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15 May 2007: I was talking in email with a friend about what age I lost my virginity and that moved on to a discussion about what age most women do and why and how they feel about it. I'm not looking for stories here, by the way, I do have a point I'm getting ...
Love by any other name, would be as sweet
No replies yet... 15 May 2007: Coming off of Valentine's Day and after a random thought provoked by an email, I'm pondering zoophilia and agalmatophilia. Yeah, I do mean the love of animals and inanimate objects. Wait, wait! Don't go leaving that dirty joke on my comments just...
Abide with me, fast falls the eventide
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15 May 2007: I was in London the past two days, attending a training session in Dementia in Research. We went through the usual background--what types of dementia are out there, what the various brain scans look like, even did the usual 'funny' anecdotes about ...
Maximum Appeal
No replies yet... 15 May 2007: There is a list out there in journal-world that I read on a young woman's journal that she had apparently gotten from somewhere else; I don't know where, she doesn't indicate that. But, really as I have no intention of linking the whole journal ...
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'm in a serious relationship..so how can I get myself to stop liking this guy?
Q. I like this guy a lot. I used to not think much of him the first few months I knew him, but then the more I saw of him (which is often cuz I work with him), the more I liked him. And now I don't even need to see him to think about him. He's not just ...
A. 25 April 2007: My advice is to stop trying to stop liking this guy. Ever get the giggles in church? You know how the harder you try to fight them, the worse they are? Same thing with crushes. And that is all this is...just a crush. They are intense and they ... (read in full...)
I'm looking to date men my age but I only get old guys coming after me! What can I do?
Q. I am getting really depressed because there seem to be no available men around my age or slightly younger as potential boyfriend material. I keep being told I look really young for my age (approx 24 on average) when in fact I am 31, so I can't ...
A. 25 April 2007: I think that it is not quite so dire as your friends suggest. The men in their mid-20s to early 30s aren't all gay, married, or engaged--the real problem with feeling that only older men find you attractive is that older men are usually much more ... (read in full...)
Variations in my discharge is bothering me...could it be the pill or what?
Q. I have been on birth control for about 6 to 7 months. Never in my life have I had a problem with my discharge but within the last maybe 3 to 4 months Ive had variations with my discharge and my main concern is the way it tastes. It's affecting my ...
A. 25 April 2007: Changes in your discharge are normal and they seem to happen more when you are quite young (just before and during puberty) and again when your biological clock starts to...well, kick into overdrive. You may find that there is a cyclical pattern to ... (read in full...)
My husband is on dating sites looking for casual sex! What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid i have just found out that my husband has asked for casual sex on the internet dating sites, i am shocked to discover this as i know our sex life was not very active at the moment but i didnt think it warranted this kind of behaviour!I am ...
A. 25 April 2007: I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know it must have felt like a horrible betrayal to discover your husband on these sites, because it WAS a horrible betrayal.
I am concerned about the history of this behaviour. A man using se... (read in full...)
I'm very shy and have problems talking to girls! Any advice?
Q. I'm very shy. i have dificulty talking to girls i have dificulty meeting new people i have dificulty starting a conversation i'm afraid everybody will think i'm weired. to get a better idea of me, look at my other posts. thnx....
A. 25 April 2007: There are two tricks for getting over shyness--first, know and fully believe the truth: that every single person in the world is afraid of looking foolish. Every fear you have of looking dumb in front of a girl, every single other person has felt ... (read in full...)
I allowed him to finger me but I don't want to take this further, yet. Is it too late to tell him?
Q. im 19 and a virgin, i let my boyfriend finger me (i was a little surprised at myself) but im not sure if im ready to go "further" is it to late to tell him????? and what will he think of me? help!...
A. 22 November 2006: Of course it's not too late to tell him! It is never too late to stop things, when you realize that you are not ready. Simply explain to him that you got a bit carried away, but you want to slow things back down a bit. I am sure that he will ... (read in full...)
I was cheated on! Again! I've lost hope in men..are there decent ones out there?
Q. well it happened again. I was cheated on. I went out with this guy who i really liked. We got on so well most of the time. However we started arguing one week he decided he'd had enough and we split up. Im only young 15 he was nearly 16. I found out ...
A. 19 November 2006: There are plenty of really wonderful guys out there who wouldn't dream of cheating on their girlfriend. A great deal of dating is trial and error--you'll soon learn to recognize the signs that a guy isn't all you hope. Until then, you've just got ... (read in full...)
Is he or is he not interested? I'm confused by his lack of interest and distant behaviour!
Q. Hey. This guy iv been seein 4 abt 8-9 weeks now has just moved house (down the road from me) and now he seems kinda distant from me. B4 he moved he was tellin me how much he likes me and was guna try but now hes moved (been there abt 1 week) hes ...
A. 19 November 2006: I would relax, if I were you. I just moved house myself and I can tell you that it is ten times more stressful and tiring than people think it should be. He will be very tired, and finding it hard to get into a rhythm with his new place. If he ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 years old and I have sexual feelings for my bf! What should I do?
Q. I think I want to have sex with my boy friend, but I'm only 12-13. I'm having these sexually feelings for him and dreams too for over three months.What should i do? I've been dating him for years, like since I was nine or ten. But it's the fis...
A. 19 November 2006: Your feelings are completely normal and right on time. They definitely don't make you dirty. It is just that at this age that you really start getting hormones just flooding your body and it can feel a bit overwhelming.
However, I do think th... (read in full...)
Blood on the sheets after sex with her! Could I have done something by accident?
Q. Hey, Whilst having sex recently with my girlfriend we noticed blood on the sheets and realised she was bleeding from her vagina. She had come off her period a day or 2 ago. Just wondering what the courses could be? Could i have cut her by accid...
A. 19 November 2006: If she had just come off her period, it is completely possible that you were just seeing traces of the final period. How much blood was it? Was it pinkish or bright red?
If you were seeing bright blood and enough that it was highly noticeab... (read in full...)
My ex bf and I have feelings for each other..but we both have partners. What now?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now, things are great. I recently bumped into my ex boyfriend whom i was with for 11 months before the guy i am with now. We've become friendly again, and im beginging to become attracted to him ...
A. 19 November 2006: It is important to think about why you broke up with your ex in the first place. Sometimes, a bit of time and distance can put the problems in a relationship in perspective and gives each person a clearer head to try again. However, it is also ... (read in full...)
How likely is it to pass on HSV 1 during oral sex?
Q. Quick question: how likely is it to pass on HSV 1 during oral sex? Coldsores aren't sexually transmitted and i know they're generally located and stay above the waist, but could one contract it during oral? thanks so much!...
A. 19 November 2006: Coldsores can be sexually transmitted. If you engage in oral sex while you have an active coldsore, the virus can be transmitted to the genitals.
The best way to avoid transmission is to avoid any oral-genital contact while you have a sore, bu... (read in full...)
Anything my bf tries, cannot bring me to orgasm! We need help...any good tips?
Q. I have been here before for advice and got some really good answers from people, thats why I've come back! Ok, so the thing is I am a 20 year old female. I currently have a bf of 18 months and everything between us is great the only thing is I ...
A. 17 November 2006: I know you are a bit reticent about the idea of using a vibrator, but in all honesty...there is nothing faster, better, or easier for the first time. And once you have those first couple of orgasms, you'll know better what they actually feel like ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my depress boyfriend... ? He's bringing me down too!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now, sometimes it feels like we get real close, and then other times he distants himself from me. We talked the other night and he told me he was depressed and didn't know why. This depression of ...
A. 14 November 2006: Depression is unbelievably hard on a relationship--you have my deepest sympathies, because I know how difficult your situation is and it can stay bad for a long time.
First and most importantly, you do have to remember to take care of yourself... (read in full...)
I'm falling for someone else and can't bring myself to end it with my current bf!
Q. I dont know what to do. I'm in a bit of a rut with my current boyfriend. I've been with him since I was only 15 and I'm now 19. I feel like I've out grown the relationship and hes done some things in the past that i cant get over. The problem is ...
A. 14 November 2006: I think you need to understand that the two issues--that of whether or not to leave your current boyfriend, and whether to pursue this new guy--are two seperate things. It is unhealthy to think "Shall I leave Guy A for Guy B?" You need to take ... (read in full...)
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