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... Send *ystify a private message | | | *ystify's profile:i live in the uk , yep bad enough...but i seem to of had far too much misfortune than would be considered my fair share,well , "what dont kill you only makes you stronger" , and i want to share the strengh's i found. i will only ever advise from some sort of experience so will always be fronm the heart, i am married but my husband dosent like this site much, feels it is quite negative sometimes, i feel we need to look after our mental health, i have learnt alot through pschycology and being a mental health nusre, then training in law, i want to share with others.
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How can I get rid of stretch marks?
Q. Im expecting at the moment, and i have a one year old. So my stomache is coverd in stretch marks and its maing me feel really un sexy for my long term partner. I wanted to know if there is any women that have the same problem or is there anyone that ...
A. 15 February 2006: stretchmarks may seem awful to us but to our husbands and partners they generally are not , , i think alot of men see our bodys as even more amazing after carrying thier child, my husband loves every strcth mark on my body! and that goes for every ... (read in full...)
Is 3 years too much difference?
Q. Hi.. I have just realized that a guy likes me that is 3 years younger than me. I am 21 and he is 18.. He is a friend of my friends, and my friend said that he is really mature for his age. We have totally hit it off, and are kinda dating now. I g...
A. 15 February 2006: my husband is 8 years younger than me we been together since he was 17 we dont notice it at all, 3 years is such a small age gap, i really wouldnt worry about it :0)... (read in full...)
What does: 'the worst possible way' mean?
Q. I am a female. I recently told a friend (married guy) who'd helped me out recently, that if he ever needed anything, to let me know. He said that he may need me one day in the "worst possible way". What does that mean??...
A. 12 February 2006: i dont think anyone could offer a definate explaination of this, only he really knows what he meant , maybe you should bring it up?!
my first impression though was that he was joking?! that "the worst possible way didnt mean anything in part... (read in full...)
Do good girls really finish last???
Q. I asked about whether my partner cared when he went out and didn't come home till 3am in the morning, drunk. I had gone home because of not feeling well and hoped he would be at least a little concerned and come home a little earlier. This didn't ...
A. 11 February 2006: you know how you feel and what you want which is good, there are plenty of "gentlemen" out there if you know in your mind you want better than this.
there is also the possibilty that he might change with a few talks and a little love and unde... (read in full...)
It's like he's bored with sex and it takes him *forever* to ejaculate!
Q. hi, iv been with my guy for about 2 years now, his always been really good at making love with me but he takes a really long time to ejaculate sometimes up to 1 to 2 hours and alot of the time we both just give up after about 1 hour because we are ...
A. 9 February 2006: it sounds like hes got so far into this porn that hes switched off to you even when you are "together" you say he wants to try new positions but gets frustrated cos they dont work, sounds like hes trying to act out what hes watching , but really ... (read in full...)
My breasts "leak" when I get turned on... Guys - is this a good thing or not?!
Q. im really nervouse about asking this, but i figure maybe i'll get some real answers if i put it out there to people i do not know. im 24, and ever since i became sexually active (age 17) guys would notice my breasts would "leak" when i became ...
A. 9 February 2006: wow! why dont my boobs do that :0(!, i cant speak for this particular thing as it dosent happen to me but i can say when breast feeding n stuff mine leaked and i never had any complaints in fact i really think it was quite a turn on :0)... (read in full...)
Caught my daughter playing "doctors and nurses" with the kid next store... Advice please?
Q. Hi I am 26 years old and have a 7 year old daughter. The other day she had our neighbors son (who is 8) over, and they were playing all afternoon like they frequently do. Well I was doing laundry and as I walked by her room, I heard a moan. I ...
A. 9 February 2006: when i was yur daughters age and maybe even younger i remember having a few games like this with a female friend the same age as me, one was spin the bottle where wed take our clothes off, and then another where wed runaround pretending to be a man ... (read in full...)
What can I send my soulmate for Valentine's Day?
Q. I'm in a long distance gay relationship with my soulmate, with whom i'll be getting married to, and love very much, and we want to spend our lives together. I want to get him something special for valentines day, but I'm a little confused as to what ...
A. 8 February 2006: the video idea sounds perfect ...id def go with that :0)... (read in full...)
Guys opinions wanted... Do you think that guys like a virgin? Or not?
Q. This question is more of a female wanting male opinions ( but all are welcome!). What do you think if a girl is a virgin? Would you less/more interested in her? What if she was a virgin but wanted to lose her virginity to you? My friends and I are ...
A. 8 February 2006: guys that are only interested in having sex with you , probably run at the knowledge of you being a virgin for many reasons, some have an attack of concience, realising it would be something be for you and they would just be using you, some think ... (read in full...)
He won't tell his parents I have a son and now I'm pregnant by him
Q. i have been goin out with this guy for 9 months, i really love him. i have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship and he and boyfriend get on great. i couldnt be happier. He is really close to his parents but he wont tell them i have a son ...
A. 8 February 2006: my husband wouldnt tell his parents anything about us either, i had to be the one to tell them i was pregnant with his baby and he didnt tell his parents we were getting married till we dropped the invtation round just a few weeks before the ... (read in full...)
My Dad reckons that guys only go for girls with big boobs no matter how pretty... Is it true?!
Q. ok, I'm 15 and I am just wondering, what is it that attracts most guys to a girl in the first place? I know the whole thing about how everyone likes something different etc etc, but my stepdad says 90% of teen guys want someone with big boobs no ...
A. 8 February 2006: your stepdad is a complete git for saying this to you!
i mean surely he is old enough to know that girls with smaller boobs do actually have boyfriends!
I have a brother like this , he thinks just because he is a man and he thinks , he assumes ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the definition of Love?
Q. I was told this, do you believe this is love or the starting point of it. “mmmm I don’t know what the definition of love is, but it's a feeling that you get for someone. Sometimes you don’t really notice it is there. Like when the person you l...
A. 8 February 2006: love is what keeps you going when everything is going wrong, love is the desire to protect, there is not enough love in this world, ... (read in full...)
LAdies-give me some creative, different ideas on Valentine's gifts for my gf.
Q. Bit of a different question now... Hi to all! Im sure you all know its valentines day next week. Im 19 and so is my girlfriend. We have been going out for exactly a month today. I'll be honest and say that i've never had to do anythin...
A. 8 February 2006: hi , the best present i ever recieved was a silver compact mirror with my name and "my angel" engraved on it , WOW!
but i also loved it when my husband bought me some smelly shower jelly (nice smelly) to share ;)
this year i am making a teddy be... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you ever be interested in a girl three years older than you?
Q. Can a 26yr old woman seriously, in good conscience, flirt with a 23yr old grad school classmate? Or is that just creepy? He is so cute, but so young; I feel a twinge of guilt when I catch myself flirting with him. And I can't tell whether he's ...
A. 8 February 2006: im 8 years older than my husband when i started senior school he was at playgroup, when i had finnished college and was working he was at primary school , it dosent add up to much when it comes down to it! three years sound pretty normal to me, i ... (read in full...)
He gets drunk and can't remember kissing some girl..can I ever trust him again?
Q. im going out with fiance for five years we have a 3year old child. when he drinks hes a totally diferent person while out last week we had an argument and he drank so much he just wasnt the same person .he was up at the bar talking to a girl and the ...
A. 8 February 2006: i totally agree with soulsister...this is probably the booze, and he prob was just on a drunken trip to proove whos boss by doing that, or to show/warn you he still can , id insist no more drinking, maybe though if hes normally fine it could prhaps ... (read in full...)
Why would he want her rather than me?
Q. Heres my problem..I have a hard time meeting guys. I am kind of picky but I just know what I want and dont want. I was so excited when I met this guy, and he felt the same way. We talked everyday for a few weeks (went out a couple of times)then all ...
A. 4 February 2006: who can explain why men like or dont like certain qualitys in girls , what i do know is that it is all good tht you have such a positive self image and with that sort of confidence dont worry youll have them at your feet in no time... (read in full...)
Am I cheating? Can I stop this without anyone getting hurt?
Q. This is a twister... My girlfriend and I broke up sort of, and we never spoke for approx three weeks. In those three weeks a friend of my cousin's stayed at my house. This friend is my age. In this time we got to know each other etc and she was ...
A. 4 February 2006: hi ,
why shouldnt your girlfriend find out? dosent she have a right to make her disisions based on the facts available?
i know if me and my fella split for just three weeks and he was already at it with someone else i would wanna know , its abou... (read in full...)
So lost and hurt... My wife says she hates me and wants to be rid of me, but won't say WHY!
Q. Please Help...I Am Lost and confused. Recently my wife of 16 years has told me she is no longer in love with me. We have 5 beautiful children ranging from 18mths to 9. She tells me she wants me to leave and that she hates me, but I don't know what ...
A. 4 February 2006: you have wrote little to explain your situation with your wife that might explain why she is being this way , is she depressed? not in love with you? angry at you? i really feel for you i have kids and could not imagine one night with out them and ... (read in full...)
Really clicked with the girl, and her family have met and like me. Should I tell them I'm 9 years older than her?
Q. I could really do with some people's opinions. Before Christmas I met a 17 year old girl and we clicked straightaway. We have loads in common, and have hardly been apart since. I have met most of her friends and seem to get on really well with...
A. 3 February 2006: this one really hits home with me , when it came to my younger man meeting my parents we told them he was 2 years older, just to keep the peace and it worked they loved him , unfortunatly my mum opened some post addressed to me saying he was ... (read in full...)
Am I foolish to be in love with a woman six years older?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm 17 years old and I'm in love with a 23 year old woman. We are really good friends and have spent nearly every day of the last five years in each others' company. She always comes to me when she needs a shoulder to cry ...
A. 3 February 2006: my husband was just younger than youwhen we met and i was older than this girl and its the best thing we did to get together , you wouldnt be foolish to to give it a go age dosent matter , try and get a few signals from her first by flirting ... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: hi ,
your parents arejust being normal parents , i wouldnt let my kids partners stay even if they were the same age, the thing is the family home is supposed to be a sanctuary a safe place where you return to at the end of the day and can just be y... (read in full...)
Why does he insist on retaining ties with so many of his ex-girlfriends?
Q. I am in dire need of advice. My boyfriend is 19 years older than me and we get along great...the majority of the time. I am having a lot of issues right now with him and his need to speak to his exes or any girl for that matter. He is a...
A. 3 February 2006: you are not crazy,just read this site if you are looking for confirmation you are not the only one who feels like this...i think most of us do to some extent, it is worrying though that it seems to be taking over your life, is there anything you ... (read in full...)
Been married 25 years. Husband is a liar and a porn-guy, but I hate thought of my kids dealing with divorce...
Q. I have been married 25 years and have had enough. I have put up with so much in my marriage, the first year he cheated on me. He says nothing happened but with all I have seen during the years I know he is a wonderful liar. He has a porn problem and ...
A. 3 February 2006: hi , i just wanted to agree with male anon, i too come from divorced parents, they split when i was 11 and although it hurt i had never felt so relieved! the tension that i felt between them even at that age was so painful to be growing up around ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: willy you are the only doing the trashing , i have not once said that you should not write what you wrote i have not told you to stop writing , i have not said that you are wrong, but you have trashed my opinions by writing them off as "issues" you ... (read in full...)
My home pregnancy tests come back negative, but I have all these symptoms...
Q. Hiya, I really need some help. Lately my stomach has gotten bigger and bigger. I kept getting headaches of an evening and constant backache (I have never had either of these before). I need to go to the bathroom like all the time, I feel nauseous ...
A. 3 February 2006: im not sure , these tests are not always right, but heres a few pointers , nail grow stronger, hair gets thicker, being very irritable, unexplicible tiredness, get another test in a week or 2 they dont work instantly... (read in full...)
She's too scared to take the Pill and I'm afraid she might get pregnant. Are condoms enough contraception for us?
Q. Maybe I'm being paranoid or something but it seems like a lot of people I went to school with have gotten their girlfriends pregnant at a young age. I'm worried that that might happen with me and my girlfriend and we'll mess up our career prospect...
A. 3 February 2006: the condom is quite effective as it protects youfrom more than just the pill , but the pill itself isnt 100% the best thing is to use the condom and if it spits get the morning after pill if she agrees, of course that is up to her . if you are so ... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend distance himself from his ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. They split up 2 years ago, and he and I have been dating for 2 years (and living together). The problem is that it really bothers me that she is still in the picture (after she dumped h...
A. 3 February 2006: hi, i undertstand what you are going through in a way, when i started seeing my ex his nefews alwasy said "i like you much better than susan" and so on, although it is the other way round, it is an unwelcome comparison!
you feel like you are alwa... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: my irony was not subtle i said almost what you said yet you got offended ...why ? if you got offended surely you must realise i would of when you first said those things.
i think you are being a little one sided to say you were offering help and... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: willy of course your first response didnt contain anything about me ...you wrote it before me! , but all i wrote after that was in agreement with you that the men who do like looking can get by on looking at thier woman instead, and that its healthy ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: whatever?! yep i can see that will help this person,
anon i read this page out to my husband and to my friend and to her husband and all of them agreed i am being started on here , i am not being arguementative , funny how you pro porn peeps alwa... (read in full...)
How do I get a break from a longtime relationship without feeling bad or regretting my choice?
Q. OK, I need advice.... I want to take a break from my one year relationship from my bf... But I don't know how without feeling bad about it or worse regretting. Any advice?...
A. 2 February 2006: the thing about this is that when someone calls a break in a relationship they do so because its what they want usually to the other persons despair, the thing is you have to remember it could always backfire...you get your break but the other ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: hang on i minute ..i got personnal?!!!!
i saw at least 3 personnal "digs" at me including a personel insult in your reply! i simply responded.
i "diss" pschycology for a reason , i studied it for years to but in the end i left because more and more... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: and by the way (THE WAY I SEE IT,and i understand others might not) there are not rules with how people enjoy sex , my husband loves speech and feelings and i like looking, this goes for so many people i know, too often we are told "we are men the ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: hi , i meant to write sometimes i wish i could say more an i really wish to help the people o respond to , :s... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: yes you are right willy this is a site to help others , which is why i added my view if i read a problem and i see what others have said im not saying they are not right by adding my view i am simply telling the person who has the problem a ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 31 January 2006: willywombat if "men " rely on visual stimulus to get turned on what is wrong with using the woman of thier dreams..thier partner!!!!!!!!!
a man with a healthy libido can easily get by on being with thier woman.
oh and when you fall in love if ... (read in full...)
I feel terrible about my past bad choices, and thinking about what I've done hurts my wife, too!
Q. I hope we can get some help here. I am married about 6 months. We are in our fortys and in our second marriages. We are sure we are perfect for each other in all ways. Our problems stem from my past before marriage about 20 years ago. I lived fo...
A. 30 January 2006: i am like your wife , everythings fine until one bad thought enters my head then it takes over and we end up disscussing it for hours, i kinda feel a bit depressed reading your story as i have only been going throughthis with my husband for 2 years ... (read in full...)
I need to go from my normal submissiveness to being more dominant in the bedroom...
Q. My boyfriend wants me to be more dominant in the bedroom and I'm not sure how to do that. I am normally submissive in nature but for him I'm willing to try to let out the dominant side. I'm not sure how. Any help is appreciated..thanks...
A. 30 January 2006: get to know what you enjoy , get on top, tease him with kisses licks and nibbles , (find out what he likes) ears? lips? nipples? take control of whats happening , do what you like to do , hold his hands down or take his hands and put them where you ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over the hurt of my boyfriend chatting to other girls...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. The problem is, during the first few months of the relationship, I found out that he was talking to a lot of girls online, and not just a friendly chat. Well obviously this hurt me, but he has ...
A. 30 January 2006: im sure if i can offer anything other than to let you know you are not the only one, my husband did stuff like that to me for like the first 3 months at least of our relationship, and i just couldnt let him go even though it was so hurtful and i ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 30 January 2006: no you are not over reaccting as so many people have said you are intitled to feel what you feel, i would never date a man who was into porn, so many people seem to want others to sucumb to porn or advise people to live with it to keep someones porn ... (read in full...)
I just want a second chance...
Q. just lookin 4 some help on here with my ex weve been goin out quite a long time, it started out perfect and everything but u kno how things go downhill. i made my mistakes but i never cheated on her or hit her but i was just a real asshole alo...
A. 30 January 2006: she probably rang you crying because she does still have feelings for you , maybe wishing that she could feel how she did in the begining? i cant say for sure but i do know thats how i felt and i know now deep inside all i wanted back then was for ... (read in full...)
I just want a second chance...
Q. just lookin 4 some help on here with my ex weve been goin out quite a long time, it started out perfect and everything but u kno how things go downhill. i made my mistakes but i never cheated on her or hit her but i was just a real asshole alo...
A. 30 January 2006: when i first met my husband i really adored him, like he all that ever mattered but like you say he just was a complete arsehole to me and i kept trying and trying untill one day it just went too far and i stopped loving him, (i stayed with him cos ... (read in full...)
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