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I need Edward...for now

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Question - (25 July 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 26 July 2010)
A female Ireland age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello,

My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html

She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she couldn't do it too well herself.

When I was getting bullied, life was extremely difficult for me. The problems at school, coupled with issues and home made it practically unbearable. I withdrew into myself completely.

I discovered Edward in a meditation exercise. At first I knew him as my "spirit guide". He guides me and keeps me safe.

Edward is indescribable. I know myself that he cannot be real, yet he feels real. He makes me feel completely secure, confidant and wanted.

Of course, when I look at this secularly, I can see how people think that I've made this up. I can even find explanations for aspects of Edward that I have come up with, eg:

1.) He tells me I am adopted. This could reflect the issues with my family as it would be easier for me to cope if I didn't believe I was truly a part of it.

2.) I was never close with my father and relationships with boyfriends can be very troubled. The way Edward tells me he loves me etc. and makes me feel safe probably reflects my need for a male support figure.

There are more things, but I don't think I need to type them. You get the picture anyway.

My belief is that I should be allowed to stay with Edward, at least for now. He stopped me attempting suicide again, and I know that as long as he is here, I will never try it again.

Until life gets better, ie: my brother gets out of this horrible violent stage he is in, I need Edward with me.

Thank You for your time. X

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010):

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So many things. Anyway, this seems like a shut case for now.

Thanks to everyone who replied X

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (26 July 2010):

RAINORFIRE agony auntWhats wrong with twilght

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010):

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Okay, there are a lot of responses here, I'll do my best to answer them.

Firstly, I've never been able to put my finger on exactly what he is to me. I think he might be a kind of spiritual extension of someone who does physically exist, or at least I hope he is.

As for the situation at home, there is literally nothing we can do. Believe me, we have tried everything. All that we can do now is get him taken into care, and I wouldn't wish the Irish State Care system on my worst enemy.

I have been very sick this year with pneumonia and pleurisy. As a result, every two months I get a full check-up, including blood tests and full-body scans, so there is no question of anything physically wrong with me.

As for psychological help, until recently I was attending family therapy, on my own as well as with my other siblings. I refused to go anymore because they just couldn't understand the situation in my home. Unless you live there, you will not be able to.

Oh and Edward is NOTHING to do with Twilight. I actually cannot stand that series :L

And I don't see Edward in hallucinations or anything.

My brother is 13, two years younger than I am. My Mum does her best to protect me, and so far I haven't sustained any injury off him that's left a mark. He tends to hit my elder brother more and call me names.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010):

I know that there are going to be people who give you a lot of flak and call you crazy or schizo...and some may give me flak for my advice.....

I'm not going to suggest not to talk to a Dr. because you need to make sure that you are healthy and ok. What I would recommend is to talk to a spiritual/energy healer such as a shaman. There is a lot more to this universe than we know, and unfortunately many people are not open to it. See a Dr, talk to a spiritual healer and figure out what resonates best for you.

All the best

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A male reader, MAX D Ireland +, writes (25 July 2010):

MAX D agony auntIF Edward is helping you in you day to day life,then I feel he must be allowed to stay.please ask your mum to take you to see a doctor,it is very importaint that you have some support out side of your family.You did not say how old your brother is which I would be intrested to know,it is you mothers duty to protect you from your brother and if need be to remove him from the family home if he keeps beening violent towards you as this seams to be having a serious impact on your life.Take care and please let me know how you are getting on MAX D

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010):

I suppose it's just like having Jesus or someone. The only problem is that later in life you might not need Edward and he might need you.

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A male reader, ManAfterChrist United States +, writes (25 July 2010):

ManAfterChrist agony auntI'm torn. I don't want to tell you to do away with Edward, but it is alarming for someone of your age to have an imaginary friend.

Do you physically see him? I would assume that physically seeing him is more alarming than a the occasional sooting voice.

I'm not a doctor, so I can't tell you. However, your mother also expressed difficulty in finding a solution through a doctor. Hopefully another "agony aunt" will come along that is a bit more experienced in the psychological department.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (25 July 2010):

RAINORFIRE agony auntWow.. some People have Jesus or Buddha, you have edward.. hey i say whatever works for you hopefully edward wont tell you to do anything crazy..or run of with Bella.. other then that it sounds like a good deal.

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (25 July 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntI'm very curious, is does Edward appear to you? Is he an ghost, spirit, your conscience? I just want to know to understand your situation better. Granted, I'm an athiest and I'm very skeptic about these things, however...I find them extremely interesting. I do think that there is more but we as humans don't get to know.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010):

I see no reason for you not to "be" with him.

If he comforts you in a time of need than he shouuld "stay"

this is a copeing method that you have and one that you need

tell your mother that he is helping you and there should be no problem.

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