Help! I am befriending my lover's wife, should I stop??
Q. I am befriending my lovers WIFE....opinions? comments? ...
A. 2 August 2010: It depends what you mean by befrending, if you mean you like the person she is as a friend then theres nothing wrong with that. If your thinking of wreaking her marriage then you should think again.
Just suppose she does cheat on her husband ... (read in full...)
Could I possibly be pregnant?
Q. Hey everybody. My period went of 7/23/2010 (friday) and I had sex on that Sunday. And while me and my boyfriend were having sex my boyfriend came in me and he also did that thrusday. According to an ovulation calander I should have ovulated that ...
A. 2 August 2010: There could be other reasons why your period missed, try a pregnancy test kit if in doubt go and see your doctor.... (read in full...)
I was the one who broke things off, he's accepted it but now I want him back!
Q. I recently split with my boyfriend of 4 years, i was having doubts about the relationship and mentioned it to him but also said i needed more time to think about it. then when we spoke again he decided we should split and i didn't want to lose him, ...
A. 1 August 2010: He is either with someone else, has moved on or is protecting himself from being hurt again and I dont blame the guy for any of those.
Rember that life is what passes us by while waiting for something to happen.
If he is with someone else and... (read in full...)
31 and never had an orgasm...
Q. Hi I'm a 31 year old that has never had an orgasm. After a period of time of rubbing on my clitorus I have an awesome feeling that comes over my body but I'm never able 2 cum. (excuse my language.) Is there anyone that can give me any answers to ...
A. 1 August 2010: What do you think the feeling your having is? Every woman is different, not all scream out and have bodily fluid erruptions and the same goes for guys too.... (read in full...)
I have met the man of my dreams but I have gone off sex!
Q. I am a 22 female and finally met the man of my dreams. When I see him I think how gorgeous he is, he treats me like an absolute princess, hes kind to me, caring, helpful, thoughtful...basically as if sent from heaven. BUT...I have COMPLETELY lost my ...
A. 30 July 2010: It sounds like the guy does love you but maybe your just not ready for sex. Dont put too much time and effort into thinking about it as it will add to the pressure.
If he really and truly loves you he will wait until you are ready.... (read in full...)
Should I be a close friend to my ex or leave it and move on?
Q. well i think im falling for my ex agian. Were both 15 and was together for 11 months 2 years ago but now he says to me that he likes me a lot and would love to have a relationship with me again, but the only thing is his not ready for a long ...
A. 30 July 2010: It sounds like he just wants to keep you as a friend with benefits in other words he is using you.
It takes 2 but you sound like a girl who doesn’t want to be taken for granted so in my humble opinion if you like the guy tell him you can be frien... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm at 22....
Q. I previously posted a question regarding lack of sex drive with my amazing partner and how its been really getting me down. A few people have suggested it may be due to never having had an orgasm. Not even with previous partners. Does anyone have ...
A. 30 July 2010: You need to try and access why your sex drive is low, is there a medical reason or emotional reason?
You could try using sex toys in the bedroom with your partner and take more control yourself of your own pleasures, your partner will learn mo... (read in full...)
Where and how should I meet up with the older man I'm falling for?
Q. Hi. I'm a 17 year old girl from the uk. I have been online dating since o was 16 because I felt like no one who actually knew me would ever want to get with me. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy who was 19 and I haven't had sex since. About ...
A. 26 July 2010: Just use common sense if you do meet up, make sure its in a public place and dont let him control you.
Be safe and good luck.... (read in full...)
What happened to the loving man I married?
Q. My husband swears he is not having an affair, so why does he get defensive and over react to everything I say.? He also avoids making love, and recently has stopped even giving me a 'cuddle' when I ask for one.When I try to talk seriously to him ...
A. 26 July 2010: What does you husband to for work? This sounds like it could be stress. Dont always assume the worst, explore other things first.
If it is stress there will be depression too.... (read in full...)
Up until a few months ago, he never mentioned money! I don't know how to react to the change!
Q. (first of all I'm 19 not 26) My bf of 2 years never ever mentioned money or cost in front of me. Always he tells me "do you want something" and he buys me stuff and all and I always tell him to stop because he is spending to much money and he would ...
A. 26 July 2010: He may be getting short on cash or getting in or is in debt. You could try talking to him over it just ask if everything is all right and reassure him he doesnt need to spend money to keep you interested in him.... (read in full...)
For the guys... what differentiates between a one-night-stand girl and a keeper?
Q. This ones for the guys... what makes a girl decent for a one night stand? what makes a woman ideal for a relationship? What kind of girls would you consider only good for one night? i'm talking looks and personality. And why do you think that if...
A. 26 July 2010: For me it’s in the attitude of the girl. If I can see she is sincere then it usually is a relationship and if she is too keen then it’s usually a one night stand.
It has to be mutual feelings though otherwise I would feel as if I was taking a... (read in full...)
What do I do about the towel/tampons?
Q. Hey, this is entirely embarrassing for me so please don't laugh or leave a patronizing message. I'm 15 and have recently gotten with my boyfriend, we're fine and comfortable - everything that I expect from him. But even the best trust stops ...
A. 26 July 2010: You could carry strong plastic bags with you as well as spare towels. After you change yourself, put the used one in the bag and take it home with you to dispose of in the bin.
Dont be embarassed talking about it, its nature.... (read in full...)
Ready to throw in the towel!!
Q. I have known my girlfriend for 15yrs, we have been in a relationship for 6yrs. this month I asked the big question and bought her an engagement ring. My co worker family owns a jewelry store so i bought a second hand ring that has been appraised for ...
A. 26 July 2010: Maybe she found out it was second hand?... (read in full...)
I wanted to break up with him, but he did it and now I feel terrible!
Q. Today me and my boyfriend split up. We had been together for 6 months. I have been thinking of ending it for a while as I have been really unhappy as he never tries to contact me and never went out of his way and never wanted to be together and only ...
A. 26 July 2010: He may have sensed you were about to dump him so got in there first. Sorry to say but at that age its a game to some guys. Its not until we get older and realise its time to settle down when we show our true feelings and stop acting like jerks.
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Why is he acting stupid and naive?
Q. I don't get it. My boyfriend of two and a half years ended our relationship for silly reasons that are his to blame also. He said that I never did enough romantic events for him, I was to independent and didn't ask him to do everything for me, not ...
A. 26 July 2010: Its a bit of a messed up situation, you should really find someone who appreciates you for who you are and not someone who wants control.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do about staying with the cousin that I barely know...we were both abused by his late father...
Q. Ok guys heres my problem . earlia on in the year i was sexually abused by my uncle . this led to months of depression and even a spell in hospital - as i couldnt deal with the aftermath of what he had done . well it turns out there have been ...
A. 26 July 2010: I know first hand how your feeling, what you have to know is none of it was your fault so dont blame yourself.
Treat meeting your cousin as just that, theres no need to bring up the past unless you both want to talk about it.
Its history a... (read in full...)
Jealous boyfriend...
Q. im in a weird position right now my ex still loves me, and is telling my boyfriend to break up with me cause he is dead jealous... he said if he doesent his gonna hurt my boyfriend.. and me and my boyfriend LOVE eatch other.. i dnt know what to do.. ...
A. 26 July 2010: Your ex-boyfriend sounds a bit of a nutter. Its not uncommon for guys to get jeleaous over girls.
You could either try ignoring it or tell your ex you dont have feelings for him and its not going to change.
... (read in full...)
How do I explain to a woman that I don't want to have kids?
Q. I had a vasectomy years ago, and to be honest, I'm quite happy with the decision. I definetely don't want to have kids EVER. But how do I explain this to a woman if I ever find one. Will she hate me? Will she immediately leave? How should I...
A. 3 May 2010: It is a meaningless question, it may come of a supprise to you but not all woman want kids either. If any woman was just with you just to get kids from you then it is not really going to work out anyway. If you really must tell them, dont wait... (read in full...)
He deletes computer history and lies about it!
Q. The past month or two, my boyfriend has been using my computer because his has a virus on it. He has been deleting the history. But then he lies about deleting the history and says that there must be a comptuer "glitch"! I know he is doing this ...
A. 19 April 2010: It sounds like this is a trust issue, but bear in mind that there may be other reasons he may be deleting history. For example I deleted history on my PC when I was plannning a supprise holiday for my girlfriend. I am not saying thats the case here, ... (read in full...)
I don't like her past and wonder if I should stay married
Q. hi, i'm 26 male n just got married a couple of months back. My problem is that i'm upset/angry whenever i think of the sex my wife had with her ex-boyfriends and it haunts me like i wish i were dead. She told me her past life with whom she slept ...
A. 16 April 2010: If she is not sleeping with others now then you have to let this go and look forward to the future instead, did she not tell you all this before you got married?
Some questions.
Is she trying to make you jelleous for some reason?
Are y... (read in full...)
We don't have sex and he says he needs condoms to jerk off into. Is he cheating?
Q. I am 51 years old. I have been married for 30 years. I met my husband 30 years ago and married him in 2 days. We remain in a marriage. This is not a marriage I want to continue as is. About 15 years ago, I decided to stop having sexual ...
A. 16 April 2010: I am sorry to read your story, you sound like a strong woman to have put up with his abuse for so long.
Its clear from what you say that he does not love you, he is using and controlling you nothing else. That is not how a marrige should be.
Y... (read in full...)
I think she might be using me and trying to control me!
Q. I am 27 and my girlfriend is 38. She has a salon and has alot of male clients that she flirts with. Should I be concerned or let that be? She also has her act together and owns a house and 2 condos that she rents out. I on the other hand have been a ...
A. 16 April 2010: First off if a couple truly love each other then an age difference in a relation ship makes no difference.
Yes it sounds like she has done well, but you still have 11 years to be where she is now yourself.
Best thing to do is ask her outright... (read in full...)
Is being a martyr to the man you love worth it?
Q. I am in a very complicated situation of a relationship...we already have one baby and he is being responsible with him.But we are not leaving in same house he just paying where the place i stay.He never said he loves me but he just say he likes ...
A. 16 April 2010: It’s good he is taking responsibility for your son, and this is the least he can do and should do.
However it's clear from what you say that he loves you but is not in love with you.
Your more like a friend with special privileges to hi... (read in full...)
How can I calm my nerves?
Q. Hello guys I need some help. next wednesday I have my music practical! and im freaking out! im so nervous even thinking about it makes my heart race! i need some tips on how to stay calm and not mess this up!! Thank you! xxxx...
A. 13 April 2010: Theres a few things you can do to calm yourself down.
Prepare yourself for the practical, make sure you are well prepared.
Get good sleep.
Take time out for yourself, take your mind away from the situation.
Stay positive and confident. ... (read in full...)
We're seeing one another but he tells everyone we're "just friends"!!!
Q. I've known my guy for over a year, we get on real well, do all the "couple things", he has been living with me for the past 4 months, sometimes he introduces me as a friend, other times he introduces me as the girlfriend, if any body asks him to ...
A. 12 April 2010: Your not necessarily wasting your time, if you’re getting on together and like each other then you are friends are you not?
My girlfriend used to introduce me as her friend, eventually it turned to boyfriend as her feelings started to change f... (read in full...)
Serious question about sex!
Q. I am kinda scared i might have came inside my girlfriend today. we were having sex without a condom and then i felt i was gunna cum so i pulled out quick and came on her but it wasnt a lot but i know i didnt cum in her, well im pretty sure i didnt ...
A. 8 April 2010: You really can’t rely on pulling out before cumming; it’s not a sure method of contraception. A pregnancy test kit should give her the answer, if your tactical were sore before then there could be a lot of reasons and it does not necessarily mean ... (read in full...)
Is this a curse???
Q. I have an incredible amount of bad luck, even Im trying very hard to do the best. I make good choices, but there is a tremendous bad luck lingering in my family and personal life. Very unusual health problems , variety of financial disasters major ...
A. 8 April 2010: Well the only thing I can suggest is to change your attitude to life itself.
I really believe we attract things into our life, thinking something is going to go pear shaped then it usually will and Thinking positive and with optimistic thoughts... (read in full...)
Husband sending out mixed signals...
Q. We are coming up on our 6th anniversary. Hubby has become more distant - we don't communicate, he is not into kissing/hugging/romance- basicly we are roommates with the benefit of sex. When it comes to sex- I am the one to initiate it- he lays there ...
A. 8 April 2010: Could be a couple of things come to mind,
1) do you think he has any reason to think your cheating on him?
2) Is he stressed or depressed?
Either case, the only thing that is going to help is communication and time.... (read in full...)
Insecure about having sex
Q. I am a 21 year old virgin guy with 3.5 inch penis. I'm really worried about my sexual life about my penis size. please help. Am I normal? Can I increase the size?...
A. 8 April 2010: Your penis size is smaller than the average male. The only sure way of increasing the size is via surgery.
However every guy / woman is different, just because you think your penis is small does not mean it can not satisfy a woman.... (read in full...)
What gift shall I get for my girlfriend to show her I have thought about her while she was away?
Q. I want to get her a gift for when she's back from her holidays, to show her I thought about her so much because it's the case. It doesn't have to be something big since I have a small budget. I was thinking about chocolates but she told me she stil...
A. 7 April 2010: Flowers usually work well, a cuddly toy (something cute) or even better is something you make yourself, for example make her a simple book with each page giving a reason why you love her.
It doesnt have to be anything big, because just the acti... (read in full...)
Unsure if I should go meet this guy! Help!
Q. hi this 19 yr old guy (and im 13) likes me and i like him back and he is planning for me to go to america to meet him when im 18 and im unsure whether to go coz of age differences and that ive never met him before, Sounds like a really sweet, ...
A. 7 April 2010: A lot can happen in 5 years, he probably does find you attractive now but his view may change later on, your view may change later on.
I think as Laura says, he is building castles in the air.
If you are still friends with him when your 18 the... (read in full...)
How do I keep him interested when he has lost interest in me?
Q. I am so confused and upset. I met a man who shares the same interests and has everything in common with me. We started to see each other 3 months ago after we got to know each other. I fell completely for him- he is perfect to me in every w...
A. 7 April 2010: I think communication is the key here, you need to have a sit down talk with him and try and get him to tell you whats wrong.
It may be moving too fast for him so he wants space to think, but if this is the case he will tell you with a bit of p... (read in full...)
Do I have to wait for the right man or should I get out there and search for him?
Q. hi cupid im mely single 22 years old!!!ever since i dont have any serious relationship and i just have 1 boyfriend!!! I also dont have my first kiss, Do i have to wait for the man I love or should i find him and search for him!!! And the problem is ...
A. 7 April 2010: If you just wait for him, it may never happen. There is nothing wrong with putting the odds in your favour.
If you dont like social events, try on-line dating instead but use common sense.... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart or listen to my head?
Q. My boyrfriend and i have been off and on for the last year, we have had about 3 break ups. 4 months after we first got together he hit me at school and left a bruise on my face. my parents decided that i had to break up with him. so i did as my ...
A. 7 April 2010: No matter what age you both are, there is absoloutly no excuse for hitting. You may feel you love him, but he does not love you.
Your being used and even if you got back involved with him and stayed with him then your relationship is very unl... (read in full...)
Should I call him?
Q. Hey all, thanks for reading this. I met this sweet guy when i was at the mall today. He was selling products, so i went over and pretended to be interested in the products to give us a chance to talk. The minute we started talking, we were getting ...
A. 7 April 2010: He sounds confident. I would wait a little while and let him call you, play a bit hard to get.
If he wants to get to know you better then he will call.... (read in full...)
I cant afford to visit a dentist, does anyone have any home remedies for toothache?
Q. hi i have been in agony over the last 2 days now with a toothache, it comes and goes but it always comes back. last night i took two asprins and put salt water in my mouth, it did help then i slept, now i have woken up to an even painful toothach...
A. 7 April 2010: No over the counter drugs will work well on toothache.
You may be able to get free treatment. Phone NHS direct on 0845 4647 and explain your in pain but cant afford a dentist they will give you numbers to call.... (read in full...)
Ready to lose virginity at 13, everyone else has!
Q. MOD NOTE: Age posted is not right, poster says they are 13, NOT 19) hi. im greenpink, im 13 years old (i'll be 14 in may) and i think that i am ready to loose my virginty. we just offically met a few days ago (through mutual friends) but i have bee...
A. 7 April 2010: Hi, I am sure lots of other people will tell you the same thing here, it is illegal to have sex underage plus you said it yourself "i have no idea how many times he has had sex and how may girls he has had sex with" This should be ringing wa... (read in full...)
Girlfriend 32, still virgin, how do I get her ready for sex?
Q. My gf is 32 years old n virgin . our affair start before 2 years ... I want to have fun with her sometime she ready n sometime not ready.. Now last 4 month she dont sexy talk to me . she had to go out side for 4 month after return she is very upset ...
A. 6 April 2010: It really should not be your place to get her ready for sex, she will know when she is ready. Every woman is not the same, some may never want sex, some may be scared of becoming pregnant, there are all sorts of reasons.
If you love her, truly lo... (read in full...)
I get so nervous that I can't act right around him!
Q. Please help! I don't want my boyfriend to lose interest in me. We are both quite different from each other. But as the saying goes; 'opposites attract' - I am very attracted to him and I know for a fact that he is attracted to me too which makes ...
A. 6 April 2010: If your having problems expressing yourself with actions and verbally, why not write him a letter telling him exactly how you feel about him?
Making conversation does not come natural to a lot of people, but when you stop and look at it there ar... (read in full...)
One night stand role play. Is this weird?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 7 years. She cheated on her first husband. She now wants to role play and have me pick her up in a bar - she never had the experience of dating, and now she wants me to pick her up and take her somewhere for sex ...
A. 6 April 2010: Not really weird, she is just looking to fulfil her fantasy. Just be thankful she wants to do this with you and not some stranger. Your not doing any harm by playing along with her, you never know it might spice things up between you both.... (read in full...)
Questioning my phone calls and texts
Q. *Op's own title* My boyfriend wants to know who "I" am texting and who is texting me all the time. Most of the time it is between my kids and I. I resent telling him what I am doing all the time. I get annoyed and feel that he is being too nosy...
A. 6 April 2010: He is paranoid and thinks your cheating on him. You have explained to him and showed him the texts which you didnt have to do and that should be the end of it.
If he is constantly going on about it then he just cant trust you and that is no basis... (read in full...)
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