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... Send *eboraic a private message | | | *eboraic's profile:I am a 24 year old male with little life experience (none with women) but many opinions. I give a unique perspective, before a person experiences something think about it in a positive way, children do. And my opinions on reflect that with beliefs in love at first sight and true love conquer
Spending so long being a secret admirer, i am quick to tell women he is not worth it. Im still at that stage where women seem like all fun and no work but am assured by others that willl change.
I find this theraputic, as you can tell from the first paragraph, my life is not a buzz of activity, this helps to fill the voids in my life.
Being a lonely person (not entirely by choice), ive spent a lot of time analysing people, I feel this makes me a useful agony aunt. In a bid to improve my own social life i observe others. If there was a research degree in this field then ive been a student of it since high school.
I live in London, capital city, crammed full of people. It can be a very lonely place to live, there are people every where but none will make eye contact, let alone say hi. |
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Does the problem lie with him or should I be taking anti-depressants?
Q. Im kinda confused about my relationship right now with the guy I've been dating off and on for 4 years now. When we are together everything seems perfect, but when we are apart its like war world 3. we fight all the time, and when i try talking to ...
A. 13 February 2010: Do not go on any pills, you arent the problem and you shouldnt have to take anything, plus pills have side effects and you will cause problems. They will change you and you will be a different person while you are on them. You shouldnt have to ... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and ask him how he feels or would that just make things awkward between us..?
Q. I like a guy I work with and I think he likes me as well. We flirt a bit and have great fun when we go out, we text quite a bit and he makes me feel special when we talk. Should I go for it and ask him how he feels or would that just make things a...
A. 13 February 2010: I say go for it, take the risk, there are some signs from what you are saying so your chances are even. If he doesnt like you back, the awkwardness is something you . if he doesnt like you back.... (read in full...)
Selfish lover...
Q. What do I do? I love my boyfriend - he's perfect for me and I can't imagine being apart. We started dating this past summer before I went to a college 12 hours away, and our sex life was really fun and enjoyable. I have a muscle weakness that ...
A. 7 February 2010: He is being selfish, the only thing you can do is tell him, everything your unhappy about. If hes a good guy then he will change. In relationships there is a lot of give and take, not take and take.... (read in full...)
Do I carry on acting the way I am for boys to like me?
Q. hey, i always ask questions on this and either get just 1 answer or an answer that just doesn't help at all... i really need your help and to get that, i'm gonna tell you as much information as I can. The thing is, I really just want a boyfriend...
A. 6 February 2010: Yes, keep acting the way you are, as your happy self. This is the most attractive you could possibly be. Its not guaranteed that you will get a boy acting this way but it is your best chance, so keep it up.... (read in full...)
She wont show me love, what can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years in May with a girl i love with all my heart. She used to put everything she had into our relationship and i mean anything but we almost broke up and i moved to California but then we started talking again ...
A. 3 February 2010: Tell her about all of this, find out whats changed for her. If shes not showing any love, then maybe shes already left the relationship metaphorically speaking. Let her know how you feel and if this doesnt work then the only options are stay or ... (read in full...)
I have no life, feeling like a useless girlfriend!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 4 years and we have just got back from traveling together for a year and i have never felt such a come down as i have right now, i was used to being with him everyday, feeling like a proper couple, enjoying cooking ...
A. 15 January 2010: i have the same problem except without the girlfriend. Im gonna make an effort to reconnect with old friends and make new ones based around hobbies like dancing, martial arts and computers. Once you have those first few friends, go out to bars and ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and really ready for a baby... got money and stuff, what do you think?
Q. hi, i am 14 and want a baby..ive cared for babys all of mii life n have the money for it...i kno a baby is alot of work and its all about the baby and u come last..but i dont care.. i wanna have a baby to love me and share their feelings wit me n ...
A. 15 January 2010: Well you have the money and youve thought about the subject, so youll be ahead of the game. I would still wait for the right time, you may be ready but you didnt mention a father. The worst thing you can give your child is an absent father or one ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get him back, but I can't tell what he wants.
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend because he changed towards me, acted as kif he didnt care anymore, i never planned on us making it permenant though. i really love him and dont know how to get him back, ive tried everything and he doesnt seem to want to ...
A. 2 January 2010: If he doesnt care anymore then you should leave him. You could try time apart, see if he begins to want you again in your absence. This method doesnt always work but it forces you both to either come together or split up... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this depressive state?
Q. I am a young lady who has had hardships all my life and they seem never to stop.. from the loss of my mum to my boyfriend for seven years to lack of a job for a year..... though some times problems seem to overwhelm me...i never give up... 1st:...
A. 25 August 2009: Do some volunteering, one thing that makes depression worse is having nothing to do but dwell on how miserable your life is. One way to bring hapiness and take your mind off all the bad things is volunteering. If you dont want that, then create a ... (read in full...)
How do I become more confident?
Q. how can i get more confidence and make friends, i always feel uncomfortable around people because i have no confidence because i have no confidence . ...
A. 25 August 2009: Been there, done that. Its all about experience, the more you do it, the easier it will become. Those first few times will be as scary as hell but eventually the fear will disappear. All you need is an opening line (it doesnt have to be great) to ... (read in full...)
How do I fix the hurt I caused my bestie and build bridges?
Q. I am 17 and have been very stupid recently. I have a friend that i have gradually and slowly drifted from; shall we call her Penny? Well recently i went out with a bunch of friends to get drunk and high which is my escape from my problems though ...
A. 25 August 2009: How justified is her anger. They were broken up, for 5 months, that deserves shouting but not violence or breaking bridges. Saying that to her wont do any good, usually all it takes is time and a conversation (which most hurt people refuse to ... (read in full...)
Tips to break up with my boyfriend please!
Q. Help! ! I need to break up with my boyfriend but I don’t know how; I’m 17 my boyfriend is 18 with a 10months old baby, we’ve been going out for 6months now and at the time when I went out with him I didn’t think about the emotional problems I...
A. 24 August 2009: Tell him everything. But bear in mind, since you still love him, this isnt the end. At some point in the future, whether its a good idea or a stupid mistake, you will end up with him again. There is still hope in the future, other people have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex stalks me but I'm scared to tell him...
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a bizarre problem and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice about how to deal with it. My boyfriend was with his ex girlfriend for 2 years and i know they meant loads to each other. they had a pretty rocky rel...
A. 22 August 2009: I would wait, if you think it is reducing. If she is carrying on without slowing down at all then you should let him know but neither of you should try to take drastic action. She is an obsessive person and has plenty of time and energy to annoy ... (read in full...)
Just being friendly? Or does he like me?
Q. Right. So. Here's the deal. There's a guy I know from school, the same age as me. Let's call him X. We hang in different groups completely, let's say he would be in the popular crowd and I'd be in the 'geek' crowd if you like. Until a couple of ...
A. 22 August 2009: I think he does!... (read in full...)
We can go 2 days without speaking. Is this because he's busy or because he doesn't care?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. Lately, I feel he has been acting distant. He is busy with work and school, so there are times we go 2 weeks without seeing each other, and I am understanding about that. But what frustrates me is that ...
A. 18 August 2009: In those two weeks, if he makes no effort to come and see you or to arrange something, then he doesnt care. If i were you i would stay away and see if he comes to you, put in the same amount of effort he puts in. See how often you see each other , ... (read in full...)
We have gone from a non-existent sex life to a very adventurous sex life, but I cant help feel concerned!
Q. I have a question... My husband and I are in our late 30's. Married 5 years. both on 2nd marriage. Sex life almost non-existent past year or so. It happened insiduously. Probably due to stress and work and forgetting to stop and focus on the ot...
A. 6 August 2009: I think hes a conessiuer of sex. Some people like films, and some people know every actor and watch every film that comes out.
It is out of the ordinary but i wouldnt call it weird.
Theres nothing to worry about, he might get a bit bored ... (read in full...)
Why do older men perv on me?
Q. I'm 15, and, recently, I've started to notice much older men perving on me. When I was 12 or 13, teenage boys used to tell me they fancied me or asked me out, and I didn't mind that. But, nowadays, I've had a guy in his twenties flirting with me...
A. 6 August 2009: My advice is try not to look attractive unless you need to. If your just going to the shops,there is no need to wear a skirt and attract unwanted attention. Its a shame these tactics are necessary but in the end, it makes life easier. Thats ... (read in full...)
My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2009: If you loved him, then you would. If he loved you, then he wouldnt pressure you into doing something you dont want to do.... (read in full...)
I'd love to enjoy performing oral sex, but the past holds me back
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now, and he really enjoys recieving oral sex. I have sucked him off many times, but it's always a challenge for me. I know where the problem stems from but am having difficulty finding a ...
A. 5 July 2009: If these acts are associated with bad times, if you do it enough now, it will be associated with good times. When ever i heard Norah Jones, i always thought of studying during the summer time because i use it as revision music. Now ive been away ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be competing with guys 3 years older than me!
Q. hey well theres this girl i really like at work and we get along pretty well but im gettin mixed signals from her like she will be really flirty one minute and not the next i know theres a couple of other guys that like her and shes talking to them ...
A. 5 July 2009: Dont worry about the age, there are many other things higher up on the girl priority list. At some point you need to declare you feelings to her and ask her to make a choice.... (read in full...)
Is watermelon a weapon?
Q. I am a 27 year old with a 50 year old boyfriend that I met two years ago. We met as I moved into the house he was subleasing, relocating far away from my friends and family, and have been dating him for a year. He is by far the best guy I have ...
A. 5 July 2009: Make sure he knows it bothers you,if he keeps on doing it once he knows, then get rid of him.... (read in full...)
Open marriage made me realize I'm no longer in love
Q. I am married and feeling horrible about my marriage. My husband and i have 4 kids and we have dicussed open marriage. I have had 1 partner with in that agreement. He has had none. It has really played a serious role in where i am today. I am i ...
A. 6 June 2009: Its not a phase, the marriage is over (and may have been for a long time, maybe you never truly loved him in the first place. You should definitely find someone you love, although sticking close with your husband as a married couple or as room ... (read in full...)
Should he be a part time dad with the woman he loves? Or a full time dad with the woman he doesn't?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man off and on for 4 yrs. We recently made plans for me and my children to move in with him and start a family. Until we found out that he is going to be a father, with a woman he had a sexual relationship wit...
A. 6 June 2009: Whatever happens, the kid should stay with its mother and see its father regularly. SOunds a lot like B... (read in full...)
I don't want him to know I am inexperienced
Q. I'm don't know whats wrong with me, I am so uptight when it comes to guys. I have never had a boyfriend but this really good looking guy hit on me and we kissed and it was great, he was very upfront and said that he doesn't want a girlfriend he ...
A. 6 June 2009: Telling him you are unexperienced wont stop him. Its not a problem to a guy, its like saying to a customer "this product is brand new, fresh from the warehouse". It may out you more at ease as well.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me happy but not as happy as his friend does!
Q. I've never been one to break anyones heart and ive definitely never been a cheat or a sleep around. I've been with my boyfriend for just over two months now. Things have got really serious between us, we've moved in together and were getting along ...
A. 6 June 2009: It sounds like your missing out. You need to find out if he likes you and if he does, you should consider going for it. But as there is a friendship at stake, you need to make sure he likes you and it needs to be a lot.... (read in full...)
Would he like it if I did what he is doing?
Q. I'm not a jealous person and ive always taken it well when my boyfriends in the past have commented on a girl on tv or an actress and said how sexy she is. I dont really care, they're celebrities, you cant be with them, i like Daniel Craig as well ...
A. 6 June 2009: Not only are you right, kept quiet about it. This guy is obviously lacking something. you need to let him know its a problem, he wont see it as a big deal. It makes me wonder how much he cares for you.... (read in full...)
Teen boy wants sex, scared he'll be a virgin forever!
Q. Hi im a 14 year old guy and im scared that i wont lose my viginity! my best mate has already and iv come close and i kind of thought scince the last relationship another one would've revealed itself and nothing has! im wondering if it will for ages...
A. 3 June 2009: Your opportunities to have sex will increase in the future. I was a major geek in high school but became more appealing to women in my twenties so i wouldnt worry about it yet.... (read in full...)
Goth or Diva?
Q. i need help.im going in to middle school and i wanna become a goth or a diva.my friend says if i become a snotty diva she won't be my friend no longer.but my dad says that if i should become a snotty diva to show dont mes with me who should i listen ...
A. 31 May 2009: Be yourself. Whether its a goth or a diva. There is nothing more annoying than someone trying to be something they are not . Also, it should come naturally, you cant chose to be something (only wannabes choose to be something) if you have to ... (read in full...)
Would this run off a possible boyfriend?
Q. Guys: Suppose a woman is over a certain age... say 25, or 30... and has never been in a long-term relationship. Let's say that she simply never found the right person, and had bad luck with a series of guys. Are her odds of EVER finding love pre...
A. 31 May 2009: Dont mention it until things get serious. At that point, who will run away from someone they like because of something small like history. Anyway, its not such a big deal for a guy (some will like it). If you had too guys in the past, then that ... (read in full...)
I am shy, but want to make more friends, would you give me some suggestions, how do I make that happen?
Q. I am feeling lonely. I have a great boyfriend but very few friends anymore. I am extremely shy and my confidence is iffy, but I think people mistake this for me being stuck up. I am willing to talk and befriend anyone who approaches me, but don't ...
A. 31 May 2009: Hobbies that involve people meeting up (dance classes for example) or even online hobbies and communities. Also volunteering.... (read in full...)
I fancy my girlfriends best friend
Q. Here is the situation. Since my first year in high school i started dating a girl. After about 6 months of dating we're getting together in a relationship. Up to now its almost 2 years being together. There are lots of ups and downs in our rel...
A. 31 May 2009: You already know she doesnt want you so making any further moves is unwise. ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's interested in me for me
Q. I feel like this guy who I'm dating isnt really interested in me for me. I feel like he doesnt really care about how I feel and my emotions etc. Often when we talk, he doesnt seem to really be listening to what Im saying. The times when he se...
A. 31 May 2009: You have already figured it all out. He doesnt return your feelings to the same extent you do. There is a man out there for you, maybe its best to leave this one and start looking. I know the feeling of not being listened to or cared for and its ... (read in full...)
I really like him but I want more!
Q. Met this guy 2 weeks ago and got on really well... we arranged to meet again after he returned from a week away on business, but he texted me and said work was manic, and really he could only give me good sex at the moment. B/c I really liked him I ...
A. 28 May 2009: Try contacting him once more. If theres no reply then give up. Chasing someone who is not into you is fruitless.
PS If he really wanted a relationship, then he would have found the time, or at the very least, he would let you know he was inte... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this way or am I weird????
Q. Am I weird? Some girl at my school was caught giving head and it went round school, and when i saw her i got an errection, i kept picturing her giving it to me and i almost climaxed without even touching down there. She always has this really ...
A. 21 May 2009: the sight of a sexy girl is a turn on. The knowledge that your chances of having sex are high (from rumours) enhances that feeling and causes the imagination to run wild. Its not weird.... (read in full...)
My wife or the love of my life? How do I choose?
Q. hello everyone. as my screen name suggests I feel like im ready to make a choice but I need some real strong non- hateful advice. I have never used a service like this so I hope it will make me see things more clearly. I really need help. anyway ...
A. 21 May 2009: follow you heart and go for the love of your life. Your wife isnt getting a great deal as it is anyway, a husband that doesnt love her is a terrible situation to be in and she needs to be available so she can find the right guy. End it.... (read in full...)
I know I'm just using her.
Q. alright so here it is this girl that goes my school has been flirting. She's alright. Anyway we were talking and somehow we got onto having sex, now we're talking about having sex with each other and I think we're going to do it. I dunno if ...
A. 21 May 2009: Some girls would be ok with being used, most guys would including myself. As long as she knows and agrees then wheres the harm. Although, my instinct is telling me this isnt a good idea... (read in full...)
How can I make him forget or hate me so we can both move on?
Q. I am a 24 yr old female, and he is 29. We loved each other soo much for 9 months, and we decided to get married. We are both from a very conservative background, and so we decided to tie the knot only if our parents agree 100%, else we should split. ...
A. 16 May 2009: This sounds like the first half of Romeo and Juliet. Firstly, i am aware that things are different in india compared to Britain (where i live and parents have no say in boy/girlfriends), but i just want you to know, parents choosing boyfriends is a ... (read in full...)
Is he truly and utterly into me or am I the rebound girl?
Q. There's this man that I really like who I've been with for a week but I don't know if he is true. He approached me online and said all these sweet nothings to me. He's 29 and is already trying to be in a serious relationship. I want to know how do I ...
A. 16 May 2009: Look for signs of affection and signs that hes thinking of you. Asking him will just get the standard answers which could be lies. You must be a psychological detective about this. How much of a connection do you have, how much of the ... (read in full...)
We kissed loads and loads and that's it.
Q. I met this guy a while ago, and the last time we saw each other (about a month ago) we kissed. I went away for 2 weeks, came back and thought I would text him to see how hes been. He texted back saying did I want to meet up, so we did. We ended up ...
A. 16 May 2009: Its a question people always pose, how can i ask him in a gentle unnoticed way. The answer is, there is no way. Just do it, dont be too forceful or to needy, but there is no way to dress up the tough questions you have.
Just tell him you have... (read in full...)
Problem prone life. What shall I do?
Q. I feel really down all th time due to many things. i flucuate with my weight and either am happy coz i get to eat what i want but hate it coz i feel fat or am on a scrict diet where iam losing weight but am unhappy because im not eating what i want. ...
A. 16 May 2009: Starting with the weight, the best thing you can do is eat healthily without putting yourself out too much. I love junkfood, but i substituted it for a healthier self cooked version of the same food so i am still enjoying the meal.
To help wit... (read in full...)
Do I need proffesional help?
Q. this sounds pretty silly, but i think i need help. i've tried explaining to my mum how i feel about things and i said to her that i need to speak with someone proffesionaly but she just laughed and said i was a teenager and that i would feel like i ...
A. 16 May 2009: I cant give advice i can only sympathise, the laughing on the outside and crying on the inside, the feeling that no one likes or cares for you, the feeeling of not being a normal person. It all sounds familiar if you substitute alcohol for TV. My ... (read in full...)
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