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writes: i have been goin out with this guy for 9 months, i really love him. i have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship and he and boyfriend get on great. i couldnt be happier. He is really close to his parents but he wont tell them i have a son even though he said hes not ashamed of it and then a few days ago i found out i am pregnant with his child and i really dont know what do to. i dont think i can have an abortion if he asked and i couldnt bear it if he turns his back on me! im only 21.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): The problem is not the parents or their attitude. Hes an adult now, time to man up. He cant do the right thing thats on him not them. Cowards always hide behind how mean they will be. Convienient as if they never do then they can never be wrong. You never know they might be wonderful about it. So far all you have is a cowards word for it. If he cant man up then the pattern will continue in every part of his life. Thats going to be your problem then. If he doesnt have a pair you cant grow them for him.
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reader, mystify +, writes (8 February 2006):
 my husband wouldnt tell his parents anything about us either, i had to be the one to tell them i was pregnant with his baby and he didnt tell his parents we were getting married till we dropped the invtation round just a few weeks before the wedding.
i think with my husband it wa that his parents were just really condesending towards him , wanted so much of him but thought very little of him, he could never please them and more to the point i could never be good enough for him, i feel that my husband was protecting me from them and thier destructiveness, but at the end of the day it did feel a little like ,'ok but i want them to see you are proud of me' suggest going round to visit them explain to him you want him to show them he is proud of you and your son , i should tell him about your baby though, whatever the outcome is its better than worrying about what the outcome is going to be, he sounds caring enough to be there for you.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (8 February 2006):
 Sort this out now, he has to tell them you have a son and are now pregnant with his baby, you are now a family and they need to know this.
He needs to sit them down and just be honest and if he wont then what future do you have, you can not have the new baby going off to grandads and leaving your son at home, this is just not fair on him.
What is your partner afraid of, are they a deeply religiouse family?
you no loger have the time to play games so get it sorted.
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