Closeness with my ex boyfriend...
Q. So my best friend is my ex-boyfriend, who I am still in love with. We have known each other for 3 years, and I had just gotten out of a bad relationship when I met him that he helped me get through. About a year and a half into our friendship, we ...
A. 13 March 2010: Sometimes in life you have to take chances or live with regret. Telling him how you feel will put your mind at rest, it will have three outcomes.
1. He loves you and wants to stay intouch and build a long distance relationship with you.
2. He l... (read in full...)
I don't understand the dating scene...how do people meet people?
Q. I am 21, not bad looking, thin - UK size 8-10 - and I am never approached by men unless they are very drunk. I came out of a LTR about 6 months ago and am finding the dating scene very hard to understand. I don't understand how people meet people ...
A. 12 March 2010: Try online dating sites, but make it clear you dont want a long term relationship. Be careful if you just pick up casual partners and use common sense.
If your just approaching a guy for sex then chances are you will only get the drunk or desprate... (read in full...)
When is close, TOO CLOSE?
Q. I'm coming here, because I have no where else to turn and I'm in serious need of advice. I found this site and am hoping I can get some insight here. I am married, have been for over 10 years. My husband and I got married under less than perfect ...
A. 12 March 2010: If your just friends then thats fine, but Alex seems to be going a lot out of his way for you so he probably may have feelings for you.
However this would not be fair on Jill if you ever got involved with her husband on a romantic level, just kee... (read in full...)
Do "nice" girls finish last?
Q. Hi, I was recently rejected by a man i like. I think i misread his signs. But meanwhile i'm puzzled how to know if a guy likes you romantically or he's just trying to be nice? And do men really like nice girls? i feel nice girls finish last. ...
A. 12 March 2010: If he likes you then he will go out of his way to be with you, he will do little things for you, He will treat you with respect and admiration.
And no, nice girls dont always finish last.... (read in full...)
Forced into giving him anal sex!
Q. My boyfriend always goes on about anal, and well i dont like it and he knows that, i gave him it to shut him up now he always goes on about it and makes me go on a guilt trip so he can get it, please help i dont know what to do xx...
A. 11 March 2010: You should never give in to shut someone up. Only engage in this if its what you want.
Sorry but if hes forcing you to do things you dont want then your being used. If he truly loved you he wouldnt be doing that.... (read in full...)
Closeness with my ex boyfriend...
Q. So my best friend is my ex-boyfriend, who I am still in love with. We have known each other for 3 years, and I had just gotten out of a bad relationship when I met him that he helped me get through. About a year and a half into our friendship, we ...
A. 11 March 2010: He obviously likes you a lot and the fact you keep coming back to each other and feel comfortable together is good.
I doubt it is a one off thing, and it will probably grow. Keep in contact with him over the spring break, if he is your soulmate... (read in full...)
Is my erection normal even although we're just holding hands???
Q. Okay, i have dated a few girls now in my life and every time we go out and we hold hands or just cuddle or just kiss i get an erection that will last the whole date if we continue on at least holding hands. is this normal? and after the date is over ...
A. 11 March 2010: Yes of course its normal to get an erection, your in the lust / infactuation stage it will improve over time.
Your testicals hurting is probably not normal, unless their being squashed, if not have you checked yourself for lumps on your balls?... (read in full...)
He constantly degrades me in front of our son!
Q. Hi I really need some help regarding my husband's behviour towards me in front of our son. I met him when I was 18 and we got married when I was 19 and he was 24 and we've been married for nearly 11 years and we have a two year old son. It took me ...
A. 11 March 2010: I think daddy got shit for brains. No man who truly loves you would say these sorts of things.
Sure it may be said once in an argument but not repeated. Its harder because there is a child involved but I would seriously think about leaving ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 11 March 2010: This guy does not care about your feelings hes using you to fulfil his own desires.
I am sure you could do a lot better for yourself, find a decent boyfriend who respects and apprciates you more.... (read in full...)
Is he leading me on and taking advantage of the fact I like him?
Q. I've got a problem with this boy i REALLY like. It might sound like one of those pathetic middle school crushes but i'm definitely not in middle school and this is not a crush. I like this guy and so does my best friend. But he told his best f...
A. 11 March 2010: Hes probably shy, if hes taking the time to walk you home etc.. then hes probably does like you.
Give him time, if you have those awkward silence periods in conversation hold his hand instead or put your arm round him. If he doesnt take that sig... (read in full...)
I get sooooo down when I don't see him...
Q. This may sound odd but I don't really know what I think I'm feeling, for the last year I've been with a boy that I've been crazy about and when ever I see him I'm always smiling. Since I was young I've had problems sleeping and can have days, weeks ...
A. 11 March 2010: Apart from your other problems, love takes time to grow and is not always instantly felt. It sounds like your a bit infactuated with him, which is a perfectly normal response. On the other stuff, look for things in your life that could be causing... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or is he a bit odd??
Q. Hi, I met this guy via the local community (he is a community beat policeman) when I was having some problems and he asked me out for a drink so I went. He seems quite nice in some ways if a little 'weak'. However apparently he has quite a temper ...
A. 11 March 2010: This guy is weird, and selfish. He doesnt have any interest in you and I suspect he is lying about his job too (ask to see his warrant card LOL)
Do yourself a favour and find a man who appreciates you better. You will get nowhere with this one... (read in full...)
Why is my ex playing games?
Q. My ex dumped me about a month ago, I'm still not really sure why, and I immediately started no contact. After 2 weeks of silence he text me 'hey. just thought I'd drop you a text to see how you're doing x'... I replied to be civil and polite and w...
A. 11 March 2010: If you want to be civil, leave off the lol and x on your texts. Break off contact with him. He will contact you again if he loves you, unless he finds someone else.
Its up to you what you do, if you dont want a relationship with him but want to ... (read in full...)
Will adding him as a friend on facebook make me seem desperate?
Q. well i have a crush on dis guy and he is there on facebook so you think should i add him?i hope this wont make him feel that i am desperate to talk to him?...
A. 11 March 2010: Did you have your picture up on facebook?
If not, add it and try again.
If your photo was up then you could send him a message saying you saw him a few times arround and wonder if he would like to get to know you. He will either run a mil... (read in full...)
Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that?
Q. Hey. When it comes to girls, I’d like to know where guys draw the line. Would most guys pull any girl that’s interested? Or are they more particular than that? The guy I fancy reluctantly said that he’d pull me and I keep on catching his eye at s...
A. 11 March 2010: Most guys are particular, a guy who pulls just any girl is after one thing only.
I think for a guy if he sees a woman he likes then he will find a way to get speaking with her to find out more about her.... (read in full...)
He wants us to take a break but I want to work things out...
Q. So i have been with my boyfriend for about 11 months a year next week. He has done some things to me that i have not quite forgiven him for, i am happy to be with him but the thing is we fight a lot, mostly every day mostly on my part on little ...
A. 11 March 2010: To be honest, a break may be the solution here. Take the space apart, keen in occasional contact by phone, text, email or letter.... (read in full...)
What can I do to prove to her that I won't hurt her if she gives me a second chance?
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been broken up for about 2 months now. We've gotten closer within the last couple weeks. We started to hold hands and kiss again. Some days she's very "lovey" with me. Some days she doesn't show any sign of affection ...
A. 11 March 2010: There is nothing you can do to instantly fix this, its going to take time for you to prove to her that she can trust you again.
Youve been given a second chance, if you truly love her dont screw it up.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but our relationship was too turbulent to ever get back together. What should I do?
Q. hi readers...i need yor advice.. i broke up with the love of my life 9 months ago... since then we have remained best buddies or i can say more than that....specially for the past 5 months. he behaves exactly like we used to when we were in ...
A. 11 March 2010: It sounds like your doing the relationship part anyway?
If you spend more quality time together like what you are doing then things may change in future.
Right now he wants to have a girlfriend without committing himself, without the main... (read in full...)
I cant stand my colleagues eating habits and it is starting to affect our work environment. What can I do?
Q. Hi all! I need to have a moan about a colleagues eating habits. A colleague of mine has the worst eating habits ever! She never has breakfast and instead comes in to work and eats 2-3 packets of crisps washed down by a can of redbull! Now we work ...
A. 11 March 2010: A follow up to "Samantha x" if this woman does have an ED then as Sam says, try not to get to mad with her. It's not her fault, she didnt choose it and yes I know that sounds strange to comprehend.
ED's can take over a persons life more than you... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 11 March 2010: He has a lot to learn about relationships and how to treat a woman with respect.
Hes very insecure and a wuss. Find yourself someone who appreciates you for who you are, not someone who wants you to tuck them into bed and read them a story.... (read in full...)
I hate the idea that my girlfriend was using birth control with her ex, I wish she had used condoms with all of her ex's!
Q. Hi. I need some good advice on how to deal with my own thoughts. Last night my fiancé asked me what kind of protection I would use before with my ex girlfriends. I told her I always used condoms. Right now my fiancé is on birth control. So she is ...
A. 11 March 2010: You cant control her past, whats happened has gone. If you use a condom or not, your still having sex.
She is with you now, not her ex so focus on the relationship and let go of those worries you have it will only hold you back from taking t... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 11 March 2010: Your girlfriend is not being very fair here. Using the baby as an emotional tool is not on and she should take your feelings into this too.
Did you all go and try and visit your mum?
Have you spoke to your mum to ask her if she has any issues w... (read in full...)
He's not my type but already I'm crazy about him! Should any of this really matter?
Q. I've been talking to a guy in my city for a long time now, we know the same but we've never actually hung out before. He asked me the other day if I wanted to go see a movie and I said yeah. My best friend told me that he's NOT my type so I ...
A. 11 March 2010: Theres nothing wrong with having differences, but dont expect to change him.
He may change for you but dont force him to make changes.
My girlfriend buys me clothes from time to time, but we have been together a long time and she knows what I... (read in full...)
I know all guys are different but I'm starting to think I might be bad in bed!
Q. Hello everyone This sounds really silly, and being my age ive only had 4 sexual partners and most of them have been long term relationships, Anyway i meet this guy last year slept with him twice then stoped, then last night meet him again a...
A. 11 March 2010: Yes its normal not all guys will be able to ejaculate, there are loads of reasons why not. You will also find that penis and testical size varies in different men.
Sex is not done by an instruction book, you have to learn and find your own self... (read in full...)
Sharp pain in my cervix that lasts no more than 2 seconds - what could this be?
Q. im 36 weeks pregnant feeling really uncomfortable baby moving around a lot but i feel a lot of pressure downstairs and sometimes it feels like the baby's foot is kicking my cervix is this normal? not sure if its babys foot just feel a sharp pain ...
A. 11 March 2010: If your bowel movements are regular it could be cysts or endometriosis. Go to your doctor and get checked over.... (read in full...)
She left me to date another guy and now she wants me back.
Q. It all started as a happy relationship between me and my gf until she started hanging around other guys. now at first i didnt mind, cuz she only befriended them so she can get me jealous. then eventually it started bothering me cuz the guys tried ...
A. 11 March 2010: It depends of if you forgive her. It will always be in your mind now that she will cheat on you.
Dont just take her back for the sake of having a girlfriend, make sure its what you really want and if you do decide then just take things slow and... (read in full...)
What does it mean when girls play with their hair as I walk by?
Q. i've noticed that almost always when i pass girls on the street, in a store, on the subway wherever, they always start playing with their hair...does this mean they find me attractive or that i make them nervous? i've been told that i'm really ...
A. 11 March 2010: It normally means there interested and attracted to you, do you get eye contact too?
If you do and want to take it further, just look back and give a big smile and keep doing it each day.... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can get on the pill without my parent's knowing?
Q. I'm thinking about going on the pill, is there a way I could get it without my parents noing?...
A. 11 March 2010: Its good your being responsable for wanting birth control, but really its not a good age to be having sex plus its illegal.
If your boyfriend loves you he will be willing to wait, if he cant then sorry to say hes using you and doesnt love you.... (read in full...)
Why does he never cum any more... he used to??? Is it me???
Q. hi. i have been with my partner for almost a year now, we still have a loving relationship, we cuddle and kiss all the time still and have a laugh together. the thing is when we have sex he never cums anymore, he hasnt for a while now, he use to a...
A. 11 March 2010: Its the stress, been there myself. I expect his sex drive is low, hes probably doing it to please you.
It may be time for a holiday away with him. Stress can have a serious effect on mental health if not careful.
Maybe he has money worries an... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being unreasonable?
Q. okay guys this is what happen, tell me if this is reasonable or not? so me and my LDR gf was discussing about our friend birthday and when it was. i told her it was during the summer but she said no it was during april. After we hung up, the nex...
A. 11 March 2010: No not reasonable, its a silly disagreement.... (read in full...)
Should I terminate my pregnancy for my boyfriend?
Q. im just 3 weeks pregnant and its the one thing i want most in the world. im 33 and was beginning to fear it would be too late for me. my partner wants me to terminate, weve discussed children and ive always been under the impression it would happen, ...
A. 11 March 2010: No way. If he cant accept his responsibilities then he’s not worth sticking with.... (read in full...)
I cant stand my colleagues eating habits and it is starting to affect our work environment. What can I do?
Q. Hi all! I need to have a moan about a colleagues eating habits. A colleague of mine has the worst eating habits ever! She never has breakfast and instead comes in to work and eats 2-3 packets of crisps washed down by a can of redbull! Now we work ...
A. 11 March 2010: It really sounds like she has an eating disorder, and this is a serious illness. She most likley has bulima or even anorexia and is binge eating. Her immune system will be lower than normal if she is anorexic.
Does she dissapear to the bathroom... (read in full...)
How can I help her orgasm more often?
Q. me and my fiance have sex on a regular basis and she orgasms every time but i kinda feel bad because she rarely orgasms more than once at a time and even rarer still has a really powerful orgasm, but i always end up orgasming at least twice ...
A. 11 March 2010: She may be faking it, its not always easy to get a woman to climax. Try more foreplay instead.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him he is crowding me?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that I couldnt imagine being without, but I do have an issue. We both have different views on what exactly we want. You see, we talk EVERY day, multiple times a day, but there are times I want to talk ...
A. 11 March 2010: Yes it can be overwhelming, just tell him you need some space from the relationship for a while.
If he loves you he will wait, if he gets into an argument about it then hes not worth worrying over anyway.
When you go back and start communicat... (read in full...)
Is sex the reason why girls keep breaking up with me?
Q. i know this is a stupid question but girls always break up with me and its like after 2-3 times we have sex. And they don't say anything just personal problems, but this one girl said it's because my penis is too big, so i think it's because of ...
A. 11 March 2010: Every woman is different, it may be the case in some women but its probably more to do with they dont feel a connection with you.
Dont give up trying, dont rush into sex in a new relationship, get to know the girl better first.... (read in full...)
What is so wrong with me? Should I just give up on relationships and be single forever?
Q. I am needing some advice, I have been single since 2003 and don't get out much at all. I have been single ever since my divorce. When I go out in public and see someone I like, they act like I'm a creep or something. The area where I live is kinda...
A. 11 March 2010: No dont give up. Try on-line dating for longer. I met my girlfriend online (well she found me) and we have a great relationship.
What do you think is the problem why women see you as creepy?
Looks are not as important as you think and being ... (read in full...)
Already in a relationship, but beginning to become attracted to someone else
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for four years. Recently, I feel like we've been drifting apart, but we still love each other. We've had our ups and downs, but lately it feels like more downs than ups. I think I'm starting to become attracted to a m...
A. 11 March 2010: Similar thing happened with a ex-girlfriend of mine years ago. She fell for a friend of mine, it ended in disaster.
I found out, I broke up with her then she dumped my friend a while after.
It put a strain on my friendship with my mate as ... (read in full...)
I gave him my number 2 weeks ago but he still has not called! How can I get to know him more without making things uncomfortable?
Q. I've been an assistant manager at the same store for about 5 years now. Recently, a new pharmacist started at my store. I almost immediately felt chemistry between us. We definitely flirt, but keep it very innocent since it is work. Even some other ...
A. 11 March 2010: He may be dating "trying" other woman first, if he wants to get intouch with you he will.
As marieclaire says, if a man really likes a woman nothing will stand in his way.
Sure you can wait a bit of time, but dont spend too long. If he hasn... (read in full...)
Is this the real character of women?
Q. Just a wondering.... Is there a submissive, feminine, sweet side to practically every psychologically healthy straight/bi woman? Could this aspect be described as uninhibited, as in, the fundamental personality inside? Or is this behaviour only a...
A. 11 March 2010: Defiantly not, every woman is different.... (read in full...)
Does his reaction sound genuine?
Q. Hey all, I just found out my boyfriend, soulmate, best friend for a DECADE has been having what he calls an 'emotional affair' for the past year with another woman. I am one of those girls who has always maintained my high moral standar...
A. 11 March 2010: He could have said no to her, was she was blackmailing him?
In my humble opinion once a guy cheats on someone he loves he will cheat on anyone (same for women who cheat too).
It sucks to find something like this out and especially after... (read in full...)
We rarely have sex anymore....
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and I love him immensely. When we started out, sex was great for the first 3 to 4 months - we had sex often and we were able to please one another. And then... it got less frequent. That's ok - he's got a ...
A. 11 March 2010: He may just be stressed out because of work, this can really lower a guys sex drive.
Is there any other signs he is falling out of love with you?
Try talking to him, ask him if hes ok.... (read in full...)
I love my best friend's sister. Is she interested in me?
Q. i love my closest and bestfriend's sister where she is 1.5year younger than him and 2.5younger than me i feel like she love's me as much as i do to her i was @ there house sitting in my friend's room -he left to do something where i stayed...
A. 11 March 2010: It sounds as if she likes and even fond of you, love is a strong word and you will only know if that it is mutual love for sure after some time.
You could reply because it will be easier for me to express my feelings for you if your alone.
... (read in full...)
Will adding him as a friend on facebook make me seem desperate?
Q. well i have a crush on dis guy and he is there on facebook so you think should i add him?i hope this wont make him feel that i am desperate to talk to him?...
A. 11 March 2010: No it doesnt make you desprate.... (read in full...)
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