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... Send *gissyd a private message | | | *gissyd's profile:Hi guys, I really hope I can help you. I have had a lot of hardships in my life, from being bullied for several years, to being beaten by my mother and brother, to My ex cheating on me several times. I have had depression, suicidal tendancies and many other tough experiances to name but a few. Im only 28 years old, but I have an old head on young shoulders.
I tend to put everyone else before me, and The things that make me the most happy are.
Seeing someone smile, be they stranger or family.
Making my four children happy in any way possable, without spoiling them in any way, or treating them any differently to one another.
Knowing that my third child who is physically disabled is as happy as any normal child could be.
Helping someone through a tough time, especially if it is something I have been through myself, knowing I never had help but desperatly needed it.
Knowing I have made someone happy.
Helping people.
Making my husband happy.
I live in south wales, however I havent always lived here, I have previouly lived in several locations accross mid and south England. Most of my ancesters are scotts. my husband is half welsh half dutch, though he argues (as all welsh do :D) that he is welsh.
If I can help you in any way. I will. be safe and may happiness be in your life soon xxx issy xxx
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My mom's dressing.
Q. Hi, I am Jasper. doing my UG. My family are a very good and decent family living in a village. We are a middle level family living in the tradition way. My problem is about my MOM. She is around 50 years old and working as a teacher in a ...
A. 24 November 2007: Sorry just realised your female!!! I truely cannot understand how a girl could be soooo shallow about the way her mother dresses!
This is NOT the dark ages love, get overyourself ok!
Same to you samutsen, bloomin' caveman!!... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but he's scared his wife will find out, should I tell his wife?
Q. A bit confused and could use help from some of the great agony aunts on here. I almost started an affair with an attractive and married man I work with but stopped myself as the word is that he is a bit of a player and I would say he is. He has just ...
A. 23 November 2007: Danielepew I do understand what your saying, that she maybe wants revenge on this guy by destroying his marrage, and other selfish reasons, but does it really matter what her reasons are? Do you not agree that the wife deserves a chance to find out ... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi there, I was wondering how you got on at the docs the other day xxxx... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but he's scared his wife will find out, should I tell his wife?
Q. A bit confused and could use help from some of the great agony aunts on here. I almost started an affair with an attractive and married man I work with but stopped myself as the word is that he is a bit of a player and I would say he is. He has just ...
A. 23 November 2007: Danielepew Im guessing here, but... Are you a cheater yourself?
No we didnt say the women he has cheated with are innocent, yes his only worry sees to be financial downfall upon himself, and no we dont care what happens to the cheat.
The Only per... (read in full...)
My mom's dressing.
Q. Hi, I am Jasper. doing my UG. My family are a very good and decent family living in a village. We are a middle level family living in the tradition way. My problem is about my MOM. She is around 50 years old and working as a teacher in a ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi there, You sound just a little controlling and condescending toward your mother.
She sounds like a free spirit who does not care what others think of her, only what makes her and her husband happy. you have no say in how she dresses rega... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he come to see me?
Q. My boyfriend and I we have been dating for over 6 years, he lives in the UK and he is married, I am living in France and I am single. We do care about each other and we do trust each other. We get on well even though we are far from each other. ...
A. 23 November 2007: You know what, I am getting fed up with this.
He is married, he is OFF LIMITS, wake up and smell the coffe he has chosen his loving wife and family over the long distance meaningless (to him) affair.
Sure you may love him, and trust him and so o... (read in full...)
Sex hurts to much and its annoying me.
Q. hiya, Me and my boyfriend have tried to have sex several times now he knows im a virgin and wev taken things really slowly but the most we do is he gets the very end of his penis inside me and it hurts soo much i have to stop him. He's a great g...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi there, I know exactly what you mean. I didnt loose till I was nearly 18, and that was after a few failed attempts for the same reason.
Now the reason you are finding it painful is probably because you tense up at or just before or even just afte... (read in full...)
I need advice on how to cure my mother's depression or get her mind off things. Are there any free councillors?
Q. i'm really stressed someone please help me. My parents have argued a lot but this time it has got really serious. So bad that my dad has said too much and my mum is in extreme severe depression and at a point where she cant even control her own ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi HUnny, you other depression is rubbing off on you. Yes there are free councillors who come to your house. If you cannot convince your mother to o to the gp, then you will have to go in her place. make sure she keeps on the antidepressants, they ... (read in full...)
Office affair!
Q. Hi - I am married but getting very close to a colleague at work. We are very flirty and becoming quite tactile. I want to take things further (she is married too). I feel we will become 'fuck buddies' soon. We get on fantastically we...
A. 23 November 2007: You want to knwo what I think? I had an office fling once. get that? Once?
They do not work out, its totally wrong and morral, your both married and even if neither of your partners ever suspect (which is highly doubtful, especially your wife will... (read in full...)
I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate... I am devastated!
Q. I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate, I am devestated (an understatment) things havent been good between us but I was really trying to make things work, However he is adament that it is over. I cant ...
A. 23 November 2007: Sweet heart, you CAN cope on your own, this country has fantastic benefits for single mothers, regarless of you status in society. It may mean getting a smaller house, it may mean trading in the flash car for a cheeper model. but he will be paying ... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but he's scared his wife will find out, should I tell his wife?
Q. A bit confused and could use help from some of the great agony aunts on here. I almost started an affair with an attractive and married man I work with but stopped myself as the word is that he is a bit of a player and I would say he is. He has just ...
A. 23 November 2007: I applaude you, well done for not getting involved.
Yes warn your co worker what he is like, so she can make up her own mind. And its not your job to tell the wife, but she does need to know!
If you want to make it your mission to be the messenge... (read in full...)
He is 34 and has teenagers writing to him, am I wrong to think this is sick?
Q. I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago, and I'm trying really hard not to look at his myspace because everytime I look he has new girls and new comments, etc. Well, I was doing good for about a week, but then I just looked a few minutes ago ...
A. 23 November 2007: Quote "He also said that the 16 year old's younger sister who is like 13 sat on his lap at bar. What?!"
Hun he is scum, put him out of your ife. If you are at all concerned that he may have got these girls into underage sex, then get some proof and ... (read in full...)
A boy from school said it's embarassing to be virgin. I do not agree. What do you think?
Q. a boy said at school in a pshe lesson that "if you are 14 and still a virgin its embarresing" although over half tutor are virgins.i dont think thats embarresing at all what do you think? its getting to me. ...
A. 23 November 2007: Quote "well there are a group of well chavs and they have all had sex and the boy calls them "skets" and "slags".so what does that make him?"
Im guessing a sket is a male form of slag? If so then he would be a sket lol.
Sweety you are still a ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with this guy?
Q. Today we were in class watching a movie and this guy I hate had to leave and while he was gone he's friends put water in his seat. He came back and sat in it. Anyways a few minutes later he's trying to pour the excess water on/near me and I start ...
A. 23 November 2007: Looks like he thought this was a trick he thought you pulled so tried to get revenge.
Although it also looks like he has a major crush on you. guys your age do stupid things to get a girls attention. If you truly dont like him, then calmly tell him,... (read in full...)
How long to know if I'm pregnant
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend around like 7pm yesterday. and when he was done he said the condom broke and now i'm gna be pregnant cuz he busted. how long until i know if i really am or not??...
A. 23 November 2007: Get yourself to the chemist or doctors and get the morning after pill NOW! you have to take it within 24hours of the incident. go NOW!... (read in full...)
A boy from school said it's embarassing to be virgin. I do not agree. What do you think?
Q. a boy said at school in a pshe lesson that "if you are 14 and still a virgin its embarresing" although over half tutor are virgins.i dont think thats embarresing at all what do you think? its getting to me. ...
A. 22 November 2007: It most certainly is NOT embarrassing!!! I would say if you had lost your virginity before the age of consent (was 16 not sure if it still is or if its gone up to 18 now) then thats embarrasing!!
Only fools go that far while they are still chil... (read in full...)
He is 34 and has teenagers writing to him, am I wrong to think this is sick?
Q. I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago, and I'm trying really hard not to look at his myspace because everytime I look he has new girls and new comments, etc. Well, I was doing good for about a week, but then I just looked a few minutes ago ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi Anon. Fist of all you need to stop Looking at his myspace, for your own sanity if nothing else ok?
Secondly, this sounds dangerous. It could easily be leading on the track to child pornography, rape, underage sex, and a whole host of other thin... (read in full...)
Help... pregnant and not getting on with partner!
Q. Hi there, I am 28 and have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship, my partner is 40 and I am currently 19 weeks pregnant with his child. He is argumentative, picky, verbally abusive and nasty during arguments. We just can't seem to get on for ...
A. 22 November 2007: Im sorry, you cant find an excuse to leave him??? "argumentative, picky, verbally abusive and nasty during arguments." Theres you reasons! Do you really think you should be subject to this treetment? Do you think your kids deserve to be treated this ... (read in full...)
I'm turning into a distrustful, pscho-girlfriend... how can I stop?
Q. Hello - first time using this site, and am hoping for some good advice please :-) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 and a half years and bought a flat together about 9 months ago as we were so happy together. However, we have recently...
A. 22 November 2007: No problem koala. I hopeyou get all the support you need, Please update me when you do.
Take care sweetie xxxxx... (read in full...)
I came in my pants and I am so embarrassed
Q. Im 17 and i really like this girl, but she really turns me on, i was cuddling her on the sofa with her and was really horney but after 15 mins or so i cum, we were fully dressed but it was so embarrassing, any advice to stop it happening?...
A. 22 November 2007: I had a certin boyfriend back in college, it was his 18th birthday and we were both still virgins. As a birthday treat I decided to give him a handjob.
Trouble was, he was still dressed, Id only just put my hand in his pants and he came, all over... (read in full...)
I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate... I am devastated!
Q. I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate, I am devestated (an understatment) things havent been good between us but I was really trying to make things work, However he is adament that it is over. I cant ...
A. 22 November 2007: and dr phill is soooo right, get onto a solicitor NOW xxxxxx
You are worth so much better than him hun xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate... I am devastated!
Q. I am 40 years old and my husband of 23 years has told me he wants us to seperate, I am devestated (an understatment) things havent been good between us but I was really trying to make things work, However he is adament that it is over. I cant ...
A. 22 November 2007: HI, Let him go hun, he isnt worth it, if he feels your marrage is so worthless after so long, then he himself is worthless. Kick him out the door now, never mind xmas.
Your kids are at a great age to understan whats happening. Please sit down with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has sent intimate photos of us to his ex!
Q. my boyfriend took some pictures of us in an intimate pose with my consent. However he recently sent these to his ex girlfriend I have confronted him about this and he is very sorry and says he has never done anything like this before and will never ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi Oh dear. Why did he send the pics? has he said why? The reason could be important xxxxx... (read in full...)
Husband seems to have no interest in me.
Q. Hi everyone I'm new around here,and need some help on this issues!! I'm due to go to psychologist to get a professional help, but in the mean Time I'd like to share this with you and get different opinions. I've been married for 4 years, and...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi Franci xxxx Ok so From what I can understand, this man doesnt love you nor does he respect you, he doesnt even find you attractive.
He may not have actually slept with another woman (can you be certain of this) But on a mental level he has cert... (read in full...)
Should I give the "favorite customer" my number?
Q. I am 18 years old and work part time at a supermarket at the checkout. There is this guy who comes in all the time and always comes through my checkout! Always! I think he is pretty cute and he seems nice from what I have seen of him so far, from ...
A. 22 November 2007: I wouldnt go down the 'slip the number in his bag route', you havent said if you know for sure if he is already involved or not.... Could be a VERY bad idea.
Best if you make some comment like ' your girlfriend likes making you shop huh?' and see ... (read in full...)
My bf is married. We are always thinking about each other, should I feel guilty? Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are ...
A. 22 November 2007: Hi there, my ex was married, he actually divorced her for me after a few years and we lived together for several years after that. e professed to love me, even Idolised me. but he never stopped having the affairs. I was the other woman, then I ... (read in full...)
The more my husband is promoted, he becomes more critical, insulting, demanding. I'm ignorant compared to his knowledge, and if I leave he'd take my children away from me. Help!
Q. where do I begin.... I have been married for almost 5 years. I have two beautiful children and thought myself to be happy... and yet the more my husband is promoted, he has become more critical, more insulting, more demanding, more controll...
A. 22 November 2007: Considering where you live its a difficult one. In most countries there is some sort of protection system for women and children. i strongly reccomend that you find someone in your area who knows about the rights of women in your area and can act on ... (read in full...)
Since and after my pregnancy, my husband's sex drive has reduced to almost zero. On our wedding day "nothing" happened - he said we have the rest of our lives to have sex.
Q. I have a 14 month old son and got married 4 months ago. We had only been togehter 4 months when we decided to start a family, in those heady exciting days. Since I got pregnant, my husband's sex drive has reduced to almost nothing. At first I ...
A. 22 November 2007: Yes I can relate, on the rare times we do have sex its out of the blue, and he just expcts me to want itbecause h suddenly feels like it. Men are very strange creatures lol.
I remebered someting as I was reading your reply, my husband sometimes give... (read in full...)
My gf has a rather promiscuous past, she says those guys were a mistake but still holds on to those memories. Should I be worried?
Q. Hi, I (25) have been with my girlfriend now for 6 months and we are very very serious.. She (24) was a bit promiscuous in the past but has now devoted herself to me!! She still is friends with these guys and had some pictures of them on her computer ...
A. 22 November 2007: Women learn from there past, she will always rememberthose incidents, however as she says, your her main man now. What is in her past is exactly that, in her past. You have no right to keep dragging it up and making her feel guilty about stuff that ... (read in full...)
My gf has a very high sex drive, whereas I do not. What do I do?
Q. ok so this might sound kinda strange. my girlfriend has a very high sex drive i mean you could call her a sex nympho thats how she is, now the problem is that i just dont enjoy sex very much and have a very low sex drive. so my question is, w...
A. 22 November 2007: Easy! Buy her a Vibrator for xmas, dont make her use it alone though, you help :D. You dont have to have sex to enjoy sex. if your sex drive is low you can still please her by doing other things, Like lots of foreply and you can try sex toys and so ... (read in full...)
How come some guys are passionate and some guys aren't
Q. i'm the kinda girl who loves to be cuddled love to hold hands all the time love to be smothered and spoiled with kisses but my boyriend doesn't do any of that. so my question is how come some guys are pasionate and some guys aren't?...
A. 22 November 2007: You have answered this in your question. Some are some arnt. Men are as different to each other as women are. If its a reall issue for yo, then you could try talking to him about it, but I dont think it will get you far Im afraid.
Sorry but its just... (read in full...)
Should I call or give him some space?
Q. kk i need help on this one!! i started seeing this guys during the summer, we slept together and he kept telling me how much he liked me and all... at first i didnt reply to his comments but after a while i started to get attached and told him that...
A. 22 November 2007: Give him some space, I suspect he was using emotion to reel you in, but now he has you he doesnt know what to do. maybe a commitment issue.
Text him once saying your going to give him a few weeks space to work out what he wants from your rela... (read in full...)
Is he overly lazy, or am I over-analyzing?
Q. My boyfriend is a lovely, kind person, but he irritates me with his lack of ambition, lack of hygiene, and terrible diet. He is a slob, who earns more than me, but ends up borrowing my money, which is a drain on a student like me. He has put on so ...
A. 22 November 2007: Right ok. First you do not lend him money for anything. Im guessing his mother used to sub him whenever h asked. put your foot down, he does not borrow from you anymore, no matterhow desperate he is or how much he begs. Secondly do you live with ... (read in full...)
Since and after my pregnancy, my husband's sex drive has reduced to almost zero. On our wedding day "nothing" happened - he said we have the rest of our lives to have sex.
Q. I have a 14 month old son and got married 4 months ago. We had only been togehter 4 months when we decided to start a family, in those heady exciting days. Since I got pregnant, my husband's sex drive has reduced to almost nothing. At first I ...
A. 21 November 2007: I just want to say your not alone, My huby just never seems in the mood anymore, ever! Ive never truely enjoyed sex and my ex wanted it 24/7 which I hated, but I wouldnt mind my husband showing me how sexy he finds me sometimes!! men are just wierd, ... (read in full...)
What to start taking the pill but don't want to go to my doctor.
Q. hi,im thinking of starting the pill,the only thing is i dont want to see my male doctor,is it possible to go into a walk in center to get it? also what sort of questions would they ask when i do see them?, plz help...
A. 20 November 2007: As well as asking for a female doctor, you could simply make an appointment to see the practice nurse as they can get you sorted onto the pill too. Dont worry, you wont need any special tests or anything embarassing.
Take care xxx... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want kids because ..he fears he might be abusive and/or violent with his kids.
Q. Me and my husband have been married 3 years now. We love each other to bits and I want to have a child with him. However the last couple of months my husband has been luke warm of the idea. When I eventually got him to open up about it he told me he ...
A. 20 November 2007: This is a difficult situation and as he has fears over this he really needs some professional help and alot of support. this incident has affected him badly and I can only assume its opened up some thing from the past. Once again Im going to suggest ... (read in full...)
How do I control my anger towards him?
Q. help! I'm only 17 and everyone around me are saying I'm growing up way too fast or way too mature. So far I have a nice life: my own house, my own car rouchcharge mustang 07 (my parents bought me), the job im working at is fine. But everything g...
A. 20 November 2007: hi saiyuri, This is called survival instinct. After being treated poorly by your ex, you have become more in control of yourself, and therefor more dominant. If your boyfriend has a problem with you being dominant, which he probably does, then you ... (read in full...)
He blames me for him cumming too quick!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have going out with my BF for a long time each time are having sex he never last any longer and then blame it on me that am too wet what do we do...
A. 20 November 2007: Well Its not your fault you pleasure him so much is it???... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling she tries to hide things about her past from me. Should I say something to her or just let it go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I...
A. 19 November 2007: Didnt we answer this one this morning???... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend how I feel about certain things even though I think it is more my problem than his?
Q. I have a constant problem when it comes to be honest about how I feel. My boyfriend is a very sensitive person and cares a lot about how I feel. When I’m upset about something my boyfriend did, I always make excuse on why he did that. For example, ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Yuna! First if you dont tell him what is bothering you he will feel shut out and will loose trust in you. Explain to him the sameway you have wrote here. that the little thngs eat at you, but you ont know why, tell him you wanted to spend time ... (read in full...)
I'm abused by my own family.
Q. Hi, please help me! My family hit me and honestly i'm sick and tierd of it what am i mean to do? How can i stop this happening? My brother beats me up the most and my mum or dad or sisters don't say anything to him he always hits me hard i've got ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Anon, did you speak to your form teacher about an appointment with the councillor today? Could you let us know how you are? At least let us know you didnt get into to trouble for writing to us. please xxx... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Anon. thats fantastic! I wish you all the luck and strength in the world. Hugs xxx issy xxx... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi Anon, Thankyou for telling me your age, Sorry I didnt get bac to ou sooner, yesterday was hectic. I was hopeing you would tell me yo were a teenager as thats the ideal time to sort out any hormone problems.
However since you are fully grown ther... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal....will growth hormone help??
Q. Im so flat chested and I cant afford surgery. I was wondering though, could female hormone pills give me bigger boobs?It might sound weird but I know that men who want to be women take these to grow boobs so would be any harm in me taking them? Or ...
A. 18 November 2007: ok, first how old are you? I cannot give advice on his without knowing your age. and second its not growth hormone, it a combination of eostrogen and steroids (hydrocortisone)which isnt right for everyone and can only be obtained by prescription. ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated and given me a sexually transmitted infection?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year (we don't live together) left his email open on my computer recently. I couldn't help but look, and as it turns out he has a profile on AdultMatchMaker looking for someone special to share 'oral sex and one on one sex'. when ...
A. 18 November 2007: Get yourself checked for sti's and std's and leave his sorry butt. take yourself and a mate on holiday. He isnt worth it xxxx... (read in full...)
I'm abused by my own family.
Q. Hi, please help me! My family hit me and honestly i'm sick and tierd of it what am i mean to do? How can i stop this happening? My brother beats me up the most and my mum or dad or sisters don't say anything to him he always hits me hard i've got ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi Anonymous. I have calmed down after my initial panic. I know you fear making phone calls to childline, and its likely the police will just take you home regardless f what yo tell them. However You can get help. We can help you i you contact us, ... (read in full...)
I'm abused by my own family.
Q. Hi, please help me! My family hit me and honestly i'm sick and tierd of it what am i mean to do? How can i stop this happening? My brother beats me up the most and my mum or dad or sisters don't say anything to him he always hits me hard i've got ...
A. 16 November 2007: Contact one of us directly please! We can help you. I went through exactly the same thing as a kid and No-one helped me. Please please contact one of us directly now!... (read in full...)
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