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My ex wants to have sex with me on my Birthday, but I am not a cheater. What should I do?
Q. so i have a bf but i keep thinking about my ex and is crazy because i love my bf but we have sex issues. the sex has never been good but i didn't leave him because i love him and i didn't want to just tell him and hurt his feelings. but we have spo...
A. 8 April 2009: I agree with uberman11 that if you do it once, you will do it again and again. Please don't do it. Why did you break up with your ex? Sounds like you're not over him and you guys have some unfinished business. Don't drag your bf into this mess. ... (read in full...)
I didn't want to reciprocate as I'm not ready and he thinks I'm selfish
Q. ok i've been talking to this dude for a week and he wants to have sex with me but im not ready, he performed oral sex to me but i didnt return it to him, he said that im selfish and i was so wrong for not doing him, was i?????...
A. 7 April 2009: You are not selfish for not returning the act. He's trying to make you feel bad so you have PRESSURE to do it next time. And besides, I'm sure you didn't ask for him to do it, and it sounds like he only did it to get some in return.
It's been a w... (read in full...)
I don't want to go on this huge family vacation
Q. My husband mentioned that next year his entire family (i.e. parents, siblings, brother in law, kids) might be going on vacation together. I really do not want to go on a family vacation with all of them because it's not exactly my idea of a ...
A. 7 April 2009: It's for / with his family, I'm sure you can make an exception and go. His family obviously means a lot to him, do it for him. It's hard to get a lot of people together - you and him will have another time.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I dumped him. Does he feel hurt?
Q. If you dump a man who has just been using you, does the man feel any hurt or will he just be relieved if he never loved you in the first place? I have been seeing this man on and off for about 6 months but he never loved me and was still seeing h...
A. 5 April 2009: He used you, and you feel hurt and betrayed. That's perfectly normal but you have to get over him quick. It's good that you broke it off coz you don't deserve that - you deserve better.
Focus on other things, don't waste anymore time thinking... (read in full...)
My ex b/f lost his virginity just after we broke up
Q. Okay, I Broke up with my Boyfriend a few months ago. I'm not sure if i still have feelings for him. But he lost his virginity right after we broke up. So does that mean he's lying or he had no feelings for me. I don't know whether im hurt he done it ...
A. 5 April 2009: Even though you dumped him, I understand you feel a little betrayed. When you break up with someone you want to at least take sometime to get over you. But you have to understand that guys don't value sex the way girls do. Most of his friends are ... (read in full...)
Follow up: My husband has impregnated a girl-twice in our marriage
Q. This is a follow up to My husband has impregnated a girl twice during our marriage! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-impregnated-a-girl-twice-during.html Thanks to all those who responded to my question i really vaue all your...
A. 31 March 2009: I'm not sure what the Jamaican culture is but in Africa men can have several wives. I see that your husband is living this same culture. The other woman has become his other family,his 2nd family and that's why he has the kids hanging out together ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to wait for him?
Q. hi, hope you can help im 18 and i really like this boy hes 18 too but hes just come out of a two year relationship and says he just wants to be casual at the minute with me , he still has pictures of his ex girlfriend on his phone and facebook...
A. 29 March 2009: Move on, don't be a fool by waiting for a guy. He clearly still hung on his ex - why her picture on his phone, it's not that hard to delete it. Sounds like he's just cool with you, like friends. If he wanted more, he would know.
Just let it go.... (read in full...)
Follow up: My husband has impregnated a girl-twice in our marriage
Q. This is a follow up to My husband has impregnated a girl twice during our marriage! http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-has-impregnated-a-girl-twice-during.html Thanks to all those who responded to my question i really vaue all your...
A. 28 March 2009: I think he is going back and forth between you and Person A. If you're okay with sharing him, then go ahead. He probably tells Persona A the same stuff he's telling you.
Why would he keep going back to Person A? ... (read in full...)
I feel I was used as a booty call and now I feel so used...
Q. I found out the man I really liked and had feelings for was just using me as a booty call. He didn't tell me this, though. He promised me the world. He told me I was his girl. This went on for months. But it turned out he had a girlfriend already! ...
A. 27 March 2009: I dated someone who did the same thing to me. I, like you, was hurt and devastated. I felt so used, it really hurt me for a while. It's been quite some time now and I'm over it. I actually feel relieved, and you should too. My ex (can't even call ... (read in full...)
I like him but I don't like him... should I call it a day?
Q. Hi people, I go out with this boy right know and he likes me and I kind of but don't like him but my friends are making me go out with him. Do you think I should break up with him? I want but I don't want to hurt his feelings because one of my best ...
A. 26 March 2009: You don't like him so don't go out with him. Maybe that will open the door for your best friend to step in. ... (read in full...)
I am really worried he has been to a prostitute!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend stayed in Hong Kong for less than 2 days and in that time he took out two lots of £125. He is now is Australia and says he didn't do any shopping while he was there - just went to an Irish bar. I am really worried he has used a p...
A. 26 March 2009: Maybe it was a gift for you. Just wait until he gets back. ... (read in full...)
Should I email the ex back and be friends?
Q. hello! my ex emailed me today. it took me completely by surprise! it is friendly. he told me he is so busy at the moment so he would like to just remain friends and then he gave me an update on his life. he broke up with me about 2 months ago but...
A. 26 March 2009: I think he can't let you go so he want's to keep you there as a friend. As soon as you start seeing someone he'll probably want more. I think he's confused, and he wants to keep you on the side, just incase, and that's not cool.
If he was your fir... (read in full...)
I was told that I have camel toe!
Q. One day I was at shool I notice people looking between my legs and I ask my friend what was going on with people looking between my legs and she said I have a camel toe I bein tring to hide it but I dont know how to please help....
A. 26 March 2009: I agree with the others, don't wear your pants tight.... (read in full...)
Is ex leading me on?
Q. i was stood up by this man that i thought was interested in getting together. well we talked on the phone prior to meeting. when the day came no him or phone call. should i call him or should i wait for him to call. by the way this man is my ex....
A. 24 March 2009: Why would you call someone who stood you up. Isn't he the one who is supposed to call and apologize. I think he's your ex for a reason. Don't chase him or you will only be his FOOL.... (read in full...)
Opinions on women going braless
Q. Well I have been doing some research and I keep finding out that it has never been proven that bras help keep breast firm, or stop them from sagging. I've been thinking about this issue, and what bras mean in the bigger picture, and I just don't ...
A. 24 March 2009: You have small one so you don't need to wear a bra. My gf is a size b and she never wears one. I'm a 34D and need a bra everyday. If I didn't wear a bra that would definitely be slutty, it would just be too much. Yes, bras are expensive. Everytime I ... (read in full...)
My period only lasts 3 days and I never get cramp, is this normal?
Q. Hi, this isn't a relationship question, it's actually about my periods. I'm a 23 year old woman, have slept with three guys in the past, including the guy I am currently dating (we've been together for two years and seven months now). I've never ...
A. 23 March 2009: Yes, that's vey normal. Consider yourself very lucky.... (read in full...)
I havent had my period for about 6 weeks
Q. I havent had my period for about 6 weeks and im a virgin and never been with a boy more than a pull whats wrong with me ? (im only 15) and had my periods for about 18months...
A. 22 March 2009: When I was your age I had the same issue. I could go for 3mnths without getting my period, and then regular was every 6weeks.
There's nothing wrong with you..
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I can't decide.. I really need opinions! please!
Q. Right I have a boyfriend who really likes me, and i don;t really know why i said yes to seeing him, i don't think I've ever had strong feelings for him, but we've been with each other for 3 months, we don't live near each other and maybe see each ...
A. 22 March 2009: Okay this advice is only if you haven't had sex with your boyfriend: -
Dump your boyfriend coz you don't have any feelings for him. If his friend approaches you after, then go for it.
If you have had sex with your boyfriend. just dump him an... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 22 March 2009: Good luck..... (read in full...)
I told her that he was cheating on her with me! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Did i do the right thing in telling her? I found out my 'boyfriend' has been seeing someone else. I obviously never want to see him again! He kept me a secret from everyone important in his life and he didn't with this other girl. So i guess I...
A. 22 March 2009: You did the right thing. I would want to know and she deserves to know too. It doesn't matter if he's mad or angry, that's his problem not yours. And don't be scared of him, he's just trying to intimidate you - he won't do anything. Guys who are ... (read in full...)
Help needed please. I want to break up with my boyfriend but not sure how to do it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I don't think I love him any more, at least I'm not in love with him any more. I recently met another guy and we went out as just friends but he's told me he likes me and I've said the same to him a...
A. 21 March 2009: Tell him you don't feel the same way and would like to move on.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I'm being manipulated by a guy
Q. i think im being emotionally manipulated by a guy hes being nice one week and treats me like dirt the next last night he completely walked past me (last week he said i was the best girl in the world) this has been going on for a year+Im at brea...
A. 21 March 2009: No guy would treat you like that if they cared about you. He clearly doesn't care about you. Don't stress about him, just forget him.
You deserve a guy who will love and respect you.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
If she is 7 months older is that a big difference ???
Q. hi .. she is 7 months older than me .. is that a problem ???? ..i like her very much and i think she likes me too ... ...
A. 20 March 2009: No. 7months is no being deal. 5 of my ex boyfriends were all one year younger than me. And one of them I was 17 and he was 16. Actually, my first boyfriend was 2 years younger.
Go for it and good luck.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a co-worker who has a "player" reputation, does he just want fun??
Q. Some thoughts or advice would be great. I have fancied this guy for some time (coming up 2 years), we work in the same building, different departments ,we always chat but he has a bit of a reputation for being a bit of a player, which I never re...
A. 20 March 2009: He only wants to use you. Please don't give up your precious virginity to this man and don't give him any of your precious time either.
He's a player and you're just a game to him.
Your first time should be with someone special, who lov... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 20 March 2009: Jace,
I totally agree with you and your wife about the baby with the other woman. You have to be a father to that child, it's the right thing to do.
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
How can I totally forget him?
Q. I'm in a LDR.... just 3 weeks ago I found out that my bf has been cheating with me for the last 3 years so I left him. Right now his with other girl and they are about to get married. I just can't get rid of his memories. It kills me when it comes ...
A. 20 March 2009: I went thru a similar experience. It hurt me so bad for quite some time too. But think of it this way, he's a cheater, and a liar and you don't want that is a man. It hurts now but you really dodged a bullet. Can you imagine being married to him for ... (read in full...)
Question protected sex with person with HIV
Q. Ok, here's the thing and it's a pretty big thing. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We dated for about four months before we got more intimate. First it was 'making out', then she would give me a 'hand job' for want of a bet...
A. 19 March 2009: If you have a cut in your mouth, it's possible to contract HIV thru oral sex - but with no cuts, it's not possible. You can't contract it by using condoms but they are not always 100%.
Best of luck. Maybe both of you should visit a center and get ... (read in full...)
Why would he say hurtful things that he doesn't mean?
Q. I have found the love of my life! I imagine us growing old together and still crazy about each other. The ONLY thing that worries me is that when he is upset at me, he doesn't want to talk to me and says things like he is not so sure about us. But ...
A. 18 March 2009: Yes it's bad, he is verbally abusive. I'm sure when Chris Brown apologized to Rihanna, he too, said he didn't mean to beat her up and leave her for dead.
Verbal, emotional, physical abuse is the same. There is no excuse it for it.
How do you kn... (read in full...)
Confused! First time sex!
Q. okay so yesterday i had sex. it was great but i was in pain for 6 or mre mins but i didnt bleed i wanted to know if this is normal?? and also after we were done i was so sore and tired i didnt want to move i also had to pee alot is this norm...
A. 18 March 2009: I'm 100% with Satindesire, you are way too young to be having sex. Even if you use protection, no contraceptive is 100%. You can get pregnant or a disease. Please wait until you are older.
Answer to your question: Yes it's normal not to bleed wh... (read in full...)
Six months pregnant due to a one night stand
Q. I recetntly found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant due to a one night stand. I have no idea how to break the news to everyone, especially the Daddy to be and my parents. I'm terrified because I have no idea how they will handle the news, my parents ...
A. 18 March 2009: These are the consequences to your actions. Call him up, meet and tell him. There is no easy way of doing it. As for your parents, there's no easy way to tell them either, you might want to leave out that the father was just a one night stand.... (read in full...)
Is he right in thinking I owe him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have a 2 year old together. At the time we both had great jobs. I took a year off for maturnity leave. Now, my boyfriend thinks that because he had to help support me when i was on maternity leave...he thinks i owe him this huge...
A. 18 March 2009: NO.. You don't owe him anything, is he crazy. He should pay you for having and caring for his child. Being a mom is a full time job, your husband is out of his mind.... (read in full...)
A month after the break up coffee date: First step to winning her back????
Q. So, my girlfriend broke up with me about thirty days ago. After the break things were cool until about a week later when we were hanging out and she was blatantly flirting with another guy. The next morning I explained that I thought it was rude ...
A. 18 March 2009: She broke up with you. She's not interested in you anymore. You have to get over it. You can't re-spart interest in someone who broke up with you. If anything, maybe giving her space and ignoring her might work.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What on earth can I do now to get my wife to forgive me?
Q. I'm 29 years old and have been married to my wife for 5 years, We have 1 daughter who is 18 months old and I love her. I have been having an affair with this girl I met through friends since my daughter was just a few weeks old. It was me being...
A. 17 March 2009: Do you want your wife back coz it sounds like you're pursuing the other woman too..... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of being a faithful good girl when no one else is!
Q. I have fallen for my boss. He is young, funny, beautiful and very sexy. The problem is that he is married and I already have someone. Recently, I find out that my someone else is seeing somebody too. He has been seeing her for a year.I am so tired ...
A. 17 March 2009: I'm sorry about your bf, he is obviously a tool. Don't hook up with boss, he's married, that's enough for you to leave him alone.
Good girls are taken for granted sometimes, don't change who you are coz of how you're being treated. Let the boyf... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my girlfriend's previous friend with benefits
Q. Hello. I am a divorced male and have been dating this girl for about 5 months. She is truly great and I think the world of her. I am taking things slow because I've been married and don't want to rush into anything. Recently, while drinking at ...
A. 17 March 2009: You have to get over it. She has a past, we all do. She didn't lie and you have to respect her for it.... (read in full...)
Want ex back badly but he has someone else
Q. Me an my ex broke up 5 months ago. i told him i want him i want him back, he has someone else in his life now but he told me he loves and wants to be with me but he feels he has to give her a chance he told me they are not serious about the ...
A. 17 March 2009: It's not serious but he wants to give her a chance? Doesn't sound right. If he wanted you, he would break it up with her and be with you, after all you have a son together. Sounds like he's moved on. Don't let him keep you on the side incase it ... (read in full...)
He's already got a g/fbut I like him!
Q. Hi well i am 20 years old and single i've been through alot with guys alot of them treat me badly and tell me things that in the end turn out not to be true. But i work full time at a solicitors office and there is a guy who often comes in he is ou...
A. 17 March 2009: I think you have bad experiences with men coz you have no self esteem. And your question confirms it. He has a girlfriend, leave him alone. By asking what you should do means you either want to share him or get him to dump his girlfriend. That's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants her & me!
Q. I am in a dilemna and could really use your help! Where to start. I started dating my bf in February 2005, we had some problems later that year and he turned to someone else. We worked out our problems and everything was great until recently. ...
A. 17 March 2009: I'm going to keept it simple - let him go. Would he share you with another man, no way. Just let it go, you're too old for that. Stories like that happen in high school and not to women in their 50s, it's ridiculous, he is ridiculous and you don't ... (read in full...)
He's already got 4 kids, but I want a child of my own
Q. So I've been in a relationship with a 35 year old man for over a year. He has 4 kids from a previous relationship, but I love him with all my heart. Being that I'm only 19 years old. I want a family of my own, but I've been having a strange feeling ...
A. 15 March 2009: He's too old and has too, too, too many kids. You're only 19, honey you're still young. You'll fall in love again. It's unfair to you to be in a relationship with a man with 4kids. I'm 26 and will not date someone with more than one kid. Let him go, ... (read in full...)
He dumped me by email...Should I try to build bridges?
Q. Hello -me and my boyfriend broke up recently, we only dated for a couple of months but it was really good met over summer but we were both going to uni so stopped it there. got back together over christmas and were content in making it work, ...
A. 15 March 2009: You should have replied and wished him well. If his birthday is coming up soon, there is nothing wrong with a birthday text, email or even a call.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why does he never say hi but stares at me?
Q. hey i'm 15 years old and i'm soo confused..a few months ago he goes to my school i dont really talk to him..so one night he messaged me saying i should start saying hi to him.we talked for a couple of weeks mostly flirted and then he gave me his ...
A. 15 March 2009: Leave him alone. For whatever reason he lost interest or maybe he was never interested, he just wanted to play games. Sometimes guys will flirt and initiate contact just to see if you'll accept - and they are not serious.
Don't pay him any atte... (read in full...)
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