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writes:I just dated this woman who just told me at the end of the date, our first date, she loved me. Not liked me, LOVED me. I was taken aback, I said..wow I really like her too. I'm freaking out here. I really do like her and I can see the potential of loving her if we keep going out. But she told me she loves me, and I'm thinking am I dealing with a crazy chick here, or can she really mean it? I've always been cynical about the idea of love at first sight, its hard for me to accept her words. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): RUN RUN RUN AWAY! SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME! SHE DUMPED ME OUT OF NO WHERE AFTER ONLY 4 MONTHS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): That's funny because the first night I met my ex-ex boyfriend (we met at a party) I told him that I loved him. I was just joking and kind of wanted to see what he said. And he said he loved me too but I could tell he was joking also.Anyways it just sounds like she just wants to cut to the chase. She could be crazy.I think the point is that if you like her and she hasn't scared you off then just go with the flow. I mean she probably just meant that she loves you as in so far you are pretty close to perfect and she just wants to spend time with you and get to know you and see where it takes you guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): I'll give her the benefit of the doubt here and suggest that "she loves being with you?" Maybe!
Whilst it may be scarey to hear things like that so soon in a relationship it may not be the doom and gloom you have taken it as. She may just have thoroughly enjoyed the time you spent together - maybe! Give it another go to make sure that it was something which slipped out inappropriately. You could laugh it off by saying something like - 'thats nice to hear but you don't know all of my bad traits yet! after you have smelt my smelly socks you may not feel the same way, - another drink!"
If she does continue saying this sort of thing so early, ask her alot of questions about her past relationships and desire in life and you may soon see if she is just crazy, crazy about you or just has crazy loose lips!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): My boyfriend told me he loved me on the first date; I was a little scared obviously. He didn't tell me again for a few months which worked better for me. We have been together over a year and a half now, so maybe give her a chance, it may have been a slip of the tongue which she couldn't get out of or something simple like that. If she says it all the time then I would maybe be worried
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Love at first sight does exist. However...
How exactly did she say it? What were the words, the context, the situation. Love can be a broad thing, you could have told a really good joke, had her in stitches and she gasps while still laughing that she loves you, that would mean she really likes your sense of humour, and so on.
Just because she said she loves you doesnt mean she wants instant commitment marrage kids and so on.
She probably didnt even realise what she said till later and is probably dying of embarrasement right now.
Anyway, what Im trying to say is,never take a womans words at point face value, we are complicated creatures and often mean more than we say. I love you for asking this question, you have made my day!
Oops I said I love you and we have never met!
Do you see what Im trying to say? I hope so, I really hope you can see why this isnt something to panic over.
Take care hun, get to know her properly, you may find a good woman xxxxxxxxx
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