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... Send *eboraic a private message | | | *eboraic's profile:I am a 24 year old male with little life experience (none with women) but many opinions. I give a unique perspective, before a person experiences something think about it in a positive way, children do. And my opinions on reflect that with beliefs in love at first sight and true love conquer
Spending so long being a secret admirer, i am quick to tell women he is not worth it. Im still at that stage where women seem like all fun and no work but am assured by others that willl change.
I find this theraputic, as you can tell from the first paragraph, my life is not a buzz of activity, this helps to fill the voids in my life.
Being a lonely person (not entirely by choice), ive spent a lot of time analysing people, I feel this makes me a useful agony aunt. In a bid to improve my own social life i observe others. If there was a research degree in this field then ive been a student of it since high school.
I live in London, capital city, crammed full of people. It can be a very lonely place to live, there are people every where but none will make eye contact, let alone say hi. |
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Do I need proffesional help?
Q. this sounds pretty silly, but i think i need help. i've tried explaining to my mum how i feel about things and i said to her that i need to speak with someone proffesionaly but she just laughed and said i was a teenager and that i would feel like i ...
A. 16 May 2009: I cant give advice i can only sympathise, the laughing on the outside and crying on the inside, the feeling that no one likes or cares for you, the feeeling of not being a normal person. It all sounds familiar if you substitute alcohol for TV. My ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being scared that he likes me?
Q. There is this guy that I think might like me. I really like him too. I've never had a boyfriend. I've never had a guy act the way he does around me. It's to the point where I'm scared that he likes me. It's so bad that I've been trying to make it ...
A. 10 May 2009: Tell him you like him. Its scary but will make everything easier.... (read in full...)
Can you love somone without having the hots for them?
Q. I have a dilemma. Can you be in love with someone but not have a strong sexual desire to be with them? I've been dating this girl for about 5 months and i'm crazy about her...and I know she's crazy about me. Problem is, she told me about a ...
A. 6 May 2009: Yeah you can, that is the case with married couples. Or what about films, on one end you have the visually appealing, exciting films, beautiful cast, beautiful locations, lots of colour but sometimes no plot. Or you have the dark gritty visuals ... (read in full...)
Tempted to cheat on my boyfriend as the sex has dried up.
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and everything was going good until we stopped having sex its become like once a week but even then its not amazing. So i went out to a club and met a fella i gave him my number and we have been texting and ...
A. 29 April 2009: Let the boyfriend know and think about ending it. But bare in mind, this new guy may not be around long.... (read in full...)
He just wants to play online games. I don't know what to do, and I'm lonely...
Q. This confuses me, so good luck potential advice givers. I've been in my relationship three years now, and I've overcome a lot. But, to the more recent issue, he has a bad online addiction to MMO RPGs. He used to be so hooked on WOW that he turned ...
A. 29 April 2009: Stop bothering. Make no effort for a few days, see if you get any attention. If not then you have nothing to lose by leaving him. The relationship ended a long time ago.... (read in full...)
My teacher loves me too!
Q. hey im 16 and i like so many others have fallen in love my with teacher but this time its different! He says he loves me too. now im totally confused. he told me last week and iv seen him a few times since but he havnt mentiuoned it again. i fi...
A. 29 April 2009: The best thing to do is nothing, if you love him, you wont risk destroying his life, i mean breaking up his family and going to prison, thats how the worst cases end.... (read in full...)
Help!!! My prom dress doesn't fit me any more as I've gained a ton of weight!
Q. Hey Guys :o) Here's the dealydallyo, I bought my prom dress just under a month ago and I can't fit into it any more! I have no idea what's happened, or well other than I've obviously gained a tonne of weight, and I've literally tried everything...
A. 29 April 2009: Diet and exercise dont work? Impossible. Dieting is hard to do properly, you need to cut out all snacks, all fried food. Only eat food that is cooked from scratch. Exercise is also hard to do right, play a sport, that forces you to keep going ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose any of my friends, despite how they treat me.
Q. Sorry, this is VERY long. I recently got back with an ex boyfriend, and things are going great. We are both so happy and it's perfect. The thing is today my friends starting making fun of him. Whilst I was with them. At first I knew they were just ...
A. 29 April 2009: ive had bad friends in the past and learnt that there is no way to win them back, those people were never friends in the first place. But i had no where else to go and so put up with it. The name calling didnt bother me much, i got used to it but ... (read in full...)
All I want is some attention, is that too much to ask?
Q. me and my fience have been togehter 3 years we've recently been looking at places to live together. he's just started a new job and he's being sooo werid when he get in from work its like a 5 minute conversation then he wants to go to relax then i d...
A. 29 April 2009: It sounds like the mental part of the relationship is long dead and only the physical remains. If he is not willing to do this for you (talking) then you should leave him. Although it seems daunting, the relationship isnt bringing you much joy at ... (read in full...)
Unusual armpit fetish!
Q. About 9 months ago when I woke up in the morning my face was buried in my wifes armpit.I loved it since then I do it everyday.why do I do it or is this normal...
A. 24 April 2009: No, it is not normal, but we humans are a random bunch and while the majority like the same popular things, not everyone does. There are fetishes for every part of the body, so you arent alone on that. I learnt long ago to accept my wierd tastes ... (read in full...)
No model but not that bad looking either....where am I going wrong?
Q. I need some advice, as I don't know where I am going wrong. I am 24 (Female) and I can't ever seem to get a boyfriend, I work with a mix of males and females, mostly males, and a lot of them comment on my looks, but no one ever asks me out. ...
A. 24 April 2009: I know how you feel, the bait is on the hook and yet the fish are not biting. The best thing you can do get out there and meet guys, one will eventually succumb to your charms. You might even meet one in your position.... (read in full...)
Reminded of the other guy when I'm with a new guy
Q. OK so i have a boyfriend we hav been going out for about 4weeks we've hugged and held hands but not kissed, when I started going out with him I really liked him and I still do but there's a complication. Last week I was at the park with 2 mate...
A. 24 April 2009: You arent judged by your thoughts, only by your actions. It cant be your fault as you do not control the fluttering of your heart. If you think feel more for this other guy then you should explore it, and then decide which.... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable talking dirty to my attractive friend
Q. Ahh please help. Im 16 and my friend is turning 17 in a few months, hes really attractive and says he thinks i am too. We talk alot and i really like him, but lately he was messing around online and talked dirty to me and then asked me too, jus...
A. 24 April 2009: Just tell him. It doesnt sound like a great solution but its the only one that doesnt involve avoiding him... (read in full...)
Why so jealous of other people's relationships?
Q. why do i get so easily jealous of other peoples relationships? ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and are moving in together next month, we have never had an argument and never bicker or fight, we love each other so much, are really happy ...
A. 21 April 2009: You answered your own question. Youre jealous because you want to know where the relationship is going. You only mentioned this point briefely at the end, you need to be more honest with youself.... (read in full...)
What do I do and am I being taken advantage of?
Q. Hi, I am a female who is currently in a lesbian relationship for over a year. My partner and I reunited after a 7 year departure, excluding any form of communication/contact. Now that she and I are back together… we have mutual understandings, that ...
A. 20 April 2009: It doesnt sound like she purposely set out take advantage of you but it is happening. This is not how you treat someone you love. You should make sure she knows the financial help cannot continue and if she doesnt make an effort to fix the problem ... (read in full...)
Made the mistake of idolizing my gf
Q. I am in my first real relationship. I met a woman who I thought was out of my league and being the first woman who I think ever loved me, I created in my head a perfect vision of her. I put her on a pedastal even though she felt like slapping me ...
A. 20 April 2009: It sounds like you have it figured out, you realise the problem, all you have to do is adjust the way you think about her and tell her all that you told us. As for making her feel not perfect, as long as you say it in the right way you should be ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a depressing rut, please help!
Q. I am very lonely, I have no friends, no boyfriend, there is nowhere to go in town, its living here. Nobody understands my loneliness and my sadness. I cry because I am so lonely and upset. There is nothing I can do about it. I go nowhere, I spend ...
A. 18 April 2009: I feel exactly the same way. It was only in my early twenties that i realised my key to happiness. Being happy with work! Days when work is going well, i am happier and more fun. Days when it isnt going well (which is the way its been most of my ... (read in full...)
Would this be too clingy?
Q. This guy and I have been seeing each other for over a month. We are both in college and established that we were dating but he still doesn't call me his girlfriend. I only saw him twice last week but we talked over the phone about every other day. I ...
A. 7 April 2009: its not too clingy, its the usual amount of clingyness that girls apply, its totally normal. Let him know the score... (read in full...)
How to get into a reltionship with him?
Q. There's this guy. Ive been cinema with him before. We hardly see each other in real life because i rarely often bump into him at the bus stop. But we regularly speak online and texting. And hes normally fine and flirty. I really don't know were ...
A. 7 April 2009: I agree, risk it, let him know you want more... (read in full...)
My bf is making me feel like crap sexually :-(
Q. My boyfriend of just over one year has been telling me for months that he thinks I am cheating on him because my "p*ssy feels different and stretched out like I have been f*cking n***ers". He has also then become upset with me when I become more ...
A. 7 April 2009: your boyfriend sounds like a sex drive killer. Women are turned on by flattery, not insults and if he was nicer, it may make you feel comfortable and more likely to do these sexual things. You should try to please him but only if you feel ... (read in full...)
Advice please. My daughter is living and in love with her pimp :-(
Q. I'm lost! Recently found out my daughter is dancing for money and is living with her pimp. She won't leave him because she feels she safe and that she is in love with him. Is there anything I can do to save my daughter from this? Is there anyone ...
A. 7 April 2009: Ask yourself, is he good to her. Also, has she been led down a bad path or did she walk it all by herself. Also, she has found love, maybe the situation isnt so bad. Anyway, there is little you can do about it and any attempts will just push her ... (read in full...)
Counselling problems.
Q. I've been raped and physically attacked twice in less than 6 months. I am currently undergoing counselling but don't think I can go back as I'm really embarrassed about it all. Is it my fault why me? ...
A. 7 April 2009: ill tell you why it happened to you, because you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. And there is nothing to feel embarrassed about, those counsellors have seem much worse, they will think of your case as a normal case. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm following my heart...
Q. I'm seeing this guy and his friend and me have a spark between us. He's been texting me even though he has a girlfriend, who he's said he'll finish with to be with me when the timing is right. I like both of them but I like the guy with the ...
A. 7 April 2009: I never believe people when they say "timing is right". There is no right time to break up with someone. Furthermore, this poor girl has extended time with the boyfriend who doesnt want her. Both of you should follow your hearts while breaking ... (read in full...)
He always makes me feel second best...
Q. I'm so miserable. My boyfriend loves me but always makes me feel second best compared to his ex. They were together for about 2 years and says now it was all just superficial. He makes me feel bad by rubbing in the superficial part. He says she was ...
A. 7 April 2009: let him know.
Better yet, let him read your dearcupid post. Either he doesnt know how to act around women or he cares little for you. Staying like this should not be an option. Tell him he shouldnt ever mention his ex girlfriend.... (read in full...)
I'm starting to worry that this is a more one sided relationship, or maybe he's just got too much in his life for room for me.
Q. I really need some help and I really don't have anyone to turn to :( I have been suffering from some horrible symptons recently and to cut a long story short I'm having tests to find out what's wrong. The doctor thinks it's endometriosis. I...
A. 7 April 2009: Demanding, yes you are, we all have demands, needs that need to be met, the typical male need is physical whereas the typical female need is emotional. There is nothing wrong with expecting your boyfriend to support you, its what every girl does ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him if we're "officially dating"?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 week and a half now.. And I don't know if it is offical yet. How do I ask him without looking stupid?...
A. 7 April 2009: You cant! Everyone looks stupid when asking this question. Youve just got to do it. Just be cool about it, ask the question, no babeling, no stuttering, with constant eye contact. One thing that will make you look stupid is thinking you look ... (read in full...)
Your insight is needed here thanks.
Q. Hi, I am a 26 year old male guy currently staying in the US, trying to get a job. While working as a student worker at the University where I graduated form(for the past few months), i had the chance to work with this Korean girl who is new in ...
A. 7 April 2009: youve done all you can, gently remind her how you feel and if that fails then forget about her... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't come on to me for fear I'll reject her.
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for quite some time now and we have a good sex life. The only problem is that when she is horny she won't make a move on me in case I don't want to have sex. If we're both horny then it's fine and if just I'm horny ...
A. 18 March 2009: This is going to take training and reassurance.
Its a fear, and just like any other, she has to face it, head on.... (read in full...)
We're only friends, but I'm upset because he had sex with another girl!
Q. Hey guys i need some help or advice. The thing is this i have a friend who is a guy and we've known each other for 4yrs. At 1st i liked him and he liked me but nothing happened so we've decided to be best friends. I might stil have feelings for him ...
A. 29 November 2008: Both of you have some feelings for each other, a guy wouldnt hide the fact he had sex unless he was somewhat interested in you. ... (read in full...)
Help...hot tempered girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend is kinda hot tempered...she blews off for unwanted things..even if its her fault?? there is one time where she lied to me and blew off at me as though it was my mistake..but we did talk it over..my question is why.?? How can you blew ...
A. 27 November 2008: i would do one of two things, 1. leave, 2. treat her like a child. In the sense that, even if its her fault, just go along with it and take the blame with that "if you say so" attitude (providing its not too emasculating, there are limits)... (read in full...)
Did I have a right to feel insecure in this relationship?
Q. I'm trying to gain some insight on things.. I wish my ex would come back but I have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years I was with him. I wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a c...
A. 27 November 2008: These examples are the kind of things i would feel but not say out loud, i worry im being picky. They are all, however, legitimate complaints and its the duty of a boyfriend to make his woman feel loved and wanted.
Your average guy is not sens... (read in full...)
How do I split my time between my boyfriend and friends?
Q. Hello, right well i have this prolem, me and my two best mtes were so so close done everything together, tld each other everything but then i got a boyfriend, i hve never felt like thid for anyone before, he means everything to me but so do the girl...
A. 27 November 2008: Its just a matter of making time for them without bring the boyfriend along. You may not be able to go back to the way things were but as long as you see each other weekly then your still in each others lives. I see this as a practical problem ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him without sounding dirty?
Q. my bf and i have been haing sex using a condom and he cums inside of the condom its okayy with me but id much rather him cum on me ( i find it a big turn on..) but i dont wanna make myself sound dirty or anything.. should i just ask him? ...
A. 27 November 2008: There is no way of saying it without sounding dirty.... (read in full...)
Can a threesome really rekindle lost passion?
Q. Can a threesome really rekindle lost passion? Even if one of the partners isn't into that kinda thing? I've been with my boyfriend for a while and in order to get things up again, he wants a threesome. I'm not into that and of course, he found...
A. 24 November 2008: I am skeptical about his suggestion of a threesome, the cynical part of me thinks its a way to get some action with another girl while not tehnically cheating. It is risky and if you have to take drastic action to improve things then the ... (read in full...)
My brother has so much porn on his PC I was shocked!
Q. Hello, so I've just had the shock of my life, this is how it starts I'm 14 and my computer for some reason today started playing up saying stuff about antivirus and doing weird stuff, so i knew it needed to be fixed, i'm really good with compute...
A. 28 October 2008: I think you should do nothing, the damage is done (so stopping him now wont undo all he has seen), trying to stop him probably wont work and mentioning it will just cause problems. Lets not forget hes a an adult.
PS i dont think you are bein... (read in full...)
My husband physically and emotionally abuses me all the time.
Q. Hi, I need to make this quick because I'm not "allowed" to be on the internet right now. My husband is thirteen years my senior and we've known each other for two and a half years, been together that long, and married for two years. We have a ...
A. 24 October 2008: Its probably not the answer you were looking for but the others are right, there is no reasoning with someone like that. Disappearing is the best solution for you.
Although there are some negatives to this and that's your daughter losing h... (read in full...)
If I stop caring for him, he smokes, drinks, and hurts himself. It's really upstting for me. Please help.
Q. Hiya, I'm Becca. I have been out with my now ex 3 times and have always dumped him every time. He is 4 years older than me an i am still friends with him after i have dumped him. I dumped him for these reasons: *He think's he's like the most fashi...
A. 1 October 2008: The only thing you can do is distane yourself from him, not all at once, but slowly. Maybe he wants your attention. Your presence doesnt help him recover. It maintains him but it doesnt heal him. Healing comes from time away from the person you ... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant what would I do?
Q. Hi another one form me My boyfriend keeps suggesting sex. But as I am only 15 and it is against the law at the moment, I am scared of what people will think or if I get pregnant what would I do? I do want to but above are my worries. What shall I ...
A. 1 October 2008: You dont want to let him down, how kind of you, being considerate of his feelings. Now its his turn to do the same for you. I dont expect him to be happy with the decision, but if he doesnt understand and accept the decision, then he is not a good ... (read in full...)
Do males find red hair a turn-off?
Q. Just a quick question, because I'm beginning to get paranoid: Do males find red hair a turn-off? Will he reject a red-head if she asked him out, because of her hair colour? And if you have been asked out by one, did you oblige, and were, or cur...
A. 21 September 2008: Heres my take on it, i think red hair is less desirable than the other colours but hair colour makes a very small part of attractiveness, most of it is in the face, body and smile.
By the way since last year i have been finding red heads very hot... (read in full...)
Not sure if I should date him or keep him as my best friend. Not sure I have a choise anymore either. Have I ruined it?
Q. hiya thanks for reading recently i asked about me and my best boy mate and have a ruined it for me and him since i told him i liked him because he was acting strange and more nice to me and the teasing had stopped and i got some good answers ...
A. 26 August 2008: Honesty will make things easier. When you both know how each other feels you can decide what to do. This wont be easy for either of youbut big prizes come at the end of big challenges (your best friendship back)
Good luck and be brave... (read in full...)
Every time I'm determined to tell him I love him, I lack the courage and tell him it's best if we stopped talking...
Q. Okay, So my ex, of about 5 months, broke up with me about 2 months ago. The reason why we broke up is because i had lost my job and i thought about getting a "sugar daddy", and i found one, but just exchanged emails and i chickened out. So i did NOT ...
A. 26 August 2008: Give him the letter if you are still interested in him. If not stay away from him, take away everything you own, from his house in one day and never see him again. Be strong.... (read in full...)
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