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Girls, how long do you want your guys to last in bed?

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Question - (2 August 2013) 12 Answers - (Newest, 4 August 2013)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

How long do you want your guys to last in bed, girls? How long have your guys lasted? What's the record? Tell us about it. How long is too long and how short is too short during sex???

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A female reader, Scotlass65 United Kingdom +, writes (4 August 2013):

Scotlass65 agony aunt20 minutes is definately too short, great set should last for hours but if its a quickie I'd give it 40 minutes

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2013):

If you are self conscious about how long you last, let me share a little secret with you. If a female decides to hurt you, she WILL find a sexual flaw in you and she will make fun of it, because she knows it hurts most. Don't believe the jokes women make about guys with small penises or the ones who don't last long enough.

This is the reality: A thick penis causes pain, a long penis hits the cervix, and a man who lasts too long will cause too much friction. She will end up with a numb vagina, or even worse, a burning vagina.

Take me for an example. I used to last 30-40 minutes when I married my wife. She was so happy she told all of her friends and she told me how jealous they were. But after a while, she realized she wanted it to last less. Now we try to limit the vaginal sex to 10 minutes, and anal to 3. She says the vagina goes numb after 10 minutes and the anus burns after 3.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013):

I don't think after 20 minutes it's even healthy. My excitement goes down and I become somewhat dry downthere. But that's just me. No, I never liked it too long. I think men who have it very long having problems with finishing. I had one guy though who couldn't last more than a minute,so that was sad also, because I really couldn't understand what happened and he was already asleep.

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (2 August 2013):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntSageOldGuy made me chuckle.

It's not really about how long sex lasts (though to be honest, it's a big let down if it's 1-2 minutes, and very uncomfortable after half an hour or so).

It's about the build up, and mutual satisfaction. By which I mean plenty of foreplay, and not rolling over and falling asleep if you've had an orgasm and she hasn't (your penis might have lost its mojo but your fingers and tongue still work).

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A female reader, MsSadie United States +, writes (2 August 2013):

MsSadie agony auntPerson1235 nailed this answer.

And honestly, who's looking at the clock during a romp?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013):

For me, anything over 20 minutes is too long as it starts to chafe down there! Too short is anything under 5 minutes. As others have said though, it's much more about technique than it is about stamina. Its perfectly possible to have the best 10 minutes of your life with a guy who knows what he's doing ;)

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 August 2013):

Honeypie agony auntIt's really not about how LONG it lasts, it's about how GOOD it is while going.

Now if you want to talk about marathon "sex" look into Tantric sex.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013):

Mmmm, it all depends! I think 30 minutes is too long, and 5 minutes is a wee bit too short...I would like to add that I DO NOT mind my man finishing earlier at all as long as he then enthusiastically turns his attention to me... ;)

And lots of foreplay. Yes.

It's all about equality in bed!

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A male reader, TrancedRhythmEar Saudi Arabia +, writes (2 August 2013):

TrancedRhythmEar agony auntAre u serious? Dont worry about this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2013):

Too long is when everything is done, everyone is happy, and then at 3am, I get woken up by something poking at me. And it's not a finger.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (2 August 2013):

person12345 agony auntMost women don't orgasm from intercourse, so amazing sex usually has little to do with lasting and way more to do with tons of "foreplay" and/or oral.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (2 August 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntOnce, I lasted for seven months.... Then, she asked me; "Where is our relationship going?"..... and I was out of there before the next commercial came on the telly....

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