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Do women actually enjoy being "fingered"?

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Question - (7 March 2009) 6 Answers - (Newest, 8 March 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've never really liked the word "fingering"... but is being fingered something that women actually enjoy, or is there a special way to do it other than just shoving your fingers in...?

I'm just curious really...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009):

In addition to the excellent comments from the ladies, I'll just add that not all women like the same things. My wife doesn't care to have my fingers anywhere near there -- just not something she enjoys. So make sure you find out from the girl what she likes -- with any luck at all she'll guide you; if you're an attentive student, you'll both have fun.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (8 March 2009):

Tisha-1 agony auntI'm not crazy about the word either, but I guess it does involves fingers, so it is somewhat descriptive.

I'm sorry but I'm taking a shortcut, but rather than repeating myself, please read this thread. And I suggest you spend a little time reading DoubleM's answers to other men asking similar type questions

It's not about the vagina for most women, it's about the clitoris, as Emily has pointed out. If you ignore the clitoris and only stick fingers inside her, it would be the equivalent of her ignoring your penis entirely and only touching your scrotum. Not quite what you'd be looking for, is it?

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A female reader, kaylagal United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

kaylagal agony auntEmilysanswers,

you said it all. Great, awesome answer.

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A female reader, jessica04 United States +, writes (8 March 2009):

jessica04 agony auntListen to Emilysanswers. She said it all.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (7 March 2009):

Well you see, we girls have this thing, called a clitoris.... It's very sensitive and is the cause of the vast majority of female orgasms.

Quite often, a penis will manage to bypass this thing and although sex is fun, the best way to get a girl off is to rub the clit.

If you "finger" a girl by shoving fingers up there, then no, it's not fun, it proves you have no idea what you are doing and that sex is not going to be great.

If however, you run your fingers on the clit, and give a girl an orgasm that way (you'll have to stroke lots of other places first to get the blood flowing down there) then she'll be far happier with you.

If you insert fingers while doing this and hit the G-spot then it'll be amazing. It also gently stretches out and relaxes the muscles up there and gets everything lubricated so that when you actually have sex with her, she's all ready for you. Otherwise sex can be uncomfortable until she imagines Brad Pitt or someone else doing it right and turns her self on.

Remember that the biggest sexual organ a woman has is her brain so making her feel sexy is the most important thing you can do.

Good Luck!! xx

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A male reader, ArmyMedic United Kingdom +, writes (7 March 2009):

ArmyMedic agony auntFirstly are you honestly 22-25? Secondly when you are in a relationship and move your hand down there ask her to show you what she likes.

Every girl is different but just ramming a couple of fingers up there can be uncomfortable to say the least.

Using your fingers as part of foreplay is very effective if done properly. Hopefully the ladies on this site can explain the finer details to you.

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