I need Edward...for now
Q. Hello, My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she co...
A. 25 July 2010: I'm torn. I don't want to tell you to do away with Edward, but it is alarming for someone of your age to have an imaginary friend.
Do you physically see him? I would assume that physically seeing him is more alarming than a the occasional sooting ... (read in full...)
How can I get birth control without my parents knowing?
Q. how can i get on birth control if i dont wnat my parents to find out i have had sex? they are strong lutherans and if they find out im not a virgin, ill be screwed. but on the other hand, if they find out im pregnant, ill be kicked out. how can i ...
A. 25 July 2010: Suggest it to regulate your monthly gift. I actually recommend just being upfront about it, but if you really want to keep it a secret, there are a lot of benefits to birth control besides just controlling birth. Perhaps you can get them on board ... (read in full...)
I'm big but can't get anything!
Q. Im a 20 year old guy, who has just never been lucky in the dating department. I dont know why, Im not overly attractive but Im not ugly either. And its not like Im not gifted down stairs either. Most girls would love an 8 inch long penis thats 6 ...
A. 25 July 2010: Really? Your penis is 8 inches long and 6 inches thick..? Not that I don't believe you but... well I don't really believe you. Anyways.. it's not about looks. I have a good friend of mine that was blessed with a tremendous body, but is just abou... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not feeling like I cheated on her??
Q. Me and my girlfriend had been together for 4 years. It was getting to the point in the relationship where I had to decide if I was going to marry this person or not. In thinking about this for a while I became really confused and asked to take a ...
A. 25 July 2010: Well... I think it was a selfish move, but you already acknowledge that. I actually empathize with her more than you, and understand where she is coming from. This is a big blow to her, but if you truly want her then you now have to fight for it. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's family reunion?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to go to his family reunion this Friday... But I don't think I feel comfortable going. It's not that I don't want to meet his family or whatever. It's just every time we're around other people and it's not just us hanging out, ...
A. 8 July 2010: A family reunion is a big deal. Why don't you just go with him and try to make friends with his family? It's not his job to constantly attend to you; if he did that his family would think it was an unhealthy relationship. If you don't feel ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant but doesn't want to be with me!
Q. i been dating this girl for over 2 years,im 21 and she 18.we hust found out in may 2010 that she preg.at first we were thinking of aborting but some how her mom found out.i went to her house about 3 days later n we all sat down her mom,dad,her and ...
A. 5 July 2010: Well, my OWN thoughts on this type of situation, is that it is not only her child, but yours. You are just as involved in that life as she is. If you really want to try and make it work, you have to really fight for it. It sounds like she might just ... (read in full...)
I feel so stressed and drained by my "friends"
Q. I always try to be there for my friends and no matter what I do it isn't good enough. Friend A: I thought we were close, but she started to ditch me and stopped contacting me. When she would re-surface, I would pick her up, drive to a restaurant ...
A. 5 July 2010: There are times in your life when you find yourself surrounded by bad company, and you don't know how it all happened. It happens to a lot of people, myself included.
My advice: Find new friends.
New friends can come from multiple places.... (read in full...)
Can lack of sexual connection cause me to lose my attraction towards her?
Q. Mod note: OP's own title I've been dating a girl for about five months now and about a month ago we decided to stop having sex until we are married, she couldn't handle lying to her parents about it and this made us both feel guilty so we've been...
A. 26 June 2010: No absolutely not. I think you both made the right decision, and you will be able to grow closer to her through this and see her in a completely different light. Good luck to both of you.... (read in full...)
Pregnant by the brother of my fiance...
Q. I'm 20 I've been dating this guy 'Jake' for 3 year now and about 2 months ago he proposed. I said yes. later that day though I had sex with his brother 'Cody'. Jake and I have NOT had sex. Point is that I'm pregnant and the only person I've had sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: Later that day?? Dang... Well, I think you need to face this head on. Tell your fiancée and his brother of the pregnancy. Your fiancée will feel betrayed by two very close people in his life, but both you and his brother will be forced to face the ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 22 June 2010: You still have a long way to go before you can even think of making that decision.
I would encourage you to rethink your future, but that's not your question. If you want my advice, message me. This breaks my heart.
In Him,
Brennan.... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 22 June 2010: Hey, I actually had a very long struggle with pornography that ruined my previous relationship. I know a bit about this.
This is going to sound bad, but you are being an enabler, you are not helping him. Porn is an addiction, and it's a lust-fil... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the feelings I have for my friend's ex?
Q. Hey fellow Aunts; some of you might know me, some not. I haven't really been on for a couple months, but came back on today and decided to ask a question. I'm going to give a bit (well TBH, more than a bit) of background so you understand every...
A. 20 June 2010: "Isn't that enough?"
Yes, it really is. Thank you. Just hearing that was a reliever. I just couldn't see clearly, I needed someone else to do it for me.... (read in full...)
I don't want to take her from my friend but if she likes me???
Q. I went to a party the other day for my friend we decided to prank call people we ended up prank calling his girlfriend. At first we kinda pranked her then we just called her back and was being stupid but anyway after that i started talking to her i ...
A. 20 June 2010: Dude, sorry but you have to follow bro-code. You can't do that. Even if she flirts with you, it's your man's girl. That's your broseph, you understand what I'm saying? Bro-code overrides all this stuff.
Sorry man but you can't. If you do, you'll l... (read in full...)
Saw a teacher at a strip club
Q. hi, im just turned 18 and im a senior in high school. a few weeks ago i went to a strip club for my brothers bacholor party.one of the stripers was 1 of my teachers.who is like 24. durin the last 2 weeks of school since she been given be signs like ...
A. 20 June 2010: Jmtmj, I don't think you read it correctly. He said "durin the last 2 weeks of school since she been given be signs like..."
I don't really understand how she can do that in school without other students noticing... that seems pretty strange.... (read in full...)
Finally got a date with her
Q. Hello. Today, the girl that I have liked for almost 4 years agreed to go on a date with me. I don't know if she is just humoring me or what, but I want to be able to show her that I could be a great boyfriend. Can anyone give me some ideas on how I ...
A. 20 June 2010: Nope, be yourself. If you try to be anything else, and you fail, you will regret everything. But if you are yourself and just act natural, if she doesn't bite then it's just not going to work out.... (read in full...)
Found photos of his ex
Q. Following a female intuition-thing, I snooped through all the thumb drives my b/f has in his briefcase while he was asleep. When he goes on business trips, he always takes photos of the job site, the people he works with, I don't know what I was ...
A. 20 June 2010: This might be nothing! First thing, is relax and take a step back. He might not want to forget everything he had with her, but he doesn't love her. He even may not realize it's in there, if you found it among dozens of other pictures. If you ... (read in full...)
Do interfaith relationships ever work out?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. We have a seven month old daughter. A few months before she was born, my boyfriend started talking a lot about religion, namely chrisianity. In the present day he now seems to be obsessed with ...
A. 19 June 2010: I'm a born-again Christian, and also believe word-for-word what the Bible teaches. But at the same time, I've grown up with it and am comfortable enough to only bring it up when necessary. Multiple times, I've seen newly born-again friends who just ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to be hated by females but loved by males?
Q. is it weird to be hated by females but loved males? i hang out with males more then i hang out with females and some of my male friends think im weird because of that. females think that im a slut/flirt when they see me hanging out with my group of ...
A. 18 May 2010: My best friend is a girl, and she has a LOT more guy friends than girl friends. I've talked to her about it and here's her reason: Girls are drama, guys are honest and fun. It's as simple as that. If you would like more female companionship, there ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends sexual past is causing trouble for me...
Q. I just found this site and decided to ask about something that is causing me trouble to see what others think. I have been with my current girlfriend for two years... She is older than me, and I was a virgin when I met her which I think is one of ...
A. 15 May 2010: I agree with Yos. I've never been in your shoes, but I might in the future. I've thought about it a lot, and basically the point is that she's had pasts... but she is with you. People go through and make decisions based on here and now, she didn't ... (read in full...)
Does the fact I am not madly attacted to guys mean I am bi curious?
Q. Hello, I'm 17 years old and I'm a senior in high school. Lately, I've been depressed lately because I can't seem to get it out of my head that I'm bi-curious. I've always wondered the actual logic behind being attracted to only one sex. I wonder how ...
A. 7 May 2010: Dude, honestly, I think you are straight.
We can all tell if a guy is attractive or not, most guys just don't admit that because they think that makes them gay. The logic behind us only being attracted to one (the opposite) sex, is for mating r... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity to another guy while we were on a break!
Q. Hi everyone, Well me and my girlfriend were both virgins, well I still am and we have been going out for 4 years. We were waiting for a right time for us to be together before we actually do this and we both agreed. We both love each other so mu...
A. 6 May 2010: Anytime, broseph. Let me know if there are any updates, and good luck with everything.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity to another guy while we were on a break!
Q. Hi everyone, Well me and my girlfriend were both virgins, well I still am and we have been going out for 4 years. We were waiting for a right time for us to be together before we actually do this and we both agreed. We both love each other so mu...
A. 6 May 2010: That is definitely a possibility. Tell her that you are wounded, and that it will take some time to heal, but you will do your best.
With women, sex is so emotional. In this sense, she really only had physical sex. She did not emotiona... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
Q. Hello, I have a female friend that ended up telling me she is attracted to me and she really likes me. She is an attractive woman and I do like her and her personality. We hang out every weekend with our neighbors. The only thing is I'm married a...
A. 6 May 2010: Their marriage is broken, he probably doesn't care. He definitely does a little on the outside, but he's already proven to be pretty heartless by cheating without worries.
Like you said, you want to let her down easy without causing a scene. T... (read in full...)
If I get pregnant, will he get into trouble?
Q. Hi there. I am 16 years and my boyfriend is 25.We have been dating for almost 2 years. If he makes me pregnant and i then go stay with him and his family, will he get into any kind of trouble?? ...
A. 5 May 2010: In my state, you would. Even if the parents don't press charges it's still illegal to have sex with a minor under consent age. ... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
Q. Hello, I have a female friend that ended up telling me she is attracted to me and she really likes me. She is an attractive woman and I do like her and her personality. We hang out every weekend with our neighbors. The only thing is I'm married a...
A. 5 May 2010: Whoa whoa whoa Raiders, he's not trying to cheat on his wife. He's looking for a way to tell the woman without causing a scene.
First thing, tell your wife. If the woman takes rejection poorly, she may try to tell your wife that you came on to he... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity to another guy while we were on a break!
Q. Hi everyone, Well me and my girlfriend were both virgins, well I still am and we have been going out for 4 years. We were waiting for a right time for us to be together before we actually do this and we both agreed. We both love each other so mu...
A. 4 May 2010: Well my reason was going to include a lot of Biblical reference. But if someone isn't Christian, it doesn't really mean much. That answer is a lot more backed up by reasons that I can understand, so I wanted to give that one if I could. You see ... (read in full...)
Men please HELP me!
Q. So for every woman,the universal face of charming, is george clooney. Men that are "smooth" seem to wisk us away and make us go head over heals. For men, who is that? What is smooth for men? what qualities to men find charming in a woman? What ...
A. 4 May 2010: Nice, comfortable with herself, and NOT sleazy! I want her to be picky about who she associates herself with, it's a sign of confidence. If she sleeps around, I don't want it. I like women to respect themselves.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost her virginity to another guy while we were on a break!
Q. Hi everyone, Well me and my girlfriend were both virgins, well I still am and we have been going out for 4 years. We were waiting for a right time for us to be together before we actually do this and we both agreed. We both love each other so mu...
A. 4 May 2010: Wow man... this is intense. My heart goes out to you. I think you should give her a second chance. I have my whole list of reasons, but I'm a Christian and if you aren't you might not understand. Are you a Christian? I'll check back a few times to ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to someone I barely know and I don't know why I did it!
Q. I lost my virginity to someone I barely know, I'm 23 and I dont know why I did it. i was always a good girl with muslim values, good parents. I always wanted to wait for my husband to do it. But I had done everything else including oral, with ...
A. 4 May 2010: Hey girl, you made a mistake, but in the end you will be fine. I'm saving myself for marriage, and I would like my wife to have done the same. But I know that if she hasn't, then it doesn't change a thing. I will still love her and be devoted t... (read in full...)
Should I keep chasing her or let her go?
Q. There is a girl at my job I like I asked her if she had a boyfriend she said yes I told her he was lucky cause I think she is pritty, I ask her if it was ok for me to call her she said yes then one day I ask her if could take her out to dinner and ...
A. 4 May 2010: Hey man, I've been in similar situations before. She isn't looking for a relationship from you. She likes the attention she is getting from you, and isn't going to push you away, but I doubt she'd risk her current relationship for someone new. If ... (read in full...)
How can I make the move from locking eyes to simply talking with the girl?
Q. I know it's easy, but I tend to make eye contact with cute girls often. I see girls on campus, when I'm out to eat, etc. Sometimes the girl will look away, other times we'll lock eyes. ...and continue to check each other out. I have no idea how...
A. 2 May 2010: Hey man, just don't think about it so much! You don't need some clever way to talk to her. You don't need to bump into each other and have her drop all of her books (I always laugh at that one)! All it takes is like 2 seconds of confidence. The ... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in guys?
Q. Hey, what does a girl really see in a guy. I be myself and try to be the understandable, loving and funny. Do girls care for personalities or looks more? I'm a bit chubby yet built though not cut. I'm an all around guy that would stand up for ...
A. 2 May 2010: I'm not going to answer what a girl looks for. Be yourself. As far as the first impression goes, just be confident. That's half the battle. Well, probably even more than half the battle.
Oh and 15 is young, I know you aren't necessarily saying t... (read in full...)
To take risks with finding a girlfriend, or not to take risks?
Q. *OP's own title* I happen to know someone who blames other people that he can't get a girlfriend. He whines that he wishes he'd never been born. He lost his virginity to a prostitute. He says he is a good guy and that he can't understand why the ...
A. 2 May 2010: YES you need to get back out there! Sure, you will be rejected numerous times but who cares? If you had some girl come hit on you, and you just were not interested, you would probably forget about her the week after. Same thing applies vice-versa! ... (read in full...)
I don't want to just hit on girls until one of them says yes, ..but is it reasonable to think a connection could happen naturally?
Q. It seems like everyone I know that's my age has had sex numerous times. I'm feeling really left behind, last time I had a girl friend was in 9th grade...I'm almost 20 years old now. First the girl this girl that I liked lost her virginity, then ...
A. 2 May 2010: Oh, and I'm a virgin by choice. Sorry if you read that and just thought "Well I'm not going to listen to him he's a virgin too"... (read in full...)
I don't want to just hit on girls until one of them says yes, ..but is it reasonable to think a connection could happen naturally?
Q. It seems like everyone I know that's my age has had sex numerous times. I'm feeling really left behind, last time I had a girl friend was in 9th grade...I'm almost 20 years old now. First the girl this girl that I liked lost her virginity, then ...
A. 2 May 2010: Hey bud, I'm 19, almost 20, and a virgin too. You aren't alone. Actually, you are far from alone. But, that's not the real issue here. You want to know how you can approach a girl without just being a douche-bag that hits on everyone.
If you see ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my parents to let me have a boyfriend?
Q. I am having a little promblem getting through to my parents that i can have a boyfriend. Thay dont understand that i am about to go to high school..... what can i do to kinda like drag them into understand that i love someone and i want to spend ...
A. 2 May 2010: Well, you don't "love" them yet... please don't rush things too fast. You are young, but definitely old enough to start having a boyfriend if you want to. However, your parents have the right mindset in this. Many high school relationships are ... (read in full...)
I secretly fancy this woman at work...
Q. I secretly fancy this woman at work. Problem is I don't know if she is interested in women. I am planning to leave my job next month and also want to express my feelings to her but don't know how. She could be married or have a boyfriend. I am a ...
A. 1 May 2010: Well, considering you don't know if she's in a relationship at all, you must not know much about her. I know that's the point of dating... but in your position... what is the ratio of gay/straight women? It's a pretty big difference. I would ... (read in full...)
I like the wrong guy?!
Q. Okay, there are two potential boyfriends in my life: Guy A and Guy B. Guy A is totally perverted, kind of mean, but pretty good-looking. Guy B is really, really nice, smart, religious, outgoing, fun, and, on paper, my soul mate. The thing is, I like ...
A. 30 April 2010: I had a girl in my life who was PERFECT on paper... but after two months of trying things out, I realized I really just didn't click with her. I wanted her, but just didn't like her! At the same time, though, not every guy that you do have a crush ... (read in full...)
Boob jobs usually end in divorce?
Q. Hi all, enjoyed the site so I thought I would join and ask a few "burning questions" to hear what a different group thinks. Please bear with me, I'm not trying to come across as accusing ANYONE of anything with this question/stateme...
A. 30 April 2010: A lot of women who receive these "treatments" get them for their husbands who "don't even look at [them] anymore", thinking it will suddenly make their husband love them again. Then, after it doesn't work, they make the remark "I've changed so much ... (read in full...)
Lusting is wrong... or is it?
Q. Yeah, im a 16 year old kid and having some issues with myself, mostly to do with lust. I know that lust is wrong. When i used to lust it made me want to masturbate. When i did, it felt normal. When i fell in love for the first time i stopped because ...
A. 29 April 2010: Hey bud, I was addicted to porn for a LOOONG time, and I quit looking at it just before my first love and I met. When we broke up, the cycle started over. But I have enough control now to not look at porn! My reason is religious, but maybe yours ... (read in full...)
Are his actions justified by my cheating?
Q. Hi, so ive been seeing this guy for a few months now and about a month ago i cheated on him with my ex. i felt so bad afterwards and expected it to be over but he didnt leave me. hes 19 and im 16 btw. then.... last weekend i did it again. i ...
A. 28 April 2010: Oh please. If my girlfriend cheated, I would flip ape sh**. He had an emotional breakdown. Girls cry in these situations, a lot of guys get out anger. It's a way to vent. He went a little too far with his comments, but at least he just punched his ... (read in full...)
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