A
female
age
41-50,
*adgirl1978
writes:I slept with two guys around ovulation time. One is my boyfriend who always ejaculates in me and one was a friend. The friend put in his penis for a minute and didnt cum. Now I'm pregnant and dont know who the father is. I'm leaning towards my boyfriend since he came in me that whole week. Opinions? Yes, I already know I'm stupid.
View related questions:
ejaculate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): What's done is done.You screwed up royally, and you know that. An you also know eventually you are gonna have to fess up the truth before someone else does (and the truth WILL out. How and when, is the only thing that is not constant).Get the DNA test at the first possible opportunity and find the truth out for youself. Then you can decide what needs to be done in regards to the welfare of the child once it is born.If you don't, and assume the child is your boyfriend's and it turns out it is actually the friends... you will be denying a father his every right to be in a child's life and giving another man a false sense of fatherhood.The same is true vice versa.I DO judge you for sleeping around, because that is a scummy thing to do just because you can't keep youer legs shut.But redemption can still be achieved for you. And not the creepy religious kind. You simply have to come clean do what is best for the child now and what is best is that the child should know who it's father is.Flynn 24
A
female
reader, kaylagal +, writes (11 March 2009):
 It's a 50/50. It takes one little sperm to get you pregnant. You boyfriend's could have filled you with a cup full of blanks and your friend can have one little strong soldier that made it - right past your boyfriends blanks.
My money is on the friend. Pliz don't stick this baby to your boyfriend. When you have the baby, go for DNA.. I'm not judging you but everything always comes out in the light. Do the right thing now. You are going to hurt people but it's better now than 5 years later.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): DNA testing time.
Now here's the part that I think you're really wanting to avoid. You need to let them BOTH know that this is going on. That you've slept with both, so either one could or could not be the father.
I don't say this to judge you for sleeping with two men. But if a man is potentially going to be a father then he deserves to know as soon as you do. And it is equally unfair to let him believe it's sure to be his for 9 months (or 18 years) if there is the possibility that it's not.
So it's time for the truth to come out.
...............................
A
male
reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Probably your boyfriend but I advise to have an STI screen soon also.
...............................
A
female
reader, natasia +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I think it's much more likely to be the boyfriend. I would work on the principle that it's him, and then hope the baby looks a bit like him ... ; ) No, really - I would work on the idea that it is him. After the baby is born you will probably be able to tell just by looks, but if you are still in any doubt, you could (privately) do a dna test to put your mind at rest.
A tricky one, but I wouldn't stir things up at this point. I'd just wait until the baby is born, and until you know the full extent of the situation (if there is one - which there might not be). Having said that, won't your friend ask questions? What is the situation with him?
(and round ovulation we are all completely sex-crazed - i don't know what led to your situation with your friend, but it can't be helped - don't beat yourself up over it - it will all blow over in the end)
...............................
|
