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I'm a simple girl, doesn't take a lot to put a smile on my face. Material things, don't do it for me.
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Our affair has been like a roller coaster...what's his deal?
Q. I'm a married woman and I had sex with a married man. I was looking for no strings attached sex (the "why" is understandable, but not relevant here) on a regular basis. After our first encounter, I didn't hear from him till 2 weeks later when he ...
A. 5 June 2009: Clearly you wanted different things, you were looking for an affair, he just wanted a hit it one time thing. There is no need for you to ask what his deal is coz it's clear, he has sex with you once or twice and he was done. It would have been once ... (read in full...)
She dumps me but still praises me about the great sex we had!
Q. My ex GF and I keep in touch via e-mail or messenger. me and her start talking normal, then she always ends up changing the subject to sex, and she always says I was definitely great at it. I dont know what to think. She Dumped me and I still have ...
A. 4 June 2009: Okay, you were great in bed but the relationship wasn't. Don't blame the girl coz she's honest, what more do you want. Just be glad it wasn't the opposite: - good relationship, bad in bed.
If you're uncomfortable getting the "good in bed" complime... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 11 year old cousin that I love her?
Q. Hi i am an 18 year old boy and last week i met my cousin who is 11years old actually i met her for the very first time...we had nice time and became really very close.but i have fallen in love with her i am too much attracted to her. What shall i ...
A. 4 June 2009: Okay, I'm back. Initially I did not realize you are from India, and obviously the culture there is different from here.
I think she is still too young, so I would advice maybe you should put a hold on your feelings and allow for her to develop ... (read in full...)
Is this guy just not into me????
Q. Ok...this is kind of a long story... Last year around May, I started talking to this guy because he asked for my number. (He worked in a music store. I used to often go there and buy lot of cd's with my mom and sister for more than 6 months be...
A. 4 June 2009: Okay, there is no need for me to answer your three questions. From one girl to another, leave this guy alone. It doesn't matter whether he likes you or not, whether he's going to get engaged or married in India, all that doesn't matter The BIG... (read in full...)
I have a son with him, but I don't trust him and don't know what to do! Help, please!
Q. i found out my bf went overseas while i was away and he is hidin it from me. thats the 3rd time. others times a girl he went to. Also he have been seein a girl my friend told me she sees him all the time. i dont know wat to do and i dont trust him. ...
A. 4 June 2009: I understand this is your son's father and you would like the relationship for your son's sake but it's not working. Sounds like there is way too much infidelity and he's not hiding it either.
You can still have a good relationship with him, eve... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity tomorrow? Please answer ASAP!
Q. I am soooo confused please can you help me asap!! before tomorrow if you can i am 15 and i am a virgin and i like this boy alot and he want to take my virginity really baaaad but i think thats all he wants to do but im not sure. hes 16 and has ha...
A. 4 June 2009: Please don't do it. Your first time should be with someone who is madly in love with you, and you with him. Your first time should not be forced. It sounds like he's not really into you, and just wants to sleep with you, which is common with guys ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my 11 year old cousin that I love her?
Q. Hi i am an 18 year old boy and last week i met my cousin who is 11years old actually i met her for the very first time...we had nice time and became really very close.but i have fallen in love with her i am too much attracted to her. What shall i ...
A. 3 June 2009: There is no way a normal and healthy 18yr old man can be in love with an 11yr old girl, no way. And then she's your cousin. I'm going to pretend, you're telling the truth and give you some advice, but I think this is a hoax
Simply put - there is... (read in full...)
She's too busy for a boyfriend but we're always together.
Q. She tells me that its her busy life that that's why she don't want to be boyfriend and girlfriend! But any free time she has she spends it with me! Which I don't care cause I want to too! But that she feels bad cause I stop doing what I use to do ...
A. 3 June 2009: I think she just sees you and likes you as a friend. The whole busy thing is her way of letting you down easy. Sometimes girls will just lie a little not to break someone's heart. And sometimes we also want a little male companionship. She's not... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be starting his mid-life crisis
Q. My husband ,after years of neglect,started to change like crazy. He works out,looks at himself in the mirror, and very snappy with me. He wants to buy new shirts, and pants, he never ever wanted it before. He has a weird expression,on his face,a...
A. 30 May 2009: Not sure but those are the signs of a man having an affair. He's not sleeping with you, he snaps at you, and doesn't give you attention. So who is he dressing up for, I think he is going somewhere else. If I were you, I would start investigat... (read in full...)
Why is he lying to his ex about us?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 months and he is crazy about me, he wants to see me every night, texts me in the day. I believe he loves me but...he lies to his ex girlfriend about us making out we are not serious and almost taking the mickey ...
A. 25 May 2009: By lying to his ex about your relationship, he is basically telling her he's not serious about you and the relationship is not either.
There is a reason why he's lying to her, my guess is that he's still has feelings for her.
I think you have a... (read in full...)
I attract men a lot younger and a lot older than I should. What am I doing wrong?
Q. I'm currently 18 soon to be 19 and I don't know why but I get the wrong attention from guys. When I'm out in college I get guys at least 25+ hitting on me and when I'm in town I get 14-16 year olds trying to have a go aswell. I really don't und...
A. 3 May 2009: Yes, I do. I never attract guys my age, they are either much younger or much older. I find that very weird, but it is what it is.
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I need a job but I don't want to work because my boyfriend is already giving me everything I need!
Q. i need some advice and no judgement please, my problem is, my boyfriend is taking care of me,very good care. what ever i neeed he provide, he's on the wealthy side, but i need a job, but i don't want to work because he giving me every thing i need ...
A. 1 May 2009: Why depend on a man like that, and he's not even your husband, just a boyfriend. Don't just get a job but get a vocation (a job that you love) Find out what you like and what makes you happy and find something in that area. Even if it's just par... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: Virginity has nothing to do with it. It's free sex and most guys will be on it, they won't even ask why, they don't want to know. They will try and get it b4 you change your mind. Bigger question is - why would any self-loving and respecting girl ... (read in full...)
I was raped by my sisters husband
Q. Hi am 18 yrs old and just over a year ago I was raped by my sisters husband. One night I was at a party and got drunk (yes I know I am under age and stuff but it happens). Most of my friends were drinking so I called him ( my sisters husband) to ...
A. 30 April 2009: She might resent you for destroying her life. She might think your under-age drinking and partying caused her hubby to rape you. Kinda like you brought it to yourself and now her husband is in jail.
Well, communication is everything. Talk to your ... (read in full...)
Going to a wedding, his bitchy ex will be there, how do I get through it?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months has asked me to go to his friends wedding in May. Not a problem really, until you take into accoiunt that his very maliscious, nasty and bitchy ex will be there - who has a real thing against me (she had my boyfriend wra...
A. 30 April 2009: Be classy and act like you don't know who she is. She might try show you that she's cool with everyone, ignore that too. Just concentrate on YOUR man and act like you are not phased by anything else in the world. And off course, have some fun.... (read in full...)
This guy sent me a text message saying he wants me. Should I confront him next time or leave it as it is?
Q. This guy is a player...I met as a customer who helped me close a deal. He has a GF and he's GI also. I know he doesn't like me and although he's cute, he's not my type. He went out w/ some buddies and I got a message last night from his cell sa...
A. 26 April 2009: Sounds like someone is playing games on you. Maybe they have a bet on you. I would ignore it and make him and his friends the fools. Don't confront him, just let it go. If he continues, be firm and tell him to leave you alone.... (read in full...)
Unjust dismissal!
Q. I started at a new job, my boss made it clear he was interested in me and wanted sexual things from me. When I denied, he then has always treated me differently than the rest of the employees, and has always looked for reasons to fire me. Now 3.5 ...
A. 22 April 2009: You should have reported him for sexual harrasment 3.5 yrs ago. I believe its still not too late. Contact your local unemployment office, and ask there how and where to start your claim. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance?
Q. What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance? I was thinking a miniskirt, a mesh shrug top that ties in the middle, a black thong and some stockings? ...
A. 20 April 2009: Matching bra and panties, high heels and a little flared mini skirt.... (read in full...)
I feel too fat, he says too thin ...
Q. I'm 5'2" and 97 lbs. My boyfriend of four years is 5'7" and 185 lbs. I constantly feel overweight, though. I feel like I want to lose at least ten pounds! My boyfriend tells me I'm crazy for thinking that. That I'm stunningly beautiful the way I am ...
A. 19 April 2009: For 5.2 you are at your ideal weight if not under weight. I think you have a disorder, you should seek professional help. Take care of the problem now.
All the best.... (read in full...)
Its always me contacting him to meet up?
Q. dear cupid i have been seeing a guy for about a month, i like him and we get along well. it started out as a one night stand but we got along great the next day and decided to meet again. the problem is that its always me that contacts him to meet ...
A. 17 April 2009: Sounds like you are just a booty call - and to make it worse you're the one calling to give up the booty. I don't think he's shy, he doesn't call coz you're doing the calling and he doesn't have to. Also if he wanted to chat or meet up, he will ... (read in full...)
Cell Phones and Relationships - Where to draw the line?
Q. There have been a few instances where my fiance has been caught lying about a woman he works with. Little lies that have made me think, "why is he lying about this?" - the fact that he is covering up non-events with lies makes me wonder if he is ...
A. 15 April 2009: You are justified and you should confront him immediately. There is something going on or will be going on soon. Why is he saving her number under a man's number. He's sounds like a pro (that's a player skill). Sit him down and address it ... (read in full...)
Now that he knows I fancy him he can hardly look at me, why is that?
Q. Hi, When someone finds out you fancy them why do they after act weird and not talk to you and when you're around they used to say Hello but now they hardly can't look at you for some reason? Why is that?...
A. 15 April 2009: Guys like a challenge, sometimes they will chase just for the sake of chasing. Now that he knows you fancy him, you are not a challenge anymore- he's caught you already.
But not all guys are like that. So don't be discouraged.... (read in full...)
Does age matter when he's a young adult and I'm a teenager?
Q. hey well i met this guy over 3 months and he has a girlfriend but he inst spending anytime with her because she lives in another state and they aren't spending time together because he goes t college.. then here i am and i never had feeling for ...
A. 15 April 2009: Older guys like younger girls because they are easy to take advantage of. He can play you and get you to do things a girl his age would not accept. You're inexperienced and pure, you a good target.
He's too old and he has a girlfriend. Don't al... (read in full...)
It hurts me to see my FWB has moved on ...
Q. i fell in love with my f**k buddy. i never wanted it to be f**k buddies i was totally into him! he lied to me and made me believe he wanted me to be his girl. He is now seeing someone new. He treats her like a proper gf not like how he treated me. ...
A. 15 April 2009: Never give a man the FWB option. The only reason a man will have you as a FWB is when he's not into you and just wants sex. He will keep you there until he finds the right girl. He just wanted sex from you and he's moved on to a girl he really ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he was married and I have really fallen for him!
Q. Last month I saw this guy @ work.He came and introduce himself to me,he was nice en freindly.We working for the same company but in diffent branches.We started chatting,I enjoyed talking to him.After 3 weeks we orgarnise to meet en it happened.I ...
A. 15 April 2009: He has been married to her for 4yrs and he has known you for 4weeeks. Your little naive and selfish mind really believe this man can be loyal and honest to you over his wife. Go ahead, believe what you want and do what you want. Just remember ... (read in full...)
Scared of turning 30!
Q. I am scared of turning 30++ because that's a new generation altogether. It makes me old in comparison to someone who is 28 years old and living life to the full. Help!...
A. 14 April 2009: I agree with icelordess that age is just a number. Live your life to the fullest. I'm also sneaking on 30, but I'm not worried about it. It's just another day, another year. I'm going to live my life to the fullest and enjoy it all. And besides, 30 ... (read in full...)
Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?
Q. I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...
A. 14 April 2009: Smart guys like your boyfriend continue using condoms even in committed relationship. He's not paranoid, he is CAREFUL. I'm single now and hope my next boyfriend will be like your boyfriend. That's how it should be.
A woman should only go on the p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated 6 times and I don't know how to get him to stop
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me yet again. This is the 6th time that this has happened and I keep taking him back. The girl called me and said that he was with her on Valentines day when he told me that he had to work. I found ...
A. 14 April 2009: You want to know when the cheating is going to stop - it's never going to stop, why should he, you keep taking him back so he has no reason to stop. You've proven to him that you will accept anything from him. He has disrespected you in every way - ... (read in full...)
Got my mistress AND my wife pregnant. Now my wife is being difficult. Shall I leave her?
Q. Last month I asked a question about how I could get my wife to forgive me after I had an affair and the other women got pregnant. Thankfully she forgave me but now things seem to be getting worse rather then better. My wife told me that she too is ...
A. 14 April 2009: Jace - you have close to 60 threads on your other question "What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?" and now you're asking if you should leave your wife. Are you planning on leaving her for the mistress? After all you've put her ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he was married and I have really fallen for him!
Q. Last month I saw this guy @ work.He came and introduce himself to me,he was nice en freindly.We working for the same company but in diffent branches.We started chatting,I enjoyed talking to him.After 3 weeks we orgarnise to meet en it happened.I ...
A. 14 April 2009: You are his office mistress. I know for sure he doesn't call you when he's home with his wife, he's only calling you when he's in the office, probably bored to death and needing someone to let the 8-5 go by. He has figured you out, he knows you ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he was married and I have really fallen for him!
Q. Last month I saw this guy @ work.He came and introduce himself to me,he was nice en freindly.We working for the same company but in diffent branches.We started chatting,I enjoyed talking to him.After 3 weeks we orgarnise to meet en it happened.I ...
A. 14 April 2009: You met him a month ago, you haven't even spent that much time with him and you say you're in love. I don't think so. He is married and you have to let it go. Why would you want to tell another woman's husband that you've fallen for him. How wou... (read in full...)
My married man's wife is pregnant! What should I do?
Q. I am 24 years old and have been having an affair with a 33 yr old married man from my small community for over a year now. I just found out that his wife is pregnant. I have tried to end our relationship but I always find myself drawn to him. A f...
A. 14 April 2009: You are hurt now you want to hurt her. It has nothing to do with you thinking she needs to know. What about you stopping what you're doing, and then she won't need to know.
You are worried about telling her and you're not even mentioning leaving ... (read in full...)
My married man's wife is pregnant! What should I do?
Q. I am 24 years old and have been having an affair with a 33 yr old married man from my small community for over a year now. I just found out that his wife is pregnant. I have tried to end our relationship but I always find myself drawn to him. A f...
A. 13 April 2009: Oh, BTW he's not your man - he is her man, her husband. Don't call him your man.
Do the right thing.
K.... (read in full...)
I feel he tricked me into having an abortion and now I feel so guilty about it!
Q. Hi, could you give me advice on getting back my ex please? Our relationship ended really badly. I was pregnant and we made the decision together that it was best to have an abortion because we thought we weren't ready and that our relationship ...
A. 12 April 2009: This is a very difficult time for you becoz of the break up and abortion but you have to realize it's done and you can't change it. Forgive yourself for the abortion and get over it - and also learn from this experience.
As for the guy, he didn'... (read in full...)
Saturday night and I'm sitting in!!! Why don't I have any close friends?
Q. I need help trying to understand why I don't have any friends. Here it, is a Saturday and I'm at home with nothing to do... I'm not sure why this is... I've had friends in the past, but every since I changed my life (no smoking weed, drinking, ...
A. 12 April 2009: I can totally relate - I stopped a lot of the stuff I used to do and lost most of my friends. I now have new friends. There is nothing wrong with being home alone, being out there can be too crazy and such a hassle. Enjoy this time alone and in time ... (read in full...)
I was just wondering generally do MOST men cheat?
Q. I was just wondering generally do MOST men cheat? I blame my male friends for making me have this opinion because as lovely as they all are and as much as they love their gfs, they have all cheated at some point and don't seem to think that it is...
A. 12 April 2009: NO. I know a lot of guys who have never cheated and I also knorw a lot of girls who have cheated.... (read in full...)
My b/f of 2 years keeps cheating on me! Help me! What should I do?
Q. I found out 6 months ago that my boyfriend of two years is cheating on me. He denied it all the way but recently admitted it when we were arguing. He later tried to deny it after he realised what he said. I would be able to forgive him if he stop...
A. 11 April 2009: He is still cheating, and will continue to do so. If you're okay with a guy who cheats and has no RESPECT for you then stay with him but if you have any self-respect let him go. You don't deserve to be treated like that. I can understand if he ... (read in full...)
Her black leggings are way H-O-T, should I tell my wife
Q. I have always had a thing for girls in leggings, especially black leggings. Not talking about the shiny stuff talking about what you'd wear to the gym. I just think they're totally hot and love dry humping my wife when she's wearing them. Bett...
A. 11 April 2009: Off course you should tell your wife. Nothing wrong with not a weird fettish - that's why they are called a fettish coz they are so weird but that's what gets you going. No sex for about a year - tell her IMMEDIATELY, and that should spice things ... (read in full...)
Do you think he wants her back?
Q. ive been with this guy for 9 months and i love him so much his everything to me..but every time i try to let go i cant... he has messed up several times and i have forgived him he was going out with me and another girl at the same time and i caught...
A. 11 April 2009: I'm reading a lot out of your stories, more than what you've written. You've tried to let go and you can't. There's a reason why you've tried to let go. You ask is he still in love with her - he was with her for 2yrs, he is cranky when he's without ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married teacher and now I want him to be with me!
Q. okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how ...
A. 8 April 2009: You don't sound your age, you sound like you are 14yrs old, don't mean to offend you.
The 1st time you came on to him and he rejected you, and then you meet in a club and I'm sure you were all over him again. The poor man had no choice but to s... (read in full...)
My ex wants to have sex with me on my Birthday, but I am not a cheater. What should I do?
Q. so i have a bf but i keep thinking about my ex and is crazy because i love my bf but we have sex issues. the sex has never been good but i didn't leave him because i love him and i didn't want to just tell him and hurt his feelings. but we have spo...
A. 8 April 2009: I agree with uberman11 that if you do it once, you will do it again and again. Please don't do it. Why did you break up with your ex? Sounds like you're not over him and you guys have some unfinished business. Don't drag your bf into this mess. ... (read in full...)
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