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*poilurself
writes:Hi all, my husband and i have been together for 5 yrs married for 3 and we constantly argue over inconsequential things... we work together and see each other 24/7 literally i think an getting to the point where want to see less of him... i kno that i should appreciate the fact than were 2gether all the time but its really frustrating. I want to be able to miss him wen his away and call him on the phone and say hey i really miss u and cant wait to see u but thats never gonna happen cause he says he wants to be with me always and never leave my side he cant go out on mini breaks cos he like to wake up next to me.I feel like am suffocating... i havent got many friends and i dont go out so its not like i can say hey hun im going on a night out! Im i wrong to feel that way or im i being completely self absorbed?? x Reply to this Question
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reader, Shifra  +, writes (27 October 2009):
love will strengthen through distance. being away from him for a while will make your love stongrer
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Hi Sweetheart
I no how you feel like a caged animal hunny you are a free spirit and need to fly sometimes as we all do. Get yourself a hobbie that a man can not go to, yoga anything sweetheart something that he just wont be able to come..I no its hard as he said NO! To the amsterdam trip, It really sounds to me as if he is so terrified of loosing you the this is some kind of insecurity on his part making you feel suffocated..Has he in the past lost someone close to him? As he is clinging on to you like your going to dissapear..Its very sad for you as well as him as he must have a real insecurity problem....Im going to send you some links hun on self esteem for you so you can be strong at all times and a link on confidence in men to see if any of this applys to him love it may help you....You really need to get a hobbie that only women can do and YES!!!!you are going sweetheart, You have to be strong and say yes I need this time to myself, It doesnt mean I dont love you I need to think by myself and have some inner peace time just for me......
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html
http://menshealth.about.com/od/psychologicalissues/a/Self_Confidence.htm
Ive put one for you and one for you to read on mens self confidence it may help you love to help him..You could talk to him and let him know just how much this is hurting you, I no its hard without hurting him love and your not the hurting type...I hope this helps a little YOU TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): You should get a different job, or be transferred to a different location so that you're not working with him. Time apart while at work would really help the feeling of suffocation. I don't see my husband when he is at work, and it is just enough time apart so that I don't get sick of him. I actually want him to come home at night from work.
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reader, spoilurself +, writes (17 April 2008):
spoilurself is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnks you guys... its just that he wants to take a trip to Amsterdam and i ve said to him that i dont really fancy it as we been like loads of times and i always end up being the only female its a nuisance and he and his mates always end up the same places(RED LIGHT DIS n COFFEE SHOP)for those of u howve been u no exactly where im referring to so i said he can have a guys nite out and i can go out with our work mate even tho they like twice my age and he turned around and said flat out NO! He kisses me at work and curdles and hes all holdy handsy its like c mon hun its not the time or place but how do i say 2 him without offending him? I just feel like sum times he needs to give me a break so i can have me time!I go shopping he s there, day off hes there its like i seriously need to be alone now and if im in bed reading hell come in and curdle me and say i missed u its like im in the ver same building 2 sec away from u i need some time to read!!!!!! Sorry if this is a bit long but i ve got no one to confide in? Very sad i no! x
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (17 April 2008):
its healthy to have some time apart, it will make the time you spend together better, thats one reason why young love is more exciting than marriage. Spend a day without him with no contact and watch the happiness on both of your faes a you are reunited.
Its a win win situation because you will be happy to have time with out him and you will be happy to see him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): the problem is, you dont miss him!!! because your always with him. but then again, when you would miss him, you would long to wake up next to him and be with him all the time. what you need 2 do is get a bit of achange for a while. for instance, if you smoke everyday, it wont make a difference to you, but if you smoke after a month, it will give you a buzz. Go on a holiday with someone close to you, family or friend. and then you will learn to appriciate the time you have with him and never complain again as you will remember how u feel when hes not there with you. when you live with someone all the time it does at some point get suffocating. but then wen u get used to someone, you cant live without them, but you haent realised this yet cos you havent been away from him ever. i once felt the same, but me and my partner had a break up, and we both realised that we couldnt live without eachother.
hope i helped
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 Yes, it's normal. He isn't all of your life.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (17 April 2008):
 No hun what you need to do is make some new friends and go out atleast once a week give eachother a break. I'm sure he wants the same but hes prob got used to being with you so much thats all he knows. Suggest he goes out with his friends give you a bit of space. Or maby on a weekend take your self of shopping that will be a bit of you tim, even buy him something on your trip he should see why it's a good idea to have a little bit of space.
GOOD luck.
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reader, salvation +, writes (17 April 2008):
its very normal for you too feel this way. Being around someone 24/7 it ends up getting annoying i would talk to him about it and have a night out once every so often with your friends to get rid of the stress and frustration. Good luck
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