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writes:About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and make sure no one would bail at the last second. But ever since I pitched in my money my girlfriend has been acting different. I haven't been happy with her and I honestly feel claustrophobic in this relationship.I think she is blackmailing me. She is acting like a bitch because she knows her friends have my money and I can't break up with her. Her change of personality has been so drastic and unattractive...I would honestly do anything to get out of this relationship now that she has shown her true colors..jeez..she starts fights everyday and tells me I'm a horrible person and horrible boyfriend but I'm actually a nice guy and spend a ton of time with her. What should I do? I can't just throw 500 bucks down the drain and I already took off work for this vacations which will be next week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help everyone. I tried talking to her about her attitude today and just as I expected she turned the tables on me and said her attitude was because I'm an inadequate and selfish boyfriend and all that good stuff...blah. I'm so tired of fighting, but I'm still going to go on the vacation. A broke college kid like me can't afford to trash 500 bucks and not even see the beach! I'm sure it will be memorable. ha.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 July 2013):
Go and do your own thing. You're not a prime target for mugging, that's the older people. Young people don't have any money and the thugs know that. Besides, if you're careful everything will be fine. I've been in some pretty dangerous places and never had issues.
I'd distance yourself from her without breaking up with her. When you go on the vacation just do your own thing and don't let her have any say on your plans. When you get back home, dump her and block her from all your means of communication.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 July 2013):
 AS a guy who's G/F stole a set of silverware (with box) that was worth more than $3000..... I'd say that $500 is pretty inexpensive as a cost to dump a girl who you think doesn't give a whit about you......
Good luck....
P.S. If any of you knows Marynette Bollinger, who lives in Georgia,.... please let her know that I really DO expect her to return my silverware to me.....
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (24 July 2013):
 I have to disagree with the people suggesting that you just go off on your own for this vacation, especially if it's abroad. Maybe you're not as likely to get raped as a young woman is, but, as a young tourist, you're still a prime target for getting mugged.
The only thing that you can really do is tell your girlfriend to knock off her rude behavior, and pull away a little bit. It'll make the vacation awkward, but hopefully you can still enjoy your time away from work. Then when it's over, break up with her completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): If it is next week then I am assuming you uave the ticket.
If you do or when you have it (not before as she may do something for you not to go if she if being a bitch) ask her why..
I am gonna guess though that maybe she was expecting you to help her out with her share as your the BF, which by the way, is bull crap as it is her responsibly.
If she is still being a bitch then tell her the vacation is gonna be make or brake for you both. If she is still acting like you say she is and you are not happy. Dump her and move on.
Oh and if tries to get a rise out of you by flirting with men on the holiday (some girl would) then she is absolutely is not worth it!
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reader, addicted2sweetness  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Hey dude,sorry to hear you're going through this trouble, It is very weird that you noticed her sudden change in behaviour....how was she before the arguments and the holiday plans? How are her friends like? Did you have any trouble or issues with them before in any way? Maybe shes manipulated or brain washed or they have plans which they are keeping from you and its not right.Have you approached her about her behaviour? Have you spoken to her friends? In any loving relationship communication is the key, dont be afraid to express to her how you feel and what she is doing is wrong because its never nice to be on the receiving end of manipulation, arguments and confusions. There is however two options...1. Since you took time off work for the holiday and pitched in the money go to the holiday and ignore her and her friends and do your own thing. You probably need time and space to yourself away from the pressures of work and this craziness.2. Demand for your money back, its your money and you could always have a reason for cancellation. Its YOUR money not theirs. Good luck with everything dude, you do sound like a genuine and nice guy :)
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reader, Makar  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Go on vacation and find someone there to date temporarely. She will be pissed and will try to return you. Women are jealous - easy.
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