill. ... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 18 November 2007: ok, first how old are you? I cannot give advice on his without knowing your age. and second its not growth hormone, it a combination of eostrogen and steroids (hydrocortisone)which isnt right for everyone and can only be obtained by prescription. ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to have our child with a new guy.
Q. Hi all, Heres the situaton... Me and my ex had been together for 2 years 10 months and have always been happy, but also argued alot... Anyway about 2 months ago me and her broke up. almost 2 days after the brake up she was with another guy...and s...
A. 18 November 2007: Ok fox. You made your first mistake sleeping with her when she is seeing another guy, for all you know it could be his child. then you made the second mistake of threatening to take her child away if she doesnt get back with you. irstly she is your ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating when a wife exchanges expensive gifts and dates another man, even if they never had sex.
Q. A married woman dates a man who is not her husband and for Christmas gives him a gift of a Playstation and two games while accepting an expensive watch in return. She never had sex with this man, but has embraced him and seen him behind her ...
A. 18 November 2007: You have yourself a cheat a thief and a liar. what makes you think she hadnt slept with him anyway? just because it waasnt written in her diary, doesnt mean it didnt happen. My ex ran up over £25000 debts in my name, I didnt know till I walked out ... (read in full...)
I'm planning a romantic dinner and need some advice?
Q. Hi, I am trying to plan a romantic dinner for myself and my boyfriend. We have been dating for a while and I think a special evening is in order. Perhaps you can give me advice about planning this romantic evening. I am thinking about cooking so...
A. 18 November 2007: Lots of long vegies and dips ;), nothing too heavy food wise or he will be too full after for anything naughty. candles are always a plus, also make sure the whole house smells good, perhaps run round the house just before he arrives squirting a ... (read in full...)
I missed my opportunity to get physical with her.
Q. I have a friend who I believe is extremely hot and I have told her how attractive I think she is. This week I came by her house. After ringing the bell she came to the door and opened it a crack. After she saw it was me she asked me to come in. When ...
A. 18 November 2007: Odly enough she may just feel comfortable enough with you that she feels she doesnt have to worry if she is dressed or not.
Try some gentle flirting techniques, hand on her arm when talking, lots of eye contact and so on. You could always plun... (read in full...)
Is it OK to sleep with other people while you are on a break?
Q. If a person sleeps with someone else, while you are on a break, and also has feelings for the new person AND you as well. Does it count as cheating? Is it right to get back with that person after this has happened? Should the fact that they slept ...
A. 18 November 2007: 'on a break' means getting some breathing space, weighing up he relationship and having the chance to see it for what it is. It is not a green flag to sleep with other people. Yes I would class it as cheating. weather you want to forgive her is your ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to copy-paste me into his life with his ex? And how do I make him stop playing video games all nights long?
Q. Dear Cupid, hoping someone can help me. I've been in a relationship for the past 2 years. We met when he was going through a divorce. I stayed by him and have been so patient trying to help him. He's a great guy most of the time, yet I don't feel ...
A. 18 November 2007: I went on about the gamming situatin and forgot about the references to his ex. was he with her a long time? If so then that could be your problem, mentally we all compare our relationships with past ones, what he is doing is speaking his mind about ... (read in full...)
Should I just go with the flow??
Q. Im 21 single but have quite a few male friends who i adore but never found any of them attractive. Until recently i have really fallen for this one perticular guy. Hes 26 got a job but lives with parents and i know he has taken a few drugs in his ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hi confused. Id advise going with the flow. though be aware he has made it clear he doesnt want anything serious. so dont get serious ok. have some fun and if something devlopes later then great, but dont push for any commitment as I doubt you will ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...
A. 18 November 2007: Get yourself checked for sti's and std's and leave his sorry butt. take yourself and a mate on holiday. He isnt worth it xxxx... (read in full...)
Is he trying to copy-paste me into his life with his ex? And how do I make him stop playing video games all nights long?
Q. Dear Cupid, hoping someone can help me. I've been in a relationship for the past 2 years. We met when he was going through a divorce. I stayed by him and have been so patient trying to help him. He's a great guy most of the time, yet I don't feel ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hello! My husband is 38 and still plays video games late into the night. However I made rules, which he is to follow or I will nag him untill he gives in to keep the peace :D
Ok I tell him he can play his games, I even get him games for xmas, Howe... (read in full...)
How will I ever handle this situation.
Q. My problem is embarrassing but I need help and don't know where to get it from. Apologies if the content is shocking, it's not explicit but it needs to be mentioned so you can understand my problem. On Thursday I got a phone call off my husband's...
A. 18 November 2007: Ok I was going to ignore this, thinking I couldnt help, but it kept nagging at me. I couldnt undersand why so I actually phoned my mum to ask her some advice. she reminded me of a cousin of hers whom I did know about but it was a looong time ago.
H... (read in full...)
The perfect guy still can't find a date
Q. I'm a smart, funny, attractive, modest, and friendly person. I love to be around people and make them happy. I never lose my temper, and respect other people's wishes. Why is it that (at 20 years old) I have still never been in a serious relation...
A. 18 November 2007: Hi Anon, I would date you :D. if I wasnt married :(.
Anyway, seriously. Do you make the women you like feel special? Order a bunch of flowers, ask them to be delivered at said girls desk in the middle of work. Lean over them if they ask for help... (read in full...)
What are we doing wrong, or is it just me?
Q. Condom problems help! I have had sex with and without comdoms in my life and I have to admit that having sex with condoms really spoil it for me. It seems to dry me up during sex and sex becomes sore after a few thrusts. I put on extra lube when ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hi there, No its not just you! I would often get friction burns if my man got carried away :D. However I fond that if yu use a really good lube, (I found the flavoured ones best :P) They work really well. You can also get different types of condom, ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to forgive him, but do I tell him this.
Q. How do I get over the fact that the last time I spoke to my ex I texted him that I hated him, how I will never forgive him, that he won't ever get married, and that he will get what he deserves. I broke up with him a little over a month ago because ...
A. 18 November 2007: hi anon. first dont feel guilty over what you said to him, it was said in the heat of the moment and as far as your concerned it was all true anyway. do not appologise for saying how you felt. If you feel the need to forgive him in order to move on, ... (read in full...)
My husband is going to prositutes and possible gay encounters! What is happening?
Q. My husband of 31 years, has gone to "Mistress Nicole" for a Delicous Duo...which means she watches and he gets to blow a guy and gets anal sex... He was wild with anger that I found out thru his email account, and then denied that that was even ...
A. 17 November 2007: Ok for a start, do you still make love with him? If so get to the doctors and get checked for 'everything' under the sun! Then lay down the law 'big style'. he HAS to stop. If he wants to stay with you, then both of you need to get to councilling, ... (read in full...)
Transparent gel-like liquid during the early stage of oral sex. Is this to be avoided?
Q. usually when we start sex and she starts take mine into her mouth a transparent gel like liquid comes out of my penis and she does not like this. What is this liquid and how to avoid this coming out....
A. 17 November 2007: This is pre-cum and it tastes revolting. You cannot avoid it, however there are plenty of edible massage gels and oils she can try to mask the taste.... (read in full...)
I cant understand why the love of my life has ended it. (long story)
Q. hi i am looking for some help, i have just lost my first love and there is alot i dont understand. the first 10 months of our relationship were great full of love we were even trying for a baby at 1 point but we broke up once or twice in that time ...
A. 17 November 2007: HI Anon, I think maybe she has discovered the single scen is a lot more fun than being tied down. Let her go and try to move on. I know that sounds harsh and It will be easier said than done. But try hooking up with some of your mates, go out a for ... (read in full...)
Whenever I'm ready to go in it goes soft like at the snap of a finger! Please help, how do I fix this?!?
Q. I have a penis issue that was once a problem before i left to Iraq and i believe has just gotten worse. I can be aroused before sex, get the clothes off and condom on and ready to go in but when i do it goes soft like at the snap of a finger. What ...
A. 17 November 2007: Sounds to me like its mental state, dont worry about it so much. If your thinking 'Im gonna go soft' you will. Concentrate on more foreplay both ways and simply forget about the whole issue. You may find you have a lot more success.
men that blam... (read in full...)
I'm gay and my friend says he's straight, so why does he let me do things with him?
Q. I am gay and my friend says he is not but he lets me do something to him. is he in denial or straight guys do that?...
A. 17 November 2007: Well this kind of depends on what it is he lets you do. Some guys your age can be curious. I would have a serious heart to heart with him. If he insists he is straight then leave him alone sexually ok. Otherwise you may find you are making him ... (read in full...)
Everyone thinks I'm lying about my bra size!
Q. I have a 30F chest, however it only looks about a 32C, the other day, my friends were going round asking what bra size we all were, and I told one of them she didn't believe me at all. And although i told her not to tell anyone, i think she told ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi there, Im a 36gg sometimes 36 h. but if I wear a 38 I go down to an Fcup. it really does depend on where you go to get mesured, my advice is get measured in EVERY store you go to buy a bra, so you know your getting the right size for the brand. ... (read in full...)
Unhelpful cheat, we have no trust, shall I leave?
Q. There is no denying that I will have to leave my husband as I don’t love him any more no matter how much he tries now. The question is when and how ? I feel trapped in a prison of my own circumstances. We were university sweethea...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi there, lovelygirl. I think you suffered ante natal depression after you had your child, then that developed into classic depression. You need t get to the doctor and discuss possable medication and counciling. at the same time or sometime soon ... (read in full...)
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