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writes:: )i really want a babyi mean really want one i concider my self quite mature and think i would be able to handle it i have 3 neices and a nephew all under the age of 5 and i have a great time looking after them even when the are stressing me out.the only problem is that i am only 16. i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we both have well paid jobs so we would be able to suport it. should i do it or should we wait a few years ? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): WAIT!!
PLEASE JUST WAIT!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): looking after your nieces and nephews, however stressful it could be is very different from having your own kids, remember you get to leave them back to their parents at the end of the day! there is nothing to lose by waiting a few years to have a baby, you're so young and you will miss out on great experiences if you become a mother too early! theres so much to see and do in the world and you won't be able to do it with a baby
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (16 July 2009):
 16 is to young to be having a child.Wait at least a couple of years.Plus your not thinking about once you have a baby your not going to keep working.Who`s going to watch the baby?If you start working separate shifts to watch the baby when will you ever have time for each other?Where will you live?Having a baby takes a lot of planing.And once it`s born it`s a full time responsibility.You don`t get breaks or days off.At 16 sure you CAN get pregnant but your body really is not ready to handle it.Please think this through more clearly.Talk to your mum about it.Cause if she is ok with it I`ll take back every thing I`ve said.
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reader, pebble +, writes (16 July 2009):
 I don't see how at 16 you can have a well enough paid job to look after a child. You would have only just left school. You can't have any savings at such a young age so what happens if something about your job falls through? Will you prepared or will you have to rely on the benefit system?
I'm 19 and 5 months pregnant. My partner and wanted a baby a while ago so we opened a joint bank account to save and prepare ourselves for anything we might need. Two years on, we've got a house, just bought a car and both bring in enough money to make us comfortable.
You can blindly stumble into having a child but being prepared will make things SO much easier, believe me.
Giving birth doesn't make you a mother, providing a nuturing, loving, safe, happy, comfortable family home and environment where your baby can grow and learn - THAT makes you a parent.
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (16 July 2009):
I think that you should wait. Remember you don't actually have to raise the nieces and nephew so that maybe why it seems easy to do. Don't you want to have your mind focused on something more appropiate for your age like prom or something like that? Once having a baby, it's not like you can change your mind and push it back into your womb.
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reader, sahara05 +, writes (16 July 2009):
I think that you should definitely wait a few years. I had a baby when I was 15 and I thought that I would be able to handle the responsibility that comes with looking after a baby, but I found it completely overwhelming. I'm not saying that you wouldn't do a great job but please wait a few years before you start a family.
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