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Her black leggings are way H-O-T, should I tell my wife

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Question - (11 April 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 12 April 2009)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have always had a thing for girls in leggings, especially black leggings. Not talking about the shiny stuff talking about what you'd wear to the gym.

I just think they're totally hot and love dry humping my wife when she's wearing them. Better than actual penetrating sex. I can have actual penetrating sex but feel that the whole legging thing is as good or even better.

I've wondered if this is like a classic fetish but think it is not too too terrible after reading some stuff online this week.

I haven't told my wife how deep this is, I just tell her I think she looks good/sexy/skinny when she's wearing my fave outfit. I guess I should probably say something but I'm afraid she'll think it's weird.

But we've gone about a year w/o sex now since the baby and we're starting to get back into things, and I really want to tell her what would really get me juiced.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009):

I would also be sure to include how hot you think SHE is in the leggings. That yes you find them attractive in general, but especially when it's her. Make sure that you tell her about your fetish without making her feel like she's not special.

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A female reader, ErinPatterson United States +, writes (11 April 2009):

ErinPatterson agony auntWell get a feel for how she is feeling emotionally, physically..she may be very preoccupied with the health of the baby. So I say one night when she is settled a bit well your a guy make her feel better ..always good when feelings sexually are mutual this way both enjoy and neither you or her feel like you are doing "chores"..lol..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009):

@Erin - I'm the original poster -- I know, a year is a long time!!! It has been a crazy year ... we've gone through a lot with the health of the baby and with her health .. she is still pretty stressed out about things but we're starting to get things going again. I'm not crazy about the year but if she wasn't receptive to getting things going again I would be bummed for sure.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009):

Start a conversation with her about turn ons. Ask her what gets her going. Then tell her about your fetish. There's nothing wrong with it. And if she wants to make you happy, she will gladly indulge you once in a while.

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A female reader, ErinPatterson United States +, writes (11 April 2009):

ErinPatterson agony auntA year without sex? No wonder you are like looking at black legging like a "not fixed" dog..

My god just take your wife out and ask her to wear black tights "nicely" and this way you wont have to just write about it...lol.

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A female reader, kaylagal United States +, writes (11 April 2009):

kaylagal agony auntOff course you should tell your wife. Nothing wrong with not a weird fettish - that's why they are called a fettish coz they are so weird but that's what gets you going. No sex for about a year - tell her IMMEDIATELY, and that should spice things up.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009):

sorry i'm the same poster as before, i just wanted to add that the only thing i WOULDN'T do if i were you is, i don't think i'd say that you think you like it even better than penetrative sex. just cause i can see how that might make a girl feel possibly slightly hurt. even though i'm sure you wouldn't mean for it to. it's just that if my my boyfriend said that, my first impulse would probably be to think "hm then something about our sex must not be good". i think it would be okay for you to say you like the legging thing *as much* as sex but i think i'd just leave it at that.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009):

i'd tell her. everyone has their kinks, and yours doesn't even sound like that weird or embarrassing of one. i think most wives/girlfriends would gladly oblige to something like that. besides it's not like this is a fetish that would potentially embarrass or degrade her, so she shouldn't get offended or anything. the way i see it you've got nothing to lose.

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