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writes: Hi I am 26 years old and have a 7 year old daughter. The other day she had our neighbors son (who is 8) over, and they were playing all afternoon like they frequently do. Well I was doing laundry and as I walked by her room, I heard a moan. I immediatley looked in, as the door was open a crack, and saw him touching her privates, and her hand wrapped around his. (they were both wearing shirts but no pants)I was so shocked I dropped the laundry basket and ran in the room. I demanded to know what they were doing, and my daughter said "we saw it on tv, and it feels good". The thing is, I dont even have cable so it must have been something at our neighbors house. I told them to get dressed, and that night i had a talk with my daughter. She confessed that they did this almost every time the two of them play, and she also told me they have a game they play where basically he rubs his penis on her vagina but doesnt put it in. I am in shock and disbelief. I told his mother, and she felt the same way I did, but she took it much lighter, and has since forgotten it. I refuse to let them play together. Sorry this is long, but does anyone have any advice as to what to do? Im just very scared my daughter will become sexual at a very young age, more so than this. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2022): I can't think why your so shocked, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's OK, it seems that you didn't have a childhood many kids. I remember watching cousins and neighborhood kids doing Dr. ? Nurse? often, because I follow in their footsteps. I know I was 4-5yrs. old when I this happened, and in my first year in school, my mum was sent for to take me home, I was on my knees under the desk fingering and tasting the girl I sat with, her panties pulled to one thigh to give me access. I was also"caught"by my grandma doing the same sat on the steps to her back staircase, with my female cousin same age as me 5, and Grandma threw a dish of water over us from behind and screamed and ranted at us. So much so my Aunt and Mum hear her and dragged us home. When at my aunts house mum dried me and my was changed into dry clothes in front of me, they didn't shout threaten wagg a finger, they chatted quietly and giggled, and my cousin and I we should not do that it's not allowed. Did it stop us?? I don't about my cousin but I carried on with other kids playing the game, many many times into the future, in den's we build in the back yards or erect tents in fields, girls and boys, and play as a group, you show me yours and I'll show you mine. I didn't grow up a rapist or a pedo. and I don't know any friends that did, or the girls, all married now to normal guys with normal kids and lives, I don't know about them, but If I "caught" my kid I would explain the game was wrong, and keep my eye on them, but never stop the friend in crime coming to my home or playing with my kid. Tell me??? why was the other kid to blame? because he was male, what if he had been the one being lead by your daughter??? Are your family special?
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reader, Artie Whitefox  +, writes (5 September 2021):
Wicked people say caught. People caught Jesus in gethsemane. The consept of caught makes god's image to hide in the shadows. God does not want it's image, to do that to itself. Only adults is a lie. We are the children of God. Doesn't the church people teach anyone anything? Cartoons having sheaths on mammals and testicles, with a penis being seen, are not things that threaten their lives. Devils fooled dumb people. Can you imagine God saying upon entering a room thanking he stepped into an awkward situation, wanting them to stop. Wouldn't God be the awkward being? God is not hampered by doors. Can you imagine God looking down at an odd angle saying what parents are saying? It would be extremely weird, and scary. God will not call the nude that he made X raited. God's enemy wants to X out all life. That is where the X in X raited came from. Artie Whitefox.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): noting much wron i used do at 8 but with anothe mal age 8 your is ok along as no intercourse
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reader, nofrills +, writes (11 February 2006):
 Make the kids play where you can see them and what they are doing, to be left alone in the bedroom to play is a bad idea and should not have been allowed in the first place.These kids are bored, make sure there is suitable entertainment available to them when this boy comes over to your house and don't allow your daughter to play at his house, as his mother doesn't seem to give a s**t.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): Goodness, this is awkward! Even though your daughter is young, you should give her the 'sex talk' where you tell her what sex is, and the reason boys have a penis and girls have a vagina..... You know the stuff. Maybe that will shock her a little bit. Talk to the boys mum again, tell her how shocked you are, and tell her you don't want your daughter to become sexual at a young age, and then ask her if she could speak to her son about it. Also, tell your daughter that you won't let her see this boy again unless she stops this sexual behaviour and plays with him normally. Hope I helped.
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reader, mystify +, writes (9 February 2006):
 when i was yur daughters age and maybe even younger i remember having a few games like this with a female friend the same age as me, one was spin the bottle where wed take our clothes off, and then another where wed runaround pretending to be a man trying to catch his mermaid, then another which i really cant get my head aroung now where we lay on each other in a sexual way kissing and touching, they were all things basically seen on tv , the thing is like you my mum didnt let me watch that sort of stuff but my friend had access to all her parents x rated videos and when i went round there her parents let us watch that stuff without telling my mum,
but it didnt really affect me, i grew up normal , except a little awkward around my friend , i couldnt of imagined not being allowed to see her anymore and we are still friends, niether of us are even that way inclined.
i think its best to just keep an eye on them ask them to play whereyou can keep an eye on them.
its shocking and upsetting but not too uncommon, although id make a point of telling her she must keep her clothes on
good luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): Hey,
I can see why your so worried,
At 7 years old it is probaly just experimenting, finding about the other sexes body which is just curiosity.
Just make it absolutly clear that sexual behavoir is only for adults who truly love each other and that she shouldnt be doing it, but dont end your daughters friendship with this boy because it will create a taboo between your daughter and boys, maybe you could rent them a cartoon so there not bored. Believe it or not millions of young chldren will have some sort of encounter with the other sex before 10, its purely curiosity. As long as you keep your foot firmly down i dont see any further problems,
Good Luck And Best Wishes,
John
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2006): i was told when i was younger that a similar situation was happing with myself and a male friend of mine when we were about 7 yrs old, i didnt even know that i did anything like that and i didnt turn out sexually active at a young age, i was still a virgin till i was 18. she may not even know what she was really doing and did it because she saw it on tv and it looked fun. maybe explain to her she cant do that sorta thing and explain why. i dont think anything bad will come from this.
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