Should I give up or not??
Q. Is there any way to have a girl like you again. me and this girl liked each other a couple years ago but the day i decided i was going to ask her out, i got into a fight and she saw. she's ignored me since but i cant stop liking her. should i give ...
A. 18 August 2010: Try talking to her, tell her you miss her company, that your sorry and have changed (if its the truth).
Was the fight over her?
If she is going out with someone else then its probably better to move on.... (read in full...)
Do you still have sexual desire whilst on your period?
Q. Do you want have sex when you are in Menstrual period? Recently,my monthly period are abnormal,I think it's something to do with it( sexual desire ).But I am not sure. Thanks for help. ...
A. 18 August 2010: My girlfriend does. I suppose it depends if your in pain or not?
It can turn some men on equally it can be a turn off too.... (read in full...)
What type of women do men prefer? Petite or tall?
Q. I have heard that short women ( 5'-5'2) with long legs are the most attractive. Is it so? What do you think about this?...
A. 18 August 2010: I personally dont have a preference.
It's personality that counts more for me.
I have dated both petite and tall women, thin and fat women.... (read in full...)
What is the possibility of us getting back together?
Q. hi, i was with my ex since for 6 years, and has broken up for 8 months. he is the one who wanted to break up, and after he asked for a break up, i did all the normal reactions, i begged, tried to convince him to get back togehter, ran up...
A. 18 August 2010: It sounds like he was scared off because you got too clingy. Hes now got you exactly where he wants you to be chasing him.
If you do get back together, just back off only see him once a week, dont call other than to arrange a date and dont ema... (read in full...)
Why did his parents react so badly when they found us chatting together?
Q. There's this guy i love more than anything else in the world. we're great friends and we each know there's something going in the other's mind. he;s younger than me by a year. only problem is: his parents saw us chatting together and got really mad ...
A. 18 August 2010: They may not think your good enough for him and I dont mean that in a nasty way.
Some opinions can be clouded if people judge without knowing the other person first. Its classic, I see it all the time.
Other reasons could be religious or the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't respect me!
Q. I am 25 yrs old and my bf also 25, we always fighting,but i know that we love each other so much,but he doesnt respect me,he says what ever he want,we have been together for 3 yrs, if i tell him that he must change his behaviour,he wil tell me that ...
A. 18 August 2010: Maybe you should leave him, it will have one of 3 effects.
1) He will realise what hes lost and try to change for your sake.
2) He will move on.
3) He will apologise to you say how sorry he is and misses you, after a short time he will retur... (read in full...)
She dumped me by text to concentrate on work!
Q. I dated a girl 2 years ago for a couple of months but it didn't work out as she wasn't happy with herself. Fast forward 2 years and we started seeing each other again for the last 3months. We were crazy about one another could get enough of one ...
A. 18 August 2010: Wow she doesnt respect you much.
Things may change if her life doesnt go the way she wants it but if you dont want to end up being her fall guy you need to take control if she comes back saying sorry.
Try a period of zero contact, dont ev... (read in full...)
Do you believe in "Divine Intervention?"
Q. Hi, Loads of crazy things have been happening to me recently taking me back to the time that I was with my 1st love many many years ago. I had a lot of problems back then, but all is well for me now. Then completely outta the blue she tr...
A. 18 August 2010: I get them all the time and can be scary sometimes. I just have to think of a friend and the phone will ring or I get an email from them soon after, usually the same day.
Maybe we are just given choices in life, if we choose to follow them is ... (read in full...)
He would rather watch porn than spend time with me and his new baby!!!
Q. I have been with fiancee for a little bir. I am 22 and he is 27. All my past relationships i was either cheated on or abused. I didnt think good guys existed, but when i got with current bf, he showed me what true love,i still have trust issues ...
A. 17 August 2010: He may be depressed?
Having a new baby can be a big change for anyone both moms and dads.
Have you talked about things? Has his attitude changed in anything else? Is his work affected?
Look for the signs, if he is depressed then it can be... (read in full...)
Do I deserve better?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. Our 5 year anniversary meant nothing to him. He told me that. He never even remembered even though he knew it was a big deal to me. I'm going back to Uni soon and he's never ...
A. 17 August 2010: You dont deserve to take that rubbish. Get out and find someone who appreciates you.
No guy has the right to treat you this way, he doesnt love you. He doesnt appreciate you and he doesnt respect you.
By the way at size 6 your NOT fat!... (read in full...)
Do virgins turn guys off?
Q. I'm 18 years old and I'm still a virgin. The guy that I've been talking to just asked if i am or not, and I'm scared that things will change between us or he will think of me differently when i tell him that i am. I'm not "saving myself" for ...
A. 17 August 2010: It depends on the guy. If he is a decent guy he would take it easy your first time and try to make it special for you.
... (read in full...)
Why do men lie about small things?
Q. Today is my boyfriend's mom birthday. I didn't know until now, even if we've been going out for a year. He invited me to his place to celebrate his mom, but I couldn't be there, since I'm out of town, so I asked him to tell her "happy birthday for ...
A. 17 August 2010: Just dont be pressured by him and run the relationship at your own pace.
You obviously care about him enough not to move on so as long as he is making you happy then just enjoy the relationship.
He may grow out of the bigger lies eventually.... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but doesn't want a relationship, do I even have a chance with this girl?
Q. my question is that you are in love with this girl and she tells you that she loves you but she is not ready for a relationship and she wants you to be there for her and yet you want her to be near her but you get hurt because she say she loves you ...
A. 17 August 2010: She wants you as a friend, nothing more at the moment.
It could develop into more but dont count on it.... (read in full...)
Am I dating the wrong guy if I don't want to get involved with him sexually?
Q. I have been dating a guy for two months. We met in my work where he was a customer. He attracted to me on his visits and I looked forward to seeing him every weekend, on his shopping trips. However, as we started dating, he expressed his fondness ...
A. 17 August 2010: Nothing you are saying is unusual. If the guy does love you then he will wait for sex and not keep pressuring you. Just tell him your not ready for sex with him yet, if he starts more pressure then he doesnt really love you that much.
Sex is not l... (read in full...)
How to have a special day after 5 weeks no contact?
Q. My boyfriend and i are not going to see each other for 5 weeks. How can i make the day we see each other really special? I know the fact that we are seeing each other is special in it's on right, but i'd like to do something more. Thank you....
A. 17 August 2010: Just do an activity where you can both talk and have a good fun time together.
Maybe something silly like a visit to the zoo and a nice meal afterwards.
or invite him round to your place and cook dinner for him.
While he is away try ... (read in full...)
Can a woman get Thrush even if she is not sexually active?
Q. Hi, I know what Thrush is. Can a woman get it even if she is not sexually active?...
A. 17 August 2010: Yes of course, thrush is a bactarial condition. It can be oral or vaginal.... (read in full...)
Swollen testicles causing discomfort.....
Q. ok so sometimes my right testicle will swell slightly, its not that bad but it is causing discomfort. Also the lower abdomen is swollen on the right side just before my testicle and is slightly harder than the left side. When in this state if i ...
A. 17 August 2010: Rather than speculation on here go and see a doctor.
There are many causes for things like this but from what you describe it may be a hernia.
Hope its all ok.... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me but has a girlfriend! I don't even know how I should be feeling....
Q. This guy I like has a girlfriend he tells me he wants to be with me and that he wants to give it a shot he will NOT however break-up with his cheating girlfriend after dating three weeks sh has not! kept it in her pants, and I told him no cheating ...
A. 17 August 2010: He may break up with her yet, 3 weeks is not that long in a relationship.
I would say wait for him but if someone else comes along then move on.
If he is still with her after a few months then just move on regardless. Its not worth waiting to... (read in full...)
Why do men lie about small things?
Q. Today is my boyfriend's mom birthday. I didn't know until now, even if we've been going out for a year. He invited me to his place to celebrate his mom, but I couldn't be there, since I'm out of town, so I asked him to tell her "happy birthday for ...
A. 16 August 2010: That sounds a little weird. He’s probably told his mom one thing and you another and doesn’t want you speaking direct with her.
What that is anyone’s guess. Does he lie about other things too?
Some guys lie about everything, making themselve... (read in full...)
What should do if my girlfriend says she needs time?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over three months. About a week ago I commented on her facebook and said "hope you are having a good day and looking forward to seeing you again". A couple days later she blocked me. I said it was ...
A. 16 August 2010: I really dont think its anything you have done, the big clue here is "eating disorder" I suggest you read up on it. I am guessing she is either anorexic or bulimic may be a bit of both but either / or are a serious mental health condition. She may ... (read in full...)
He broke up because he is not ready for a relation. But I want him back.
Q. He broke up with me. I posted a question earlier: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-need-advice-guys-i-dont-know-what.html But now he broke up. And I really want him back. He doesn't feel mature enough for a relation. He wants his freedom back. He...
A. 16 August 2010: The best way to win him back is to keep as friends, it may not turn out as you want right now but give it time.
If he isnt ready now it doesnt mean to say he wont be ready in a few years or so.
Everyone is different and develops at diff... (read in full...)
If I started a relationship with her would it compromise our jobs?
Q. Hi, I really like this girl at work, shes a few years younger than me but one of the most beautiful and kind girls I know, I don't really know her that well though, and I would like to eventually have a relationship with her, but the problem is I'm ...
A. 16 August 2010: Unless there is a no dating rule at work then it wont compramise your jobs. Just be prepared if she turned you down or the relationship failed later on then it may be awkward for you.
If she works sitting next to you then it can put a big strain o... (read in full...)
The proposal!!!
Q. Hello people, last week i went to my boyfriend's country to meet his parents which was in portugal, and they were a lovely family especially his mum. we've been together for 1 year and 5 months now and we normally talk about marriage and kid...
A. 16 August 2010: If he is going to propose, it will probably be when you least expect it to happen.
He's obviously been talking to his mum about you. Just take things as they come, dont pressure him and try and look supprised! Theres no need to rush anything... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says its normal for men to cheat
Q. I always caught my boyfriend of 7 years cheating on me. I think he cheated on me 6 times or more. We already have a baby and I thought that he would change. Every time he is caught cheating he always says sorry and promises that he won't do it ...
A. 15 August 2010: Some guys cheat for many reasons but a lot dont. In my opinion its not ok to cheat in a comitted relationship, especially after 7 years.
If there are problems in the relationship prior to cheating then he / you should either fix them or get out.... (read in full...)
I'll wait as long as she needs to have sex, but is there anything I can do for myself in the meantime?
Q. Background: =========== I've been with this girl for 2 months now. She is not willing to have sex. We escalated from occasional makeout to frequent makeout sessions. Then, she reduced it all completely. I discussed it with her. She said she ...
A. 15 August 2010: Let her get the exam out the way and get the result too.
Dont pressure her, she is not ready for sex and you could scare her off.
Try masturbating more frequently and try and control the urge to cheat on her if you think anything of her.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend joked with his mate about my trust issues
Q. My boyfriend once broke my trust and met his ex behind my back. It's made me insecure which he says he realises is his fault. But I heard he made a joke about my insecurity to a mate. Now what am I supposed to think?...
A. 15 August 2010: Not a good remark to make. He cant have much respect for you if he can even make such a comment.
Speaking as a guy, I need trust in a stable relationship and would never break that trust equally as I give trust.
Your boyfriend has his own agen... (read in full...)
I need some opinions about doctor prescribed anti-anxiety medication
Q. Hello, I have a question regarding anti-anxiety medication. I suffer from Agoraphobia, and can barely leave my home without having panic attacks. I've tried to push myself to go a little bit further out of my comfort zone and try to go furth...
A. 15 August 2010: There are some drugs your doctor may prescribe known as SSRI's these are usually things like Paxil, Prozac or Zoloft. They can help some people suffering from anxiety but not all. They typically have a 45% success rate.
Some of these can become a... (read in full...)
Withheld Unknown number keeps calling my cell!
Q. i have a problem that has bothering me for the couple of days...i have a new number on my cell and someone has been calling me for the couple of days with the withheld number and unknown number....please i need to know the number of the person who ...
A. 13 August 2010: Theres no way you can find out apart from answer it.
Records are kept of withheld callers but they are not made available to protect privacy.
Get a friend to answer your phone next time if possible or set up voice mail and put the calls to tha... (read in full...)
I want to be just friends..rather than dating him. What can I do?
Q. So I've been dating this boy for about 3 months now. And he hardly ever texts, because he never got signal. He never tells me he cares or anything sweet so I thought about breaking up with him when my friend told me he might leave me, because I ...
A. 13 August 2010: He may just not know how to communicate well. Maybe your the only girl he has been with.
I would think after 3 months he should have made up his mind and should really be showing you more comittment and communication.
Maybe its time to move on?... (read in full...)
Is he playing me or what?
Q. Okay so I have been hanging out with this guy for a couple of weeks and everything has been good. The last time we hung out was cute we layed on his bed and wrestled with each other and he would tease me. When I texted him the next day he told me he ...
A. 13 August 2010: I dont think he is playing you. 2 weeks is not long enough to become exclusive girlfriend / boyfriend.
If your interested in him, just back off a little and give him time.
Stay in regular contact but dont discuss issues like sex etc... or mo... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a virgin at 28?
Q. I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong? I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the dis...
A. 13 August 2010: No theres nothing wrong with that at all. If starting a new relationship dont talk about sex on the first 3 or 4 dates, a lot of women wont appreciate it.
But if she brings up the subject first then its ok to talk about it.
I actually admire ... (read in full...)
Scared I might be pregnant though I had my periods after a dry-humping session.
Q. A little over a month ago, my boyfriend and I dry humped. He was naked and I had on panties. Three days later my period came on the day it was supposed to, but it was on and off. The next month my period came three earlier and it was on and off. ...
A. 13 August 2010: I would listen to your doctor. If both tests are negitive then its very unlikley your pregnant.
There is a condition called Phantom Pregnancy where if you think your pregnant you will experience symptoms of it but its very rare.
Also stress c... (read in full...)
Confused about which one to date!
Q. Ok um 21 n I lasted with my ex which now is 26 let's call him "joe" almost 3 yrs n we broke up like a month ago.. Couple of days later I meet this guy he's 22 let's call him "danny" ok so now were dating n I felt kinda guilty 4 moving on so fast ...
A. 13 August 2010: I think your making the right decision.
Hope it all works out for you!... (read in full...)
Wanting to date my sister's friend, but my sister wants me back with my ex...
Q. I have recently split up with my previous girlfriend since she grew to be controlling and possesive towards me, we had an arguement which ended up me leaving her. We are now friends which is'nt much an issue. BUT My sister and my previous part...
A. 12 August 2010: Sometimes we need to make mistakes and take risk to progress. Its your life and not your sisters you should do what you feel is right.
If you like your sisters friend then get talking with her more if you both click then ask her out on a date.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talking to ex's mother... I'm scared to ask him about it
Q. I recently found out my boyfriend is talking to his ex girlfriend's mom on face book. I think he is looking up his ex on face book also. I found he is looking up a house the ex bought. He does still have pictures of her when they were engaged. I am ...
A. 12 August 2010: There may be nothing in it, I talk to my ex's mom and theres nothing in it. Its just I got on well with her and her husband.
If your boyfriend is being secretive about it then maybe there is something to hide, if he is open with you about it then ... (read in full...)
My dad is engaged to a woman while married to my mum
Q. my dad is engaged to another woman whilst married to my mum. my mum knows all this but she refuses to leave him and kick him out i have never got on with my dad, so when i found out that he was engaged it came as no shock. but it did to my mum. o...
A. 12 August 2010: Sorry to hear that, there is really nothing you can do in this situation but your mum and dad should realise its hurting you and others.
You could try having a sit down talk with your mum and tell her how much its affecting you all but dont for... (read in full...)
How do I know what I am?
Q. How do I know if I'm gay, bi, or straight?...
A. 12 August 2010: You will know by what turns you on. It may take you a few years to find out when you grow up and become more sexually active.... (read in full...)
Confused about which one to date!
Q. Ok um 21 n I lasted with my ex which now is 26 let's call him "joe" almost 3 yrs n we broke up like a month ago.. Couple of days later I meet this guy he's 22 let's call him "danny" ok so now were dating n I felt kinda guilty 4 moving on so fast ...
A. 12 August 2010: Sometimes you have to take a risk in life to progress. If joe has hurt you in the past then its likley he will do it again.
If you stay with Danny then yes, he may hurt you or you may hurt him but only time will give you the answer to that.
... (read in full...)
Does my bf want another gf???!!?
Q. My bf is looking for a new job so, most probably he'll be moving to another city. He was really upset (since he just lost his job and also his ex who works with him isn't really friends with him anymore) and asked me if I would remain friends with ...
A. 12 August 2010: Long distance can be good too, its important to keep up contact. He has told you he doesnt want to break up so take it as that.
Long distance requires trust on both sides and you should make a point to visit when you can or visa versa.
9 month... (read in full...)
Do you believe that there is only one true love in your life?
Q. Do you believe that there is only one true love in your life? ...
A. 11 August 2010: No, theres infactuation and lust these can seem like true love at the time.
Love is an expression that grows with time.... (read in full...)
British women...
Q. Why are britsh women nearly always subtle... not like foreign women who dont beat around the bush (no pun intended) and get straight to the point.... would certainly make life a lot easier!!...
A. 11 August 2010: There not all subtle, it depends on the woman. Maybe the british are more reserved?
You need to start reading the signals and signs the woman is giving off.... (read in full...)
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