I really love him, should I wait for him?
Q. Me and this guy have been txting for about three to four years now and i have liked him for seven. Things have just started getting somewhere with us but he has a girlfriend now (he hasnt cheated though) he tels me he doesnt love her and that he ...
A. 10 March 2010: I dont think he is trying to keep you sweet, if he loved the woman he is with now he wouldnt even be talking to you and certainly not mentioning leaving her.
Give him time, just keep casual contact with him.... (read in full...)
He calls me his "woman" but he wont call me his "girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a month. I have known hi for two years prior to dating as we are in our doctoral program together. Since our first date we have spent every day and night together except three. We text all day from wor...
A. 8 March 2010: From your follow up and what you say, it does sound like your boyfriend does love you and is in love with you a lot!
When a guy puts a womans feelings before his own and is always thoughtful then he has a lot of respect and love for that woman. ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to work with this relationship or should I walk away?
Q. Hi i need good advice im having problems in my relationship with my boyfriend or whatever he is now i have been with him on and off for about 12 years and i have a 4 year old child with him but for the last couple years its gotten out of hand not ...
A. 8 March 2010: If he truly loved you he wouldnt be putting you down all the time.
Sure you may have the odd disagreement, but it should not be a constant happening.
A strong relationship should be able to overcome any argument and both partners would l... (read in full...)
Why do I always act like a total jerk in front of girls?
Q. Girls hit on me pretty often but I just dont know how to talk to them and i always stroke out and they think i dont like them and they lose interest asking me question and smiling and similar stuff. I always act like a total jerk but I dont know ...
A. 8 March 2010: Probably because you are not confident. Just relax more, learn to communicate through conversation.
Keeping a girl interested is the key, ask basic questions about her, tell her basic things about yourself (dont go on too much, you will bore her... (read in full...)
Why can't I maintain my erection?
Q. while having sex with my gf my penis stands up for some time then loose its erection?i m a virgin.i was depressed for quite a while in past months,is that a reason?or is it due to the reason that i masturbate regularly? ...
A. 7 March 2010: A few reasons; anxiety, diet, not attracted to your partner. If you can maintain an erection when on your own then anxiety is a common cause.
There could also be medical reasons. Try talking with your doctor, maybe viagra can help.... (read in full...)
Help I have fallen in love with my aunt
Q. My aunt is one of the greatest women i have ever met, she attractive kind just amazing really. The problem is i have fallen in love with her and don't know what to do? I really want to tell her how i feel but i don't know how please help me...
A. 7 March 2010: I would advise you not to say nothing about this to your aunt. It can never happen and I am sure you know that. Your infatuated and its natural, your also at that age where your body is doing strange things and making you think more about girls... (read in full...)
Friend won't see a doctor over discharge
Q. Please i really need your help on what to tell my friend....she said something watery is coming out of her left boobs...i askd her to go see a doctor and talk about it but she wouldnt listen to me,,,she said thats the last thing she wants to do...i ...
A. 7 March 2010: It could be nothing but its always best to get checked out. Try telling your friend your concerned about her and if she wont go to the doctor then to at least check out her own brests for lumps. There is lots of advise on the internet how to do this ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend, and he has a girlfriend! What do I do?
Q. K so i me this guy met a year ago and i instantly liked him. We started hanging out more and more and i'm actually in love with him now. the problem is he's a complete flirt and he flirts with me and every other girl. people thought we were dating ...
A. 7 March 2010: Your still young and later on in life you will find someone better than him. It may take another 10, 20 or even 30 years but you will meet someone who really cares for you. If hes flirting with all the girls then there is a high chance that he w... (read in full...)
My friend ignores me and I feel unappreciated!
Q. I feel as if my girflriend is completley ignoring me. During class she goes and talks to every other person in the class but when i want to talk she just moans and says i have to get my work done it makes me feel so un-appreciated it makes me feel ...
A. 7 March 2010: Try talking to her, ask her if she is upset over anything you have done or said.
Communication is key here and if she ignores you then you need to talk to her.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to jeopardize our friendship
Q. Me and my best male friend do almost everything together. We have the same interests, the same humour but we are just mentally close. I always felt some kind of attraction towards him, since he is good looking and very kind. The girls in my school ...
A. 7 March 2010: Hi, this situation can be complicated but can work.
If you are feeling attracted to him other than just friends then ask him on a date. If he says no then just leave it and carry on as if nothing happened.
If you have a strong friendship then ... (read in full...)
Can I get him to talk about our future together?
Q. How do I get him to talk about our relationship? I'm not sure where we stand, things are progressing fairly quickly but neither of us have mentioned where our relationship is going. In the very beginning, there was his problematic ex-girlfriend that ...
A. 7 March 2010: Ask him outright, most guys would appreciate a strait and honest question / answer.... (read in full...)
A day after a fight with my mom over my girlfriend, I'm getting the "silent treatment"
Q. I'm fed up right now. I came back home from college for my spring break, and wanted to evenly split time between my girlfriend and my mom. I asked about this last night here on dearcupid.org, when I had the issue. My uncle left yesterday for a ...
A. 7 March 2010: Do you know why your mom hates your girlfriend? If there no good reason then your mom is way too controlling over your life.
Tell your mom you want to have a talk with her, if she refuses then dont worry about it, just carry on. If she talks th... (read in full...)
What causes a person to leave their partner unexpectedly?
Q. What causes people who have been in long relationships to just all of the sudden become uninterested? not speaking of abusive or any off type relationships, but people who just have general problems, but seem allright, then one day one of them just ...
A. 7 March 2010: It doesnt sound normal but at a guess theres either a bi-polar disorder or theres somthing seriously wrong in the relationship.
They may have been talking about splitting up for a while but talking in private.... (read in full...)
How do I break out of my shell and meet someone
Q. I,m eighteen years old and finished school, unemployed and A bit anti-social. I,ve never had a relationship before and have never snogged/made out with anyone before its so embarrassing. And when i go out to a house party or a club I see a guy I ...
A. 7 March 2010: Join in on more social events and check out on-line dating too. If you meet someone on line, get to know them on line first and always first meet in a public place, never disclose your address or phone number.
If you see a guy you fancy in a clu... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from this?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were fooling around and he was rubbing his penis on my vagina. I was on top of him and he continued rubbing until he came. Could I become pregnant from this? Should I take a pregnancy test?? Thankyou...
A. 7 March 2010: Probably unlikely if he didn’t penetrate but yes it is still possible. If your worreid then take the test.... (read in full...)
Everything reminds me of him. How can I stop feeling like this?
Q. Its me again. This girl - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/help--how-can-i-move-on-with.html I am still dealing with the breakup. It really hurts at times and i dont know what to do. I want to thank all you guys for the advice. I started writin...
A. 7 March 2010: Breakups do hurt a lot, they can take a long time to get over but you will get over it.
There is a man out there for you somewhere, someone who appreciates you for who you are and who will put your feelings ahead of his own.
Try taking a ... (read in full...)
I feel hurt she's dating again even though I've met someone else
Q. I need someone to tell me to grow up. I don't think I deserve any sympathy or kind words. Here's my situation: Last year I split up with my girlfriend. We'd been together for 5 years and were always so much in love. She wanted children though ...
A. 7 March 2010: It will hurt for a while, you havent got over her yet.
Just focus on your own relationship now, stop dwelling on your old relationship and move on with your life.
... (read in full...)
He calls me his "woman" but he wont call me his "girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a month. I have known hi for two years prior to dating as we are in our doctoral program together. Since our first date we have spent every day and night together except three. We text all day from wor...
A. 7 March 2010: It may just be his mannerism refering "his woman" to his girlfriend.
If hes putting you first then he probably does love you more than you think.... (read in full...)
Should I continue losing weight, or leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We just had a son 4 months ago and we finally moved in together about a month ago. Everything seemed perfect..we get along great and work as a team. We have a lot of fun together and joke around a ...
A. 7 March 2010: If he is just fixed on your looks then its probably not good, and he is shallow.
Looks can go some way but shouldnt be the whole factor in a loving relationship.
However if you choose to leave then make sure 100% that you have all your facts r... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend is pregnant. She wants me to get rid of my current girlfriend. Am I selfish to say no?
Q. I have just found out my ex girlfirend is 5 months pregnant, she has just found out also she had no idea. Ive always stayed in contact with her and tried to help her. now i want to be there for the child, but i dont know if im ready for a child ...
A. 7 March 2010: No your not selfish to say no. Your ex-girlfriend could be using this to get you back.
How do you know for sure the baby is yours?
Do you know for sure she is actually pregnant?
When the baby is born, if your ex-girlfriend wants ... (read in full...)
We hit it off, but she is my friends little sister. Help!
Q. I have liked this girl for about 3 years now, we hung out and we really seemed to hit it off, the problem is recently i found out that she is one of my friends little sister (i should have realized by the last name). He says he is cool with me if i ...
A. 7 March 2010: If you love her then it shouldnt matter. Go for it!... (read in full...)
Is it true - DO big shoes mean a big penis?
Q. hey guys im just a bit curious if this is correct, but is true that guys with a big shoe size have a big ding dong? like for example if a guy had a 12 inch and a half shoe size would his penis be larger than a guy with a 5 inch shoe? is this true?? ...
A. 7 March 2010: No not true, big shoe size means big feet.
You will probably find that most guys have an average size penis (3-4" flacid and 5-6" erect).... (read in full...)
Why does he flirt but never act on it?
Q. I have feelings for friend who has been flirting with me for weeks. We almost kissed a few days ago while we were alone at my house, but then he said he was tired and left. He initiated contact this weekend and we went out (with other friends) ...
A. 7 March 2010: Probably because he is nerveous and he still is being slightly loyal to his ex-girlfriend.
If you love him then give him time. ... (read in full...)
I really love him, should I wait for him?
Q. Me and this guy have been txting for about three to four years now and i have liked him for seven. Things have just started getting somewhere with us but he has a girlfriend now (he hasnt cheated though) he tels me he doesnt love her and that he ...
A. 7 March 2010: There should be a whole lot more to a relationship than just sex so I suspect its more than just the bedroom.
Its good he hasnt cheated on her which shows he is loyal, so yes he may be worth waiting for but if hes not free within 6 months then mov... (read in full...)
Ideas for a sex bucket list?
Q. Me and my wife are looking for ideas for a sex "bucket list". We have tried sex on a beach, in a mall, a restraunt, parking garage, park , elevator , public restroom. We are looking for more things opposed to places but all ideas are welcome ...
A. 7 March 2010: In long grass on a warm summer day, take a picnic too :-)... (read in full...)
I need help to move on
Q. How do I move on? I just got out of a 3 plus years of realtionship and i need to find a way to get over him... It got messy towards the end and I found out he was cheating... I need a way to get on with my life but i am really struggling with ...
A. 7 March 2010: From a guys point of view, I had the same with an ex-girlfriend.
I found she was cheating on me after 3.5 years. I done my goodbyes and took a holiday just on my own, spent 2 weeks me time got drunk a couple of nights (not recommended).
Neve... (read in full...)
Should I be in this relationship when I can't stand to be touched
Q. About 4.5 years ago i was seriously hurt by a crazy ex. Sex was abuse, and it was cruel, and as soon as i could escape i did. I moved to a different city, sacrificed my friends, my job, my life and developed an eating disorder. My way of handling ...
A. 7 March 2010: Hi your not alone in this, I am in a relationship with a woman who has anorexia, plus she has self harmed many times. She has had the ED for the past 16 years of her life. I know what your going through and I know its not easy. Its not easy for my ... (read in full...)
Mind games...
Q. Ok, he's gone. :-( My best guy friend just left for the US Armed Forces. He'll be gone for about 2 months, then back for a week and then off to who knows where for 6 months - a year! I know it's going to go fast but I can't help to feel "lonely." ...
A. 5 March 2010: He is probably confused over his sexuality. However if hes paying you extra attention then he probably likes you a lot!
You will notice little things if a guy really likes you, he will start doing more for you, contact you more than usual, b... (read in full...)
Do most prefer 'curvy' women?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-it-only-the-mans-biology-thats.html I want an opinion from the uncles of this site.Hopefully men will be able to shed more light on this. Is it true that majority of men only like curvaceous figur...
A. 4 March 2010: I would prefer a woman to have a good personality rather than a curvy figure, but both slim and curvey women would appeal to me.... (read in full...)
Falling in love with my long time friend.
Q. I been going to school with this girl since kindergarden we are now seniors in high school an we are best friends. We tell each other everything there's not a single secret we have when she needs help she comes to me when she's sad she comes to me. ...
A. 4 March 2010: This is an awkward situation to be in, but it is common. I had a crush on one of my female friends for a year or so, but someone else came along for me.
You should be able to tell if she has similar feelings for you, in little ways she may touc... (read in full...)
How do I make him want to make the first move on me?
Q. Guys i need your help!! I've been seeing this guy now for about 2 months and at the start we only really got together when we were drunk. But then after a few weeks sober he started to introduce me as his girlfriend which was nice because i did ...
A. 4 March 2010: It sounds like you are still going through the lust and infactuation stage, I think everyone has it where it hurts to be apart from each other for more than half a day.
Contrary to belief though, not all us guys want to jump into bed with anything... (read in full...)
Should I just not tell her...?
Q. Hey, I met this girl and we hit it off and became very close, anyway she confided in me that she had been sexually abused when she was young by her father, things were going reall good but then we broke, some of the relationship problems stem form ...
A. 4 March 2010: Past abuse can hold back relationships until trust is gained, she obviously trusts you enough to tell you in the first place.
You could explain you needed someone to talk to so you confided in your mum, its not as if you went blurting it down the... (read in full...)
Text kisses!
Q. Is there any difference in someone putting xXx at the end of a text compared to x, or xx or xxx? I just wondered because, well my situation is kinda complicated and this guy never tends to put any kisses on texts ever! But this time after we'd been ...
A. 4 March 2010: Dont know what the difference is, I always use x... (read in full...)
I absolutely adore him and I'm scared my friend will tell him!
Q. Right, this is going to take a little while to explain... So, I've liked this boy (lets call him Zac) for about 2 years. He's intelligent, very funny, charismatic, charming, cute - everything I want from a guy. We've always got on really well, but...
A. 4 March 2010: If you fancy him then just ask him out on a date. Remember boys are shy too, he may like you a lot but is too shy to ask you.
I was 12 when I really liked this girl at school, I could see she liked me too this went on for months. In the end my f... (read in full...)
Mind games...
Q. Ok, he's gone. :-( My best guy friend just left for the US Armed Forces. He'll be gone for about 2 months, then back for a week and then off to who knows where for 6 months - a year! I know it's going to go fast but I can't help to feel "lonely." ...
A. 4 March 2010: It might not be a mind game, maybe hes not as gay as you think?
If you get on together, then just accept it for what it is right now a good friendship.
If it's going to be more then it will happen over time.... (read in full...)
Two girls have spread rumours and now people don't like me
Q. please help me this is completely ruining any chance of me keeping my friends and having a boyfriend. there's 2 girls in my grade who are telling people that i am conceited and that i think im the queen bee. a lot of people now look at me funny...
A. 4 March 2010: Sorry to hear that and I can’t give you information on what to do, but sometimes other people can be cruel especially at school.
Just keep believing in yourself and know you’re a better person than they are.
This will sort it's self out in... (read in full...)
Does he see me only as a friend? I want more.
Q. I started chatting to this guy on a dating site, we chatted once or twice then he disappeared. About a month later he mailed me again, was honest and said he had met someone but things didnt work out and he wanted to carry on chatting to me etc. ...
A. 4 March 2010: He could be on the rebound, and just feeling sorry over his last break up or he could be waiting to get to know you better before comitting himself to you.
He may hold off because he is afraid of getting hurt or rejected so wants to get to know ... (read in full...)
My girl admitted she was talking to another guy until she believed we were serious. Should I believe her?
Q. Well ive been dating this girl for about 9 months.. but we have been friends for about 2 years. we had started talking more on being together because we knew we had more than a friendship. well the relationship seemed like it was going great.. ...
A. 4 March 2010: You have to trust her for your relationship to work, without trust the relationship wont last. It's reasonable to doubt someone if this is recent, but at some point you will have to let it go and begin to trust again.
Give it time, you will kno... (read in full...)
Is there a way to let guys down gently?
Q. I've been in this situation several times this year unfortunately. I have a guy who I hardly know ask me out, out of the blue...well...not EXACTLY out of the blue. I kind of expect that they like me at first. But it's always a big shock when ...
A. 4 March 2010: Theres no easy way, you should have a sit down talk and tell him the truth. He may not talk to you for a while but in the end he will be glad you didnt string him along. If he loves you he will let you go. If he acts like a jerk then your probably ... (read in full...)
Despite our relationship being a good one, I keep dreaming of us breaking up
Q. Ive been going out with my gilrfriend for about 2 months now and for the last 3-4 nights ive had dreams about me and her breaking up, i trust her 100% but i dont know why i keep having these bad dreams, what could this be? ...
A. 4 March 2010: It could be your feeling insecure somewhere. Your relationship is still very young give it time and enjoy what you have with your girlfriend right now.
Hope it works out for you both. ... (read in full...)
Hugging my best friend does not mean I'm cheating, help!
Q. I need help. My boyfriend has now thought im cheating on him. He think it because im hugging my best friend. He told my bff that he was going to f**k him up. and hes calling him gay. what should i do......
A. 4 March 2010: Us guys can get very jeleaous.
If you boyfriend truly loves you then he will have trust in you and should know your not cheating.
Talk it over with your boyfriend and explain you are just friends with this other guy and theres nothing m... (read in full...)
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