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Boyfriend's family reunion?

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Question - (8 July 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 9 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *ourmom12 writes:

My boyfriend wants me to go to his family reunion this Friday... But I don't think I feel comfortable going. It's not that I don't want to meet his family or whatever. It's just every time we're around other people and it's not just us hanging out, his attention shifts to them and he completely ignores me. I've had to work all week and haven't gotten to hang out with him and he told me we would be able to hang out, just us, on Friday. But then he suddenly tells me about the runion thing, which he's known about for a while. And I've been looking forward to hanging out, just the two of us, all week, but now that won't happen. So, yeah, I'm a little pissed. Help? =/

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A female reader, yourmom12 United States +, writes (9 July 2010):

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Don't get me wrong, it's not that I want all of his attention. You guys would have to actually be there to understand what I mean. He like legit completely ignores me whenever we're with anyone else. It's ridiculous.

No, I'm not saying I'm the only person in his life that he needs to pay attention to, I'm just saying that I'm always the one that gets ignored, no one else. And I don't do that to him. It just sucks is all. I don't really think it's me being sefish, just irritated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

Im sorry that he completely ignores you, but do you try to get involved in the activities hes involved in? No ones gonna make you go but you need to learn to spend time with your boyfriend while hes with his family and stop acting like you should be the center of his attention at all times.

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A female reader, veronika Australia +, writes (8 July 2010):

veronika agony auntLook, it's a family reunion - it's only for a day, and I don't think it should be a big deal. I know what it's like to want your significant other to pay all attention to you, but be realistic - you're not the only person in his life.

Sometimes this is just the way it is. It's not as if he's always ditching you - at least, you haven't mentioned that's the case.

If I were you I'd go to the reunion. It'd be better than not going and not seeing him.

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A male reader, ManAfterChrist United States +, writes (8 July 2010):

ManAfterChrist agony auntA family reunion is a big deal. Why don't you just go with him and try to make friends with his family? It's not his job to constantly attend to you; if he did that his family would think it was an unhealthy relationship. If you don't feel comfortable going, stay home. But don't get mad at him the next day. He invited you, and you have a decision to make.

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