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I'm a simple girl, doesn't take a lot to put a smile on my face. Material things, don't do it for me.
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Why does he never say hi but stares at me?
Q. hey i'm 15 years old and i'm soo confused..a few months ago he goes to my school i dont really talk to him..so one night he messaged me saying i should start saying hi to him.we talked for a couple of weeks mostly flirted and then he gave me his ...
A. 15 March 2009: Leave him alone. For whatever reason he lost interest or maybe he was never interested, he just wanted to play games. Sometimes guys will flirt and initiate contact just to see if you'll accept - and they are not serious.
Don't pay him any atte... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 14 March 2009: Wow, what a beautiful but sad story. Okay, here is my take - sounds like he loves you just like you love him. You said you come from money and he doesn't. You also said your dad was abusive. I have a feeling your dad once told him something that ... (read in full...)
Follow up: I am dating my older married boss
Q. Well, alot of you had ALOT of negitive feed back with my first question, but I was willing to give it another try. for those of you who didnt read my first question, I have been involved with my older married boss for 7 months now. He just lef...
A. 14 March 2009: Are you going to keep editing your story until you hear what you want? And if I were you, I wouldn't even tell my parents coz that man is not leaving his family, he's just telling you that so you can keep the SEX and trash talk coming.
I'm n... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex. How to make him wait?
Q. I just started seeing this guy about a week ago. He is a sweet guy but he always wants to make out and do other stuff. I told him that I dont have sex without a commitment, as he still hasnt asked me out yet but he keeps pushing for it. Sometimes, ...
A. 14 March 2009: Sit him down and tell him you want to get to know him first. Ask him to take it easy coz he's makes you uncomfortable.
You sound like you really like him. Just be careful coz he might ONLY be interested in having SEX with you. His behaviou... (read in full...)
I'm looking for information on alternate, non-hormonal methods of birth control. Any suggestions?
Q. My partner and I would like to experience increased intimacy during sex by replacing condoms with another birth control method. We are monogamous and disease free. For health reasons, I do not want to use anything hormonal. Would a contraceptive ...
A. 13 March 2009: You could try the IUD. However, some doctors won't put it in unless you've had a baby. Just check with your doctor.
Nuvaring could be another option.
Good luck.
K.
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Is she just flirting or trying to make me jealous?
Q. ok, so i like this woman (for a few years) who is quite a serious person, she knows that i like her and she told me she has feelings for me too. we are not together bcos she has a bf. not long ago she told me about this other man she's been fli...
A. 13 March 2009: You might be getting to attached, and this is her way of telling you that whatever you have is just a joke and she's got a man who she truly cared about.
Good luck.
K.... (read in full...)
He won't ask me to be his girlfriend
Q. So, I have been going out with a guy for about 5 months. We have gone out before, but our relationship has never been as good as it is now. However, he will not ask me to be his girlfriend. I asked him why and he said he does not want his family to ...
A. 13 March 2009: Making you his girlfriend is between the two of you, it has nothing to do with his family. If he decides to hide it from his family that's his business. But him not asking you to be his girlfriend for that reason is weird. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my girlfriend to get back with my ex?
Q. i have a thing going on with this girl, problem is that I'm still in love with my ex and now she has said that she also still loves me i want to go back to her, but my problem is the other girl what do i do?...
A. 13 March 2009: Tell her you are still in love with your ex. It's going to break her heart but that's better than being string around. Let her go so she can find love with someone who can love her back. It won't be easy, but it's the right thing to do.. Good luck... (read in full...)
I feel I deserve better...
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost two and a half years. I am with a guy who truly loves me and will do anything for me. But I am going for an accounting degree and he does not even have a high school diploma. I just feel like I should ...
A. 13 March 2009: Some guys are not ambitous and they need a little nudge. Talk to him, motivate him and work with him. Nice guys are hard to come by so don't let one go. Sounds like both of you are still young and it's not too late for him.
Good luck.
K.... (read in full...)
Should I tell Adam what I did?
Q. Hi guys, I need some help... and I dont know what to do. I did something really bad and I'm ashamed. Well me and my buddy Adam are like two peas in a pod... we're the best of friends we're really close and nothing could tear us apart, we get along ...
A. 13 March 2009: It's going to hurt him but you have to tell him. It's the right thing to do plus his girlfriend sound shady and she might tell someone and it will end up getting back to him. Better you tell him than for him to hear from someone else. In time, I ... (read in full...)
Can a girl get back their virginity back?
Q. can a girl get back their virgin after she stop having sex for 3 yr? i had sex my ex bf, and i about to marry with other man after 3 yr. can he know that i am not virgin?...
A. 12 March 2009: You can never get your virginity back. Don't enter the biggest union with a lie. Just be honest. ... (read in full...)
I worry my wife has gone back to her slutty ways, have I married the wrong person?
Q. I think my wife is a s___/w____ or whatever, I'm not trusting her at all. She was 'around' a lot before we dated. We're both only 23, we met when we were 21, but I know she's had sexual contact with at least 20 or more men before me. And that was...
A. 12 March 2009: You know exactly what you married, you just thought you could change her. You can't change her and you will never change her. From what you wrote, this girl is definitely a whore/slut - no surprise, coz you always knew it.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is she just being kind and not ending it bluntly, or do you think she just needs some time?
Q. I've been together with my friend for 6 weeks, quite soon after she came out of a longish term relationship. We spent the first few weeks taking things really slowly as she was worried I was just a rebound, but got closer and closer. She has said to ...
A. 12 March 2009: She is confused. Give her time and let her figure out what she really wants, and pliz don't initiate too much contact during that time. Sounds like she never got over the ex. and also quickly got into a relationship with you.
All the best.... (read in full...)
My dad just saw us have sex and is obviously upset.
Q. I'm 17 years old and very close to my dad, Hes been a single father since I was 3 and has made it a point to be close to my brother and I. I am a complete daddy's girl and do no wrong in his eyes. Until now!!! I have been dating my bf for almost 8...
A. 12 March 2009: I can't imagine what you're going thru. Maybe write your dad a letter (hand it to him), let him know that you and your bf love each other - so he doesn't think his little girl is just being used. Ask for forgiveness for breaking his heart, and also ... (read in full...)
45 year old stud only wants sex
Q. I met a very sexy man two months ago through a friend of mine.i am 50 he is 45.We had very passionate sex on our 3rd meeting,but afterwards he told me he didin't want a relationship,and he hadn't had one for 10 years. I'v had only 2 partners ...
A. 12 March 2009: I've made a lot of mistakes and been a big fool. Yes, I have been in a similar situation - and like you I haven't had a lot of partners either. That was my downfall coz I didn't have the skills. I can't give you my life story but the advice I gave ... (read in full...)
How to tell the truth without being hurtful
Q. I just need some comfimation that the only thing I can do is tell the truth, and whether anyone has any advice on how to give it. I met this girl about a year ago at a charity event and she was really nice and I found out that she lived along way ...
A. 11 March 2009: Just tell her you only like her as a friend and want to make sure she knows it and you don't want to mislead her in any kind of way. Don't use the long distance excuse coz that would be a lie. Tell her she's cool but you don't liker her like that. ... (read in full...)
I have chlamydia. How do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I feel physically ill right now, I just had a medication abortion last week. I got pregnant by my boyfriend of 3 years and we knew we couldn't support a baby. I was off of birth control for only one month when I got pregnant. While I was at Plan...
A. 11 March 2009: I totally agree with satindesire. Why did you ask for advice and then you get defensive and start bashing people who are only trying to help - seeing as you asked for it.
All the advice was given based on information you gave. You sound like you... (read in full...)
Any chance of getting my ex gf back?
Q. Hey everyone. I was wondering if with my situation I have a chance of getting back with my ex gf? ive been thinking about her alot lately. Anyway, heres my situation, I met her in October of 2008, we seemed to connect really well, and we beg...
A. 11 March 2009: Simply put - let it go. You've become desperate and girls walk all over guys like that. I think she sees you just as a friend, she might flirt with you every now and again, but she sees you as a guy friend. That doesn't mean there's something wrong ... (read in full...)
I am too wet "down there". Is that a bad thing for men
Q. I have a problem with getting "TOO" wet even before intercourse. It's always been like this for me. Not with just one person, it happens whenever I get turned on. I mean it can be seen through my jeans. Anyway, my current boyfriend jokingly comments ...
A. 11 March 2009: Consider yourself lucky. Like guys say "the wetter the better." ... (read in full...)
Slept with b/f & friend during ovulation time
Q. I slept with two guys around ovulation time. One is my boyfriend who always ejaculates in me and one was a friend. The friend put in his penis for a minute and didnt cum. Now I'm pregnant and dont know who the father is. I'm leaning towards my ...
A. 11 March 2009: It's a 50/50. It takes one little sperm to get you pregnant. You boyfriend's could have filled you with a cup full of blanks and your friend can have one little strong soldier that made it - right past your boyfriends blanks.
My money is on the f... (read in full...)
45 year old stud only wants sex
Q. I met a very sexy man two months ago through a friend of mine.i am 50 he is 45.We had very passionate sex on our 3rd meeting,but afterwards he told me he didin't want a relationship,and he hadn't had one for 10 years. I'v had only 2 partners ...
A. 11 March 2009: The man told you, he only wants sex. He doesn't want a relationship with you, he doesn't want to know you or have you know him. he doesn't respond to your texts coz I'm sure they are filled with small talk. The only text he wants to respond to is a ... (read in full...)
Could this mean that I am gay?
Q. I have a question. I have had a past that is bugging the heck out of me. What should I do to like keep my mind off of things and just face the fact what i did was wrong? I am 17 soon and around the age 13-15 when i was in the middle of just getting ...
A. 10 March 2009: I don't think that makes you gay either. Do you find guys sexually attractive, and do you fantasize doing or getting done by a guy. If yes, then you're gay.
My first kiss was with a girl. She had experienced her first kiss and I wanted to know how... (read in full...)
How do I know he really loves me?
Q. Okay well i always tell my boyfriend i love him and he says it back but how do i know if he really loves me bacause he always tells me that he want to be with me forever and he dont want to lose me but how do i know that hes not liein i mean he...
A. 10 March 2009: It's not in his words but in how he treats you - especially when there are other people e.g. his friends, the sacrifices he makes for you, and the time he spends with you..
K... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but I don't want his family. What to do??
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, his parents dont like me, end of, case closed. I stayed over his house one evening and we were talking on the stairs the next day and all his dad said to me was 'move im trying to get upstairs'. ...
A. 10 March 2009: You need speak with your bf. Voice all your concerns to him. He can talk to his family, they don't have to like you but they shouldn't be rude. As for the time he is spending with his son, that's good, that says a lot about him. Don't be selfish but ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to go out with me - but keeps staring at me. Why?
Q. OK I asked him out he said no he has a girlfriend. Now he keeps looking at me in classes and I hate it. If he doesnt want to go out then why is he staring at me? I realy need some advice....
A. 10 March 2009: Coz he wants you to think that he really likes you despite the fact that he has a girlfriend. It's a strategy, he will probably make a move and try and ask you to keep things hush hush (secret lovers.)
I know it's hard to ignore someone who is s... (read in full...)
Curious why my FWB never initiates
Q. I'm in a friends with benefits situation with a guy i dated for two months, so here's my delimma: It was my idea to do the FwB thing after I told him he was treating me terribly and he seemed to lose interest in pursuing me as a gf..so now we have ...
A. 10 March 2009: He treated you terribly, gave up on pursuing a relationship with you - you then offered him your cookie with no strings attached. Now he won't even pursue the free cookie. I don't want to be mean so pliz don't take it the way. You can't be that desp... (read in full...)
They tell me I'm a fool
Q. I'm 23 yrs old and have been having an affair with my much older marreid boss for 7 months. I first I told myself it was just sex and thought it ws fun and exciting but now Im in love with him. He is 42 and has twin son that are 3 yrs old and he ...
A. 10 March 2009: Yes, you are a fool. He is old enough to be your father, he's married and he's your boss. Pliz don't tell us that he does you in the office sometimes. He is the luckiest man coz you're half his age and he's your boss , and then he is married. Eve... (read in full...)
He just won't take the hint that I'm not interested, what do I do?
Q. Hi there, I recently went away on vacation for a week to another city about 2 hours way from where I live. I stayed with my best friend, and the frst night I was there, I went out clubbing and met her cousin. I was completely drunk and ended up ...
A. 9 March 2009: Guyz don't get nice sometimes. You don't have to be mean about it but be firm. Just tell him "hey, I DON'T WANT YOU, leave me alone." And also add that him not getting it is really freaking you out.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Have I created the impression I am available and easy??
Q. I met this guy at his families hairdressers. I could tell he liked me by the way he looked at me and the questions he was asking. He and his family know my current boyfriend but I am not happy. this guy has brought up twins on his own with the ...
A. 8 March 2009: No you haven't, stop over-reacting. You're probably a little sensitive coz you didn't get a call. It's not a big deal. It's life, get over it. As for the last part of your story - about his friend, I don't understand it but you really sound like ... (read in full...)
I'm only 21 and I have lost the passion for sex in my relationship.
Q. I am a 21 year-old female who has lost the passion for sex in my relationship. My fiance wants it all the time, and is beginning to feel rejected. If I am not in the mood it's no fun for either of us, so what should I do?...
A. 8 March 2009: I think guyz want it more than gals all the time. I hate to say this but you have to learn to fake it, oops, can't believe I said it. But yes, you have to learn to fake it.... (read in full...)
Not sure if he likes me. What should I do?
Q. at firstI know this guy for 2 months and the begining of 2 months we talked everyday till his school started.cause he is overly hardworking..after 2 months i asked him that how does he see me? he said me more than friend.he said me he liked me. ...
A. 8 March 2009: Well, you have definitely shown him you're interested by asking him out twice. Now keep it cool and wait on him. Let him make the next move. ... (read in full...)
He's cheated numerous times so I left but now I feel bad. Am I crazy?
Q. Is it worth givin a man another chance after he cheated 2x's been abusive physically and mentally..and I just caught him again sendin a gurl a nude pic of himself he's leaving me messages tellin me that he's sorry and that he cheated on me with that ...
A. 8 March 2009: He cheats, he's physically and mentally abusive, pliz don't ever get back together with him. You should be feeling sorry for yourself coz of how he has treated you.
If you broke it off a couple of days ago, it's going to take time. Just keep you... (read in full...)
Does he like me? And if so, how can I get him to ask me out?
Q. there is this guy at my school. we have the same lunch hour and kind of the same friends. well I would go sit at the table with my friends and he would sit at another table with his. so every once in a while I would catch him looking at me. I like ...
A. 8 March 2009: I respect triedit's answer 100% but totally disagree. You should wait for him to make a move on you. He does sound like he really likes you. Maybe give it a couple of weeks but just stay cool. Find a balance, don't totally ignore him, just keep it ... (read in full...)
Not sure if he likes me. What should I do?
Q. at firstI know this guy for 2 months and the begining of 2 months we talked everyday till his school started.cause he is overly hardworking..after 2 months i asked him that how does he see me? he said me more than friend.he said me he liked me. ...
A. 8 March 2009: What should you do? You should leave him alone. When a man wants you, he wants you. Don't make any excuses for him. It doesn't matter if he had 10 jobs, if he wants you, he will make time for you. It appears you're doing all the chasing. Sorry to be ... (read in full...)
He texts his ex's about me!
Q. For the last few months my guy has been textin his ex's more and more. It's not this that bothers me its the fact that he never defends me to them and he tells lies about me to them and agrees with them over me. Recentley he started to delete his ...
A. 8 March 2009: I wish you could provide more information, I'm curious how you're linked to his ex's. Anyway, what he is doing is very disrespectful. Some silly boys like to see girls bickering and fighting, that might be what he's trying to do or maybe he's trying ... (read in full...)
Do women actually enjoy being "fingered"?
Q. I've never really liked the word "fingering"... but is being fingered something that women actually enjoy, or is there a special way to do it other than just shoving your fingers in...? I'm just curious really... ...
A. 8 March 2009: Emilysanswers,
you said it all. Great, awesome answer. ... (read in full...)
My life pretty much stinks on ice!!!
Q. I don't know what to do... I always feel so down and lonely... my life pretty much stinks on ice!!! I'm always depressed, nothing ever comes easy for me and I dont think I can handle it any more... and to put on to that misery.... I rarely get ...
A. 8 March 2009: What you are going thru is not foreign, very common at your age and probably the next 4 years. I hate my whole family then, I thought they were all out to get me. When you are home just find ways to have fine, maybe TV, small chats with friends ... (read in full...)
Help to get me out of my misery
Q. I kinda don't know what to do... I am soo unhappy .. miserable and lonely. We have been broken up for a half a year now (no contact at all). Our relationship was good, some fights here and there mostly because I was way to jealous... but I know he ...
A. 8 March 2009: Break ups are never easy especially when you're broken up with. Pliz don't send him an email, coz remember, he left you and not vice versa. Don't listen to your friends and family telling you he still loves you. Friends and family will tell you ... (read in full...)
What can I do to woo my girlfriend and get these feelings back?
Q. My girlfriend says she is losing feelings for me. What are ways to get the feelings back so she don't dump me when I really love her?...
A. 8 March 2009: Ask her what you can do to improve the relationship. If she tells you something sensible and reasonable then work on that. But if not, she's probably fed up and just looking for a way out.
Good luck.
K.... (read in full...)
Are they just making a fool of me?
Q. I have this boy in my English class, he is cute and all that but the thing is on the second day of class he was sitting with his friend and he said to me that his friend thinks that I am cute, I said ok thanks but then noticed him looking at me. I ...
A. 7 March 2009: Boys are funny, silly and weird. Don't pay them any attention. No need to find out if they are serious or just making a fool out of you. Just concentrate on what you're doing and ignore them. If they are trying to make a fool out of you, then ... (read in full...)
How do I move on properly but without trying to find someone new too quickly?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 18 months have just split up, about a week ago. It was a really messy end to a fantastic relationship and obviously I'm so upset over it. I keep trying to tell myself that I can move on and get over the break up but then when ...
A. 7 March 2009: Just spend some quality time with you. Find out what you like and enjoy doing. But before that spend a little time reflecting on the relationship you just ended, and learn something from it.
Don't rush into another relationship until you're o... (read in full...)
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