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Advice needed... Is my brother for real???

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Question - (2 November 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 4 November 2012)
A female United States age 36-40, *ad21 writes:

So my brother has been a drug user for 8 years. He also does pot/weed. He has been cheating on his wife since they were dating but his wife still married him. His wife gorges on alcohol and is frequent at bars. They have a 4 year old daughter.

My brother cheats on his wife every year and has cheated on her with countless women. But his wife knows it all and stays aloof. Hubby kissed a woman on lips in front of wife yet no issues.

She parties at bars and clubs and takes dozen photographs of herself with her 10 female friends. She also hosts dinners for 14 people frequently. Shes even got makeup artist business with her friends going on this year.

The 4 year old is left at home with the babysitter. When the hubby is home, sometimes hes very indifferent towards family except his daughter.

But in public the husband is a changed family man, He constantly talks about wife daughter on twitter, kisses wife in crowds so everyone thinks hes a stand up family man and wife has appointed some girls on FB, tumblr to spread good image about her and harass people who write against her

He stays out of home a lot due to work but after 5 weeks he said he cant wait to see his girls, his kid,etc,

A month ago, he said his wife sent a video of his kid singing and now shes getting so big and maybe its time for a sibling.

10 months ago he said its a dream for him-wife to have kids. And now this.

And my brother is a very wealthy and celebrity status guy. All his twitter followers are teenagers.

Do you think this child talk was real or for publicity? Please i need answers, its urgent

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A female reader, sad21 United States +, writes (4 November 2012):

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Well, my bro's wife has started this makeup artistry business this year with her close friends. Shes made all those websites for her business and is constantly getting photo-shoots done and at other times shes out with her friends, taking pictures and going around.

On twitter too she uses her business page to tweet or is telling people which makeup brushes are cool to use etc ec

And since my brother said that on twitter, i suspected the legitimacy. People who plan to have kids don't tell teenagers on twitter, they discuss it among themselves.

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A female reader, lily13524 United States +, writes (3 November 2012):

lily13524 agony auntI totally agree with Honeypie

This has nothing to do with you. It's their life, live yours and let them live theirs!

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A female reader, Candid Cally United States +, writes (2 November 2012):

Not everyone who us married has a monogamous relationship. It is very possible that your brother and his wife have some kind of agreement regarding their sex life and having other partners. (he can kiss another woman on the lips in front of his wife and she didn't seem bothered by it.) From what I understand, this is more common behavior in celebrity circles.

It seems like your brother and his wife seem to have more of a business-type relationship than a family. He dotes on her in public and everyone pretends like they are part of a normal happy successful family because that is what most people like to see. Some of it may be an act, but his love of his daughter is not.

The truth is, his wife has to want to try to have another child too. This means she needs to stop drinking. If she uses alcohol and parties as a way to network and further her career, I doubt she will be willing to give it up any time soon. Could they be considering adoption?

What about this situation has you so concerned? All things considered, it is probably best that a nanny or babysitter is raising the daughter.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 November 2012):

Honeypie agony auntDoes it matter? I know you are worried for his daughter and any of his future kids but really it is his life.

And even if we all think it's ridiculously two-faced to act the way you describe, what can you do? Tell him not to have more kids with his wife? They obviously chose to ignore each others lifestyle choices, maybe they even think that the marriage works for them.

I'm not really sure how it's any of your business? (no offense)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012):

You'll soon find out, pregnancy are very hard to hide.. I feel for your niece, she didn't ask to be brought into this facade of a relationship.

I need to ask thou, what's the biggie in knowin right, now?

What does your parents say over the matter?

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