Are his actions justified by my cheating?
Q. Hi, so ive been seeing this guy for a few months now and about a month ago i cheated on him with my ex. i felt so bad afterwards and expected it to be over but he didnt leave me. hes 19 and im 16 btw. then.... last weekend i did it again. i ...
A. 28 April 2010: Oh please. If my girlfriend cheated, I would flip ape sh**. He had an emotional breakdown. Girls cry in these situations, a lot of guys get out anger. It's a way to vent. He went a little too far with his comments, but at least he just punched his ... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work, but he admitted to molesting his sister
Q. My boyfriend just recently told me he had a dark secret. It took me hours to convince him to tell me. After I broke through to him he told me he molested his sister when he was about 11 or 12 and she was 8. He paid her money to give him blowjobs and ...
A. 28 April 2010: Well, q, I don't know if we can infer he has no regret from this post. A sociopath is one who can't empathize with others. In my mind, this has been tearing him apart, and he needed to tell someone. Now, the OP is the one who is only thinking of ... (read in full...)
How do I get over these dreams of my ex? What do they mean and how can I stop them?
Q. I broke up with my ex of 1.75 years a month ago. To be honest, I think we still loved each other (at least I still loved him), but I wasn't really a priority to him anymore. I was always left in the dust, and I don't think he was really ready for a ...
A. 28 April 2010: Chigirl... it says 1.75, as in 21 months.
And OP, once I heard someone tell me it takes twice the amount of time you went out to fully get over someone.. Now I think this is an exaggeration, as you will surely not take 3.5 years to get over him... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work, but he admitted to molesting his sister
Q. My boyfriend just recently told me he had a dark secret. It took me hours to convince him to tell me. After I broke through to him he told me he molested his sister when he was about 11 or 12 and she was 8. He paid her money to give him blowjobs and ...
A. 28 April 2010: Hon I don't think this is just about your relationship anymore. This is a little bit deeper than that. If he has help, he will not kill himself. You need to talk to an adult and tell them everything, preferably your counselor at school. But also ... (read in full...)
love my best friend who I also live with..
Q. I know there are a million people who have been through this but right now I feel like I'm the only one. I have a great job and live in a great city. I broke up with my ex girlfriend over 9 months ago now. My problem is I'm in love with my b...
A. 28 April 2010: This may crush you, but I was very recently in the same boat. And I discovered that I would rather be best friends than start a relationship.
Now let me take a step back and tell you my story. It will help you understand what I'm about to say. I u... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work, but he admitted to molesting his sister
Q. My boyfriend just recently told me he had a dark secret. It took me hours to convince him to tell me. After I broke through to him he told me he molested his sister when he was about 11 or 12 and she was 8. He paid her money to give him blowjobs and ...
A. 28 April 2010: They both need counseling. Honestly, he's probably not that messed up. Around that time, a lot of guys get curious about down there, and they don't know what to do with it. Problem with him was he DID know what to do, but didn't know boundaries. ... (read in full...)
Is their brother-sister relationship abnormal?
Q. Brother- Sister situation My boyfriend (27 years old)and his sister (24 years) have a relation that makes me very uncomfortable because- 1. They don't mind walking in to each other when one of them is actually using the bathroom like in the tub...
A. 28 April 2010: Eh I sleep with friends who are girls all the time without anything sexual going on. And it's nice to go to bed at the same time, it's comforting. Most likely, he's always been a protective big brother and they built a very trusting relationship. If ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and I love my straight best friend!
Q. i'm gay and i love my straight best friend, but he doesn't treat me like that. i always give him clues that i love him but he reacts negatively or doesn't react at all. even my classmates are noticing it but i think he treats me like i don't exist ...
A. 27 April 2010: You don't love him, there is no relationship. You might have a pretty deep crush, but it isn't love. He's straight, and will never like you like that. Sorry bud but it ain't gonna work.... (read in full...)
A questions for all the guys out there: Girl A, Girl B, or Girl C?
Q. My question is not because I would ever change myself. I just want to hear what guys actually and truly think. I'm going to name three stereotypical girls. (Only sort of stereotypical, mainly just three different personalities). Tell me which you ...
A. 27 April 2010: To clarify my last post, what I mean is really you are asking this question and getting an answer from the same type of guy. We are not a good sample. A better sample would be asking Facebook friends or something, but of course that wouldn't work ... (read in full...)
A questions for all the guys out there: Girl A, Girl B, or Girl C?
Q. My question is not because I would ever change myself. I just want to hear what guys actually and truly think. I'm going to name three stereotypical girls. (Only sort of stereotypical, mainly just three different personalities). Tell me which you ...
A. 27 April 2010: I'm not going to change my answer, but hey just because most of us didn't choose you doesn't mean another guy won't.
Think about the guys that are on this site. Stereotyping a bit, pretty much all of us are emotional men and are really into ser... (read in full...)
I'm only willing to date women who are Christian and in my area of attractiveness. How can I get better at dating?
Q. Hi, First off, I'm not too concerned about this, I'm more just curious if there is anything else I can do. Secondly, I'm a Christian man really only willing to date women who strive after Christ with my passion, and are in my area of attracti...
A. 27 April 2010: I guess this is pretty much all I'm gonna get.. XD
I appreciate everything, especially Emily's response. This wasn't a huge issue in my life, but you did help me out! Thanks!!... (read in full...)
Virgos and Pisces?
Q. why do they say Virgo and Pisces are not compatible? Im a Pisces who has the Virgo rising so I'm half Virgo and half Pisces.Im very picky and anti germ freak like a Virgo.but sometimes i can be clutter but most of the time im clean.i day dream a ...
A. 27 April 2010: ClownCupid, I will be honest here, but not as brutal as many other people on this site. You can choose to read on or not, your decision.
The Virgo/Pisces stuff is complete bull. None of it is accurate, nor does it have any reasoning behind i... (read in full...)
She doesn't know I'm married after 1 year relationship
Q. Dear Cupid, I live in Shanghai and have been in a good relationship with a 28 year old Chinese girl for almost a year, I am 37 years old. She is a very sweet girl and I feel she truly loves me. She is traditional and wants to get married soo...
A. 27 April 2010: Solaris, this is a sticky situation. I was about to just yell at you before seeing that you have been separated for a few years. You SHOULD have told her in the beginning, regardless of the other relationship, but I understand so the question is now ... (read in full...)
Porn is taking over his life! What can I do?
Q. My husband spends more time looking at and downloading porn than he does with me. He wont even let me watch it with him. What do i do? ...
A. 26 April 2010: Porn can be an addiction. I have been addicted to porn before, and it ruined my relationship. Now, I do everything I can to stay away from it. He has you, he doesn't need porn. If he is a real man, he would be working to fight his addiction if it ... (read in full...)
If fiancee was drugged said no, and doesn't remember, doesn't that qualify her as a virgin?
Q. My fiancee and I are both graduating college next month and getting married this summer. We are both virgins and both wanted to stay that way for marriage. Problem is my fiancee had a situation about 3 years ago, and now she's saying things to...
A. 26 April 2010: She is all hung up over being a virgin or not, but the real question is "Is she still pure?", and that answer is yes. Who cares if the doctor would call her a virgin or not, both of us know she's still pure! You need to convince her of that and make ... (read in full...)
After almost 3 years he says he likes me alot but doesn't love me "YET"???!!
Q. Ok so I have a question. I am 21 years old and he is 24 I have been with this guy for almost 3 years. I would think he loves me but when I ask him he always says he is not in love with me. He always says he really likes me a lot but he does not...
A. 26 April 2010: I will not tell another woman that I love her until I marry her. Personally, I think relationships nowadays get too involved before marriage. So, maybe he feels kind of the same way. He doesn't want to say he loves you, because saying that is a ... (read in full...)
A questions for all the guys out there: Girl A, Girl B, or Girl C?
Q. My question is not because I would ever change myself. I just want to hear what guys actually and truly think. I'm going to name three stereotypical girls. (Only sort of stereotypical, mainly just three different personalities). Tell me which you ...
A. 25 April 2010: C all the way! I'm a Christian myself, so that has a huge impact on the decision, but she will also make the perfect wife. "A" seems super fun, a great girl to get to know and have as a fun friend. "B" also sounds cool, a lot like my best friend (... (read in full...)
I'm only willing to date women who are Christian and in my area of attractiveness. How can I get better at dating?
Q. Hi, First off, I'm not too concerned about this, I'm more just curious if there is anything else I can do. Secondly, I'm a Christian man really only willing to date women who strive after Christ with my passion, and are in my area of attracti...
A. 25 April 2010: Thanks, Emily! That is something to keep in mind. I'm still open to more answers, keep 'em coming!... (read in full...)
I cant get over his past! Why sleep with so many women when he is gay, not bi?
Q. I'm a twenty-year-old gay guy. I'm a virgin and I've waited my entire life to find that one right person to share sex with - something so important to me. I understand that sex doesn't have to be something extremely important and that lots of people ...
A. 25 April 2010: I have a friend who has been doing the exact same thing as your boyfriend. He is an openly gay man, who claims to not be attracted to women at all. However, he continues to sleep around with women and men (he is not in a committed relationship). My ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and still a virgin. Is this normal?
Q. Im a male, 19, never had a girlfriend and still and virgin. And now im depressed (well probably not really depressed, i just feel really low) and worried sick about it virtually all the time. I dont really know what it is thats making me worry, i ...
A. 21 April 2010: I'm a 19 year old virgin guy as well :)
Though mine is by choice (saving myself), I still have insecurities every once in awhile, much the same as yours. I know I'm handsome, I know I have charm, but I don't pursue a woman until I'm totally ... (read in full...)
Feeling a little jealous...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and things are going very well between us. She is attractive, and gets approached often by guys. This makes me a little jealous, but I've told her it doesn't bother me. I don't want to be ...
A. 21 April 2010: I agree with both The Gentle Man and the second post, but I also want to add that you may want to talk to him about it, clear the air. You know as well as I do that men respect face-to-face encounters more than anything, so if you confront him and ... (read in full...)
How can I show her that I trust her?
Q. hi, i have a bit of a concern/ worry for my gf. Its a bit mixed up, but: She thinks that i do not trust her much, when my questions are general noseyness and not wanting suprises. She knows i trust her, she asks if i would like to look through her...
A. 21 April 2010: My OWN opinion, and I don't know you two personally so please take what you will, is that she is not ready for you. You seem able to look at things from an outward perspective, and you are also able to analyze situations in a mature manner. Y... (read in full...)
Was he just being mannerly?
Q. The other day there was this guy and he gave up his seat in study for my friend and then he wouldnt sit anywhere near her after lunch. Does that mean that he he likes her because she asked me about him and they talk a lot. Does he like her or not or ...
A. 21 April 2010: Most likely, he is just being a nice guy. But, if he is single, there is no reason why it can't turn into more than that! Tell her to flirt with him more and see if he catches on and returns the flirtation. If he isn't interested, I'm sure he is a ... (read in full...)
He's not in my life any more and I'm sooooo miserable!
Q. I broke up with him and now i'm really sad. at school he doesn't seem to mind that we broke up, he even seems happy about it, but after school my texts my cousin alot cussing her out and blaming her for us breaking up. she doesn't like him so he ...
A. 21 April 2010: When my ex and I broke up, I felt like my world ended. Everything was miserable. But, I am now SO happy that we ended, my life would not be as good now if we were still together. If you weren't 100% happy, and were settling for him in any way, there ... (read in full...)
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