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writes:I met a guy in Facebook two weeks ago. I sent him a friend request and he accepted me. he sent me a message after he accepted my request." Hello I just want to say hi you are beautiful" and I responded to him saying hi and we kept chatting. after we chatted for almost an hour he gave me his number and told me to call him when I can.after that I texted him and he responded to my text and chatted for a while. after that I called him and we talked for almost two hours. our conversation kept going and we talked about a lot of things. I really like him and I wanted to tell him but I am nervous and scared. I asked him if he has a girlfriend and he says no. the reason I asked was because I wanted to see why he was talking to me. I asked him why he was talking to me and for what reason? and he said he feels like he knows me for a long time when he talks to me. and he feels good when he talks to me. and I said well what is it that you want from me is it friendship? and he said no I want it to be morethan a friendship. he said he had talked or hang out with a lot of ladies but they never asked him about the things I asked him. I can't figure him out because when I say I miss u he is kind of cold. he doesn't show me any kind of love. I know its kind of early I might be rushing but I want to be loved and I want that from him. please help me what should I do? should I keep talking to him and see what happens or leave him alone? he doesn't call that much I am the one who calls him . please help me figure this out. he seems like he doesn't care but I cant tell. please please help cause he is so sweet when I talk to him the only thing is I cant figure out if he is shy to tell me how he feels or explain any of his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2013): I got all your answers and comments and would like to say thank you. You all said if i tell him i miss him he will run away. Its been three days and he hasn't called or texted. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2013): It's very hard in the beginning when you want to connect with someone, and we don't even realize when we seem too needy and the other person doesn't feel the same way. The things they say and their actions are totally different. When I was on the dating site the guys on there say so many things. Do you take it seriously? No. One guy said that we could be married and another told me he loves me and we haven't even talked on the phone just chatting. Then I get what I call the wishers. "I wish I lived closer to you." "I wish I was there with you so I could hold your hand." They both live far away. So I say to myself, whatever. And the funny thing is I got carried away with the fantasies, but these guys will start the fantasy, get you hooked, and then pull away when you show any kind of romantic feelings of love. Don't think things like, "He must think I don't like him because I haven't answered his text." Most guys knowhow to survive. It's a game. But you want to come out the winner. Good luck to you.
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (29 July 2013):
 Facebook is so impersonal. You're going to have to meet him in person if you hope for him to develop feelings for you. Saying you miss him might be freaking him out a little. How can you really miss someone you've never met? He might be worried you're getting attached too quickly, and maybe he just wants something casual for right now. The only way to find out for sure is to meet him. If you ask him to meet, and he says no or doesn't respond, then your only choice is to move on.
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reader, llifton +, writes (29 July 2013):
 sweetheart, take it easy and relax. you say you want to be loved, but you don't even know this guy yet. you're coming across rather needy and that right there, will make him run for the hills immediately. stop rushing things and enjoy getting to know each other. you just met. if you act needy, it's a recipe for him to completely disappear. trust me. let him contact you and just enjoy the getting to know each other process.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): You have only known him two weeks darling you do not know what he is like in person and you want to be loved by him.Sorry if I am being harsh but you need to wake up to reality this is an internet relationship he will continue to play games with you and give you mixed signals because when you do the online dating there are other girls on his profile he could be talking to several and one time men are good at multitasking. So do not be surprised or be in disillusion that your the only one he is saying sweet stuff too cause chances are with these guys who are online with profile of women do flirt and probably saying the same thing to few girls. Come on you only known each other 2 weeks how you can trust someone in that time, I understand you connect but it will soon fade away if you do not get out of the internet zone and consider making a real relationship with someone you know and met before.Personally think it is infatuation darling and you need to RUN before you get caught up in the sweet words!
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (29 July 2013):
 How about you meet in person?
If he doesn't want to meet in person, then you can be pretty sure that this "relationship" isn't going anywhere and it's time to start looking for love elsewhere. Preferably not Facebook since it's not really meant to be used as a dating site. If you're too shy or busy to get out and meet people in person, then at least sign up for an actual dating site.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (29 July 2013):
 Be careful not to get caught up in a fantasy. You 'met' him 2 weeks ago, haven't actually met him in real life, and you already say you want to be loved and loved by him. You are getting carried away with a fantasy about who this man is, and imagining a future relationship with him.
He is a stranger at this point - you can't expect love from him, and to be blunt it's no wonder he backs off when you say you miss him. You've got too attached. You want love, he probably just wants a bit of flirting or an ego stroke. I don't think he's shy, or he wouldn't have started chatting in the first place.
You have 2 options: meet him in real life and start dating/ start up a real life friendship... (though I have a feeling he won't agree to meeting up in real life), or knock it on the head and realise it was just a fantasy. Then get out and about and meet friends (male and female) in real life.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2013): Sorry but are you sure about how you feel?
You haven't met him yet in person. i assume.
You don't want to have relationship with someone who is a complete stranger.
You might be attracted to him, but you don't know him well.
Facebook is not a good place in meeting someone special.
It could be anywhere in the world, but not on net.
Very few people on net are sincere. Most of them are insincere. How to tell the difference. Their words is different from their actions. Just like the guy you are telling about.
I'm sure you are a pretty girl, otherwise he wont be drawn to your pretty photo's. Just be careful in handling your emotions. Don't trust everything you hear from a person whom you have met from face book.
I suggest for you to make friends to a lot of people. not just concentrate on one person. i do believe that there is such thing as one in a million. Maybe there is a sincere guy out there from net, but you can't find him if your focus with this guy who clearly doesn't care that much for you. otherwise you wont find yourself writing here.
If a guy is serious about you, you will never had any wonderland moments. he will make it clear to you, By calling and texting you everyday. No misses. no excuses, unless his in comma. If he don't then clearly his not into you.
So, don't take him seriously.
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