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writes:i dont understand anything anymore theres a lad i like,he knows i do cuz my m8 thought he liked me n asked him n he sed he didnt like me tht way altho he did show it!thing is i don't understand y hes so different with me.With anyone he'll have a laugh with them, he'll talk to them. We were at a party last night and hes been going out drinking with my m8 quite a lot recently an they were just laughing and joking over everything but he wont do this with me. when he does talk to me its normally about college or something or about someone we both know but otherwise he just dont talk to me... i dont understand yeah i can be really queit and my mate well shes quite loud and bubbly but tbh if he just joked with me i would open but more. But like when i was talking to him he was just nodding along and stuff, Honestly its like he finds me boring and enjoys being with others because he can have fun with them but not me because when hes on his own with me its like he wants to know were the others are and its so awkward cuz its just an awkward silence! Like i asked him if he wanted to walk up to the party with me and a mate if she was coming(she didnt) and he didnt he sad he just wanted to know what time people were going yet my m8 hes been with alot she got a lift and picked him up on the way. I dont understand is it just me he does not want to be with!!??!! She reckons he dont fancy her or anything but why do i always get treated differently..in the past he;s said he loves me as a mate but he just wont talk he wont laugh and joke with me or anything does he just find me boring or not wanna hang out with me? whats going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): hey i wrote this question...yea i can see your point and tbh thats gone through my mind sooo much its unreal. However we have already spoke about it afew times when things ave gone off in the past(people spreading crap and everything) and he knows i'll never take anything he does as any more than a friend + i know he does like someone else(although she doesn't like him back) so i don't see how it can be he don't wanna lead me on but yea it could be that!
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (28 March 2009):
i think hes afraid that if he acts 'normal' with you, you could read it differently and im sorry but i dont feel he does like you in this way. i know its difficult but hes only doing this so that he doesnt give you the wrong message, it makes it worse when hes normal with everyone else but i think its because he doesnt know how to be with you. You could look at this from a different angle that its actually nice that he doesnt want to lead you on it shows hw does have feelings for you as a mate. the best thing you could do is talk to him, clear the air as they say. talk to him as a mate and be honest, once you both know where you stand it will be so much easier and you can get back into the friendship routine without it being arkward. i know you like him but i dont think thats where his heart is and you cant make someone, talk to him and then try and move on. be genuine and honest with him, hell respect you more for that and the sooner you both get back to reality the better itll be. it will work eventually itll just take time and youl need to put a lot into it if you feel a friendship is worth saving at the end of it. best of luck
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