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*bhisek.parija
writes:hi all,got an issue , if you could drop in a suggestion. I have broken the trust of a close one a close friend.for namesake its friendship , but i love her and its not the other way round. she was into a relationship but had broken up and was looking for my shoulders to support her emotionally.once she used my laptop to check her emails and she forgot to signout. next day when i used my laptop , it automatically signed into her email. for me it was like her life open infront of me. what i did was , typed her boyfriend's(ex) name to search and look for conversations and so on in her email. and i came accross some really personal pictures of her and her ex. she had a picture of both of them sharing a kiss. i just couldnt take it and switched off my laptop. i was out of sorts for 2 days. seeing me in that state she asked me what's wrong and i confessed what i had seen and explored her emails. she went berseck after that. she was fuming and our friendship has gone for a toss. she used to trust me like any thing and now she terms me as a ditcher, a person whom one cannot rely. previously before all this had happened we were very very close to each other. as close as one can get. but now everything is gone. previously in a day atleast we used to spend a good 10hours with each other , now she ignores me. if i am low she comes and consoles else ignores. she has said , she will never be able to forgive me, nor forget what i have done by peeking into her private life and neither will she ever trust me. this all happened when i was planning to propose her , i still love her but things have gone badly haywire between us. small small things like text messaging wishing gud nite , wishing gud morning everything has been stopped by her. replies of text messages comes in one liners. doesnt chat with me properly. she gets angry when she sees me. all this happened when she was just fresh into a break up and she says her boyfriend has broken her trust and now me. she moves around with everyone except me. previously we used to talk out the world , now we have to think and speak. someone please help me. how do i mend this relationship. how do i get my best friend back. i really want to marry her. how do i go about things. she says she will never ever forgive or forget what i have done to her. how do i talk her out of this or what i do ??Please help me. PLease
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reader, abhisek.parija +, writes (21 September 2009):
abhisek.parija is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all.
things are starting to go a little smooth now. i have given her my reason for doing so , at times she finds it difficult to accept but she is trying nevertheless. i feel its a matter of time before i can get her trust back. she respects the fact that i told her the truth and didnt hide it from her. i am trying everything from my side to get back to her.
do pray for me people...who knows your prayers might just work for me . thanks ton everyone for replying. :)
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reader, meriem1421  +, writes (27 August 2009):
 yah! there is a way as i said just explain n appolojize cause trust me im a girl n i know girls n when a boy hurts us or does something bad 2 us we get mad but it only gets worse if the boy acts like there's nothing 2 do about it
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reader, lily13524  +, writes (20 August 2009):
 i think you should go over to her house and probably ask her to come in and apologize to her.And tell her you are truely sorry.And i dont think proposing to her in the same day would help because she needs time to think and mend,on both of the situtions she is going through.
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reader, meriem1421 +, writes (19 August 2009):
well,this is really hard cause the worst thing is betrayal!!!! but u can make up with her only if u know how 2 explain to her why u did it and ask 4 her forgiveness.
tell her you're sorry and that you would never do it its just that sometimes our curiosity beats us and we lose controle on it!!!! its ok just do as i said and i hope u go back the way u were so u can prupose 2 her and live happily ever after!!!
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reader, Rosy  +, writes (19 August 2009):
What do you mean when youre low she comes and consoles else ignores? But anyway all you can do is beg and wait for her to want you back in her life... She still loves you because she wont be so angry if she didnt.
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reader, abhisek.parija +, writes (19 August 2009):
abhisek.parija is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi iceldoress,
every word you have written above is true.you got it very right.but the reason for doing all that is i wanted her to be back with that guy , so i was looking for anything that could her her, but ended up spoiling everything.
there must be some way to get back the trust ?
someway ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): HiI think you should just be patient and give her time. She is hurt and angry(rightly so) but, you were upfront and honest. Once the dust settles why not ask her round for dinner or out for a quick drink and once again, quietly, tell her you are sorry, and explain how you really understand how much damage you have done to your friendship. Also stress to her how much you miss her, but if I were you I'd avoid declaring your outright feelings for her until you sort out your friendship first. Remember a good friend will forgive you. Be patient, and good luck xxx
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