He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 11 March 2010: Its a good thing you found out when you did. It's jerks like this who give us guys bad publicity.
You should have kicked him in the nuts before you left. ... (read in full...)
He is a liar but I cant prove anything
Q. theres a guy at work who ive become very good friends with and am fond of. however very recently ive noticed hes been lying to me a lot which hurts because we get on well together and i though he trusted me but lately my intuition has been bugging ...
A. 10 March 2010: He is probably fantasising. Trust your instinct it will be right 99.9% of the time.
Stop buying the coffee, make an excuse you have left your purse at home, see what his reaction is.
If he can’t afford a few quid for the coffee then fina... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: It sounds like he has a lot to learn about how to treat a woman with respect.
Hes trying to control your life, seeing you as his property.
Plus he is a very insecure guy, not good :(
Relationships need trust and respect for each other.... (read in full...)
Should I take my teenage daughter to a clinic to get birth control? There are no close females in her life and I am worried about her
Q. I am a single father of 3 teen age children, 1 daughter (16) and 2 sons (17) and (19). My daughter has been dating a boy from her school since late january. He seems like a nice enough of a guy but my sons call him a "player". A few nigths ago I ...
A. 9 March 2010: You have let her know your concerned and given her the talk, and assuming she is an intelligent girl then there should be no need for you to take her.
Try and pick up some information leflets for her on safe sex and leave them with her, let her ... (read in full...)
Does she still want me or is it head games?
Q. By ex broke up with me about a month ago She caught me in a stupid little white lie about hanging out with my best friend. I still have strong feelling for her I can't let go..... So we've decide to stay friends, gave her a week of space, call and ...
A. 9 March 2010: Sounds like she still loves you. I doubt she is playing games, with you not contacting her for a while she missed you. If you love her tell her that, if you dont or are unsure then wait longer to find out for sure.
Listen to what she has to say, ... (read in full...)
Warts an' all!!!
Q. If my boyfriend has a wart on his penis and I had un protected sex with him does this mean I will get one too ????????...
A. 9 March 2010: It depends on what type of wart it is, they are usually cause by skin infections and the HPV virus, which can be transferred but some can be birth marks and quite harmless.
However some warts can be a sign of an STD, especially with it being on... (read in full...)
He's really into me and wants a threesome!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend, we've only been together a month, but we're really into each other or at least I think he's really into me. I mean, he asked if I would participate in having a threesome. Not a normal threesome. He just wants to have 2 girls give ...
A. 9 March 2010: Hes in fantasy land. Dont do this unless its really what you want to do.
He says to you he doesnt want to see anyone else having sex with you, just tell him thats how you feel about it, you dont want to see anyone else having sex with him (oral in... (read in full...)
Worried about our future... do I leave him because of this?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over 1 1/2 years, and we live together. i love him very much and most of the time we get on fine, but he has no direction in life and im worried if i settle with him we will end up struggling and living a dead end ...
A. 9 March 2010: It does not sound as is he is going to change, if he cant make a change for himself or you then its unlikley he will in the future.
You have to question yourself and ask do you truly love him enough to stay? I suspect not because your having d... (read in full...)
Do I love him as much as I think I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 5 months, I am so in love with him, and every time something bad is mentioned like he might leave me, or we even get into a fight i start crying, I always miss him, and hop he is safe, and i cant ever ...
A. 9 March 2010: Your infactuated with him and its natural to be this way.
Enjoy what you have now, use common sense and you will be fine.
When you older you will find this out, a good relationship is built on trust and friendship.... (read in full...)
How do I always choose needy men and how can I stop this?
Q. Hello: Okay I called off my engagement January 11th as I feel I do fall at times for the wrong man, my last few have been ones that are not what they say or users or want you to take care of them, one was my daughter's fathers what can I do to avoid ...
A. 9 March 2010: Its probably the signals your sending out, when dating you dont have to opt for the first guy that comes along. Play the field a little more. I am sure there is someone out there for you.... (read in full...)
I have herpes and it's making me feel sooooo insecure...
Q. I have herpes. I met this guy who doesnt. After a little while I told him and was sure he would bail on me. but he didnt, and we started dating. We have slept together although carefully. My problem is that the herpes makes me really insecure. ...
A. 9 March 2010: Hes dating you because he likes and probably loves you for the person you are. When in love we know each other is not perfect but still go on loving just the same.
I really doubt he is staying with you out of sympathy, try and start to relax a ... (read in full...)
How can I move on with my life and get over this?
Q. Its me again this girl that wrote this columb -http://www.dearcupid.org/question/help--how-can-i-move-on-with.html So lately I have hit an all time low. Having the love of my life break up with me for someone is hurting me more and more ever...
A. 9 March 2010: Sorry to hear that and yes breakups hurt like hell and the real way to get over them is time.
I know right now you think you will never get over this, but try and focus on other things in life you will get over it in time.
Take care!... (read in full...)
Any advice on how I might go about this and possibly take this girl out?
Q. Alright, so there's this chick that I work with. I'm always talking to her when we work together, and we get along pretty well, but we've never really gotten to a very personal level, it's mostly just small talk. She's 5 or 6 years older than me ...
A. 9 March 2010: Dont let your difference in work / salary make your decision, it means nothing in love.
Tell her you are sorry you couldnt go with her the last time but you had a night out that was already planned for a while and would have been hard to get out ... (read in full...)
We should be like rabbits but things are going wrong...
Q. Hi I'm tash im23 I hear u can with problems with relationship I'm date this guy have be for 1year and 6 months and we live together . Thing are goin wrong he don't give me sex. And when he do I got ask but he rather wank off over porn dos that mean ...
A. 9 March 2010: Relationships can have lots of problems. He may not want sex with you because he fears of getting you pregnant or he may have some issues from his past.
Talk to him, communicate more.... (read in full...)
His borrowing, and gambling are getting to me and yet he has given me money at times...so I feel guilty that I'm upset...
Q. I have been dating my current BF for about 18 months (we do not live together). A little over a week ago he borrowed money from me, telling me he would pay me back today. He brought it up twice over the weekend, saying he will have the money today. ...
A. 9 March 2010: He has an addiction, the only way he is going to change that if he admits he has a problem. Only then can he get help.
You cant fix this yourself, try to encoruage him to get help. If he has large debts then he can look at getting a fixed rate loa... (read in full...)
Are smaller sized condoms available for regular purchase?
Q. Yeah, so I've tried using a bunch of the regular/average condoms but they're kinda too loose for me and obviously magnum/large ones wouldn't be any better lmao. Are there smaller sized condoms available for purchase? ;x I've already tried loo...
A. 9 March 2010: Your average size and a regular condom should do.
If they are slipping off then you could try a smaller one, a dedicated pharmacy store should stock them, if you want less embarassment buy them online.... (read in full...)
Torn because of my loyalties.....
Q. Hi everyone. Unique situation. My best friend (girl) was dating this girl, and they just decided to be friends after a few months. Her stepfather and my friend have been in a relationship since August 2009. The complexities come into play because ...
A. 9 March 2010: Strange situation, the best thing you can do to be supportive is just listen, dont try and fix this.
Time will sort this one out.... (read in full...)
What do I say when we start chatting again
Q. so i recently became quite close to a guy that i met online.he is sweet,caring and intelligent as well.he went to stay together with his parents for a week and now he is returning on monday.so i was wondering what shall i say to him when we'll start ...
A. 9 March 2010: Well if your 15 or under and he is 29 then its probably not a good idea to be saying anything to him at all.
Theres nothing wrong with some age difference in a relationship but I would not recommend it until your a lot older yourself, you can ... (read in full...)
His little sister is invading our relationship.
Q. Okay so my boyfriends sister is coming home from living with friends. She butts in our relationship and is very needy of him. I don't like to share and feel like im competing. She also uses him and he accepts it because that's his younger sister. ...
A. 9 March 2010: Your boyfriends sister may have been close to him well before you came along. It may not be personal on you.
You shouldnt try to change him for that, family are important as well as girlfriends. I go and see my sister usually once a week and my g... (read in full...)
Having trust issues after 8 months
Q. I have been dating a woman for 8 months now and I still have trust issues. We have declared our love for one another and have both said that if there ever were a "soulmate", then we are it. We met on an online dating site this past summer and we b...
A. 9 March 2010: I know what you mean here. I met my girlfriend through online dating too, but soon after I suspended my account and she done the same. My girlfriend had a guy text her all the time, he used to work with her. I asked her does this guy know you... (read in full...)
Do girls actually think this way about the penis size?
Q. I was talking with a girl (not a girlfriend) about relationships and stuff and when we were talking about the sexual aspect and stuff about how sex is an important part one, she brought up something about penis size. Well I, being the honest(lol) ...
A. 8 March 2010: It really depends on the woman, and if your friend is still young she aint really qualified to answer that.
Dont worry about it, your average size.... (read in full...)
What is he up to? Does he sound dodgy to you?
Q. Help!! A man contacted me from a dating site that i am listed; we sent friendly email back and forth for about one week; this man never asked about me or my life be just talked about what he wants in a woman and he also disclosed that his prev ...
A. 8 March 2010: He sounds weird, don’t get involved. A guy who is genially interested in you will be asking questions about you as well as giving information about themselves.... (read in full...)
She asked me to dance... could this be the start of something big?
Q. Hello there. i need help. what do you think is the best thing to do in my situation. let me tell the story first. we were in the club last night with my friends celebrating my best friends birthday. we keep dancing and dancing. me and my brother ...
A. 8 March 2010: Yes she likes you, contact her again find out more about her. If you like her then ask her out for a drink or a meal.... (read in full...)
How can I connect with his friends better?
Q. Hey, I've been going out with my boyfriend, who I love to bits for the last 6 months. The only thing is he feels like (and I know he's probably right) I don't make the effort to hang with or get to know his friends! In the past few months this...
A. 8 March 2010: Have a talk with your boyfriend tell him how you feel, if he loves you he will understand.... (read in full...)
OK, so will he make a move on me? Or should I? Or does he not fancy me?
Q. He is slightly older than me and we have been meeting in our university campus between and after classes for like a month and a half. We constantly text each other in college to find out when we both are free so we can meet up. We went out on ...
A. 8 March 2010: Yes he likes you - a lot! He may ask you but dont hold your breath, some guys can be shy.
Ask him would he like to go on a date, have some ideas of where to go planned.... (read in full...)
My girl won't please me the way I want her to!
Q. Should I break up with my girl if she won't give me the pleasure I want? She's always making up excuses so as not to do what I want and, just for the record, I always give her whatever she wants, even without her having to ask me for it....
A. 8 March 2010: If your thinking of breaking off because she wont please you then you dont love her. She may have issues with not doing what you want, try talking with her.
In a comitted relationship, its a poor reason to break up.... (read in full...)
Did we have sex too soon? Have we ruined things before they even got started?
Q. I met this guy, we had met a few months ago and we hung out all night talking until 6am, there were other people around too but they had fallen asleep and we talked for another couple of hours before he went home to bed. I found him very interest...
A. 8 March 2010: Sounds like he was using the bag to get an excuse to come over to your place again.
Having sex while drunk is a bad idea in my opinion because we sometimes end up regretting it.
There has to be more than just sex for a relationship to ... (read in full...)
Why is he still checking dating sites?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a month. He is an acquaintance of my best friend, and she set us up. I thought things were going great. He's asked me to hang out almost every single day, and I see him usually 4 or 5 times a week. I've met many of his ...
A. 8 March 2010: Hes keeping his options open, it's common and it should end when he finds a woman who he truly loves.
That someone could be you, but after 1 month maybe a bit soon for him to decide, he should go exclusive with you but if hes still doing it after... (read in full...)
Trapped in the 'friend zone'
Q. Alright guys, basically there is a girl in my year at school i really like and we are quite close mates. Anyway, someone hacked her email account and sent loads off ppl an email sayin we were goin out when we weren't. She said to one guy, "i'm ...
A. 8 March 2010: Welcome to the world of dating. With some girls you have to get a good balance of being a jerk and being a nice caring guy.
She could be embarrased about it all going public, or she could be telling the truth.
Either way you can find out if ... (read in full...)
She says we don't spend enough time together...
Q. I've been dating a girl for 11 months. We hangout usually tuesday night, 2 hrs, thursday for 5 hrs, sat after 6 and all day sunday if i dont work sundays. She says she needs to hangout with me at least 5 times a week or it wont work. When we do have ...
A. 8 March 2010: Find a girlfriend who appreciates you more. Theres more to this than not spending enough time with her, she sounds very controlling. She may be afraid that you will cheat on her so wants you in her sights all the time.
You will probably find her... (read in full...)
Why would he hide his real self from me in a serious relationship?
Q. I'm dating this guy who I think doesn't outright lie, but does twist the truth. I'm the sort of person who likes the truth without any white lies. It's obvious he cares about me deeply, though, and his bull is usually designed to make him look ...
A. 8 March 2010: Yes I think you have already worked out the answer to this, and thats because of low self esteem because he feels inadequate for you. Hes playing the part of his ideal self which he thinks is what you want to see.
Its a psycological problem ... (read in full...)
Is this girl just playing hard to get or doesn't she like me?
Q. Hi, this is quite a complicated question but any advice would be greatly appreciated. To paint the picture, I'm known as a bit of a manwhore at work. Recently I started courting a girl from work quite successfully. I purposefully did...
A. 8 March 2010: I think if she had any kind of strong feelings for you she would make time to see you regardless of how busy she was.
Theres also nothing wrong with kissing or hugging on first dates if you both take to each other but no need to kiss passiona... (read in full...)
All I want is to be his friend again... help!
Q. well its a long story lol.. i met this guy, lives kinda far but thats not the problem.. he stayed overnight at my house an we partied had fun but after he went back home he never spoke to me again.. he told my friend he hates me.. an that im gross...
A. 8 March 2010: What you have to do is move on and find another guy who appreciates you for who you are.
This guy is either gay or doesnt like you.... (read in full...)
Is he interested in MORE than friendship?
Q. I know this question has been asked a million times, but I'm here to ask again. I am NOT a teenager, rather a 38 year old woman, trying to figure out if my best guy friend is interested in more than friendship. We text OFTEN, not daily, but often ...
A. 8 March 2010: If hes going out of his way to make excuses then yes theres a good chance he has other feelings for you.
Does he touch you, like on the arm or shoulder in the course of conversation? Is he doing little things for you that he never did before? ... (read in full...)
How do I proceed with this new friendship?
Q. I am very happily married (13 yrs. with 3 children) and committed to my husband. I met a (getting divorced) man a few weeks ago at the gym and we've recently become facebook friends. He seems to need and appreciate having a friend to talk to and I ...
A. 8 March 2010: You both should be able to have male and female friends without it affecting your relationship. If it is affecting you then there are insecurities in your trust with each other.
If you’re happily married then why would you want to flirt with ano... (read in full...)
Boyfriend told me he needs to focus on himself and be alone... I'm so hurt.
Q. My bf and I have been together for over 1 year. Everything was great. We have done and experienced soo much together. He always told me he loved and cared for me. Last Wednesday he broke up with me.. he told me that at this stage in his life he ...
A. 8 March 2010: This situation sucks, and I know it hurts.
If there were no obvious problems in your relationship, do you know if your friend has a bi-polar disorder or has been depressed? both these could lead to a sudden change.
He may be scared of making... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex....
Q. I've got a problem which makes me cry every day. Couple of months ago I wanted to clean my boyfriend's mailbox he always complains about how many letters he has, but unfortunately i discovered emails from his ex. She said she still loves him and ...
A. 8 March 2010: Hes still flirting with her, and it's common for ex's to do for a while, but it should fizzle out.
He may have proposed to you a little early. Give him the benefit of the doubt for a while, let him prove himself to you and regain your trust. ... (read in full...)
I need some opinions with some confusing behavior from a ex girlfriend.
Q. I need some opinions with some confusing behavior from a ex girlfriend. We met nearly 12 months ago and there was an instant attraction for the both of us,we became friends quickly and entered into a relationship for 8 months and fell very muc...
A. 8 March 2010: I know this sucks, but give her the space and time she needs. Time will fix all of this for you both.
It sounds like she feels shes feels she is getting to close to you, maybe she thinks your about to propose to her and its too soon.
She cou... (read in full...)
Torn between the army and having a baby...
Q. i'm 20 years old and im about to join the army. I have never thought about having a baby before. I always said i didnt want one. But for the past few months everyone seems to be getting pregnant around me and its making me want one myself. My mom ...
A. 8 March 2010: Your still young, you have time for both, but dont just do it to please your mum only do it for the right reasons.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my wife?
Q. I am planning to leave my wife, but I am really scared of her - not that she is gonna beat me up or anything. The other day we were having a argument and she punched me - I was too shocked, even so she has hit me before. And she blames me for "m...
A. 8 March 2010: Providing she didnt punch you in self defence, which I doubt. She cant love you that much if she punched you.
You should go to the police and report it, they will put you in contact with a support network for just this kind of abuse.... (read in full...)
How many young ladies out there (like me) are having a hard time finding a boyfriend?
Q. Hi guys, I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself but I'm wondering how many young ladies out there are having a hard time finding a boyfriend? I am 20 this year and have never had a boyfriend, I feel like I'm a really slow developer. Every si...
A. 8 March 2010: Hi, Im not a lady :-) but from a guys point of view its probably down to your personality, your probably too nice.
Your still young and love will happen for you, theres a boyfriend out there who will love and appreciate you for who you are and ... (read in full...)
He calls me his "woman" but he wont call me his "girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a month. I have known hi for two years prior to dating as we are in our doctoral program together. Since our first date we have spent every day and night together except three. We text all day from wor...
A. 8 March 2010: From your follow up and what you say, it does sound like your boyfriend does love you and is in love with you a lot!
When a guy puts a womans feelings before his own and is always thoughtful then he has a lot of respect and love for that woman. ... (read in full...)
He calls me his "woman" but he wont call me his "girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a month. I have known hi for two years prior to dating as we are in our doctoral program together. Since our first date we have spent every day and night together except three. We text all day from wor...
A. 7 March 2010: It may just be his mannerism refering "his woman" to his girlfriend.
If hes putting you first then he probably does love you more than you think.... (read in full...)
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