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writes:SO recently ive been working out as hard as possible for football and ive been running but for some reason i am not getting cut and im starting track today, and i was wondering how i can get what i want so i can score 8s and 9s (girls) cause ive been told, im handsome, confident, outgoing, able to hold good conversations, but for some reason i cant get a gf, and im starting to think that the only way is to get cut like i want Reply to this Question
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I'm totally with CaringGuy here - we females are human beings, not numbers!
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reader, visione +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Acting shallow will only attract shallow people. ;)
You should figure out what kind of girl you are looking for, and act accordingly. If you just want a girl who is "hot" and looks good next to you then I don't think you should try relationships yet. What if some girl just liked you for your looks and didn't care anything about you as a person?
You are very young, people change a LOT physically around that age for the next few years of your life.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 February 2010):
Your problem is that you're looking at women as objects, not people. If you want a girlfriend, stop 'scoring' them, and really get to know them instead.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Maybe you are aiming too high in comparison to what you have to offer?
Getting yourself all cut is not going to change your personality, how you present yourself, how you treat others, etc. Are you sure your self assesment is the same as others perceptions? Confident to you might be cocky and arrogant to another, ... outgoing to you might be loud and boisterous to others, ... a good conversationalist might mean you lack the ability to to truly listen to others ... get what I mean?
Maybe you should step back, have an objective look, and instead of focusing soley on what you see as your qualities, observe what others are actually looking for. If you are all you say you are, then, no you should not have a problem, but the fact you do have a problem suggests you are missing something here. Maybe you just come across shallow for assessing potentials like you have a stack of score cards to hold up.
Anyway, can't hurt to tone yourself up, but if you think that is the 'key' to picking up, you will probably only score hot and shallow bimbo's with nothing going on between the ears and who are only interested in your body, ...till the next and better set of abs come along.
If that is what you want, then go for it, ... if you want something more meaningful tho, then look beyond the surface of both others and yourself.
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reader, Faraday +, writes (1 February 2010):
 I wish that were in English; if I could understand it I might be able to help!
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