What am I doing wrong? None of my relationships last
Q. i am completely useless in relationships and really need your help. I did go out with a guy for 4 years and he ended up cheating on me and i stayed single for a few years until i got over him. BUt lately i met this guy 3 months ago and we hit it off ...
A. 15 March 2010: Look for any problems leading up to the break ups, was there arguments? did the guys distance themselves from you? When a new relationship starts, people are sometimes infactuated meaning they can see no wrong in the other person, they think there... (read in full...)
I need help with social skills.
Q. Me and my girlfriend, both 15, are always talking but we can never figure out what to talk about. We always end up saying so, but it gets boring after a while. We are both quiet people but I have little to none social skills. Any ideas what I can do ...
A. 15 March 2010: Sorry to say but without communication its not going to last.
There are loads of things to talk about. Her, You, Hobbies, Pets & Animals, TV & Movies, Weather, Future Plans & Ambition, Travel & Holidays, Work / School, Education, Exams, History,... (read in full...)
I am avoiding kissing anyone coz I don't know how to go about it!
Q. I'm 17 years old male and I don't know how to Snog I've always had chances to but I've been too embarrased and my mates wonder why I turn down girls that are really good looking. Does it just come naturally? And is it obvios that it's my first snog? ...
A. 15 March 2010: Yes it comes naturally, the more you do the better you will get at it.... (read in full...)
His libido is gone and I'm not sure why?
Q. I have been dating a great guy for a little over 5 months. We are both in our 20's. He has a very demanding job, and is extremely busy, while I am a college student with a much more flexible schedule. Our sex life has always been great- we have ...
A. 14 March 2010: I think he is stressed, this has an amazing impact on lack of sex drive. I dont think the problem is you, if he had issues he would not be holding your hand and kissing.
Give him time, keep an eye on him for anything out of the ordinary as it co... (read in full...)
I have no idea what's going on in her head..need advice!
Q. Last month my ex called to say that we were over and she needed a break from us, we'd been going out for 2 1/2 years,we'd been arguing a lot over the last few months,and I guess she'd just had enough. taking a step back from us has made me see some ...
A. 14 March 2010: She has obviously missed you a lot, this can happen if youve been apart even if the relationship has been broken off. It sounds like she does love you.
Shes snapping at you because she is jeleaous, and this is another sign she loves you.
... (read in full...)
Will time apart help give us the answers?
Q. Hi all, There is of course so much more depth to this and so much that we have done and tried, but i will keep this as to the point as I can. My partner and i have been together for two years, living together for 6. He has some health issues...
A. 14 March 2010: Its always harder when your in a relationship with someone who has health problems that cause out of the normal things.
I know this first hand because my girlfriend has a long term illness, from which she may or may not recover.
I think when ... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. When is the right time to have sex?
Q. I'm in my first relationship now (I sort of fell into it by chance), though it is long distance at the moment. We've been officially dating for about 8 months now, but sort of had something going on a while before. He's the only person I fully ...
A. 14 March 2010: You should only have sex when you both agree the time is right and after knowing each other for a while. You both have to be sure the the time is right, for a guy the time will most likley always be right, but for a lot of woman its a more emotional ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ugly or not...you tell me
Q. I'm 13 and guys and everyone else calls me fat and ugly but most of the time the call me a cow and moo at me down the hallway I would punch them but don't need an 8 write up. These kind of ppl make me so angry they make me crazy and my mother has ...
A. 14 March 2010: This is bullying, they are doing it because they know its getting a reaction from you. It gives their sad little minds something to do. Does your mom know why your getting angry? Have you told her about the name calling?
I know its hard, but if s... (read in full...)
Desperate for a normal life !
Q. *OP's own title* Hi everyone, its so much on my mind so my thread is gonna be abit messy because i want to get all the things in once sentence so bear with me :). Ok so.. im 19 years old male, 20 this summer and still a virgin. It started o...
A. 14 March 2010: Topics can include anything imaginable. Although its best to keep away from heavy subjects like politics, war or past relationships.
Some opening topics could be about yours and her work / school, hobbies, likes, dislikes, ambitions, the weather,... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated because during sex, he lasts a few minutes...is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend can hardly ever last long during sex and its getting really frustrating! today he finished in literally less than 2 minutes and we'd hardly gotten into it. is this like a medical problem or normal? i thought he would be able to control ...
A. 13 March 2010: It can be, sounds like hes getting too excited too quickly. Sounds like you need more foreplay and save the main event until the end. Teasing your partner can be very exciting. Suggest getting some sex toys and ask him to try them on you. It will ... (read in full...)
I want to stay a virgin until marriage but what's the use!
Q. I would really like to stay a virgin until I'm married but it doesn't seem like there are any virgin girls left so whats the point? The whole chastity thing really doesn't work unless both people are in on it. It's all just really irritating 22 ...
A. 13 March 2010: There are a lot of women who share your view. You have your own reasons and good on you for that. Never give in just because its what other people seem to be doing.
You are the captain of your own ship, dont crash it.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her and get over it this..or am I upset for a good reason here?
Q. I've only known my best friend for nearly 2 years, but we instantly had an amazing connection and got on so well. My trouble is, for my bday my friend blew me off and didnt get me so much as a card. Her bday is comming around and deep down I want...
A. 13 March 2010: Yes forgive them, they may have genuinely forgot. Get your friend a card but dont do anything else.
See if you get a card next year. If you dont then dont buy one for your friend on their next birthday.... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: Dude your still developing, but it sounds like you know what you want but cant have it because of the stigma placed on you by society.
If your gay, it's probably not something you can switch off that simple. Thats like asking me a strait guy to b... (read in full...)
How do I show this girl, that I want a second chance?
Q. ok so i decided to set up an account and see if i could get some advice because i really dont know what to do. i was with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years and we had some really really great times.we broke up 7 weeks ago. the ting was i was v...
A. 13 March 2010: It may be possible to rescue.
Write her a letter apologising, give your reasons why you pushed her away and tell her you miss her very much. Also say if she gives you a second chance you will behave better in future. Make the letter genuine ... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 13 March 2010: I think this is not going to improve on its own, you could try and get help together but it will only work if he wants to make a change.
Right now, if he truly loved you he would not be abusing you and doing more to help you.
Its easy to s... (read in full...)
Feeling horribly unloveable...what can I do?
Q. i feel completely unloveable...all my relationshops have ended horribly, and virtually no-one shows me any interest. I'm 19 and 5 ft 8 ...size 16 -18 and slightly alternative.... all i can conclude is that im fat and ugly ....please help...
A. 13 March 2010: In a relationship if a guy truly loves you your height and body size will not make one bit of difference. He will see and love you for the person you are.
Dont put yourself down, there will be someone out there for you who will love and respect ... (read in full...)
My guy friend and boyfriend both compete for my attentions! How do I handle this?
Q. OK, I'm having a problem between my boyfriend and my best friend. They used to be quite good friends with each other before I got together with him... We all met at the same time at uni. But since I've started going out with him, my friend doesn'...
A. 13 March 2010: It sounds like your friend wants to break you up, probably because he has feelings for you.
If you love your boyfriend then your loyalty should be on his side, its a tough call but only you can make this work.
Leaving it like this will put a ... (read in full...)
Closeness with my ex boyfriend...
Q. So my best friend is my ex-boyfriend, who I am still in love with. We have known each other for 3 years, and I had just gotten out of a bad relationship when I met him that he helped me get through. About a year and a half into our friendship, we ...
A. 13 March 2010: Sometimes in life you have to take chances or live with regret. Telling him how you feel will put your mind at rest, it will have three outcomes.
1. He loves you and wants to stay intouch and build a long distance relationship with you.
2. He l... (read in full...)
Can the messages see into the real him?
Q. So yeah,there's this guy I talked to on this website,whenever he sees me online he messages,we have discusses serious matters and we just like talking to each other period..he said it's rare to find someone intelligent like me on a website etc. We ...
A. 13 March 2010: Hi, well if your sure hes not insecure than you could ask him something like "did you get cut off the last time we chatted"
If he asks why, just say well you never finished our conversation.
See what he says. It could be something like h... (read in full...)
He's leaving for college in another state and I've just started really liking him.
Q. I've recently started talking to this guy and hes really sweet and smart. But he's leaving for college in another state in a couple of months. should i stop talking to him? because i'm beginning to really like this guy. =/ please help. hes currently ...
A. 12 March 2010: No dont stop talking to him, unless you really want to date someone else.
Long distance relationships can work. Just keep in regular contact with him by whatever means, phone him a few times a week and have a chat about what you have both bee... (read in full...)
Desperate for a normal life !
Q. *OP's own title* Hi everyone, its so much on my mind so my thread is gonna be abit messy because i want to get all the things in once sentence so bear with me :). Ok so.. im 19 years old male, 20 this summer and still a virgin. It started o...
A. 12 March 2010: Conversation should come natural when you’re with a girl you really like.
When talking about yourself don’t go on too much you will bore them. Be honest, women hate guys who lie (you will be found out and it will be used against you)
A lot o... (read in full...)
She is way out of my league, ... what should I do?
Q. *OP's own title* I met this girl about 2 weeks ago and she was like wow. A girl that is like my dream girl but after talking to her I noticed that she is way out of my league. Should I just ignore this or should I just quit right now. She does...
A. 12 March 2010: Dont put yourself down, in love status does not matter.
You say she seems not to be interested in you, in what way has she shown this? Did you ask her out?
If she was interested, you may find her flirting with you or catch her looking at you f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and friend have admitted wanting to have sex with each other. Am I over reacting to their attraction?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend wants to sleep with one of my very good friends. I wouldn't mind if that was it, because she is extremely beautiful, annoyingly so actually.. but it's the fact that he said that as soon as he saw her, he made a mental note to ...
A. 12 March 2010: No your not over reacting.
First your "very good friend" is not a friend if she is trying to take your boyfriend from you. Wake up!
Second, if your boyfriend really loved you he wouldnt be commenting on how beautiful your friend was.
T... (read in full...)
I feel like I am being smothered by my fiancee!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just 2 months, he is 40. We both have children from previous relationships (he has one, and I have 3) but neither of us have ever been married. We dated very briefly last year but things didn't work out because I ...
A. 12 March 2010: It sounds like you need to tell him you need space and time. Let him know your not breaking up with him, but just need a couple of weeks alone time.
If he loves you he will wait and take the hint.... (read in full...)
How to behave with a sucessful and controling guy u just met?
Q. *OP's own title* Am dating a nice guy but he never tld me he's bussinessman he like to control woman.... He wants to have kids now.... I really like him...am only 20 n live with my dad .... I'd like to know how to keep him happy n wat 2 do to keep...
A. 12 March 2010: Dont let him control you, if your not ready for kids then dont have them. Tell him your not ready to start a family yet. If he loves you he will wait.
It sounds like you have only just met him and to be talking about kids at this stage is unreal. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I have hurt his feelings and his manhood- though isn't that better than lying there and faking it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a fantastic relationship, we've been together almost 2 years and I genuinely couldn't be happier. My problem actually came just last night, when we were about to make love, and before I had a chance to blink, he was in...
A. 12 March 2010: Yes its a bit insensitive of you to react like that. You could have told him in a more calming mannor.
I suspect your pissed off beceause he doesnt give you enough foreplay.
Get yourself some sex toys and ask him to play more with you. He wil... (read in full...)
I need help with my thoughts of sadness and jealously over the life my partner shared with his ex.
Q. Hello everyone, I really need help dealing with my thoughts. I am in a stable long term relationship and have been for almost 3 years. Everything is going okay- we talked about marriage and we live together. However, my partner has had on...
A. 12 March 2010: I dont think you have anything to worry about here.
I keep recipts for 5 years before destroying them and things like the dog certificates most people would keep for a lifetime.
It sounds like you have a good relationship and you have to let ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I want foreplay without making it sound like I am saying he does not know how to please a woman?
Q. My current BF is my first serious relationship. I was a virgin before I met him and he wasn't. His experience though consisted of two short term GF's (2-3 months each) and two one night stands. Even though I didn't enter this relationship wit...
A. 12 March 2010: Sad fact is most guys just get stuck in without much foreplay where I have learnt that most woman like more foreplay before the main event.
Try getting yourself some sex toys and ask him to use them on you.... (read in full...)
How can I approach her and strike up a conversation?
Q. There is a really cute girl i see every Wednesday when i go to the gym at my university she works at the front desk and just swipes my ID when i enter. she always smiles at me and seems really sweet, can anyone suggest ways in which to strike up a ...
A. 12 March 2010: She could smile because its her job to be polite with customers / clients. She may also be in a relationship already make sure she hasnt got an engagement ring on her finger and then ask her if she would like to go for a drink one night. You will ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a boy likes you?
Q. How do you know if a boy likes you. For example is it realistic to assume that a boy likes you when he touches/strokes you and gets jealous when you talk about other guys?...
A. 12 March 2010: Yes if hes touches/strokes you then he likes you (a lot). If he gets jealous then the likes you.
He will go out of his way to spend time with you or bump into you. He will do nice things for you and talk to you more than usual.... (read in full...)
We're back together now, but I'm finding it difficult to trust. How can I let things go?
Q. Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me the first time I've been having trust issues with him but were back together. Any advice on how to let things go? ...
A. 12 March 2010: Only time will let you trust him again but a strong relationship will survive this.
If you keep dwelling on the past then its going to effect you developing your relationship further and growing it.
Trust is a major part of a relationship and... (read in full...)
I'm worried my ex will date my best friend and hurt him.
Q. So, almost a year ago I dated my now ex for about two months. It doesn't sound like very long, but we were friends for a very long time before we started dating and I guess that's why the break up had more of an impact than most two month break ...
A. 12 March 2010: You cant really fix this, if you tell Jesse this he will think your just trying to split them up. The best thing you can do (and I know its hard) is let things take their course.
If and when Jesse gets hurt, be there for him as he was for you.... (read in full...)
Can the messages see into the real him?
Q. So yeah,there's this guy I talked to on this website,whenever he sees me online he messages,we have discusses serious matters and we just like talking to each other period..he said it's rare to find someone intelligent like me on a website etc. We ...
A. 12 March 2010: The problem is with meeting people via the internet is they can be anyone they want to be and you would not even know any different until you actually met them.
Not saying here he is pretending to be anyone he is not but one thing that does sta... (read in full...)
All the kissing and no call yet.
Q. I'm 19 years old and so is he, I've known this boy for almost 2 years, he lived in my halls of residence in my first year at uni, we never really got close but were aquaintances, but I always fancied him a little bit. A few nights ago I was out with ...
A. 12 March 2010: Ok could be a few reasons here;
1. The alchohol gave him the courrage he needed to communicate with you. In this case he likes you but is too shy. In this case he will probably call you soon.
2. Hes with someone else, and it was a one night ... (read in full...)
What does his hug mean?
Q. I went on a date with a guy i work with and i feel like i am gettin mixed signals bc we kissed during the movie and afterwards we talked for an hour and he gave me a hug and then he texted me afterwards asking me if i was able to come to his friends ...
A. 12 March 2010: Hes probably seeing you as a friend right now if this is the first time he has done this but romantic relationships can grow from this if its what you both want.
I hug my girlfriend often, its a nice feeling.... (read in full...)
My teacher treats me different and its embarrassing me...does anyone have any tips?
Q. Hi. I have an enormous crush on my teacher. Yeah I know this is completely normal, but he's... I'll just say he's in his early fifties. I have never heard of anyone liking someone nearly forty years older than themselves... I feel so awkward ...
A. 12 March 2010: Your friend is stupid, the teacher may have other reasons for staring. My advise on this one, just keep quiet and carry on as normal. Your crush will fade with time anyway.
I am sure the teacher will know how to handle students like your friend s... (read in full...)
Sexually addicted??
Q. Dear Cupid: My fiance has cut back on viewing porn (well, as far as I know). Now every night, all he wants is me to tell him of my past sexual experiences. He says he'd rather jack off to that instead of viewing porn. Does this sound like somebody...
A. 12 March 2010: It does sound a bit weird about having to use your past to find mental stimulation. He should be focusing on your relationship now.
Most guys do think about sex a lot, but if its ruling their life (and yours) then it could be a bad habbit that he ... (read in full...)
My crush on my teacher who doesn't see my good qualities, is keeping me from dating guys that do...how do I get over this crush?
Q. I have had a crush on my teacher for a year or so, and every day I look for an excuse to stay in his classroom. It's odd because some days we seem to have interesting discussions, and other days we just do our own work. From time to time I see him ...
A. 12 March 2010: You recognise it for what it is, a crush. You know it can never happen. If it ever did he would loose his job and never be allowed to teach in schools again.
You have to start mixing more with boys your own age group, is there no one else you have... (read in full...)
Young Male With Huge Sex Addiction Problem, Please Help It's Ruining My Life!
Q. Hi Everyone, ok well i need some help here i am an 18 year old male, and i have an extremely high sex drive, possible sex addiction problem, i just cannot get enough! most of the time i use pornography to satisfy the urges but it's still not e...
A. 12 March 2010: Dude, its quite normal. Your at the sexual peak is arround 18. Banging her is one thing if she agrees, marrige takes a lot longer.
If you lust or infactuate over someone which we all do in the beginning of a relationship, it soon wares off. Wha... (read in full...)
Did I scare him? A long story very short.
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. It started with him having a crush on me, when I was into someone else, but after bumping into him one night and him giving me his phone number I began to like him too. He was really attentive, ...
A. 12 March 2010: He sounds like a decent guy, try texting him to apologise for your behaviour. If he texts you back then take it from there. He may have seen another side to you that he doesnt like.... (read in full...)
I don't understand the dating scene...how do people meet people?
Q. I am 21, not bad looking, thin - UK size 8-10 - and I am never approached by men unless they are very drunk. I came out of a LTR about 6 months ago and am finding the dating scene very hard to understand. I don't understand how people meet people ...
A. 12 March 2010: Try online dating sites, but make it clear you dont want a long term relationship. Be careful if you just pick up casual partners and use common sense.
If your just approaching a guy for sex then chances are you will only get the drunk or desprate... (read in full...)
Closeness with my ex boyfriend...
Q. So my best friend is my ex-boyfriend, who I am still in love with. We have known each other for 3 years, and I had just gotten out of a bad relationship when I met him that he helped me get through. About a year and a half into our friendship, we ...
A. 11 March 2010: He obviously likes you a lot and the fact you keep coming back to each other and feel comfortable together is good.
I doubt it is a one off thing, and it will probably grow. Keep in contact with him over the spring break, if he is your soulmate... (read in full...)
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