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writes: My husband does not seem to be attracted to me anymore.He does not say it ,but he never touching me or looks at me sexy... Now he is very polite guy, and kind.He is not rude with me, but I just see our sex life dead. I did put on weight over the years,not really fat ,but out of shape. Can you imagine, all woman,who puts on weight, losing their husbands sexual desire? That is sad, because than it means ,when we get old and ugly ,our husband does not like us. I see my husband changing, he has extra fat on him ,and so on , but I still find him attractive. Is this the man ,who turns off more form no longer fit and beautiful body ? I just don't know what to think? Do I have to look like a model to keep sex alive? What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Thanks so much for all the answers! I think,I feel a bit better now,and try to lose weight ..So will see!!! If he is still not interested,I still have the benefit to look good,so I don't lose a thing.Yet,I can't be sure,that I will turn him back. He is in the kind of old guy routine,about work all day,and no fun... makes jack a dull man....Well,I do feel sexy,but if he does not,I can't change that. I guess,if things gets really sad,I might have to do something bigger..I really don't want to divorce.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 I frankly and honestly wish to guide age old couple, as I myself is also age old person. Sex has bring you all intimacy, love, pleasure in marriage life, but sex also bring some responsibility like children responsibility, job's responsibility, and so many duty and right of other person. And, all these duties and responsibilities felt as burden, so Life became as habit. If you still feel, that sex should be back with its original meaning: pleasure, romance, intimacy etc then it is possible because sex has inherent meaning, means it is not depend upon physical shape, age etc. it is minor details, and not principle fact.
The principle fact and, or meaning of sex is intimacy, romance, love etc. and you can trust this fact, it is more trust worthy, even more than relationship. Any relationship be good or bad, but meaning of sex, if properly understood, cannot be change.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 January 2010):
I would place all my money on the fact he loves you, but has perhaps seen that you have lost interest in him as well. So this is the wake up call your marriage needs. Tell him you feel that the relationship needs some work, and get going out on dates and get to know each other again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): You do not have to look like a model to be a normal weight. Those are two different things. He doesn't find you attractive probably because you are overweight. No-one is saying you have to look like a model but extra weight is not atrractive. You can't force him not to think otherwise. Lose some weight and see what happens. Love is one thing, lust is something else.
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reader, vanillafrost  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 No you don't have to look like a model. U still love ur husband no matter what. It's inner beauty that is the most important. And i'm sure he sees that in you too.
Now, how to keep you sex life alive. Maybe you should try to go to the gym and exercise a little? Put on some nice clothes. Flirty eyecontact can be very sexy. Wink :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): nooo way u dont have to look like a model. look the secret to being sexy IS FEELN SEXY!! if u let ur some few pound that u gain get to u then thats when u start feel insecure about ur self. come on mama he married u for a reason now lets show him and remind him what were one of those reasons. try to buy sexy langerie and surprise him spice it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): Old saying: Men marry women thinking they will never change. Women marry men hoping to change them.
That said.. I you have put on weight and don't like being out of shape,, get up and do something about it! First for your own health and well being,, and secondly for your husband.
No chance you thought to talk to him about it by any chance??
One last thing learn together to spice up your sex lives, both of you.
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 No, you don't have to look like a model - it's all about inner beauty. Do YOU feel sexy and beautiful?
In terms of your husband not looking at you sexily anymore, try something different for a change. Have a romantic dinner, candlelight, etc. Cuddle, get to know one another again. Sometimes people just start to go through the motions of life and you just have to stop the ride and try something new.
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