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Questioning my phone calls and texts

Q.   *Op's own title* My boyfriend wants to know who "I" am texting and who is texting me all the time. Most of the time it is between my kids and I. I resent telling him what I am doing all the time. I get annoyed and feel that he is being too nosy...

A.   6 April 2010: He is paranoid and thinks your cheating on him. You have explained to him and showed him the texts which you didnt have to do and that should be the end of it. If he is constantly going on about it then he just cant trust you and that is no basis... (read in full...)

I can't find a job and g/f is calling me a mootch!

Q.   My situationis this. I've been unemployed for 15 months and my 10 year relationship has become very tumultuous. I'm living in her house and find myself in a very awkward situation. I do love her and do what I can for her and around the house. She ...

A.   5 April 2010: It's tough your out of work at the moment, are you looking for a specific job or are you willing to take any job that pays? I think your partner calling you these things is probably out of frustration, however thats not really an excuse, if she r... (read in full...)

3 years of dating and now he wants to spend his off time alone, is he falling out of love?

Q.   I have been with my bf for almost 3 years now, we love each other I often talk about our future together. Over the last 2 months though he has been working more and then when he has free time it seems like he would prefer to spend it with mates or ...

A.   2 April 2010: He could be just getting a little bit stifled by spending a lot of time with you, give him his space and see where it takes you in the future. It may be nothing, he may just want space to think about your future together. The easiest way to h... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of 9 years cheats and talks down to me!

Q.   I been in a 9 year relationship with this guy and we have 2 kids together and he has hurt me so many times. Is it even worth it trying to make it work? He has cheated on me numerous of time and I constantly forgave him and try to make it for my ...

A.   2 April 2010: Any man who treats his partner this way is not a man in my book, he is a coward. I know its harder because you have the children to account but you should really just wake up and stop going back to him. He is obviously not in love with you an... (read in full...)

Couldn't keep it up for sex and now I'm all freaked out!

Q.   Hey guys, i have a problem... when i went to go have sex with this girl, i got all nervous and such and went completely blank. Like, the Johnson deflated. Idk what to do, ive been freaking out about it all night... the last time i slept with a gir...

A.   2 April 2010: Dude, dont beat yourself up. Lots of guys have this problem. Providing there is no medical reason, i.e you able to get an erection and keep it while on your own then your just focusing on it too much and getting anxious. Try to relax more an... (read in full...)

Boyfriend forces me to have sex with him!

Q.   i've got problems with my new boyfriend.first time when we meet..everything was consider okey between us.but,one day...he start to talk about sexs.everytime he text me..he always said.."i want you baby"...plss....sometimes i feel fedup with ...

A.   2 April 2010: Sorry to say this, he doesnt love you and you should leave him. You should NEVER have sex unless its what you both want, if its forced then it can be consituted as rape. Do yourself a favour and find a boyfriend who loves and appreciates you more... (read in full...)

Why do men only want fun?

Q.   Why do men just want fun?? - Is there anyway to go further or are they all just destined to only want fun? - Why is it only when they want fun? - why do they want to catch up but never make time available?...

A.   2 April 2010: Not all men, same as not all women. Some men (me included) have a good balance of fun and serious responsibility. I guess you just havent met the right guy yet, but dont give up looking. He is out there somewhere! Good luck! ... (read in full...)

Will I be able to find a girlfriend in a male dominating career?

Q.   Can you still find a partner/girlfriend even if you do engineering as a career? I ask because I do Civil Engineering as a degree and I'm just curious since I don't have a girlfriend at the moment. Moreover since it is engineering, wherever I work, ...

A.   1 April 2010: Well if its of any help, Im am electronics engineer and I found a girlfriend. Why do you really need an engineer girlfriend? Sure I can see there would be common interest, but shop talk 24/7 could get a little too stifling for any relationship... (read in full...)

Can my boyfriend tell that I get really turned on when we are making out?

Q.   when my boyfriend and i are making out i get turned on really easily. is this wrong and can he tell? ...

A.   1 April 2010: No its not really wrong, it just means you have lustful feelings for him, its human nature, and yes he can probably tell.... (read in full...)

If the chlamydia test comes back positive how should I tell my boyfriend?

Q.   been with my man for almost a year, when i first met him we had a one night stand together (at that time i didn't know i had chlamydia) after i found out i had chlamydia and i went and got treated for it. a few months later me and him started ...

A.   1 April 2010: You should tell him strait, exactly how you have explained it here. If he is at risk then he has that right to know. Guys appreciate honesty more, he may think the worst but if he loves you he will get over that.... (read in full...)

Wouldn't he have asked me out by now? Is he just flirting?

Q.   I have recently moved back to my home town, and i joined a local pub quiz, one of the blokes that is in our group i get on really well with, we do flirt with each other, and my friends all say he likes me and when we are in each others company he is ...

A.   31 March 2010: I dont think he is just flirting, its obvious he likes you. If you like him too then ask him out on a date. Some guys can be shy when it comes to asking a woman on a date.... (read in full...)

I'm at my lowest ebb, what do you advise?

Q.   im so fed up with my life.please listen to me-hopefully you can advise. im 35 years old im living at home-why ? because last year my world fell apart. i left the guy who had been my fiance for 6 years. i got sick of the mental battering and he...

A.   31 March 2010: Sorry to hear your feeling low, and right now you probably cant see a way through. Never give up hope, you dont know what your future will hold for you. Being insolvent is nothing to be ashamed about and neither is having no carpet. You can and ... (read in full...)

I don't want to lose my boyfriend because of sex!

Q.   I cant have sex with my boyfriend becose am still a virgin, and cant make him cum thru blow job. .wot should i do,i dont want to lose him to other gurl becos of sex....

A.   31 March 2010: You should talk to him, explain your feelings. If he loves you he will wait, if he cant wait then sorry to say but you should move on.... (read in full...)

When is the right time to move in together?

Q.   I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 and a half months nw,ever since we dated we been spending a lot of time together and we spend nights together,i have my own rented house but i spend most of my time at his house,we are thinking of moving in ...

A.   31 March 2010: Its a big step moving in together, personally I think 2.5 months is too soon, but I guess it depends on the people involved in the relationship. Personally I would think 6 months onward would be a better time. I have no doubt you feel love fo... (read in full...)

I feel sexy in women's underwear, would I be considered a transvestite?

Q.   so here go...i am a straight man that loves women....i have no sexual or emotional attraction to men. however I like to ware womens panties and thongs...they make me feel sexy. not into anything else like dresses, though I've tried it. I am ...

A.   31 March 2010: eeeerm well I am a strait guy and can honestly say I would not feel sexy in womens underwear, but I guess every guy is different. Maybe you are a transvestite, maybe you just got a fettish. But if its not hurting anyone else and its pleasing... (read in full...)

Would I make my boyfriend horny if I sat on his lap?

Q.   My bf asked me to sit on his lap. Does that makes a guy horny if I do so?...

A.   31 March 2010: It depends on the guy and the situation, yes it can make a guy horney but not all the time. ... (read in full...)

I want to help my bi-polar girlfriend, but I need her to show her love with the 'little things' too.

Q.   hey guys thx fr taking the time to read this and helping me out. me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over three months, this is the quickest moving relationship ive been in. im madlyin love with her and she feels the same. its not ...

A.   31 March 2010: The answer to that is simple, you dont worry about it and you give her time, time to accept you. Even though she is showing feelings for you she may still be very scared of letting you getting too close emotionally. You have to remember anyo... (read in full...)

He can only offer me friendship...

Q.   I want him back I have been dating a guy for 4 months. During this period he doesn't care for me much. But I loved him so much. One day I couldn't control my emotions and I call him and cried explaining the things I am expectng from him. Also I...

A.   31 March 2010: You need to try and move on here. It is possible this man is already married. It hurts a lot to get over a relationship and everyone is different, but never give up hope of finding someone who will love you and appreciate you for who you are.... (read in full...)

I want to help my bi-polar girlfriend, but I need her to show her love with the 'little things' too.

Q.   hey guys thx fr taking the time to read this and helping me out. me and my girlfriend have been dating for a little over three months, this is the quickest moving relationship ive been in. im madlyin love with her and she feels the same. its not ...

A.   31 March 2010: You sound like a good supportive boyfriend to her. People with a BPD can be difficult to understand at times and it’s sometimes hard to know when the alter person takes over. First thing to recognise is it’s not her fault, being in a relation... (read in full...)

He proposed but doesn't want to be seen with me in public or introduce me to his parents.

Q.   me and my boyfriend studied together during our graduation programme and soon we bcame best of friends. he proposed me last yr and we had a perfect relationship for the first few months. then we had to return back to our respective cities after ...

A.   31 March 2010: It sounds like his infactuation and lust for you is now gone, he is seeing the real situation. I think he is using his family as an excuse, anyone who is truly in love would not have these issues, it seems strange to me. You may love him a l... (read in full...)

He loves me but doesn't believe me...!!!

Q.   hi, I have a bf and I've been in a relationship with him for about one year! He is so sweet and caring. I love him a lot and he loves me a lot too but he always doesn't believe girls..!! We both are studying in different countries and we are ...

A.   30 March 2010: If he doesnt believe you then he doesnt love you. When a guy truly loves a woman, he gives her his 100% trust, stands by her and wants to see her make a good life. If he is controling you now then imagine what it will be like further down the... (read in full...)

My fiance has sexual pictues and videos of his ex girlfriends.

Q.   My fiancé has several sexual videos and pictures taken with past girlfriends. I found them before and we almost broke up. He told me he would get rid of them yet one year later I see by his compter history he has them hidden on a file on his compu...

A.   30 March 2010: Thats not really on to keep these images even in a relationship where your not engaged but it makes it 10 times worse as he is supposed to making a lifetime comittment to you. If he truly loved you he would respect your wishes especially if he kn... (read in full...)

Why did he do that?? He's destroyed me!

Q.   my bf ( should I say my ex) accused me of cheating and messing him around. and didn't contact me for 2months and i didn't call him either cos I knew he was not interested anymore so i got on with my life hoping hed contact me. he rang me on ...

A.   30 March 2010: At a guess it sounds like if he had another girl then its broke off or he is bored with her. He thinks your with another guy and is trying to make you jealous now. He may try and call you again soon. He's obviously thinking about you to cal... (read in full...)

I've never even kissed a girl before. Is this normal?

Q.   Help, I have recently became depressed because I have never been kissed before let alone have had a girlfriend. Is this normal? All the other males have girlfriends and it makes me sick and depressed when I can't find one of my own, hell some are ...

A.   30 March 2010: Yes its normal, I never had a proper girlfriend until I was 19. Dont give up, your young and still have a lot of life to live to the full!... (read in full...)

My husband of 10 years had declared he no longer loves me. Is he just in his cave emotionally?

Q.   I have been married for 10 years. I love my husband. I love our family(three children).. I believe we are truly blessed. He told me a year ago that he didnt love me. I have been trying my best to keep it together. I t has been ok until recently. We ...

A.   30 March 2010: You could try packing the kids off to a babysitter then have a sit down talk with your husband, ask him whats changed and what you can both do to mend the situation. You tell him your feelings and be totally honest with him, ask him to be totally ... (read in full...)

How can I regain my boyfriends trust?

Q.   me and my boyfriend are on a rocky patch and he doesnt trust me. he says everything will be better once he trusts me again. i've lied about stupid things one to many times. i really want to regain his trust. any advice? im guessing it will just take ...

A.   30 March 2010: Only time will let him trust you again, theres nothing really you can do to make this happen quickly. Dont give him any more reasons to doubt you, although right now he will be doing a lot of thinking. If you both truly love each other then giv... (read in full...)

Is he just being an idiot or does he really like me?

Q.   Umm.I really like this boy. He always fools around with me in my last class at school that we have together. He does things like blows me kisses and touches my butt or tells me im hot or like says if I wanna go to his crib with him and flirts and ...

A.   29 March 2010: Tell him when he grows up to try asking you out again, but make sure you say it loud enough and say it in front of his friends. If hes playing games he should give in, if its genuine he will apologise.... (read in full...)

Dating advice required!

Q.   hi everyone im a 25 year old dental student with only a few months left to qualify. recently joined a few dating websites and have been on a fair few dates in the last 5 months. i have also been set up by a few female friends who i work with. my pro...

A.   29 March 2010: Hi looks are not always the factor when it comes to dating. A lot of women like a man who is caring, who listens to them, who is thoughtful and who doesnt go on about their life the whole date through. Looking back at your conversation on the 1st ... (read in full...)

My married best friend is in love with me

Q.   My best friend and I have been inseperable for the last 13 years. He has just recently gotten married. since then I have distanced myself, do to the fact that all women are not as comfortable with their other half having a female for a best friend. ...

A.   29 March 2010: It sounds like he got married too soon, but bear this in mind, If he cheats on his wife he will certainly cheat on you. Just tell him you want to be friends but dont want a relationship with him.... (read in full...)

Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??

Q.   Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...

A.   27 March 2010: The reality of this is you do have an eating disorder if you want to admit it to yourself or not. My girlfriend has had Anorexia Nervosa for 16 years so I really do know somewhat what I am talking about here. Eating disorders are very seri... (read in full...)

How can I ask my parents if my boyfriend can stay over?

Q.   Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years and i stay at his house almost every weekend, but lately he's been asking me if he can stay with me, I feel like I'll be disrespecting my parents so much but I haven't really asked them about ...

A.   27 March 2010: Just tell them you would like your boyfriend to stay over one night and ask if they are ok with that. You will soon know if they approve or not. ... (read in full...)

Why do some people find love so easily?

Q.   I feel so alone. At 26, I have lots of friends but I want more than just friends. Most of my friends have boyfriends or husbands, and I have no one. The guy I dated moved away several months ago and we don't talk much any more, it makes me so de...

A.   27 March 2010: You will find someone, never give up searching! You are still young and there is time to find a true love, it took me 20 years to find my true love and I am now 38. One day when your least expecting it love will just happen for you. Pick yourse... (read in full...)

Is this illegal in South Carolina?

Q.   I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16 is it legal for us to have sex in the state of South Carolina? If not and we were to get caught would I be branded as a sex offender for the rest of my life? ...

A.   26 March 2010: Hi, take a look at this website http://www.ageofconsent.com/southcarolina.htm It has some information regarding this, and their argument does seem quite valid. If you do have sex with a minor then yes your name will be put on the state... (read in full...)

Concerned about something in my semen

Q.   i just cummed up 3 white things. they look like pieces of chalk. i know its not chalk but what is it?...

A.   24 March 2010: Probably calcium oxalate caused by too much calcium in the blood in other words kidney stones. It could also be a tract infection which can be fixed with anti-biotics. Do you have any pain or burning feeling during urination? ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he want to set a date for our marriage???

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been together for over two years now. We got engaged a few months ago. He was unemployed at the time. Now he has a job but doesn't want to set a date any time soon. He said he would let me know when he was ready to set a ...

A.   24 March 2010: He may still be saving up for a wedding. He may need more time to be 100% sure.... (read in full...)

She said I was too small for her. Do other girls think the same?!

Q.   I was with my girl and one thing led to another at that time... When the pants came off, she just looked blankly and told me bluntly "Hun... you're sorta too small. I... don't think you can do it for me." Then she got up flustered, apologiz...

A.   24 March 2010: She sounds like a self centred cow, your better without her. Let her go and play with her toys while you find a girlfriend who appreciates you for who you are.... (read in full...)

Any good ideas on how to propose marriage?

Q.   Hello Aunties and Uncles, I intend to propose to my girlfriend in a couple of months. We have discussed this in the past and more recently and truly feel the time is now right for both of us to do this. Neither of us have ever been married in ...

A.   24 March 2010: Hi EbonyBlossom, thanks I like that one. I totally agree nothing cliche and public, I think that would be a bit too tacky. I was thinking in the gardens of a Muncaster Castle as its near to where we both live, so your suggestion is no... (read in full...)

What are my rights??? Airport Human Body Scanning?

Q.   I am due to be flying in about a month's time. I really really detest the idea of this whole human body scan thing where any odd person can view my private parts and genitals. Most men don't seem to think it is a big deal, but as a woman it is a ...

A.   24 March 2010: Yes you can refuse of course, but you won’t be flying. If you want to fly then you have to go through it, simple as that. The only way is for every person to boycott these things, which is not going to happen. In one way it is a good thing to ... (read in full...)

It seems awfully easy for her to walk away after two years ...

Q.   my girlfriend told me out of the blue that she doesnt feel the same love anymore for me....this happened after we both were frustrated to the max because i kept on nagging her for not giving time to this relationship....we were seeing each other ...

A.   24 March 2010: Well if you are soulmates, she will come back. Stop calling her, stop texting, stop emailing and have silent contact. It may be possible she has someone else, but probably not, she will probably be missing you more than you think. It real... (read in full...)

On/ off relationship for 5 years. Can we ever make it right/

Q.   Okay so here it goes, I fell in love when I was 15 - extremely young i know, The boy was 17 and told me that he'd never been in love before and that i was the only one for him and he'd always love me. Well when he went to college we lost contact and ...

A.   24 March 2010: Sorry to say this but please dont waste your time on him, he is out to use you and is not interested in being your friend, he does not love you and is not in love with you. If you did stay with him then its very unlikley love will develop ... (read in full...)

How can I entice him in to a lasting relationship?

Q.   Am madly in luv wit this guy,he drives me crazy when he is around me yet we are just having a cordial relationship.I realy want a lasting relationship with him pls somebody tel me what to do....

A.   24 March 2010: How long have you known him? Treat him how you would want to be treated, you cant force anyone to truly love you it will either grow or not. But if he is happy in the relationship then he is more likley to stay arround.... (read in full...)

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