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... Send *eboraic a private message | | | *eboraic's profile:I am a 24 year old male with little life experience (none with women) but many opinions. I give a unique perspective, before a person experiences something think about it in a positive way, children do. And my opinions on reflect that with beliefs in love at first sight and true love conquer
Spending so long being a secret admirer, i am quick to tell women he is not worth it. Im still at that stage where women seem like all fun and no work but am assured by others that willl change.
I find this theraputic, as you can tell from the first paragraph, my life is not a buzz of activity, this helps to fill the voids in my life.
Being a lonely person (not entirely by choice), ive spent a lot of time analysing people, I feel this makes me a useful agony aunt. In a bid to improve my own social life i observe others. If there was a research degree in this field then ive been a student of it since high school.
I live in London, capital city, crammed full of people. It can be a very lonely place to live, there are people every where but none will make eye contact, let alone say hi. |
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Every time I'm determined to tell him I love him, I lack the courage and tell him it's best if we stopped talking...
Q. Okay, So my ex, of about 5 months, broke up with me about 2 months ago. The reason why we broke up is because i had lost my job and i thought about getting a "sugar daddy", and i found one, but just exchanged emails and i chickened out. So i did NOT ...
A. 26 August 2008: Give him the letter if you are still interested in him. If not stay away from him, take away everything you own, from his house in one day and never see him again. Be strong.... (read in full...)
I want to stop taking the pill so I can get pregnant with my boyfriend. Is this wrong?
Q. hey i wanna know why i feel like i want a baby... im only 18 an i live with my mum an dad an ive got a boyfriend of 3 yrs. I just feel like i really want a baby, im on the pill and sometimes ive felt close 2 missing my pill an having sex with my ...
A. 26 August 2008: Is it normal, maybe. Maybe the maternal instinct has started early. Either way im sure it is unwise to have a baby as youre not in the best position. Fight the feeling.... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to feel hurt by what he said cos he also said it werent my looks hes attracted to just my personality?
Q. iv been seeing my partener for 8 months i asked him what he found attractive about me and he said my personality a few minuties later i asked what he found attractive about the ceebrate he like he then replied he finds her really attractive wit a ...
A. 3 August 2008: better this than the other way around.
Also he may not have meant "you are unattractive". Maybe he meant that your personality was the thing that made him want you. So there is a chance he finds you attractive.... (read in full...)
Need advice badly. I am having an affair and don't know why.
Q. I am 29 and have been in an amazing, loving, fun relationship for 2 years. I have found my soulmate. I love him dearly and we have a wonderful time together. We have great sex, we laugh a lot, we have fun, he's very stable, attentive, generous...
A. 9 July 2008: You need to evaluate your current man, he may fulfill all of the requirements of a boyfriend but if you dont feel magic, then you are missing out.
To counter my last arguement, the grotty magician ("the other man") may not be a great prospect... (read in full...)
Missed my chance to tell him I liked him, he moved on, I want to be with him, what do I do now?
Q. NEED URGENT HELP. there's aguy i liked from the first sight but i was too foolish to tell him. days later, he said he liked me to my face and i felt "why should i just fall for him?" he has thi attitude of "I'm the bomb", though it is true he is. i ...
A. 9 July 2008: Tell him you like him. Its the only way. Its scary and difficult but the best things in life dont come easy, like babies (9 months of discomfort).
Hinting that you like him without saying is possible but its is takes a lot of time and effort a... (read in full...)
My future mother-in-law sent 60 invitations and made arrangements for a formal dinner for the wedding but we have no money!??
Q. I am eighteen, have no parents and share a flat with two other girls. I am getting married at the end of the year to an only son whose parents, naturally worship him. His mother thinks I am going to turn him against her, which is the last thing I ...
A. 18 June 2008: This is an easy one, dinner for 60 is impossible without money. If she wants a big wedding, then she can pay for it, its the only possible way to have a big wedding, other than waiting. You dont have any options, no decision to make,its just a ... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex after eleven years of marriage!!
Q. i have been married for eleven years but i cannot stop thinking of my ex. i love the man i am married to, but at times he makes me think so much of my ex. i speak with my ex and i found out he is still dying to have me and the unfortunate thing is ...
A. 18 June 2008: if you didnt have children i would say go get him. Maybe your husband is also feeling that the marriage is ok but not great, then you could do something. If your thinking about you ex then maybe youve fallen out of love with your husband and maybe ... (read in full...)
My lover says its not a relationship!
Q. I have a problem. I like a guy who is really brilliant and has always been straight with me. He says he fancies me too, However he told me not to expect a relationship. I'm sleeping with him and all he says is 'we'll see' about the relation...
A. 4 June 2008: sounds to me like he doesnt want to close the door on the oppertunity of other women. If he cant call it a relationship then this wont be a good one, with a long life.... (read in full...)
Why can't I ever get a boyfriend?
Q. why cant i ever get a boyfriend am i not doing somthing right? i wear gasses i have blonde hair i have paley skin ...
A. 15 May 2008: hearing "your young" probably wont make you feel any better as i imagine thats what everyone says in response to this. From my experience i was not ready for a girlfriend for ages, maybe the other boys your age need time, especially the shy ones. ... (read in full...)
We see each other 24/7 and it's suffocating me, is it normal to want to see a little less of my husband?
Q. Hi all, my husband and i have been together for 5 yrs married for 3 and we constantly argue over inconsequential things... we work together and see each other 24/7 literally i think an getting to the point where want to see less of him... i kno that ...
A. 17 April 2008: its healthy to have some time apart, it will make the time you spend together better, thats one reason why young love is more exciting than marriage. Spend a day without him with no contact and watch the happiness on both of your faes a you are ... (read in full...)
I bottled out of our date and made her feelo bad, but I do really like her!
Q. Hi all i hope you can help me with your advice i was meant to be meeting up with a girl the other week when we went out in rite ( i was out with my mates she was out with hers) she textd me and said were she was so later on we went to this club...
A. 17 April 2008: Apologies and let her know you do like her. Tell her you were nervous at the time. Tell her, her looks didnt put you off, they made you nervous (thus implying she looks good). Make sure she knows (without saying it directly) that you are ... (read in full...)
My Dad is mean and abusive and I don't want to live with him anymore. What should I do?
Q. hello, i have a question to ask, iam a 28 year old woman still living at home with my parents we dont live in our country. Unfortunately my dad is not really good to live with, he is a liar when you get into an arguement with him he twists your w...
A. 10 April 2008: live with your future husband, at his place or in a place you both own/rent... (read in full...)
How can I tell a stranger her husband is a cheating rat?
Q. I'm kinda new to my area and a few doors down is a married couple, thing is i no her husband is cheating on her, and of what i have seen its been going on for while, they are out together during the day, he comes home at 5,6 in the morning, she ...
A. 10 April 2008: Knock knock, your husbands cheating on you. Flesh it out with a bit of description. Infact, your posting is good enough. You need to stop worrying about how you break the news and do it quick, every day that passes is another day shes living a ... (read in full...)
Please help! I deperately love my Husband, but I have a secret, what can I do?
Q. Wow... All I can say is that I never needed advice more in my life than at this point. I am 24 years old. I met my fiance exactly a year ago and we were friends at first. I was just getting over a relationship where the man broke up with me after me ...
A. 1 April 2008: Firstly find out if you can get annulled without a good reason. Even though a cheating partner is a good reason, the claim may need to come from him. Secondly, you cheated twice, there is a good chance it will happen again. You may be stuck... (read in full...)
As long as she wasnt married yet, she was free game. Right?
Q. I was at my brothers house and met his wife's neice. She is 10 years younger than I am and was engaged to be married in 3 months. She has a daughter with her fiancee and they live together and have been together for about 7 years. The thing is, I ...
A. 27 February 2008: I think if someone is in a relationship, they aren't fair game (although your free to bait them). I see being married and engaged as close enough to the same thing. There is an exception to this and that is when they are unhappy, you can... (read in full...)
Why does he need time to think before marriage? Has something changed recently, for him to hesitate?
Q. I am engaged currently and we had a date picked out already but now he is saying he needs time to think about getting married now. I can't be mad because he is being honest, but at the same time what do i do? I know that i love him and want to spend ...
A. 27 February 2008: While i would be a little suspicious, it is still well within the realms of normal behaviour. One may have no hesitiation when proposing/accepting, but as the big day gets closer, the realisation of the enormity of the committment what you stand to ... (read in full...)
How can we get our sparkle back?
Q. I don’t know what to do. Me and my bf (were both 21) have been together for just over a year and we have been arguing for the last few months. Its always about the same thing. I say that he doesn’t show me enough affection and doesn’t kiss me enough ...
A. 31 January 2008: My point of view is very much like the others, the only way to improve the relationship is to stop arguing which would require you to get used to the fact you wont get this affection from him. Its a sad situaton which wont change. He may be doing ... (read in full...)
My partner has just walked out and left me with a 4 month old baby!! Help!!
Q. I had a great relationship with my ex, after 7 months together we decided to try for a baby, (I have 2 young children from a previous relationship). I fell straight away and we were both over the moon! My ex partner is in a band and they are trying ...
A. 31 January 2008: my first thought is that it may not be over. This doesnt sound like enough to keep someone away forever, especially when you both havent fallen out of lovewith each other and when there are children involved. Also his work situation may change, ... (read in full...)
She said she'd be jealous if I found a partner. I am not her type, however. What can I do?
Q. hi. my friend is 55, i'm 42. she lives in glasgow and me in stoke on trent. we met as friends, developed lots of strengths etc.from the first meeting we both didnt fancy each other but got on very well.this was in october 2007. we spoke and both ...
A. 25 January 2008: if she knows you like her and coming after you then your waiting for a train thats never coming (metaphor). If she doesnt want you then she shouldnt say she would be jealous. And what does strrike lucky mean, do you mean with a man that isnt you. ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my weight and general health in these conditions?
Q. I recently became ill with the flu and a chest infection. Over a week, I've lost half a stone in weight. I actually think I look loads better, my stomach is like totally flat now, but I checked my BMI (body mass index) and its 18.1 which is ...
A. 25 January 2008: When you recover you should go back to your normal weight (if your diet after is the same as before). The answer is the one youve heard a thousand times, eat healthy and exercise.... (read in full...)
Why won't he touch me? Am I being selfish?
Q. The trouble is im in a long distance relationship and only get to see my BF for about 4 days a month or even 2 months. So when i'm home i cant keep my hands off him i want to kiss him and hold him and be intimate with tell him how much i miss him ...
A. 25 January 2008: I think he should try to overcome this. He is not fulfilling your physical needs, relationships are made up of two pats, the mental side (the connection) and the physical part.
Im not trying to paint him as the bad guy, although i dont totally ... (read in full...)
Confusion! He honestly doesn't seem bothered about getting a gf, but then again what are these signs he's giving me?
Q. Ok im quite confused. I don't know if this lad on my course likes me or not. I admit one minute i have feelings for him and the next i don't so im confused on that to. It just he sorta give m esings and other times he doesn't. He not your typical ...
A. 19 January 2008: you need to fix the beginning of the story it doesnt make sense. I assume youve told him you like him, you dont have many options after that other than asking him if he likes you, or asking him out(which are actually the same option) or doing ... (read in full...)
How can we develop a relationship when we have so little time together?
Q. It's very early on in mine and my girlfriends relationship (I'm 19, she's 18) We've been together a week. Every couple of nights we have gone out, talked, had fun and made out. I think we're having fun together, but I'm just not sure if anything can ...
A. 19 January 2008: As long as you have the evening free, what more do you need. A few nights a week is all you need. It will keep it more exciting, it gets a little boring when you see them too much. Anyway closeness isnt only based on time. I have felt closer to ... (read in full...)
I have a phobia about pain. What can I do?
Q. i ve a very strange problem....i couldnt have sex with my husband coz i was not able to bear the pain and i broke my marriage....now i go out with guyz but when we come to that point i withdraw making excuses coz i know i wont be able to do it....i ...
A. 19 January 2008: you could find someone understsanding who is willing to be extremely slow and gentle during sex, who will stop when you say stop. He could ease you into it. Investigate how people overcome phobias, its usually this way, small steps.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to go places, for fear that people will ridicule me or bully me!
Q. sometimes i am afraid to go out, because i'm afraid people are going to make fun of me, laugh at me, and call me names such as ugly, EW, and etc.There was this one situation during summer I was at a store a random women told her friend that I am ...
A. 19 January 2008: Worried about looks, after seeing school friends 5 years after leaving school, many looked a lot more attractive, and for me personally, i was happier with the way i looked. Any way, your probably getting looks from guys.
As for the ridicule... (read in full...)
25 year old virgin who's never been in a relationship
Q. I'm a 25 yr old English bloke who is a virgin and has never been in a relationship with a girl. As I get older, I suffer bouts of anxiety and depression, whereby I fixate on a girl and fantasize about asking her out. Then a voice in my head laugh...
A. 14 January 2008: My first thought on hearing this is its familiar, Im a 23 year old English bloke who is also a virgin with no experience with women, and while my case isnt as strong as yours its definitely similar. I went on a mission to improve myself (as i also ... (read in full...)
I'm currently sinking into depression about my friends leaving me out.
Q. I feel left out from my friends constantly and it's starting to really drag me down, I never stop crying, and I'm plummeting into depression. I've tried talking to them and they say they didn't realise but I've brought it up often enough now for ...
A. 14 January 2008: I always felt like this, i had no other friends other than those guys and wasnt really part of the group. I just put up with it until school finished, also i stopped caring, when your constantly rejected eventually you give up. On the bright side ... (read in full...)
What should I do? What is 'true love'? I must know!
Q. Help! I've been seeing a truly fantastic girl now for seven months. But recently, I've been having some vague feelings that things weren't really shaping up the way they are supposed to and decided to come clean and tell her that I just didn't feel ...
A. 14 January 2008: I agree with the idea -if your in love you know it- one piece of advice is to spend some time apart (while still a couple) have no contact for a week or two. Hopefully this will avoid the possibility of you realising you love her after you split up ... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to talk to girls I like? I chicken out even when they show interest in me. Help?
Q. ok so im 18 and single and i have this thing going on. say if im in the town or in a shop by myself, i sometimes have girls looking at me, id look back and shes still looking, but i have no idea what to do.. so id just stand there pretending that im ...
A. 14 January 2008: i know how you feel, i also get the urge to RUN when a girl shows interest (out of nervous fear). Try couple dancing, i used to go salsa dancing and each lesson you would dance with 10 different girls, better still you would have practice holding ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friend I am serious about her??
Q. Ok so I have this friend who I really like and she knows I like her but when I try to give her hints on how much she doesn't take me serious. She don't think she will be able to find someone that likes her a lot. So my question is how can I tell her ...
A. 12 January 2008: A good speech should do the trick. If you're talented you could do something related to that (although the only thing i can think of is writing a song). A speech should be enough, telling her the affect she has on you, how much you like her, ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this younger guys infatuation??
Q. How can I help a guy half my age who is completely infatuated with me get out of this?...
A. 12 January 2008: Tell him explicitly that nothing will ever happen and when ever he does something that makes you uncomfortable tell him off. Distance is also good.... (read in full...)
How can I get over my teacher when she is starting a new family?
Q. My life is crazy right now. I was really close to my teacher just for a short while. NOT SEXUAL! We just kissed few times and we spent loadsa time together and now its over...well since before last august. Even though it's over I have never ever sto...
A. 12 January 2008: I would need more evidence before concluding she is trying to hurt you. Sometimes we stare at things we cant have. I dont think shes forgotten about you, she just chose osomething else over you, a husband (and life partner), kids and to not be a ... (read in full...)
I told a girl I liked her over the internet and she flipped out, but I think it was someone else I was talking to, how do I find out if she does like me?
Q. i was talkin to the girl im maddlly inlove with - and i sed hi online to her and asked her about ice skating, becoz i wanted to teke her out somewhere nice where i could tell her how i feel. Insttead she completely flipped saying how much stress s...
A. 11 January 2008: You need to speak with her in person to see how things are between you, dont ask her to meet up, instead if theres a place you both go (like school) then go there, find her and get to talking (make it appear casualgirls dont want to be hounded). ... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong or are we just growing apart?
Q. Hello. I'm 13, and I really like this guy I've known him since I was in kindergarden, but I don't know if he likes me, even as a friend anymore. We used to be to txt all the time but ever since my 13th. birthday he's been acting wierd. I had a huge ...
A. 11 January 2008: Theres not much i can say on this one, its a mystery. On the bright side you still have his attention, the worst situation is when the person you like stops forgets you exist. This guy is well aware you exist. The best thing to do is to get som... (read in full...)
He can I encourage foreplay? My boyfriend never does it.
Q. Whenever me and my bf have sex, we never have foreplay beforehand, which I'd really like to. Sometimes he tries to push himself up me, when I'm not even lubricated.. This is quite painful. How can i encourage foreplay? Please help me! Thankyou....
A. 9 January 2008: Tell him about it. He may not like it, but if hes a good boyfriend he will do this for you to make you happy.... (read in full...)
We have been intimate and become close, but we're not officially a couple. Am I his girlfriend or... a mate?
Q. well, em recently (lke 2 weeks) been seeing this amazing guy which i am very very attracted to. we have been intimate and become close. but in front of his mates and people when he is chattin to them on the phone he says " oh i'm with a friend a...
A. 9 January 2008: I think hes wants as close as friends can be but doesnt want to cross the line to become a boyfriend. It sounds like hes being lazy with you, meaning he likes you but not enough to make any moves, like a tv show that you like enough to watch but ... (read in full...)
He is cold and argumentative, but likes kinky sex - how can I carry on like this?
Q. should I stay in my marriage? I have been married for 5 1/2 years (together for nearly 9 years) and we have one toddler. Our relationship has always required us to work at it, we are both independent people and it took a few tries before we could ...
A. 1 January 2008: There is no point trying at the relationship if he isnt willing to change and if he doesnt see anything wrong with the way he is behaving. This is how it has been, this is how its always going to be. I know someone like your husband (cold, a... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend but he doesn't know what he wants
Q. I think that I've fallen in love with my best friend, and I just won't admit it. I told him that I liked him and he likes me back but he also likes some other girl who is slutty. He doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know if he wants a ...
A. 1 January 2008: Theres nothing you can do, it's down to him to decide.... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my bf to come here to live?
Q. Hi, im gay, soon to be 17...and am in like my fourth proper serious relationship. Ive been with him since July - and hes definately the best. Just so perfect, 21, sexy, i wont go into cos it might put some people off answerin but yeah he makes me ...
A. 1 January 2008: Is this an immigration problem. Romania's now part of the EU, that should help.... (read in full...)
I told a girl I liked her over the internet and she flipped out, but I think it was someone else I was talking to, how do I find out if she does like me?
Q. i was talkin to the girl im maddlly inlove with - and i sed hi online to her and asked her about ice skating, becoz i wanted to teke her out somewhere nice where i could tell her how i feel. Insttead she completely flipped saying how much stress s...
A. 1 January 2008: you could try apologising to her about it for the puropose of finding out whether or not it was her. If it wasnt her then there is no way of finding out if she likes you other than asking her (or asking her out).... (read in full...)
I always call her during holidays, I feel it's a one sided situation. Should I keep waiting?
Q. My friend who I fancy for over a year now has still not contacted me over xmas. I always ring her durin holidays. I Don't Wanna ring her cause I just feel ltm it's a one sided thing. I really wanted to take her out. I'm nuts about her. Any ideas? ...
A. 1 January 2008: If she doesnt phone by the time the holidays are over then ask her out. This situation is unsustainable and constantly waiting is a situation to be in. ... (read in full...)
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