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writes:Hi, I'm looking for some advice on whether to send my ex a Valentine's card. We were together 9 years, lived together for 7 years, but finally split up September 2009 after coming to a stuttering end when I found out he was 'messing around' with a female work colleague...we split, he apologised, grovelled, we worked out why it happened, got back together and things were better than ever for both of us... until I discovered last summer that he was engaging in sex-texting with 3 random girls, and had 'fooled around' with another female colleague, which he said was because he was stressed out at work and felt lonely, as I work too (??!). He again grovelled, said he wanted us to get married and have kids, didn't want to loose me, but we ended things in September. He said he didn't want to hurt me again, wanted some time by himself. I have given him space since then (no contact, and I even moved to a different country for a while!) but can't stop loving him. I want to let him know how I feel, and thought about sending him a card for Valentine's Day to tell him that I miss him, love him, and hope he's happy... I think life is too short to not be true to your feelings, but perhaps sending him a card would be a bad idea? I am not expecting a card from him, and don't expect any response if I do send him a card. I guess I just wanted to let him know how I feel. But I'd really appreciate your advice on whether this sounds a good idea or a bad idea, please. Thanks. x
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reader, junebug81409  +, writes (13 February 2010):
Dont do it.if anything does happen like if he answers back and you two get back together he is gonna hurt u again!honey its gonna take time for u to get over him bcuz u two was together for a long time so its understandable why u feel like this.but honestly i think u are doing a good job moving out and having no contact with him.thats what you need to do is just keep your head up and dont look back your smart and be careful.i do agree with u on letting out your feelings bcuz its a waste of time and life not letting ur true feelings out but its gonna be a bigger waste of time when u guys get back together and he messes around on u again and breaks ur heart ya know?""""""good luck"""""""
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reader, defeated  +, writes (13 February 2010):
well the proof is in the pudding, messed around once, u forgave, he messed around again, people these days just dont know how to keep a commitment.
walk away, take it as a life lesson
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (13 February 2010):
 No, do not send him a Valentine's Day card, nor contact him ever. Sorry, that's blunt, but the guy has cheated on you twice and has apologized both times. What makes you think if the two of you get back together again (or get married, per his request), that he won't cheat on you again? Forget about this guy - you'll find much better.
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